The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Dude, don't listen to the posts above. You'll make a fool out of yourself.
Alcohol will relax you but won't make you dance any good. Also imitating everybody else won't do any good. You'll be looking everywhere for guidance thus forgetting to look to who it matters - Your girl.
Why don't you ask her to teach you how to dance and practice with her? You'll be sincere about your inability, you'll do something together, you'll have fun. Also she'll find it kind of you to come to her for help cause she'll feel needed. It will be a very sweet thing to do.
Surely works better than not being yourself for the night.
You'll do fine. Good luck!
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36200970]Dude, don't listen to the posts above. You'll make a fool out of yourself.
Alcohol will relax you but won't make you dance any good. Also imitating everybody else won't do any good. You'll be looking everywhere for guidance thus forgetting to look to who it matters - Your girl.
Why don't you ask her to teach you how to dance and practice with her? You'll be sincere about your inability, you'll do something together, you'll have fun. Also she'll find it kind of you to come to her for help cause she'll feel needed. It will be a very sweet thing to do.
Surely works better than not being yourself for the night.
You'll do fine. Good luck![/QUOTE]
Well I thought we were talking an informal party here, not a themed dance party (whatever it's called).
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I already asked her, she taught me some stuff. Although I want to dance with her without constantly asking how to do it. I want to surprise her. Guess I have to improvise.[/QUOTE]
As i said. Ask her to practice with you or practice by yourself what she taught you. There should be some videos on youtube that can teach you.
Practice and you'll do fine. Also she's not going to dance under a spotlight with you. There will be other people minding their own business. You're there to have fun and nobody will be there judging you, so, who cares if you'll get confused or step on a few toes. She just wants to have fun with you and I guess you should be looking to have a good time too.
Well, it's in a club where the main focus is dancing.
Which means everybody will be busy dancing and not looking at what you might do wrong.
I think it would only not work if you were the only ones dancing, right?
Well, I don't give a bloody damn what other people think. It is only about my girlfriend and me, just want to adapt myself to her level of awesomness in dancing.
One of my best friends is really hung up over his ex, and I don't know what to do. He was only dating her for a week or so. I really want to slap him and tell him to get over it (he's 17, not 12 or been with he for years) but he's my best friend and I don't want to look like an ass, this is especially annoying as a good friend of mine is trying to make a move on him and she just gets a load of shit about his ex.
haha, I understand. That won't happens in a few days, but you'll do fine. You don't need to be all acrobatic to be a good dancer, stick to what you know and you'll do fine. Also you're committed to the cause. So she'll notice your effort. Just be calm. You have time.
Forgot to write my graduation post.
So it's done, and now I feel at lost. I'm not even sure what to do with my life as of now, but I have a slightish plan. My father wants me to start working full time and do the college thing in a year, but I feel as if that's a really bad idea. Intuition says so anyways. I agreed to working at his job, but am hoping for a part time whenever college comes around so as to get my studies in.
Any advice Facepunch?
[QUOTE=PrivRyan;36201544]Forgot to write my graduation post.
So it's done, and now I feel at lost. I'm not even sure what to do with my life as of now, but I have a slightish plan. My father wants me to start working full time and do the college thing in a year, but I feel as if that's a really bad idea. Intuition says so anyways. I agreed to working at his job, but am hoping for a part time whenever college comes around so as to get my studies in.
Any advice Facepunch?[/QUOTE]
Based on what I've seen - some of my high school friends were taking a year off to work - if you take a year off, you never go back to college. This happened to around 3/4 of the people I knew, the other 1/4 did get back in gear. Take it with a grain of salt though, these were just my friends and I can't say how it is for everyone.
[editline]4th June 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=junker|154;36200813]I need some advice, sooner or later I will be going out with my girlfriend and she really enjoys dancing. Besides she is a good dancer and knows quite well how to dance. So I wanted to please her and dance with her because it is really fun. Unfortunately my dancing skills are pretty abysmal, I can dance like Lento and to slower music.
When we go out though we will dance to more hispanic and fast paced beat music, she taught me some stuff but I wanted to know if you guys had any tips on how to dance a bit more fluid and smoothly.[/QUOTE]
Don't imitate people.
Practise in your spare time, webcams are perfect for gauging how you look.
Get some dance music if possible ([url]http://beatport.com[/url]) to practise with.
Don't watch youtube tutorials.
Remember that people are more focused on themselves than on you.
Don't go seizure mode.
And the golden rule -
When in doubt, two-step it out.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36201759]Based on what I've seen - some of my high school friends were taking a year off to work - if you take a year off, you never go back to college. This happened to around 3/4 of the people I knew, the other 1/4 did get back in gear. Take it with a grain of salt though, these were just my friends and I can't say how it is for everyone.
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Honestly, I'm not too worried about that, as I'm always concerned about my future, and my concern would never allow me to skip out on a college education.
I just feel as if I'd be behind in life, I guess. That feeling of wanting to do everything you want to do, and try to live out my 20s the best way possible is also a stir in my emotions. Guh.
Also, ladies dig the two step. I love dancing, and have never been at all decent. However, this never stops me from having fun on the dance floor. Also people don't care. They won't even think about how you dance for more than a second as it's just a waste of thought to think about someone else that much. This applies to a lot of things.
re: dancing, I always find it comes naturally when I'm drunk, but I'm always dead awkward if I'm [i]trying[/i] to be good at dancing. I've never thought people actually spent time learning 'dance moves' though, unless its for a joke with your mates, I wouldn't bother doing that whole weird webcam thing like someone said, it's not something to be assessed and worked on it's meant to be you having a good time, people would be embarrassed for you if they walked in on you doing that in your room.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;36202557]re: dancing, I always find it comes naturally when I'm drunk, but I'm always dead awkward if I'm [i]trying[/i] to be good at dancing. I've never thought people actually spent time learning 'dance moves' though, unless its for a joke with your mates, I wouldn't bother doing that whole weird webcam thing like someone said, it's not something to be assessed and worked on it's meant to be you having a good time, people would be embarrassed for you if they walked in on you doing that in your room.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, all I'm trying to say is that if you're not drunk and without practise, you'll probably look dumb because you'd be trying to look good dancing (who doesn't).
Here's what I've learned about dancing:
The most important rule is to have a good time, that's what you're there to do right? Make jokes and just seem like a fun person who doesn't take the whole thing too seriously.
Dancing is more about the neck, torso, and abdomen, rather than the arms and legs.
Emphasize parts of your body, like the chest if that's what you want people to notice.
Observe other people and learn the basics from videos.
Practice in front of a mirror.
Change it up frequently, don't do anything longer than 30 seconds.
Use every joint in your body, loosen up.
loosen up is probably the most important part
I just don't like the idea of having to reassure people with things like "Oh yeah people won't be watching you", it makes it sound like a big deal and it's seriously not a big deal. I know it sounds like I'm being insensitive but I'm not, I totally get why he's worried but he shouldn't be, dancing literally just happens it's a piece of piss.
[QUOTE=Rubs10;36203166]
Emphasize parts of your body, like the chest if that's what you want people to notice.
Observe other people and learn the basics from videos.
Practice in front of a mirror.
Change it up frequently, don't do anything longer than 30 seconds.
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This is exactly the kind of thing that's over the top and makes it seem like way more of a problem than it is. It's just dancing, you probably do it in your chair with music on, and if people think you're weird well fuck them, people have thought I was shit at dancing and it's really not a problem, other people have thought I was fucking wicked.
Study on dancing: [url]http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/science-environment-11223473[/url]
so I haven't posted in quite some time because my new job is consuming my life. i fear that the amount of time im spending working is negatively impacting my relationship with my girlfriend. I always make time for her on my days off (which are increasingly becoming few and far between) but ever since I started I feel like we've been growing increasingly distant (although when we do reunite at last, she's always incredibly horny, so I guess she misses me). what should I do?
talk to her about it. tell her exactly how you feel, and ask her how she feels about it too. communication is key; it saves relationships, and makes it more understandable if they have to end.
ive brought it up to her before, but only in passing. I'll actually have a talk with her about it. do you think text will suffice? we won't be able to get some quality time with each other until Thursday but it's really irking me
I just practice traditional white guy dance moves, such as the Bus Driver, the Lawnmower, and the Shopping Cart. It is the cultural dance of my peoples.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36204253]I just practice traditional white guy dance moves, such as the Bus Driver, the Lawnmower, and the Shopping Cart. It is the cultural dance of my peoples.[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36204253]I just practice traditional white guy dance moves, such as the Bus Driver, the Lawnmower, and the Shopping Cart. It is the cultural dance of my peoples.[/QUOTE]
pfff have you seen the jewish white guys dance?
breakdancers were just biting our style.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36203891]ive brought it up to her before, but only in passing. I'll actually have a talk with her about it. do you think text will suffice? we won't be able to get some quality time with each other until Thursday but it's really irking me[/QUOTE] It depends on how important it is. You lose a lot of communication through texts, like body language and tone. Maybe try calling if you can't talk face to face.
Don't know if anyone remembers, but I had this thing with a friend of mines girlfriend, where she would constantly hit on to me at party's(even if I acted like I didn't care). It went as far as her groping me, but I said that it wasn't going to fly as long as she was dating my friend.
Well, lo' and behold, she's cheated and slept with a colleague at her work and now she's asking me for help.
I told her that she should rethink her relationship with my friend and if she still wants to be with him, she should come clean at once and try to be more wary and considerate next time she drinks.
If not, pull the plug at once so I don't get another friend that cries for weeks because his girlfriend didn't tell him, until he discovered it and everything went to shit. Am I doing the right thing?
She begged me to not tell my friend, and I've kept the promise, but if she doesn't tell him, I'll probably have to do it for her.
[QUOTE=Thaard;36211510]Don't know if anyone remembers, but I had this thing with a friend of mines girlfriend, where she would constantly hit on to me at party's(even if I acted like I didn't care). It went as far as her groping me, but I said that it wasn't going to fly as long as she was dating my friend.
Well, lo' and behold, she's cheated and slept with a colleague at her work and now she's asking me for help.
I told her that she should rethink her relationship with my friend and if she still wants to be with him, she should come clean at once and try to be more wary and considerate next time she drinks.
If not, pull the plug at once so I don't get another friend that cries for weeks because his girlfriend didn't tell him, until he discovered it and everything went to shit. Am I doing the right thing?
She begged me to not tell my friend, and I've kept the promise, but if she doesn't tell him, I'll probably have to do it for her.[/QUOTE]
Give her like a week to tell him, and make it clear that if she doesn't you will. Be a good friend to her, but a better friend to him basically
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;36212241]Give her like a week to tell him, and make it clear that if she doesn't you will. Be a good friend to her, but a better friend to him basically[/QUOTE]
That's what I did/said. She's really cool and she's really good friends with all my other friends too. I just hope she get's to her senses, even if I don't think my other friends will be that forgiving(some of them are a bit "old school" if you know what I mean).
Anyways, she also says she maybe jumped into a serious relationship a bit too quick and maybe she will go solo/single for a while.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36203891]ive brought it up to her before, but only in passing. I'll actually have a talk with her about it. do you think text will suffice? we won't be able to get some quality time with each other until Thursday but it's really irking me[/QUOTE]
no, don't text her about it. i refuse to talk about problems with my girlfriend over text. if you can't hear the other person's voice, it's too easy to misread what they're trying to say, and it usually just makes a problem worse.
I cannot tell if this girl is flirting with me or not. If she is, then she is really bad at it. We share a mutual group of friends and she consistently, without failing, teases the living shit out of me. Like, I could be having a conversation with a couple of my friends away from her and she will say something outrageous about me to shift my attention towards her. She also singles me out for these insults, like my friends might get a couple of insults thrown at them in a single outting, but I get into the triple digits some nights.
When I talk to her one on one though, her whole personality changes. There is little to no teases and she is physically very cold towards me (like resists hugs). She also gets a lot more calm and does not get excited to the point that she seems like she would piss her panties. I don't understand her, maybe I just just accuse her of flirting and she if she fesses up or totally shuts me down. Help me FP, you're not my only hope, but I'm lost.
[QUOTE=Evilan;36219191]I cannot tell if this girl is flirting with me or not. If she is, then she is really bad at it. We share a mutual group of friends and she consistently, without failing, teases the living shit out of me. Like, I could be having a conversation with a couple of my friends away from her and she will say something outrageous about me to shift my attention towards her. She also singles me out for these insults, like my friends might get a couple of insults thrown at them in a single outting, but I get into the triple digits some nights.
When I talk to her one on one though, her whole personality changes. There is little to no teases and she is physically very cold towards me (like resists hugs). She also gets a lot more calm and does not get excited to the point that she seems like she would piss her panties. I don't understand her, maybe I just just accuse her of flirting and she if she fesses up or totally shuts me down. Help me FP, you're not my only hope, but I'm lost.[/QUOTE]
not flirting but indecision and self doubt i guess maybe??? possibly
i was in a similar situation and didnt know what the heck but a year later i ended up hanging with the same girl and she's just as bitchy as she was before but very obviously and clearly interested
she's interested (maybe) but doesnt know what to do or is afraid of her friends reactions or of your reactions or shit nobody knows but that is my theory (peace)
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