The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Disotrtion;35986889]Hi FP. First time posting in this thread. I went back through the thread and got the general idea that most people think long distance relationships are a bad idea. My questions are 1. does anyone know of a long distance relationship that ended up working out? and 2. If yes, do you know somethings that helped to make it work?
Going to college this year and wondering if its realistic to get into a relationship when we're both going to go to different schools a few states apart.[/QUOTE]
Well bud, relationships without the physical part tend to get unstable. Long distance relationships hardly work. As thisispain said, if you can see them every once and a while that is fine.
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;35986889]Hi FP. First time posting in this thread. I went back through the thread and got the general idea that most people think long distance relationships are a bad idea. My questions are 1. does anyone know of a long distance relationship that ended up working out? and 2. If yes, do you know somethings that helped to make it work?
Going to college this year and wondering if its realistic to get into a relationship when we're both going to go to different schools a few states apart.[/QUOTE]
If you can't physically see her, Skype the fuck out of her. It still won't be the same, though.
thanks for the advice.
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;35986889]Hi FP. First time posting in this thread. I went back through the thread and got the general idea that most people think long distance relationships are a bad idea. My questions are 1. does anyone know of a long distance relationship that ended up working out? and 2. If yes, do you know somethings that helped to make it work?
Going to college this year and wondering if its realistic to get into a relationship when we're both going to go to different schools a few states apart.[/QUOTE]
Why don't you just wait til college and try to meet a nice girl there?
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;35987178]Why don't you just wait til college and try to meet a nice girl there?[/QUOTE]
Yeah that's an option. But I don't want to pass up a girl here. Its one of those things where I have never had a meaningful relationship, but I feel this would be it. A big chance.
[QUOTE=Zambies!;35986708]I somersault on the ground in pain[/QUOTE]
Wow how hard did he hit you :v:
[QUOTE=thisispain;35986751]people can call each other whatever the fuck they want
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How irrelevant and passive-aggressive
[QUOTE=Luci-fer;35987042]How long should I go away for? should I ever return?[/QUOTE]
For as long as possible. You'll feel compelled to go back, but you should ignore the impulse.
Ever return? The best time to return is when you no longer have feelings for her. This sounds like a pretty depressing ultimatum-ey type of deal, but I've ignored my own advice way too many times only to have it blow up in my face, and I learned the hard way that you really should just stay away. So yeah, just stay away. Maybe she'll approach you, but don't be the one to approach her.
Forget about her and hang out with your friends, it's much easier to forget about someone when you have friends to talk about it with and stuff to do. The more time spent with friends, the better.
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;35987293]
How irrelevant and passive-aggressive[/QUOTE]
i'm not sure you understand what either of those things mean
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;35987293]
How irrelevant and passive-aggressive[/QUOTE]
oh yeah because talking about how you don't get "this Significant Other bullshit" is so bloody relevant
making a point about how "stilted and weird" it is isn't the point of this thread and he didn't ask you for your opinion on it either.
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;35986889]Hi FP. First time posting in this thread. I went back through the thread and got the general idea that most people think long distance relationships are a bad idea. My questions are 1. does anyone know of a long distance relationship that ended up working out? and 2. If yes, do you know somethings that helped to make it work?
Going to college this year and wondering if its realistic to get into a relationship when we're both going to go to different schools a few states apart.[/QUOTE]
they can work, you just need two people who are both committed to doing everything they can to make it work, and there's a lot more emotional support required than a regular relationship. i've been dating my current girlfriend for over ten months, only two of which have we actually been in the same state and able to see each other, and we text all day long for as long as i have my phone, and talk over the phone for at least an hour almost every day, and skype on weekends.
you'll always be burning to touch the other person, but as long as you have a decent plan in place for the next time you see them, you can get through it. i'll be flying my girlfriend down to see me for a weekend two months from now for our anniversary, and then it'll be several more months before i see her again, but i'm very confident we'll make it just fine.
[editline]16th May 2012[/editline]
you just need to have realistic expectations for how everything will work, and never get your hopes too high just to have them crushed because you can't visit them for some reason or another.
Yeah I don't get it, it's a legitimate question to ask. It wasn't just directed at him, I meant I don't get why anyone uses it.
Hey Guy Mannly, sorry if I sounded like I was attacking you, that is just the way I talk.
pain, if you want to throw all your toys out of your pram because I said something trivial that you don't agree with, knock yourself out. I'm not going to argue over it.
[QUOTE=Parakon;35987398]i'm not sure you understand what either of those things mean[/QUOTE]
Yeah good one mate, 10/10
you didn't ask a question you made a loaded statement lol
and if calling you out on it is throwing all my toys out of the pram then whatever, i don't like my stinking toys anyway
moral of the story is nobody gives a fuck what people call the person they like unless it's "my soul mate hubby bubby baby boo" so end this tangent already
I just rejected some one.
I'm still the lonely shy person, I was interested in a girl at my school here, and while she knows what's up, we haven't gone out yet.
Then out of no where when I'm trying to ask that girl out, an online friend admits that she likes me. I don't think I could do a long distance online relationship, and I'm not sure if I really liked her like that. So I turned her down, I told her she deserved better than some one she doesn't really know. I think she took it alright, I hope so.
I feel terrible, part of me knows that I've never been a relationship before, and that could of been my chance but, another part knows that it probably wouldn't of worked, that it would likely end with me hurting her. Did I do the right thing?
You probably should have told her you didn't want a long distance thing rather than what you said
But for you, you probably did the right thing yeah
Good news. Everyone in my school now thinks i'm gay :v:
We had to do English oral presentations, mine was on how same sex marriage should be legalized. At the beginning I mentioned that I'm heterosexual, but obviously it didn't sound right because two days later everyone thinks otherwise.
I didn't think it was that big till I was walking past someone talking to her friend about the kid that "Came out of the closet during his presentation".
Ahahahahahaha
Okay, Professor Farnsworth.
[QUOTE=Luci-fer;35985032]Hey, guys, I think I just kinda need to rant but if you have any advice for me that'd be great.
It's a very messed up story and I think it's time I explain it to others as well as myself.
t. Anyone who actually reads that is a true trooper.[/QUOTE]
Dude, i dont know what kind pf nerves you have, but if i were you id tear her apart at the moment she said she wanted to be bff with you.
Seriously, dump that manipulative bitch and move on, cutting all ties from her. She even cheated on her Bf so she's also a whore, and whores dont deserve any respect.
Raven, what would that achieve? Seriously.
[QUOTE=Seith;35989954]Raven, what would that achieve? Seriously.[/QUOTE]
Just showing off my aggressive nature. But I'd strongly consider dumping her, she wouldn't deserve my attention after all she's made me go through.
i'd use less harsh wording than raven, but she doesn't really seem to care about your feelings toward the whole thing. i'd avoid her
She wasn't even if his girlfriend. All she made you go through is of your own choosing - you chose to allow yourself to become infatuated and then you get pissed and blame her for that.
Obviously, this was a relationship where both sides had a choice, so there's no one to blame but ourselves.
This wasn't aimed at you, Raven. Just my own assumption of the situation.
[QUOTE=Dark RaveN;35989530] Hate.[/QUOTE]
Whoa, seriously, dude, chill the fuck out. She helped me through a very difficult depression even before my dad died. And she helped me after that too. Plus, I still love her, I can't hate her.
[editline]17th May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Seith;35991802] long, didn't want to quote it. [/QUOTE]
Yeah, I do blame myself, I was depressed and weak and there was a lot of bad decisions on both parts. I hate the whole situation.
[editline]17th May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Dark RaveN;35991542]Just showing off my aggressive nature. But I'd strongly consider dumping her, she wouldn't deserve my attention after all she's made me go through.[/QUOTE]
Never even dated her, mate.
[quote]<...>After another convoluted mess involving her trying to break up with him, I kiss her for the first time. A week after we do it again. She then realizes she really needs to break up with him, so she does. We go to parties and we hang out, we have a lot of fun. But then, she wants to get back together with him. <...>
<...> Eventually, it does. But not after I profess that I love her and that after a few weeks, she loves me. We have a few fights since she has issues with closing up and about her various problems but in the end, I think everything would end out alright. We have a few days together, just me and her, that were actually amazing, but we're busy during school so we do all this planning for this summer and how much we both can't wait.
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Not to be a pain in the ass, just how I understood you both still were sort of dating.
I'm pretty bad in all this love business, to be quite frank (just started myself recently), but from your words she's just using you as a last-resort action. Don't fall for that man, but in the end, act how you think is right.
I apologized to my friend. He said that I should get over it, and stop making a big deal out of stupid shit. He ended it with "that's all I have to say".
Well, I just lost a good friend of mine.
to be honest you do need to stop making a big deal out of stupid shit
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35994301]to be honest you do need to stop making a big deal out of stupid shit[/QUOTE]
I agree. Looking back on this, I acted childish. People compared it to a breakup, that's how I acted.
He told me Monday that I might as well shouldn't bother coming back to him. All over fucking peanut butter and me losing my temper.
This sucks.
he told you to get over it and stop making a big deal out of it
saying "oh man i just lost my friend!" is making a big deal out of it
how about give it a little time to cool off and then see if things go back to normal
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35994414]he told you to get over it and stop making a big deal out of it
saying "oh man i just lost my friend!" is making a big deal out of it
how about give it a little time to cool off and then see if things go back to normal[/QUOTE]
Sounds like a plan. I gotta quit making such a big fucking deal over things.
[QUOTE=AmericanInfantry;35994435]Sounds like a plan. I gotta quit making such a big fucking deal over things.[/QUOTE]
Don't stress, you're just romanticizing things. Everyone does it, part of growing up.
Just realize that life is not made up of extremes, and the things that people do are insignificant to your life so don't let them bother you
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