• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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I don't get it why it is sometimes this hard to gather some people and do some stuff. It is a tad annoying, always I need to organize everything, then usually everyone bails out before the actual event.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36099180]I followed some old advice in v1 I think; to get invited to a party, you have to ask. So I did, and got utterly disgustingly wasted last night with some guys from my uni. Had a blast and a half! Thanks, fp! Unfortunately, it's a 4.5 hour walk to home. I slept over. My shift for work today is in 3 hours. I was told I'd get a ride home but the people here are all playing cards for some reason (I got eliminated pretty fast hence why I'm on my phone). I don't want to interrupt but I really have to get home and take a shower. Any advice?[/QUOTE] Just ask, be nice about it, I'm sure if they're friendly they won't mind.
[QUOTE=KnowProblem;36099228]Just ask, be nice about it, I'm sure if they're friendly they won't mind.[/QUOTE] It's a half hour ride back. That's inconveniencing them for a full hour. [editline]27th May 2012[/editline] OK I asked, they basically told me to fuck off. shit
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36099242]It's a half hour ride back. That's inconveniencing them for a full hour.[/QUOTE] Not showing up at work is worse. Ask them [I]nicely[/I] and explain the situation. [editline]27th May 2012[/editline] edit - oh bummer. [editline]27th May 2012[/editline] okay so, figure out if there's a bus you can take?
Called that girl the other day, wound up leaving a message. Still haven't heard back :C
[QUOTE=junker|154;36099226]I don't get it why it is sometimes this hard to gather some people and do some stuff. It is a tad annoying, always I need to organize everything, then usually everyone bails out before the actual event.[/QUOTE] my whole friend group used to rely on 2 specific kids to organize stuff like that, and over the past year one of them has gotten really busy with rowing crew, and the other one has sort of drifted apart at first we all sorta waited around for stuff to happen, but most of the time things fell through then I realized you have to just get up and organize stuff yourself I guess you already do that, too bad people bail on you often
ban seith
ughh i can never think straight over weekends it's annoying because my friends always try to go places on saturday, and every time i come i'm always babbling like a retard because my head is so goddamn cloudy
i'm not sure that's normal. have you ever seen a psychiatrist?
What I feel, perhaps, Mon, is that maybe the solution to the issue which so plagues your weekends is simply a manifestation of what could maybe be called, in some circles, as precedented by many a mind before thee suffering from such similar afflictions (these afflictions being of the cloudy head and inability to process normal human thoughts coherently and effectively and without repeating redundancies and also clearly), a confliction of the spiritual mind. These conflictions often lie in your own misgivings and doubts and need to be addressed internally under your own supervision and direction. THINK and FEEL your way to the solution and you shall be wanting for naught as the solution shall find you and you may continue according to plan; you may do the human socializing as you see fit and get women, which is our prime directive. By your command. Beep boop.
Finally someone here is coherent
holy living fuck its like the whole maverick thing all over again. the LA thread always needs an asshole, everytime we get rid of one another eventually pops up. let seith be- not only is he a fitness bro- but he is also just filling the black hole of douchebaggery that this thread truly needs. [editline]28th May 2012[/editline] and deep down he is usually right and is sometimes humorous (although not as often as mav was imo)
get murdered ruski i am the new mav i'm at least 200% sexier than maverick.
[QUOTE=Seith;36098504] Is that your excuse? I am sorry, I didn't know you were so busy posting on facepunch. I'll get to the point next time, to make sure you have enough time to follow your dreams efficiently.[/QUOTE] The pretentiousness almost makes this physically painful to read [QUOTE=thisispain;36103995]get murdered ruski i am the new mav i'm at least 200% sexier than maverick.[/QUOTE] Thisispain you're doing it wrong you need to glorify having sex with a girl on her period more
-300% paine becuz u said so (example; people who say they r alpha r not) thats worse than saying "but mah mom thinks ahm cool ;___;" work at it a bit and we will talk
i don't understand what you wrote
i just pretend he never writes anything
I'm usurping this thread's legacy for my own machinations. To what dubious ends will I drag these hallowed grounds? On a different note, this dude I work with at my new job is pretty darn cool! His name's Sam, and he's a bit of spaz, but in a friendly and endearing kind of way rather than a socially awkward kind of way. Anyway, I was chatting with him for a bit today and I mentioned the little coffeeshop I like to go to. You know, the one that my one-time PLA [I]Hot Coffee Girl[/I] works at. IT TURNS OUT that my work-pal Sam was [I]totally spurned[/I] by Hot Coffee Girl! He was like, "Yeah, she really doesn't like me very much." And I was all, "Kate? Why? She's always so friendly!" And Sam said, "I dunno, I guess it's because she knows I think she's cute!" And I was all, "That's a pretty rotten thing to hold against you, isn't it?" And he goes, "Yeah, it doesn't really seem fair." And I agreed, because Hot Coffee Girl is pretty dang fit, and most dudes would find her so, and Sam is a super friendly bloke. So, if she's cold to him just because he thinks so too, then that's pretty uncool. I just thought it was pretty funny that this dude got spurned by the same chick I was interested in some time ago! Small world!
You and Sam should go kidnap her and hold her hostage until stockholm syndrome kicks in and she starts loving you. [editline]28th May 2012[/editline] My posting quality really goes down fast the more frequently I post... I think I'll go back to one post a month or so.
I don't think I'm gonna do that, mate. Sam might like your idea, though; he seems pretty hung up on her. [I]Hot Coffee Girl[/I] is, like, so two months ago for ole' BDA. The only thing HCG is to me now is a fit barista who gives me discount mochas! She's always been quite friendly to me, though, so I can't help but wonder if she's actually cold to Sam, or if he just imagines coldness because he's a bit spazzy...? It is probably the second thing. Good old Sam, who I just met, and am already making unfair character assumptions about. Good old friendly Sam.
Guys, I need help. There's a girl which I met on social phobia forum, and I talked to her for 5 months now. After 3 months of talking by texts and phone I was willing to go to visit her (she lives 300km away from me), but when I told that, she always got panic attack and make excuses about social phobia. She ended it all by 'we'll met after your exams (6 weeks), I'll make it worth your waiting.'. Now 4 weeks passed, things started to change. I have exams, I don't have time to talk with her, there was somehow quiet for few days now, and yesterday she wrote in text 'I think I started to not care about this thing...'. After a hour she called and started to apologize about that, saying she's still care and that just her mood, wanted me to forget about that txt. I was pissed off, and after a while I asked her i she still wants me to come over her, or just care to not end this relation. She answered that's the thing she don't know. We end up there, and after 40 minutes started to talk again, more passive-agressive, which end by her saying 'yes, we'll met in two weeks' and mine 'if not, then it is over'. So... Fuck. She interest me like no one in last 2 years, and even it is stupid, i really care to check it in real live, if something can happen beetween us. I even gave up with 2 girls during those 5 months, because I'm interested in her. Yeah, she's moody and weirdy, but... what can I do, to make it the way it was a week ago, or just to make it last for those 2 weeks, when I'll be able to see if I want it to be real, and if yes, I'll be able to do much much more, than only via web?
forget about her, you wasted your time.
I need some help with this girl I visited yesterday... it's quite confusing for me... Well... we met at the main trainstation where she lives (400km away from me), then quickly went to her place so I could get rid of my backpack. Then she told me that she wanted to go buy some books and a cd and if I would want to come with her. Obviously I came with her. When we came back to her place, we went out of a walk, talked etc. At one point it got really really awkward... we started chatting about her ex, which she also had met at school. She also mentioned how surprised she was when I actually talked to her then. (I just ran straight throu a wall by saying: "You seem very friendly for me") THEN we came to the most horrible part of that day: She told me that she is in her last year of her apprenticeship training and that she's not able to have a boyfriend. Of course that stunned me, I couldn't decide if she just friendzoned me or is just can't really afford it. When we came back to her place, she sat on her bed and started reading one of the books she bought earlier. I started up my laptop meanwhile and started playing Deus Ex for a little bit... A bit later we went out for dinner to some chinese restaurant. When we were done with dinner there I payed and we went back to her place. She said she's very tired since she also has to work on Saturdays (2 am till 11 am). Then she asked me where I'd want to sleep, I said I don't know and she replyed with something like: "Well if you don't mind you can sleep here next to me in my since it's big enough for two." I shrugged and was like, meh okay. Well... when we were both bed ready then she warned me that she needs a lot of space in bed and that turned out to be true since she was like most of the time half on me(Accidently or on purpose????). We slept till like 1 pm on Sunday...
hello guys im a new to facepunch user. well there maybe is some fans that to remember methat its not my first all account of facepunch because in the days i make s a comic caled muffin man which a very famous to facepunch but i a do a no post since then a no disapeered but now i do a posting again. so i have a girlfrind for a two week now and there was all do good fun. i really think to myself wow these girls i love these girl. she is a so smart and beautiful like angels .but today i want to tell her to play with me nba2k12 to xbox . i tell to her girl we will play nba , but she say a noshe dont want to play ?? why ?? that she cant not play it so good what fk** is it that matter that she cant fk** play an nba like its so many problems .. well we pla it and i kick her fk ** ass she score like a 6 poitns and i do 40 points blowout. faceslap my head. well i tel lher to get fk** out here my house whats that matter with you.. guys i should break up or no??:pwn:
[QUOTE=thisispain;36107504]forget about her, you wasted your time.[/QUOTE] Mmm, pretty much. I don't mean to be a dick but meeting a girl on a forum revolving around social phobia was probably not the smartest move in the first place, and then waiting for her and actually turning down two other prospects (which I'm assuming weren't over the Internet) just added to your problems. What was wrong with the two other girls? And why can't you see where they may lead whilst waiting to find out if the thing with the first girl could be 'real'? Pick yourself up dude, and focus on building yourself up so you don't have to resort to meeting socially phobic girls over the Internet. I'm not bashing her condition, which I assume you share with her, but I really think it'd be in your best interest to figure yourself out first before inviting another person into your life, especially someone who is likely to only influence and contribute to your previous tendencies. In other news, [URL="http://toshowyouwhathystericsis.blogspot.com.au/"]I started a blog today[/URL], and the first post is (actually quite ironically given the above problem) about the Internet/Facebook and how it could potentially be affecting the ways we communicate and perceive each other. Feel free to take a look, and aside from this first post, I plan on writing about a whole bunch of other topics, some of which have relevance to this thread's content. Anything from social advice to politics to religion to music to philosophy (or at least my humble attempts at it!). [editline]29th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Theoofp;36108130]hello guys im a new to facepunch user. well there maybe is some fans that to remember methat its not my first all account of facepunch because in the days i make s a comic caled muffin man which a very famous to facepunch but i a do a no post since then a no disapeered but now i do a posting again. so i have a girlfrind for a two week now and there was all do good fun. i really think to myself wow these girls i love these girl. she is a so smart and beautiful like angels .but today i want to tell her to play with me nba2k12 to xbox . i tell to her girl we will play nba , but she say a noshe dont want to play ?? why ?? that she cant not play it so good what fk** is it that matter that she cant fk** play an nba like its so many problems .. well we pla it and i kick her fk ** ass she score like a 6 poitns and i do 40 points blowout. faceslap my head. well i tel lher to get fk** out here my house whats that matter with you.. guys i should break up or no??:pwn:[/QUOTE] Rated artistic because this post is beautiful.
shit, i should probably play nba2k12 against my girlfriend to decide whether this relationship is even worth continuing
[QUOTE=jonoPorter;36107953]I need some help with this girl I visited yesterday... it's quite confusing for me... Well... we met at the main trainstation where she lives (400km away from me), then quickly went to her place so I could get rid of my backpack. Then she told me that she wanted to go buy some books and a cd and if I would want to come with her. Obviously I came with her. When we came back to her place, we went out of a walk, talked etc. At one point it got really really awkward... we started chatting about her ex, which she also had met at school. She also mentioned how surprised she was when I actually talked to her then. (I just ran straight throu a wall by saying: "You seem very friendly for me") THEN we came to the most horrible part of that day: She told me that she is in her last year of her apprenticeship training and that she's not able to have a boyfriend. Of course that stunned me, I couldn't decide if she just friendzoned me or is just can't really afford it. When we came back to her place, she sat on her bed and started reading one of the books she bought earlier. I started up my laptop meanwhile and started playing Deus Ex for a little bit... A bit later we went out for dinner to some chinese restaurant. When we were done with dinner there I payed and we went back to her place. She said she's very tired since she also has to work on Saturdays (2 am till 11 am). Then she asked me where I'd want to sleep, I said I don't know and she replyed with something like: "Well if you don't mind you can sleep here next to me in my since it's big enough for two." I shrugged and was like, meh okay. Well... when we were both bed ready then she warned me that she needs a lot of space in bed and that turned out to be true since she was like most of the time half on me(Accidently or on purpose????). We slept till like 1 pm on Sunday...[/QUOTE] I know that feeling, sounds like a fine girl. Perhaps you could have done a move on her? Seems like she likes you a lot, even if she cannot have a boyfriend. She might be open for anything else.
I think a community of people with social phobias is one of the worst ideas ever. If you want to become more sociable you need to learn your social skills from people who are already sociable.
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;36108891]I think a community of people with social phobias is one of the worst ideas ever. If you want to become more sociable you need to learn your social skills from people who are already sociable.[/QUOTE] Couldn't it in a way improve your way of handling awkward situations?
[QUOTE=jonoPorter;36107953]She said she's very tired since she also has to work on Saturdays (2 am till 11 am). Then she asked me where I'd want to sleep, I said I don't know and she replyed with something like: "Well if you don't mind you can sleep here next to me in my since it's big enough for two." I shrugged and was like, meh okay. Well... when we were both bed ready then she warned me that she needs a lot of space in bed and that turned out to be true since she was like most of the time half on me(Accidently or on purpose????). We slept till like 1 pm on Sunday...[/QUOTE] it sounds like she wanted to hook up with you, next time make a move if youre interested and see where it goes
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