The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Lukeo;35907301]If you talk and get along, ask her out[/QUOTE]
I plan on it, but I'd rather not fuck things up if chance goes sour and it turns out she doesn't feel the same way.
[QUOTE=TearJerker;35907341]I plan on it, but I'd rather not fuck things up if chance goes sour and it turns out she doesn't feel the same way.[/QUOTE]
Well you can't approach every potential relationship with certainty.
If you get along, ask her out and find out straight away if she wants to date you or not. If you get rejected, oh well, you found out quickly, you didn't spend your entire time fucking about trying to find out if she likes you or not. Providing you ask her out casually, she isn't going to be freaked out or instantly hate you; "Hey want to go do X at Y?"
More people need to read the OP.
Me and my friends were walking around the lake near our school in gym today when I realized something: I've never done a whole lot of things that aren't related to sitting down. My family generally keeps me close to them, I've been trying to spread out recently and it's difficult for them to say yes for simple things like hanging out with friends and stuff.
At the lake I said that I was never taught how to swim, that I almost drowned twice not noticing the deep end. They laughed and said that it was pathetic.
I started thinking more about other things that others have done and I honestly can't think of other things. I would like to start hanging out with more people, but in the past ~3-4 years I've kinda isolated myself from others and as such have a hard time making new relationships. I've broken off all abusive and stupid relationships except maybe one(it's moreso just the guy's use of memes in real life that annoy the shit out of me). I plan on joining track next school year, so other than joining a sport what are some things I can do to make more relationships?
(And on a related question, what is a good way to learn how to swim without looking like a complete retard swimming worse than 5 year olds?)
I took swimming classes as a kid and the only thing I gained from it was the memory of a girl pissing herself while we were sitting in a circle being instructed, I assume she thought her suit would absorb it but it just puddleated. so yeah it's no big deal compared to my squandered education.
As far as making new friends go, join track like you said or other things that interest you, interact with the people there and just be yourself, while being open and friendly and it really comes on it's own. I'm sure you've been drawn to people before just because they're so easy to talk to.
Well, I guess I don't have a chance. I guess I'll be fine, though. Perhaps it was foolish of me to even fall for her in the first place. Perhaps love is really some kind of sick joke.
Before I fell for this girl, I pretty much gave up on girls. It started seeming pointless. Then, somehow, that shit happened again. I guess I should just give up and stop worrying.
[QUOTE=Walker Black;35908636]Well, I guess I don't have a chance. I guess I'll be fine, though. Perhaps it was foolish of me to even fall for her in the first place. Perhaps love is really some kind of sick joke.
Before I fell for this girl, I pretty much gave up on girls. It started seeming pointless. Then, somehow, that shit happened again. I guess I should just give up and stop worrying.[/QUOTE]
Don't worry, the internet can be your girlfriend.
It seems a lot of us on facepunch are in the same boat, rejected or dumped.
Probably says something about the community.
don't give up on girls, but don't worry about them either. if you're worrying, you're putting too much thought into it.
rejection and being dumped is a part of life.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35909781]don't give up on girls, but don't worry about them either. if you're worrying, you're putting too much thought into it.[/QUOTE]
I'm sadly very guilty of this. Can't wait till college so I can have a fresh start.
[QUOTE=Seith;35903541]That wasn't friendly at all...[/QUOTE]
i wasn't trying to be unfriendly i just wanted to point out and observation i'd made which may or may not be true but regardless could be helpful
[QUOTE=KnowProblem;35909883]I'm sadly very guilty of this. Can't wait till college so I can have a fresh start.[/QUOTE]
This, man. One of my biggest regrets is clinging on to a relationship at the same time I was starting college. I went to school out of state so it became a long distance relationship that had me going home every weekend and even some weeknights. Prevented me from really branching out, making relationships with new people and kind of just figuring out what I wanted out of life. Luckily, things eventually worked out for me my sophomore year, but you should totally live up that first year where pretty much EVERYONE is new and looking to get out, meet new peeps, and get a fresh start.
I am now president of the Drama Club [I]and[/I] Vice President of the Student Veteran's Organization.
I don't know how this keeps happening. I only went to three Drama Club meetings!
I must just be very personable and friendly looking.
[editline]11th May 2012[/editline]
President BDA.
[editline]11th May 2012[/editline]
Ammending my title to King BDA and aboloshing all other positions of student leadership as my first act as president. Also, "Drama Club" will henceforth be known as the "Club Club," and we will now focus primarily on wordplay.
[QUOTE=DeadKiller987;35903543]My christian friend told me once that Wikipedia is ~90% false information. He then proceeded to use it for the group school work we were doing. Nope, not hypocritical at all.[/QUOTE]
Haha
Wikipedia is like the most pedantic fucking place for accuracy of information, a lot of people say it's not trustworthy because they heard it through word of mouth, oh the irony
Obscure articles written by one or two people might be shit, but you can always spot bad or dubious information
[QUOTE=Pascall;35903807]So do you guys remember that one person I was talking about who kept texting me over and over asking to hang out?
Yeah, he's [I]still[/I] texting me regularly despite me not having responded to a single one of his messages.
It's starting to become a bit worrying.[/QUOTE]
I don't think you have to worry about being polite or anything at this stage, he's obviously crossed a line of acceptable conduct. You should either tell him, point blank, that you're not interested in spending time with him - or just block his number.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35910286]I am now president of the Drama Club [I]and[/I] Vice President of the Student Veteran's Organization.
I don't know how this keeps happening. I only went to three Drama Club meetings!
I must just be very personable and friendly looking.
[editline]11th May 2012[/editline]
President BDA.
[editline]11th May 2012[/editline]
Ammending my title to King BDA and aboloshing all other positions of student leadership as my first act as president. Also, "Drama Club" will henceforth be known as the "Club Club," and we will now focus primarily on wordplay.[/QUOTE]
Whatever happened to you being in the military? Shouldnt you be in the desert or on a base or some shit?
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35902566]I'm having a probably irrational hatred of text messages again.
/rant[/QUOTE]
perhaps you should just be pleased that someone likes you enough to feel the need to talk to you a lot and tell you all the mundane things that happen in their daily life
actually the texts you're receiving sound really shit and boring but, still, i'd take it as a compliment
I've been home for, like, a year!
Get with the program, Jmir, or I'm cutting your funding.
All you guys say when asking someone out to say "Would you like to go out with me for [activity] on [time]" but I can never think of a suitable activity, I have tried that sentence asking out a girl, but she assumed it was non romantic because I said "Would you like to go out for a walk".
That may sound hopeless but walking is one activity I enjoy doing with friends, and I figured it would be decant for a first date as you have a lot of time to talk and it's pretty easy to get past the touch barrier. The only other thing I could think of that was in my means to do was go to the cinema, but It didn't appeal to me.
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;35916155]All you guys say when asking someone out to say "Would you like to go out with me for [activity] on [time]" but I can never think of a suitable activity, I have tried that sentence asking out a girl, but she assumed it was non romantic because I said "Would you like to go out for a walk".
That may sound hopeless but walking is one activity I enjoy doing with friends, and I figured it would be decant for a first date as you have a lot of time to talk and it's pretty easy to get past the touch barrier. The only other thing I could think of that was in my means to do was go to the cinema, but It didn't appeal to me.[/QUOTE]
You could always ask them out to dinner or a cafe or something. Make sure to stress the [b]out with me[/b] part. Especially when asking them out on a walk, "out" by itself could be pretty easily misinterpreted.
Alright, so you guys remember that whole fiasco with me barely grinding by with the GPA I needed to get into the Architecture school?
I called today, and they've put me on a very, very long hold. Here's hoping everything goes well!
[QUOTE=ewitwins;35916496]Alright, so you guys remember that whole fiasco with me barely grinding by with the GPA I needed to get into the Architecture school?
I called today, and they've put me on a very, very long hold. Here's hoping everything goes well![/QUOTE]
I thought you already found out you got the GPA needed? Good luck anyway
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;35916155]All you guys say when asking someone out to say "Would you like to go out with me for [activity] on [time]" but I can never think of a suitable activity, I have tried that sentence asking out a girl, but she assumed it was non romantic because I said "Would you like to go out for a walk".
That may sound hopeless but walking is one activity I enjoy doing with friends, and I figured it would be decant for a first date as you have a lot of time to talk and it's pretty easy to get past the touch barrier. The only other thing I could think of that was in my means to do was go to the cinema, but It didn't appeal to me.[/QUOTE]
Just got out for tea/coffee
It's not hard
Just start off talking to her. If it's a new encounter, be like "oh that's a nice dress/purse/whatever" or something else just to break the ice and if you aren't some autist weirdo you should be able to carry out small talk. if you hit it off, ask her out to some activity. say, word for word, something like "hey, would you like to go out with me to get some coffee/tea/lunch?" if she says yes, GJ. if not, try again.
the hardest part is probably breaking the ice, not asking her out. but you won't get any better if you don't try
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35917041]It's not hard
Just start off talking to her. If it's a new encounter, be like "oh that's a nice dress/purse/whatever" or something else just to break the ice and if you aren't some autist weirdo you should be able to carry out small talk. if you hit it off, ask her out to some activity. say, word for word, something like "hey, would you like to go out with me to get some coffee/tea/lunch?" if she says yes, GJ. if not, try again.
the hardest part is probably breaking the ice, not asking her out. but you won't get any better if you don't try[/QUOTE]
Was that in reply to me, if it was you answered the wrong question.
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;35917607]Was that in reply to me, if it was you answered the wrong question.[/QUOTE]
Did I, or is there bad reading going on? I'm 100% sure in that post I answered your question.
I should also mention I clarified some things that were not your original question however I did address your question. You have to have coffee shops/restaurants where you live.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35917680]Did I, or is there bad reading going on? I'm 100% sure in that post I answered your question.
I should also mention I clarified some things that were not your original question however I did address your question. You have to have coffee shops/restaurants where you live.[/QUOTE]
No you basically copied what I said I understood, and tagged on the end, "go get coffee or somthin'". What sort of cafe or coffee shop would be best, the nearest coffee shop is the (sixth form) collage coffee shop, which is closed on weekends and evenings, the nearest Starbucks is on one off those naff out of town shopping centres and I don't know the town centre well enough to know all the good cafes (but I could always ask out for lunch and walk into town from collage and pick one once we're in town) and I don't have the income to spend on a restaurant meal for a 1st date.
[editline]11th May 2012[/editline]
Sorry, reading that back sounded a bit hostile, and thinking about it I'm making excuses about it.
A few months back I told a female friend that I liked her over Skype; she replied that she wasn't really attracted to me. I convinced her to not make it awkward and we've been good friends since then.
I only just realized I got textbook friendzoned. Huh.
Anyways, I'm working manual labour peak hours (~2PM-10PM) five days per week, so I can't really go to parties or other planned social gatherings, and when I'm not working, I'm exhausted - I can obviously still hang out with friends on my off-days. It's a small business, so I only see one co-worker that's under the age of 45 and I'm pretty sure she hates me. I've got about 3-4 friends I'd consider truly hang-out-with worthy.
I've started getting up to snuff with hygiene - soap instead of all-in-one-body wash shit, using conditioner and shampoo, shaving daily, washing my face properly etc. because I've wanted to start self-improving for a while now. I've started working out but the job is already bulking me up quite a bit.
Basically by the end of the summer, I'll be in peak condition for getting a social life. Problem is, like I said, my job is shit and I don't have many opportunities to get out of the house. Any ideas on how to get a few more friends before school starts again?
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;35918737]No you basically copied what I said I understood, and tagged on the end, "go get coffee or somthin'". What sort of cafe or coffee shop would be best, the nearest coffee shop is the (sixth form) collage coffee shop, which is closed on weekends and evenings, the nearest Starbucks is on one off those naff out of town shopping centres and I don't know the town centre well enough to know all the good cafes (but I could always ask out for lunch and walk into town from collage and pick one once we're in town) and I don't have the income to spend on a restaurant meal for a 1st date.[/QUOTE]
It sounds like you're going to have to research the area for yourself. You could always ask people you know about what's in town.
hmm, is your job your lifeline?
[QUOTE=thisispain;35919384]hmm, is your job your lifeline?[/QUOTE]
Basically I can't quit it. I need the money for uni, and my city's economy is pretty much dead - this job picking golf balls from a driving range was about the only one I could get.
oh i feel for you.
looking on the internet for events and stuff might be a good way to meet some people. i'm certain there are others just as bored as you are.
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