The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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No girls, but i'm (hopefully) getting a guitar for my birthday tomorrow. Woop.
this keeps happening
i think some quiet or reserved girl is pretty so i try to strike up conversation (which generally is difficult/annoying because of the class setting), she seems interested but also doesn't continue the conversation. then later she continues to not talk and practically avoids it but she gives off signs of interest (looks at me during class, laughs at everything i say, follows me, etc)
mixed signals blow
[QUOTE=Cheesemonkey;34639618]this keeps happening
i think some quiet or reserved girl is pretty so i try to strike up conversation (which generally is difficult/annoying because of the class setting), she seems interested but also doesn't continue the conversation. then later she continues to not talk and practically avoids it but she gives off signs of interest (looks at me during class, laughs at everything i say, follows me, etc)
mixed signals blow[/QUOTE]
If I couldn't decide what signals I was getting I just work on the assumption that she likes me, I don't mean that in a horrible way like "Pfft, all the bitches gotta love this", I just think "Well it seems like she likes me, so rather than sit here umming and arring i'm just gonna assume that's true".
Let us do this shit.
Just an update, I thought about what yall said about sitting her down and talking to her and I really mulled it over.
Decided not to do that and to lie to her. Told it the smell was from a hookah and the reason my eyes were red was because the room was sealed off and smoke got in my eyes.
It worked.
Reminds me of myself, unfortunately.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;34641224]Reminds me of myself, unfortunately.[/QUOTE]
My mother would never be understanding enough to be ok with it and to be honest I do enjoy smoking. I do not abuse it, but I enjoy it.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34641721]My mother would never be understanding enough to be ok with it and to be honest I do enjoy smoking. I do not abuse it, but I enjoy it.[/QUOTE]
I was talking about the lying. I lie way more than I wish I did.
I'm considering going to my first homecoming dance ever tonight
The thing is, I have no idea what to expect at all- what should I wear? Should I even bother if I don't have a date?
Not very relevant but it made me think of this thread.
[video=youtube;WhM8MyoLVgA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhM8MyoLVgA[/video]
UPDATE!
Date went well. Since a little Italian coffee-pastry shop was closed, our plan B was Starbucks. We chatted for about an hour (no awkward silences!), and saw The Woman in Black (Actually really scary, we held hands the entire time and she buried her head in my shoulder). It was a great night, definitely went better than expected.
[editline]10th February 2012[/editline]
Also, do you think it's applicable to add her as a facebook relationship after a dance and a date? Should I wait? Or should I man up and press that save button?
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I personally wouldn't do it. Because it just seems a bit degrading when you use facebook to signify that you're in a relationship. That probably didn't come out the way I wanted it too, but I couldn't think of any other way to type it out. actually i have no clue what im saying ignore me
[QUOTE=aliendrone123;34644598]I personally wouldn't do it. Because it just seems a bit degrading when you use facebook to signify that you're in a relationship. That probably didn't come out the way I wanted it too, but I couldn't think of any other way to type it out. actually i have no clue what im saying ignore me[/QUOTE]
No, you make a good point. The problem is, this is both of our first relationships, and if there is no binary "yes-no" feedback concerning if we are in a relationship or not, this could just be one of those things were this "friend zone plus" would go on for a long time. She initiated the relationship at the start anyways, so I'm not sure if she would want to dictate when we would take it up a level.
I'll take your advice and hold it off for a bit.
Alrighty then. Good luck
Rejected
but she was real nice about it so whatever
[editline]10th February 2012[/editline]
The Emperor's work is done, pony shit posted on my visitor messages will result in immediate exterminatus.
Now we can't make fun of you for wimping out
party pooper
Scotch heading your way Johnny how do you counter this attack?
well at least you were a man about it
rinse and repeat, plenty of fish out there
My closest friend and I differ on a few tastes. I like rap and hip hop, whereas he likes 80s arena rock. I like a kind of urban style of dress, he usually just wears whatever. And none of that bothers me, he's my friend so I don't really care about those differences, to each his own, right? Well I suspect he's a bit racist and constantly tells me that the stuff I wear/do/listen to is "too black for a white kid from the suburbs." okay, sure I am a white suburb kid but I don't go around acting like I'm from "the hood" or whatever. He usually feels the need to try and correct me to more Caucasian ideas such as heavy metal and rock and roll, genres which I'll listen to but I don't really like. Today he got on one of his soap boxes and said that I "idolize people like Kanye West who don't give a shit about you because are white. Stop acting like you're black" and this went back and forth with me basically defending my interests.
No real point to this post, just wanted to vent without starting any more dumb shit. He likes anime and shit but I don't tell him to act less asian. It just really gets me fired up and I don't know if it's worth all this aggravation, but he's one of my closest friends and I value that friendship. What do?
Just got back from my first dance ever. It was essentially a bunch of people getting in circles, then having seizures to the beat of the music- It was awesome.
he might literally think you only listen to that music because you're trying to look cool
try explaining to him how you legitimately like it, and show him some of your favorites
[editline]11th February 2012[/editline]
he still might think your taste in music is crap, but at least he won't blame it on you trying to look black
he probably gets it from his parents.
[QUOTE=Jimmaye;34645371]Scotch heading your way Johnny how do you counter this attack?[/QUOTE]
Bit late to counter, it's already got two hits in.
[editline]11th February 2012[/editline]
D'aww she messaged me to say sorry if it was weird earlier and she's shy and awkward about dating and we should hang out more. How thoughtful.
personally I'd avoid that situation
pity-friends are just uncomfortable
She's rejected me and still managed to lift my spirits. Her and sweet lady McClelland (est 1818)
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34645543]he might literally think you only listen to that music because you're trying to look cool
try explaining to him how you legitimately like it, and show him some of your favorites
[editline]11th February 2012[/editline]
he still might think your taste in music is crap, but at least he won't blame it on you trying to look black[/QUOTE]
Been down that path before and we agreed to disagree for awhile but it'll just come up at times. I guess it's just one of those things that good friends butt heads about? I dunno we're talking about call of duty over Facebook now like nothing even happened haha.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;34645600]personally I'd avoid that situation
pity-friends are just uncomfortable[/QUOTE]
When she turned me down she told me she doesn't generally date guys before she's known them a year or so and she likes to be close friends first. I obviously assumed at the time that was just the excuse of the day, a thinly veiled "No," but she seems rather sincere.
We've been friends but not really super close so far
She wants to get to know you more, tell her your favourite scotch!
I get the feeling she's not really a big drinker.
Hey, neither am I! SOMETHING WE HAVE IN COMMON
sure sounds like a thinly-veiled no to me
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