• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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When a girl you meet for the second time is really excited too meet you, offers you a cig and hugs you before she leaves. Would it be far fetched to think that she's into you?
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35940101]When a girl you meet for the second time is really excited too meet you, offers you a cig and hugs you before she leaves. Would it be far fetched to think that she's into you?[/QUOTE] No she probably wants to fuck you
Good times ahead it seems.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35940101]When a girl you meet for the second time is really excited too meet you, offers you a cig and hugs you before she leaves. Would it be far fetched to think that she's into you?[/QUOTE] That happened to me once (bar the cig) She turned out to be crazy.
Hell, i'm going to just get this out... I don't really know how to say this, so i'm just going to say it. I have always been homeschooled, and i never do anything outside, i'm shy as hell, anytime i'm having any kind social interaction, I never talk, I tend to just bow my head as a greeting try to keep conversations to a minimum(When i do talk, i am very quiet), anytime i see ANY possibility of having to have a conversation i pull out my phone and try to appear busy. I don't have any activities away from home, i don't have any interest in sports of any kind, i just want some advice on some activities i can get involved in to help me be more social. (This is something i would prefer not to talk about, but fuck it, i'll say it anyway) About 2 months ago something just flipped in me, I felt as though I should try finding a (this word fells weird as hell to type) girlfriend. In one weeks time i went from not giving a shit about friends or anything like that, to being depressed, constantly wondering about that part of my future, I don't feel like I need to focus on this now, I feel like once I find something that puts me around people my own age on a regular basis this will eventually fall into place. So basically, what could a male, aged 16 that gets no social activity, is extremely shy, has no friends, and has no interest in sports get involved with that puts him around people his own age. I don't have many hobbies/interests I love aviation and plan on becoming a pilot, I also like gaming, but mostly i'm on my flight simulator rather than a game like Battlefield or Call of Duty. I am mostly very serious about any opinionated questions, and everything in general(Although i do have a good sense of humor) When i'm really bored, I tend to browse Wikipedia instead of gaming.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;35940470]That happened to me once (bar the cig) She turned out to be crazy.[/QUOTE] My money is on that this girls isn't crazy.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;35941308]My money is on that this girls isn't crazy.[/QUOTE] It's a bet you'll lose
[QUOTE=WIN705;35941142]Hell, i'm going to just get this out... I don't really know how to say this, so i'm just going to say it. I have always been homeschooled, and i never do anything outside, i'm shy as hell, anytime i'm having any kind social interaction, I never talk, I tend to just bow my head as a greeting try to keep conversations to a minimum(When i do talk, i am very quiet), anytime i see ANY possibility of having to have a conversation i pull out my phone and try to appear busy. I don't have any activities away from home, i don't have any interest in sports of any kind, i just want some advice on some activities i can get involved in to help me be more social. (This is something i would prefer not to talk about, but fuck it, i'll say it anyway) About 2 months ago something just flipped in me, I felt as though I should try finding a (this word fells weird as hell to type) girlfriend. In one weeks time i went from not giving a shit about friends or anything like that, to being depressed, constantly wondering about that part of my future, I don't feel like I need to focus on this now, I feel like once I find something that puts me around people my own age on a regular basis this will eventually fall into place. So basically, what could a male, aged 16 that gets no social activity, is extremely shy, has no friends, and has no interest in sports get involved with that puts him around people his own age. I don't have many hobbies/interests I love aviation and plan on becoming a pilot, I also like gaming, but mostly i'm on my flight simulator rather than a game like Battlefield or Call of Duty. I am mostly very serious about any opinionated questions, and everything in general(Although i do have a good sense of humor) When i'm really bored, I tend to browse Wikipedia instead of gaming.[/QUOTE] Go to high school. Simply, so you'll learn. Otherwise just wait, and then go to college. You'll only learn to be social in a social environment. So, the sooner you immerse yourself, the sooner you'll catch it. It'll be hard, but you just have to be the little engine that thought it could.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35941974]Go to high school. Simply, so you'll learn. Otherwise just wait, and then go to college. You'll only learn to be social in a social environment. So, the sooner you immerse yourself, the sooner you'll catch it. It'll be hard, but you just have to be the little engine that thought it could.[/QUOTE] Sadly next year is my last, plus my parents won't let me go into a normal school. And i have no plans for college, I was thinking of something during the summer.
You're sixteen and it's your last year? What the hell?
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35942081]You're sixteen and it's your last year? What the hell?[/QUOTE] Yup, was in public school for 1 year, went from kindergarten to 1st in the same year, then that's when i became homeschooled.
Weird. Well, school is the best venue for learning social behaviors. Or if you can do research of nearby groups that do shit similar to you. I really don't know. I've always had an easy life, so I don't know what to tell you.
tell your parents that they're idiots for homeschooling you and they're the reason for turning into a social mess (if you don't mind me saying) in the first place
In any other country apart from the US I'd say give scouting a go, but the policies of the BSA are so dumb and archaic (and not mixed gender, which is important for you at the moment). Are there any youth groups around you that don't specialise on one hobby too much? If so then give a few of them a go. Try and find all the places that give a first session free/cheap and if there are a lot of people in your age group and they are friendly and not only there for the sport/hobby then you can make friends. Don't go out looking for a girlfriend, but look for friends.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35942289] Or if you can do research of nearby groups that do shit similar to you. [/QUOTE] I was thinking about that, but may parents are 99.6382% likely to say NOPE. Most help they have been is to say "Go hang out at Wal-Mart"
I've just realised that post makes me look like a bit of an asshat. I really don't like the idea of being homeschooled, I could understand if you took part in activities out of school with other people but not being allowed to socialize and develop like you would in a normal school riles me up
[QUOTE=zerotwelve;35942480]I've just realised that post makes me look like a bit of an asshat. I really don't like the idea of being homeschooled, I could understand if you took part in activities out of school with other people but not being allowed to socialize and develop like you would in a normal school riles me up[/QUOTE] Well I have let them know that I "disagree" with their choice(See:"Completely Enraged") And I have a membership at the YMCA, I rarely go there(when i do it's just for weights and general exercise), not many people my age there, although i think there are some youth sports programs there, considering i'm 230 pounds I think i'll give that a try.
I'm retarded for asking this but: When you ask a lass out, do you just say "Do you want to go out with me?".
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;35934770]Then she sent another text saying "I love you". I haven't replied, and i don't think i will.[/QUOTE] Sorry for so being late, but seriously, what the fuck? [editline]13th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Brkel Brick;35942698]I'm retarded for asking this but: When you ask a lass out, do you just say "Do you want to go out with me?".[/QUOTE] You do it in a bit casual manner, such as "Hey, lets go out at XXX on YYY time"
[QUOTE=Dark RaveN;35942733]Sorry for so being late, but seriously, what the fuck? [editline]13th May 2012[/editline] You do it in a bit casual manner, such as "Hey, lets go out at XXX on YYY time"[/QUOTE] I know homes are a big no-no for asking someone to a place, but where else shouldn't I ask them to first time?
[QUOTE=Brkel Brick;35942904]I know homes are a big no-no for asking someone to a place, but where else shouldn't I ask them to first time?[/QUOTE] Cinema is a bad idea for the first time.
[QUOTE=WIN705;35942635]Well I have let them know that I "disagree" with their choice(See:"Completely Enraged") And I have a membership at the YMCA, I rarely go there(when i do it's just for weights and general exercise), not many people my age there, although i think there are some youth sports programs there, considering i'm 230 pounds I think i'll give that a try.[/QUOTE] Do they prevent you from getting a job and/or license and transportation? I mean, we can only encourage you to keep trying to convince your parents that it is best for you.
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;35942466]In any other country apart from the US I'd say give scouting a go, but the policies of the BSA are so dumb and archaic (and not mixed gender, which is important for you at the moment). Are there any youth groups around you that don't specialise on one hobby too much? If so then give a few of them a go. Try and find all the places that give a first session free/cheap and if there are a lot of people in your age group and they are friendly and not only there for the sport/hobby then you can make friends. Don't go out looking for a girlfriend, but look for friends.[/QUOTE] He could try a venturing crew, a lot of those are actually co-ed and they focus on more complex/high adventure stuff, rock climbing, whitewater, etc. And he said he wanted to be a pilot, where I live there's a scouting type program for aviation.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35943133]Do they prevent you from getting a job and/or license and transportation? I mean, we can only encourage you to keep trying to convince your parents that it is best for you.[/QUOTE] Neyt, they don't prevent me from getting a job or transport, I can take the family car whenever I need it and they are currently trying to find me a cheap reliable car.
[QUOTE=reverno;35942989]Cinema is a bad idea for the first time.[/QUOTE] Wait, why are the movies a bad place? [editline]13th May 2012[/editline] I thought that was just so generic it would work pretty much anywhere.
joshjet, it's because it really isn't a social thing. It's an hour and a half of sitting and not talking. For a first date so something easy like a stroll or coffee. It's more face to face I-want-to-get-to-know-you time. [QUOTE=WIN705;35943299]Neyt, they don't prevent me from getting a job or transport, I can take the family car whenever I need it and they are currently trying to find me a cheap reliable car.[/QUOTE] As long as it is a youth program, you shouldn't have too hard a time getting into it. Your parents can only stop you if it requires a signature or they take away your keys. At which point you need to sit them down and have a [i]calm[/i] and [i]earnest[/i] conversation with them. You can tell them, before you start it, that you want to be properly heard out. Ask them to not interrupt you until you are finished. When you are finished hand them the reins until they are finished. And just go back and forth [I]calmly[/I] and [I]earnestly[/I] explaining your feelings.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;35943407]joshjet, it's because it really isn't a social thing. It's an hour and a half of sitting and not talking. For a first date so something easy like a stroll or coffee. It's more face to face I-want-to-get-to-know-you time. As long as it is a youth program, you shouldn't have too hard a time getting into it. Your parents can only stop you if it requires a signature or they take away your keys. At which point you need to sit them down and have a [i]calm[/i] and [i]earnest[/i] conversation with them. You can tell them, before you start it, that you want to be properly heard out. Ask them to not interrupt you until you are finished. When you are finished hand them the reins until they are finished. And just go back and forth [I]calmly[/I] and [I]earnestly[/I] explaining your feelings.[/QUOTE] If your prospective girlfriend is a bit antisocial/shy, I wouldn't sweat it. Taking her to a movie is fine and it can get a person comfortable being around you without being incredibly social. And you can always spend part of the time heckling the movie. That said, if she's outgoing and talkative and stuff, a lunch date or something similar is something better. Also, on the subject of the "I love you" text, it strikes me as a desperate last-ditch attempt at trying to prompt a response from you.
Movies are good for establishing physical contact, which I don't think you should dive into one a first date.
I beg to differ, the dark is rather confusing and you cannot really do anything while watching a movie. I prefer direct face to face contact instead of sitting in the dark. (Cinema scenario though) The best way to establish physical contact (for instance at a table where both sit face to face) is by using your feet. The guy should slowly advance his foot to the feet of her, then touch them slightly. Then you have to look on the girls face to see if she reacts in a negative way, if she does not mind though, apply some pressure to her feet. Push them very slowly. If she reacts in the same way you already have won a bit. Good indications are also if the girl shows her neck by leaning to the side, another good sign is when she is playing with her hair. The big thing though is when she is slighly biting her lips or wets her lips. Actually during a date the content of a conversation plays such a minor role, it is more the appearance that affects everything. The way you move, show yourself, voice, gesticulation and such.
Horror movies + girl. Always. Don't watch anything else ;) lmao [editline]13th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Brkel Brick;35942904]I know homes are a big no-no for asking someone to a place, but where else shouldn't I ask them to first time?[/QUOTE] What? There's never a problem with bringing a girl back to your place. Imagine how it sounds when you tell your closest broski: "I met this girl... I brought her back to my place" compared to "yeah, we just chilled around (somewhere) for a bit, it was nice." Besides, bringing her back to your place doesn't have to mean something's going down. Make it clear you just want to show her your crib and hangout. That's assuming you have stuff to do around your house that she'll enjoy such as having a pool, a studio, some instruments like piano's or guitars, your garage (then take her out for a drive your "nice car"). I've always found girls have a lot of fun getting to know you that way.
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