The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36066096]We get a chance to see each other a half an hour every day so it is not like I have many chances.
I asked her and she said she doesn't like to go to movies or anything, she seems pretty anti social. Help?[/QUOTE]
you only need 5 minutes to ask someone out and you get 30 min every day
she does like the movies, she just doesnt want to go with you. move on.
think about it, she would have suggested an alternative
I don't think he should give up yet.
I've liked a girl a solid nine months and was nicely rejected three times, and now I'm with that girl and my life is better than ever, don't give up man, if you genuinely like her and aren't just a 15 year old thinking "hmm female attention sexsexex" then go for it. Keep motivated.
[QUOTE=Erasus;36069140]I don't think he should give up yet.
I've liked a girl a solid nine months and was nicely rejected three times, and now I'm with that girl and my life is better than ever, don't give up man, if you genuinely like her and aren't just a 15 year old thinking "hmm female attention sexsexex" then go for it. Keep motivated.[/QUOTE]
warning: this is bad advice
you got lucky (although you wasted nine months on one girl, dunno how lucky you could call that)
Sometimes being persistent works, but most girls don't because they reject a guy for a reason and if that reason doesn't change then there's no point.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36069164]warning: this is bad advice
you got lucky (although you wasted nine months on one girl, dunno how lucky you could call that)[/QUOTE]
i wouldn't say i wasted nine months because i'm incredibly happy to be with her
Probably just gave up seeing as you didn't get the hint
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36061729]ugh you asked her over the internet[/QUOTE]
One of my friends has done that at least 5 times and got turned down each time. Works best in person
[QUOTE=Lukeo;36066213]All you had to do was ask her for to go for a walk/coffee or something, doesn't matter if her friends are with her.
Most of us have done things like that though, learn from your mistakes.[/QUOTE]
We are fourteen and live in a town where the closest thing to do is in the next town over.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36069692]We are fourteen and live in a town where the closest thing to do is in the next town over.[/QUOTE]
you're 14
have lunch in school with her???? on lunch go and speak??? you're good friends why is this now stopping you
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36069692]We are fourteen and live in a town where the closest thing to do is in the next town over.[/QUOTE]
So you can't go for a coffee/tea in your town or even walk anywhere?
oh okay
sure
[QUOTE=Erasus;36069710]you're 14
have lunch in school with her???? on lunch go and speak??? you're good friends why is this now stopping you[/QUOTE]
Because it's a big school and we have lunch at different times.
[QUOTE=Erasus;36069400]i wouldn't say i wasted nine months because i'm incredibly happy to be with her[/QUOTE]
and you think that in those 9 months you couldn't have found anyone else who made you happy either?
and this also might not last forever. there might come a point where the initial rush of the relationship fades and you find yourself less happy with her. those 9 months might seem like quite a while in comparison
I knew someone who kept chasing the same girl for nine months. We now refer to him as the stalker. Chasing after one girl for such a long time is not a position you should put yourself in
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36069692]We are fourteen and live in a town where the closest thing to do is in the next town over.[/QUOTE]
Seriously man i can't stress this enough
if you get rejected
try again at a later date BUT inbetween those two asks speak to her a lot more and a lot differently, speak to her in school, see if shes going out with anyone you know and try and go out with them, even in school try and give her a hug using any excuse possible you have to put in the effort man
Bit creepy
fairly sure there's more than one girl in his school
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36069905]and you think that in those 9 months you couldn't have found anyone else who made you happy either?
and this also might not last forever. there might come a point where the initial rush of the relationship fades and you find yourself less happy with her. those 9 months might seem like quite a while in comparison[/QUOTE]
I don't know, maybe I could have I'm not sure. But I know now that the nine months I "spent/wasted" on getting that girl was entirely worth it.
How would you enjoy spending 9 months to get a girl?
[QUOTE=Erasus;36069942]Seriously man i can't stress this enough
if you get rejected
try again at a later date BUT inbetween those two asks speak to her a lot more and a lot differently, speak to her in school, see if shes going out with anyone you know and try and go out with them, even in school try and give her a hug using any excuse possible you have to put in the effort man[/QUOTE]
no no no this is so terrible
not only do ideas like this have a really small chance of working, but it actually has a bigger chance of backfiring and making him look really desperate and weird instead (since hes a 15 year old in a small town)
theres literally no reason this girl is any better than the other girls you know, youre just into her at the moment. since you made a move and she said no, the [i]only[/i] option is to move on and either find someone else or dont
no means no, and you can't force someone to like you just by being persistant
sure it works in the movies and perhaps from [i]time to time[/i] in real life, but so does jumping out of a moving vehicle and surviving.
in real life that's more likely to get you killed.
I spent eight months talking to the girl I'm with before we got together. I always take my time and she was the same way and I like it better because you spend time getting to know the person. I don't think it was time wasted
Could've been more time with your hands on her tits, but yeah.
If it was 8 months as a friend and then you decided to ask her out that's fine, just a slight longshot.
[editline]23rd May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36070039]no no no this is so terrible[/QUOTE]
Jo I'm going to follow you around with binoculars until you love me
idk, either way I'm happy and idk, the ideas are fine in my head they just kind flarbooble when i try and type them out and come out sounding like idk
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36038293]can people please stop saying "i'm depressed about..." or "i'm feeling a bit depressed"
it's not depression when you're feeling really down about something that happened. depression is a psychiatric illness and it shouldn't be trivialised by people using it as a go-to word when they're upset about something
maybe i'm being seith-like and pedantic but it kinda bugs me because i've had a few friends with pretty bad depression[/QUOTE]
[url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depression_%28mood%29[/url]
[quote][B]Depressed mood is not necessarily a psychiatric disorder. It is a normal reaction to certain life events, a symptom of some medical conditions, and a side effect of some medical treatments. [/B]Depressed mood is also a primary or associated feature of certain psychiatric syndromes such as clinical depression.[/quote]
I dunno, I'll stop using it if it offends you badly
well you are definitely the exception, not the rule, and if you admit it comes out sounding terrible, then perhaps you aren't the best advice giver, because most everyone here will tell you that you need to move on. plenty of fish in the sea. don't get so hung up on one girl.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;36069753]So you can't go for a coffee/tea in your town or even walk anywhere?
oh okay
sure[/QUOTE]
This is the advise thread not to be a prick when some one thinks they have a problem thread thanks.
look I wasted 3 years of high school chasing after girls for months on end with pretty much no results
i finally got it through my head near the end of last year that I was being an idiot, so instead of focusing on one girl at a time and spending all my time thinking about her, I just opened up and became a generally flirty guy
I feel much more comfortable with myself now and Ive had a lot more success (admittedly not v much but I am still working on it)
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36070356]This is the advise thread not to be a prick when some one thinks they have a problem thread thanks.[/QUOTE]
Dude we're trying to help but you're being a little stubborn on actually letting us recommend to you on what to do
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36070356]This is the advise thread not to be a prick when some one thinks they have a problem thread thanks.[/QUOTE]
the other side of advice is taking it, and all the advice you've received excluding one person is telling you to move on and find someone else. you're 14, there's a lot of time and girls ahead of you.
[QUOTE=Erasus;36070521]Dude we're trying to help but you're being a little stubborn on actually letting us recommend to you on what to do[/QUOTE]
So I am supposed to just agree with everything you say when I think there is a problem? I am listening to what you are saying but the "Go ask to do something you can not do because it is far away" thing does not work.
the thing is is that no matter where you are there is always something to do
you don't have to agree with all the advice given, but if you're not going to accept it, don't just keep saying why you can't do this or that, but a lot of us know what we're talking about
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;36070356]This is the advise thread not to be a prick when some one thinks they have a problem thread thanks.[/QUOTE]
My advice is viable though, is it not?
Just ask the girl out for a walk/coffee/food/whatever, get to know eachother, that way if there's nothing to do in your town you can perhaps chill at eachothers houses.
If not just get a bus/train to the next town.
How does this suggestion not work?
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