The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36089290]I will drop it. It ain't worth it, it has been a lot on my mind but I'm mostly overtaken by the fact it is stupid to risk breaking two solid friendships just for the hope of a romance.
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It sort of gets on my tits when people say things like 'hope of a romance', I mean I get the fact it makes love sound all mysterious and elusive and shit, but it's not the bloody lottery. You can literally just go and meet someone (not in a massively artificial way like them pickup people) and probably find someone you like. I mean saying that I am single but there'd be someone out there I could strike up a conversation with if I went out tonight.
I know that has nothing to do with how roast said 'hope of a romance' but it does just get on my tits.
Too many people in this thread view romance as some sort of institution that they would like access to which is not what it is at all ever
[QUOTE=Seith;36088335]
Hence the point is aimed at you.[/QUOTE]
Let's just forget this forever, we will never manage to be on the same page :byodood
Dry spell: 1+ year and counting
[b]*bang*[/b]
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
Kill meeeeeee
-Disregard this, I learned a lesson from what happened, and I made the realization that I will never enjoy life if I don't stop being an indecisive idiot-
Show of hands:
Who else hates their brother?
The only thing that we've ever legitimately gotten along over was video games. He's a dick.
I've been feeling crappy for the past couple weeks and the first thing that he did when he actually noticed was say "Aw, baby gonna cry?" and call me a penis when I didn't want to do him a bunch of favors.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;36094937]Show of hands:
Who else hates their brother?
The only thing that we've ever legitimately gotten along over was video games. He's a dick.
I've been feeling crappy for the past couple weeks and the first thing that he did when he actually noticed was say "Aw, baby gonna cry?" and call me a penis when I didn't want to do him a bunch of favors.[/QUOTE]
I dislike my brother as well. He's not as much of an asshole as your brother sounds like, at least, not anymore, now that he's matured and actually grown up. It's not that we don't get along, it's more that I would have absolutely no interest in interacting with him whatsoever, if we weren't actually related.
I only got a brother in law, but he's an ignorant wanker, does that count
I have an older brother, and we disagree sometimes, but he's awesome.
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36093756]Let's just forget this forever, we will never manage to be on the same page :byodood[/QUOTE]
"We will never be on the same page"... That is the worst answer you can ever give a person. Think about it.
I'm breaking up with you Seith
It's not me, it's you
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;36094937]Show of hands:
Who else hates their brother?
The only thing that we've ever legitimately gotten along over was video games. He's a dick.
I've been feeling crappy for the past couple weeks and the first thing that he did when he actually noticed was say "Aw, baby gonna cry?" and call me a penis when I didn't want to do him a bunch of favors.[/QUOTE]
I introduced my brother to PC gaming a couple years ago, he's 27 and had only heard of halo, needless to say he was terrible at every and all 3d games, but he could kick my ass at Super Mario 3 on the NES. I seriously regret it because he's become obsessed with every game i've shown him. (Assassin's Creed, Mount and Blade, Battlefield series, etc) It was scary watching him play because his eyes were wide fucking open and he'd twitch and try to look under or over shit with his head, essentially he was the video game. I felt like I was training an ape. Whenever I wanted to quit due to boredom or just tiredness he'd bribe me with pizza and beer. We haven't played in a month or two now mostly because whenever he comes over and asks if I have a new video game to show him I say no. It's amazing how long he can play the same game for, I get bored pretty quickly.
Aside from a two week interval when I was twelve, I haven't seen my brother in 14 years. :(
[QUOTE=Parakon;36096107]I introduced my brother to PC gaming a couple years ago, he's 27 and had only heard of halo, needless to say he was terrible at every and all 3d games, but he could kick my ass at Super Mario 3 on the NES. I seriously regret it because he's become obsessed with every game i've shown him. (Assassin's Creed, Mount and Blade, Battlefield series, etc) It was scary watching him play because his eyes were wide fucking open and he'd twitch and try to look under or over shit with his head, essentially he was the video game. I felt like I was training an ape. Whenever I wanted to quit due to boredom or just tiredness he'd bribe me with pizza and beer. We haven't played in a month or two now mostly because whenever he comes over and asks if I have a new video game to show him I say no. It's amazing how long he can play the same game for, I get bored pretty quickly.[/QUOTE]
He sounds ace, what does he do
[QUOTE=Seith;36095909]"We will never be on the same page"... That is the worst answer you can ever give a person. Think about it.[/QUOTE]
God, no one can be bothered to think about it. You know thinking is a pain in the arse don't you? I hate the idea that we should all be thinking all of the time, just explain what you mean. The fact that people give such a massive shit about thinking is what gives people this idea that being cryptic and faux-intelligent or 'verbose' or whatever you want to call it is anything other than pretentious.
In other news I stopped looking for a relationship a while a go. Now whenever I imagine myself in one I just conjure up images of how much of a hassle it would be, to the point where I think I'm (and this is a cliché so get ready to cringe) better off on my own. Does anyone else get this? I feel like it's not OK and I should be constantly looking to get laid but I just can't be bothered.
You feel like it's not O.K? You [i]think[/i] it's not O.K. Meaning, it's only in your head. You conjure those images on the basis of your past, which is locking you in. dwelling on what had happened to you makes no sense, as right now you are dealing with the [i]now[/i].
The way you tried introducing yourself to relationships wasn't best for you, thus making you develop a negative image of it.
If I were you, I'd focus on why relationships are a hassle. Start conversing with more women because you think they are interesting, not because they are a possible lay and maybe it'll take the edge off "relationships" so much... making you realize you are capable of having many relationships, easily.
reading seith's posts is painful. i can't get past how painfully they are written to decide whether i actually agree or disagree with the point you're trying to make in this really overly verbose way
you talk like an internet self-help salesman, stressing unimportant words and making broad assertions based on the arbitrary way people use simple words like "think" and "feel"
see: brent smith, gregg plitt, etc.
Arbitrary? Now that sounds a bit naive... Doe his post not look meditated to you?
You always want to me to "[i]Get to the point[/i]", have you tried actually comprehending, or listening, at all? You talk like an internet smartass, all-so busy, know it all and wants the answers right now handed to him, as if life is a simple mathematical formula.
Truth is, the solution is a two way process; mentally and physically. He needs to understand first before he's able to change his behavior.
your rebuttal to my post was to reply in the exact same way. actually all that "you want life handed to you on a plate but guess what YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND" shit makes you sound even more like a self-help salesman
i'm not a smartass but i am busy. i'm in this thread to talk straight to people and give them simple answers to their simple problems
like, for example, in reply to jenkins' post:
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you feel like a relationship would be a hassle because you don't currently know someone who it would be easy to be in a relationship with; someone you see eye-to-eye with, someone who's company you love, someone you fully adore. when you meet that person, a relationship isn't a hassle or an effort to maintain - it's just wonderful and pretty much effortless and you will enjoy every moment of it. of course there will be girlfriends who are pretty high maintenance and that's always the case but it's all a learning process and it's all exciting. at the end of the day i'd say relax about it and wait until you meet someone you like
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i try to be straight to the point. i don't have all the answers but i hope that my real-world, down-to-earth approach will actually clear people's heads and make them see the normality of their situation, rather than your self-indulgent shit
Seith I think literally everyone in this thread has objected to you at some point always for the same reason
Does it occur to you that some of us actually don't have the time to engage in your terrible posting and just want to be communicated with efficiently
yeh you see i've reread your post again and basically what you were saying is "chill and talk to some women and treat them as normal people and you'll realise that being in a relationship isn't such a big deal" and i can totally agree with that
i don't know why i had to read so much psychoanalysis to get to that point though
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36098308]your rebuttal to my post was to reply in the exact same way. actually all that "you want life handed to you on a plate but guess what YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND" shit makes you sound even more like a self-help salesman
i'm not a smartass but i am busy. i'm in this thread to talk straight to people and give them simple answers to their simple problems
like, for example, in reply to jenkins' post:
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you feel like a relationship would be a hassle because you don't currently know someone who it would be easy to be in a relationship with; someone you see eye-to-eye with, someone who's company you love, someone you fully adore. when you meet that person, a relationship isn't a hassle or an effort to maintain - it's just wonderful and pretty much effortless and you will enjoy every moment of it. of course there will be girlfriends who are pretty high maintenance and that's always the case but it's all a learning process and it's all exciting. at the end of the day i'd say relax about it and wait until you meet someone you like
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i try to be straight to the point. i don't have all the answers but i hope that my real-world, down-to-earth approach will actually clear people's heads and make them see the normality of their situation, rather than your self-indulgent shit[/QUOTE]
O.K. I know what you mean and here's my reply;
"Shit makes you sound like a self-help salesman"; I'll ask you again, have you tried comprehending what I just said instead of drowning in your ego-juices? I sound like that only because you have chosen, in your mind, to think that way about what I have to say whatever your reasons.
More importantly, while I truly appreciate your answer and intentions, in my eyes it's just exactly what he wants to hear and not an actual way to counter the problem; you just assumed what his issue was and gave him your personal experience on the matter, which was unrelated. It doesn't solve anything and only offers comfort.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36098467]yeh you see i've reread your post again and basically what you were saying is "chill and talk to some women and treat them as normal people and you'll realise that being in a relationship isn't such a big deal" and i can totally agree with that
i don't know why i had to read so much psychoanalysis to get to that point though[/QUOTE]
Stop filtering stuff because it makes you think. Thinking is not bad, most people can't bear the thought of thinking past what their eyes can see, yet they all know everything.
There are no simple solutions, only hard resolves. The effort is as mental as it is physical, you can't operate solely on body movements without your brain agreeing with these actions.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=killerteacup;36098439]Seith I think literally everyone in this thread has objected to you at some point always for the same reason
Does it occur to you that some of us actually don't have the time to engage in your terrible posting and just want to be communicated with efficiently[/QUOTE]
Is that your excuse? I am sorry, I didn't know you were so busy posting on facepunch. I'll get to the point next time, to make sure you have enough time to follow your dreams efficiently.
[QUOTE=Seith;36098504]O.K. I know what you mean and here's my reply;
"Shit makes you sound like a self-help salesman"; I'll ask you again, have you tried comprehending what I just said instead of drowning in your ego-juices? I sound like that only because you have chosen, in your mind, to think that way about what I have to say whatever your reasons.
More importantly, while I truly appreciate your answer and intentions, in my eyes it's just exactly what he wants to hear and not an actual way to counter the problem; you just assumed what his issue was and gave him your personal experience on the matter, which was unrelated. It doesn't solve anything and only offers comfort.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
Stop filtering stuff because it makes you think. Thinking is not bad, most people can't bear the thought of thinking past what their eyes can see, yet they all know everything.
There are no simple solutions, only hard resolves. The effort is as mental as it is physical, you can't operate solely on body movements without your brain agreeing with these actions.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
Is that your excuse? I am sorry, I didn't know you were so busy posting on facepunch. I'll get to the point next time, to make sure you have enough time to follow your dreams efficiently.[/QUOTE]
The problem is that when you are right, it is very hard to agree with you because of the way you presented yourself.
Besides, the true mark of the intelligent is to be able to get an idea out in fewer words that are understandable to anyone.
omg i can't read this anymore the condescension hurts too much. i need to go back to my beta life where i don't ever think about anything ever because i'm scared of thinking
[QUOTE=Seith;36098504]O.K. I know what you mean and here's my reply;
"Shit makes you sound like a self-help salesman"; I'll ask you again, have you tried comprehending what I just said instead of drowning in your ego-juices? I sound like that only because you have chosen, in your mind, to think that way about what I have to say whatever your reasons.
More importantly, while I truly appreciate your answer and intentions, in my eyes it's just exactly what he wants to hear and not an actual way to counter the problem; you just assumed what his issue was and gave him your personal experience on the matter, which was unrelated. It doesn't solve anything and only offers comfort.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
Stop filtering stuff because it makes you think. Thinking is not bad, most people can't bear the thought of thinking past what their eyes can see, yet they all know everything.
There are no simple solutions, only hard resolves. The effort is as mental as it is physical, you can't operate solely on body movements without your brain agreeing with these actions.
[editline]27th May 2012[/editline]
Is that your excuse? I am sorry, I didn't know you were so busy posting on facepunch. I'll get to the point next time, to make sure you have enough time to follow your dreams efficiently.[/QUOTE]
I think what chesty is saying is, you sound needlessly incomprehensible for the sake of it. Your message, which is usually good advice or at least has good intentions, is usually hidden within a raging torrent of bullshit that is usually just too much of a pain in the ass for some of us to deal with, thus it doesn't realy help the person you're trying to help, and instead only serve to try and make yourself look smart. The excuse of "well you need to just think, it's not like its bad" is just a way of covering up that you are poor in conveying your ideas to the rest of us. Save the fancy language for when you need to impress somebody, we aren't the fucking US senate, you can talk to us like normal people.
You're not a bad person, this isn't a personal assault on you, but this is a flaw that we've repeatedly pointed out to you and practically beaten you over the head with, and you refuse to acknowledge that it's a problem.
Aka "The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread: Everybody Hates Seith Edition".
knowproblem puts it well. there's a big difference between
[quote=talking normally]hey man you need to chill out. take a step back and consider why you don't want a relationship. maybe it's because you haven't met someone your comfortable with?[/quote]
to
[quote=seith conversation]you NEED to [I]think[/I] before you CAN [I]do[/I]. life is [B]hard[/B] and has no easy answers or simple solutions. maybe if you [I]reach[/I] down into your past subconscious iterations you can find out the source of your [I]fear[/I] and [I]insecurities[/I]. the world is yours, you just have to disconnect from the strains of society and be the next level of human evolution![/quote]*
*this is satire seith please don't post analysing it as a manifestation of my great fear of unleashing my true ~@lpha~~ self
Guys you know it is possible to just ignore seith, once in a while his advice is actually not too bad.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36087797]This series of misunderstandings has been brought to you by Seith and The Super Friendly Social Love Advice Thread, where [I]everything[/I] is an argument![/QUOTE]
I remember thinking that it used to be called The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice [I]Chat[/I], but it turns out that was a [url=http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1133771]false memory[/url].
I bet we could have filled a 500 page book now just from Seith's posts
nobody would buy it
I followed some old advice in v1 I think; to get invited to a party, you have to ask. So I did, and got utterly disgustingly wasted last night with some guys from my uni. Had a blast and a half! Thanks, fp!
Unfortunately, it's a 4.5 hour walk to home. I slept over. My shift for work today is in 3 hours. I was told I'd get a ride home but the people here are all playing cards for some reason (I got eliminated pretty fast hence why I'm on my phone). I don't want to interrupt but I really have to get home and take a shower. Any advice?
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