The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=E1025;36041319]late reply but whatever.
As someone who just out of a LDR and who's ex is now going out with someone else, just think twice if you decide to go for it. These types of relationships are really difficult and takes both people to go at it 100%, not to mention how much time and money it takes. Don't be a dick and ruin that for someone else.[/QUOTE]
I appreciate the reply, and I agree to an extent. I can respect their relationship and the fact that they've been committed to each other for as long as they have, but I don't think that's reason enough to not pursue it and to at least see where it goes. The last thing I want to do is make her do anything she isn't comfortable with, and I don't think I've done anything wrong so far.
[QUOTE=Electroholic;36049503]I have a friend at work who is currently cheating on his girlfriend with someone else that I work with. I feel really bad for his girlfriend and I want to tell her, but he would probably get extremely pissed off at me. Maybe I shouldn't get involved.[/QUOTE]
Don't interfere.
[editline]22nd May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=dmillerw;36048512]So? Why should that stop you? Five years isn't that much.[/QUOTE]
I agree. Even if it was 10 years, not nessecarily even woman on Earth wants a long lasting relationship and even if she did, having sex is not the worst thing to do in the world.
I got to see the girl I'm with this weekend - travelled the 2 hours by train and stayed for 4 nights over at a friends, and over the 5 days I saw her 4 times, for varying periods of time which was really nice. However, we only got about...10-15 minutes alone together. Apart from that, we were with others the whole time. I was meant to go to dinner with her last night and she brought her best friend along, and things kinda happened along that vein for a lot. We've hung out alone together before, though.
I don't think she's not into me anymore because we spent the 10-15 minutes making out and we weren't avoiding each other or acting differently towards each other at all, there were just other people around the whole time. but it would have been you know, nice, and I'm wondering why we couldn't have put aside some of that time to have alone times
[QUOTE=killerteacup;36050708]I got to see the girl I'm with this weekend - travelled the 2 hours by train and stayed for 4 nights over at a friends, and over the 5 days I saw her 4 times, for varying periods of time which was really nice. However, we only got about...10-15 minutes alone together. Apart from that, we were with others the whole time. I was meant to go to dinner with her last night and she brought her best friend along, and things kinda happened along that vein for a lot. We've hung out alone together before, though.
I don't think she's not into me anymore because we spent the 10-15 minutes making out and we weren't avoiding each other or acting differently towards each other at all, there were just other people around the whole time. but it would have been you know, nice, and I'm wondering why we couldn't have put aside some of that time to have alone times[/QUOTE]
Talk to her about it. Don't just assume that time alone together is implicit.
I did
s'all good I just needed a rant
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36048923]Only works if you and said person are 18 or under[/QUOTE]
Nah it applies if one of you is a teenager for sure
So in his case it's noticeable but not awful or anything
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;36052452]A better formula is: do you feel comfortable with that person? If true carry on; if not, abort[/QUOTE]
Same policy with children
I'd say roughly within two years for under 18's and try to avoid crossing age borders such as the age of consent (16 years old here in the UK). I wouldn't worry about it too much though.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;36056059]she's not pregnant
i feel like i'm alive again :')
[editline]22nd May 2012[/editline]
also we made up and even got commitment (?) tucum rings (they look cool and are cheap as shite)
i'm so happy you guys have no idea[/QUOTE]
See, everything was okay and is even better now.
I want to ask a good friend of mine out but I really do not want to make anything between us awkward at all since I am not sure if the feeling is mutual.
Weeee standard fifteen year old problem.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36056983]I want to ask a good friend of mine out but I really do not want to make anything between us awkward at all since I am not sure if the feeling is mutual.
Weeee standard fifteen year old problem.[/QUOTE]
Do it.
[QUOTE=Quoth the OP]I like this girl--
Stop, stop right there. You like her? Ask her out.
But I've hardly spoken to her.
That doesn't matter. You don't need to become someone's best friend before you can take them on a date. You don't even need to become their friend. Going out with someone doesn't guarantee a relationship will follow, or even that you have to still like the person you took out. It's supposed to be about learning about the other person and deciding if you're interested enough to keep seeing them and take things further.
How do I ask her out?
Just get a short conversation started, make some small talk, get her name if you haven't already, and ask her, "hey, do you want to go out to X with me on Y?" It's important to be clear that you're going out, to make it less confusing. If you say "hang out," it's more likely to be taken as just friends, that sort of thing.[/QUOTE]
i'm not sure he should
if they're already good friends then he does put their friendship at risk if it gets awkward. if she was just a girl he knew then i would say go for it, but in this case i think he should hold his horses.
[QUOTE=KnowProblem;36057027]Do it.[/QUOTE]
She is not a passing acquaintance, I have known her for years and just started getting really friendly with her this one.
[editline]22nd May 2012[/editline]
Oh my god she started chatting me on facebook right when I finished posting that I nearly pissed myself.
It's nice when friends come for a suprise visit at 11 pm.
It's even better when one of the two is your crush and you find out that it was her that decided to drive there.
Haven't seen her since last week, so I haven't got a chance to ask her. But, damn, the anxiety is building up. Any tips?
Try not to think about it too much or it will only make you more nervous
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;36060897]Haven't seen her since last week, so I haven't got a chance to ask her. But, damn, the anxiety is building up. Any tips?[/QUOTE]
Keep your mind off her. Do something else.
I think I just got turned down...
Happens to the best of us.
I asked her if she wanted to go to a movie and she just tells me she isn't sure and logs off before I can say something.
ugh you asked her over the internet
Got hit by a car today, idiot drove on the curb. Luckily he was only going like 20 (or 32 metric bastards) but I still fucked my nose up. I saw my close female friend and she said "Haha dude your face is fucked up!" :c
[QUOTE=Zambies!;36061880]Got hit by a car today, idiot drove on the curb. Luckily he was only going like 20 (or 32 metric bastards) but I still fucked my nose up. I saw my close female friend and she said "Haha dude your face is fucked up!" :c[/QUOTE]
What a great friend.
Zambies and his ongoing comedy of errors
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36057341]It's nice when friends come for a suprise visit at 11 pm.
It's even better when one of the two is your crush and you find out that it was her that decided to drive there.[/QUOTE]
Late night surprises are the best.
About 2 months ago, I was home alone for the entire day and I didn't have anything planned. So I just stayed in my pajamas and had a lazy day. At around 8pm the doorbell rings. I answer it, still in my pajamas, and it's a girl in my grade who I only met 2 weeks earlier and lives in walking distance of me. She asks if I want to go to a concert with her and two other people in her car. In 5 minutes I'm out the door with regular clothes, fresh breath, and combed hair. I didn't know any of the bands that played, but it was still a really awesome night.
So, uh, I'm planning on asking out this girl I've had a crush on since the beginning of the school year soon. I've changed a lot since then, and I think I might have a legitimate chance this time.
I'll come back Friday with results. Rejection therapy, here I go.
This time?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36061729]ugh you asked her over the internet[/QUOTE]
This sums up the whole issue. Just imagine that you are a girl and someone just asks over a chat. In person would be far better, beside girls are generally more attracted to you if you have some self-conscious and balls to ask them.
But then again, everyone makes mistakes. You only learn from them.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=robmaister12;36062878]Late night surprises are the best.
About 2 months ago, I was home alone for the entire day and I didn't have anything planned. So I just stayed in my pajamas and had a lazy day. At around 8pm the doorbell rings. I answer it, still in my pajamas, and it's a girl in my grade who I only met 2 weeks earlier and lives in walking distance of me. She asks if I want to go to a concert with her and two other people in her car. In 5 minutes I'm out the door with regular clothes, fresh breath, and combed hair. I didn't know any of the bands that played, but it was still a really awesome night.[/QUOTE]
Such random events are always the best ones. Sounds like an awesome night.
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;36061801]always do that kind of stuff in person man :([/QUOTE]
We get a chance to see each other a half an hour every day so it is not like I have many chances.
I asked her and she said she doesn't like to go to movies or anything, she seems pretty anti social. Help?
All you had to do was ask her for to go for a walk/coffee or something, doesn't matter if her friends are with her.
Most of us have done things like that though, learn from your mistakes.
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