• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Zillamaster55;36032540]Well it went fine, we talked for an hour and a half about schooling and various things around the home, we may be going to dinner on friday. :D[/QUOTE] Seems I was wrong. Well done.
[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;36033326]Seems I was wrong. Well done.[/QUOTE] You weren't wrong, I called her before you posted. *hug*
The Super Friendly Seith Love Advice Forum?
I feel depressed and here's why: Basically my best friend is slowly becoming a Christian, and he and my two other best friends think that i'm also slowly re-integrating myself into our church's community. The thing is though, I don't believe in God. I'm not a Christian, and I am not a religious person. Most of you would say "but you should tell them the truth yada yada". But I like the people at my church. 90% of my friends go to that church, and all my best friends also go to that church. They are a great bunch of people, you couldn't ask for better friends. But whenever they start talking about God and Christianity, I just feel left. I can't relate, I can't really go into a discussion because I just don't believe in it. If people found out they would be devastated, I won't lose my best friends or anything but things would be very awkward for a while. I probably wouldn't socialize very much after that, seeing as church ties together 95% of all the times I hang out with friends. What do?
I need someones help. I feel conflicted and just have to get this out to someone. I had recently found out my girlfriend of a year and a half was going to cheat on me. Now, i know this might sound bad, but i read it off her Skype. Mind you, i had complete trust in her, i also pretty much did everything for her. I truly cared for a girl for the first time, you could say that i really "loved" this girl. And the only reason i read her Skype was because i saw it up on her computer. I later found out that she supposedly backed out last minute and told the guy that she loved me and didn't want to. She told me this by the way, as she was crying into my shoulder. Im not sure whether or not to believe her. I need someone's opinion. I feel sad and depressed, help me facepunch.
she didn't actually cheat, therefor there's nothing to be sad about.
Even if she didn't, i still feel a bit betrayed at the thought of her even thinking of it. When i said i did everything for her, I mean literally everything. Help her with her school work, cook food, errands, family problems, etc. Its the thought of her wanting to cheat on me when i give her everything i possibly can.
you can't fault a person for thinking. what is important is that she didn't cheat. ask her, without interrogation, why she went through it in the first place
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36037073]I feel depressed and here's why: Basically my best friend is slowly becoming a Christian, and he and my two other best friends think that i'm also slowly re-integrating myself into our church's community. The thing is though, I don't believe in God. I'm not a Christian, and I am not a religious person. Most of you would say "but you should tell them the truth yada yada". But I like the people at my church. 90% of my friends go to that church, and all my best friends also go to that church. They are a great bunch of people, you couldn't ask for better friends. But whenever they start talking about God and Christianity, I just feel left. I can't relate, I can't really go into a discussion because I just don't believe in it. If people found out they would be devastated, I won't lose my best friends or anything but things would be very awkward for a while. I probably wouldn't socialize very much after that, seeing as church ties together 95% of all the times I hang out with friends. What do?[/QUOTE] How old are you? Cause if you're in high school this wont matter soon [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] Meaning there's no need to go so far as depressed, sorry that wasnt clear
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36037073] Most of you would say "but you should tell them the truth yada yada". But I like the people at my church. 90% of my friends go to that church, and all my best friends also go to that church. They are a great bunch of people, you couldn't ask for better friends.[/QUOTE] I do say, you seem to be contradicting yourself! Seriously. If they'll only be devastated, be honest and let them know that God conversations make you uncomfortable. You do worse damage by continuing to lie to them.
I had asked previously, and she said i was not giving her attention. That i was ignoring her, When i know i don't, considering the fact that i literally spend almost every day with her.
you can spend time with someone and still neglect to give them a type of attention that they want
So im not giving her a certain type of attention?.. she did say that she thought i was going to leave her, just because of a few simple words i happened to not be saying as much as i did before.
can people please stop saying "i'm depressed about..." or "i'm feeling a bit depressed" it's not depression when you're feeling really down about something that happened. depression is a psychiatric illness and it shouldn't be trivialised by people using it as a go-to word when they're upset about something maybe i'm being seith-like and pedantic but it kinda bugs me because i've had a few friends with pretty bad depression
well i have pretty bad depression via bipolar disorder and i don't particularly mind, seith v2
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36029984] and I had nobody to neck up with myself. Always leaves you feeling a bit out of place, being that guy! [/QUOTE] do people always end up making out when you party/go out with friends? because to be honest that's pretty weird, i don't go out to make out with people i do it to have fun with friends - ending your night by making out with people really often is just kind of weird don't you think why cant you all go out and control yourselves ffs saving the necking for dates dont be such a slut
depends on age i guess? when i was like 14-16 everyone used to get on each other at house parties. i swear there were people in my year at highschool who had pulled half of the year at some point or another but aren't you 22 or something bda? i thought people stopped that shit at like 18 [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] "neck up" hahah
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36037073]I feel depressed and here's why: Basically my best friend is slowly becoming a Christian, and he and my two other best friends think that i'm also slowly re-integrating myself into our church's community. The thing is though, I don't believe in God. I'm not a Christian, and I am not a religious person. Most of you would say "but you should tell them the truth yada yada". But I like the people at my church. 90% of my friends go to that church, and all my best friends also go to that church. They are a great bunch of people, you couldn't ask for better friends. But whenever they start talking about God and Christianity, I just feel left. I can't relate, I can't really go into a discussion because I just don't believe in it. If people found out they would be devastated, I won't lose my best friends or anything but things would be very awkward for a while. I probably wouldn't socialize very much after that, seeing as church ties together 95% of all the times I hang out with friends. What do?[/QUOTE] I feel for you man, I really fucking do Personally I don't think it's worth the social circle to piss all over your integrity by trying to blend in with religious people, I would get out no matter the cost in friends. But that's just me, I know most people wouldn't. Dunno what to tell you, but good luck
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36039143]I feel for you man, I really fucking do Personally I don't think it's worth the social circle to piss all over your integrity by trying to blend in with religious people, I would get out no matter the cost in friends. But that's just me, I know most people wouldn't. Dunno what to tell you, but good luck[/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure his friends aren't defined by their Christianity - there's no point in just abandoning ship just because they talk about it a lot.
i would tbh christianity is inherently stupid + ignorant + not something i wanna hear about. id terminate a friendship if someone was outwardly religious because i wouldnt be able to stand hearing their shit [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] why would i want a friend whos so keen on drinking the kool aid
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36039655]I'm pretty sure his friends aren't defined by their Christianity - there's no point in just abandoning ship just because they talk about it a lot.[/QUOTE] You might be able to pass off the first point in the case of non-practicing, bandwagon religious sheep. Practicing christians are a more serious kind of ignorant. And presumably you'll never find the former group talking about their faith a lot, so people who do so would be practicing christians - ergo get out of there if you respect yourself at all
Well yeah, if all they do is talk about their religion then it'd be best to stop hanging out, but if they're subtle about it then it's fine in my opinion
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36038293]can people please stop saying "i'm depressed about..." or "i'm feeling a bit depressed" it's not depression when you're feeling really down about something that happened. depression is a psychiatric illness and it shouldn't be trivialised by people using it as a go-to word when they're upset about something maybe i'm being seith-like and pedantic but it kinda bugs me because i've had a few friends with pretty bad depression[/QUOTE] I don't see whats wrong with saying 'i'm feeling a bit depressed about this...' if someone genuinely has depression then they can say 'ive been diagnosed with depression'. It's not as though its impossible to feel a bit miserable and depressed without technically having the mental condition. Sure its stupid when people make a mountain out of a molehill or exagerate their emotions but i'm pretty sure its acceptable to use that word out of the context of clinical depression.
Using the word "depression" so loosely when there are people actually ill (with the depression, struggling) is self-victimization. "I have a problem", "I have depression" "I cannot stop being sad" is pathetic and should not be called depression. People should be honest with themselves and find a solution, not a reason to continue self-loathing. I agree with Mr.Chestycheesedude.
[QUOTE=Seith;36040605]Using the word "depression" so loosely when there are people actually ill (with the depression, struggling) is self-victimization. "I have a problem", "I have depression" "I cannot stop being sad" is pathetic and should not be called depression. People should be honest with themselves and find a solution, not a reason to continue self-loathing. I agree with Mr.Chestycheesedude.[/QUOTE] "ah yes the reason i cannot talk to girls is because i have social anxiety, i looked it up on wikipedia and i have all the symptoms"
I walked up to a girl today, she ran away as fast as she could. I dislike this.
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;36037507]How old are you? Cause if you're in high school this wont matter soon [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] Meaning there's no need to go so far as depressed, sorry that wasnt clear[/QUOTE]18. [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36038293]can people please stop saying "i'm depressed about..." or "i'm feeling a bit depressed" it's not depression when you're feeling really down about something that happened. depression is a psychiatric illness and it shouldn't be trivialised by people using it as a go-to word when they're upset about something maybe i'm being seith-like and pedantic but it kinda bugs me because i've had a few friends with pretty bad depression[/QUOTE]Fine, I feel sad [editline]21st May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36040153]You might be able to pass off the first point in the case of non-practicing, bandwagon religious sheep. Practicing christians are a more serious kind of ignorant. And presumably you'll never find the former group talking about their faith a lot, so people who do so would be practicing christians - ergo get out of there if you respect yourself at all[/QUOTE]They don't talk about it every single second of the day, but it comes up maybe once every 2-3 hours I spend chilling with them
late reply but whatever. [QUOTE=Dark_Light;36029711]The only thing though is, she's currently in a LDR with a guy in the US, which I can appreciate and I don't want to ruin shit for either of them, and I won't let anything actually happen in that regard but like, fuck it, I'm genuinely interested in this girl and want to continue pursuing it, shit she was even the one to suggest getting together again before I could. I don't know, I guess I'll just see what happens next and take it as it comes.[/QUOTE] As someone who just out of a LDR and who's ex is now going out with someone else, just think twice if you decide to go for it. These types of relationships are really difficult and takes both people to go at it 100%, not to mention how much time and money it takes. Don't be a dick and ruin that for someone else.
Went on a nice dinner date with this girl I'm interested in. Met her dad, and he was pretty cool. Afterwards, went back to her house and hung out until around 11. Overall, a great time. May be going on a double date type thing soon, which should be pretty awesome.
late periods happen - if you've been taking adequate measures of contraception then you don't need to worry just yet
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