• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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she said she'd text you when she gets home. either she texts you, or she lied, and then it should be pretty obvious. just be patient.
So it turns out [I]That Girl[/I] has a bit of a history. She went to rehab for at least a year, and only got out within the last 4-5 months. She says she's clean now, so I could probably overlook that for now. What bothers me is that one of my co-workers [sp]my ex, whose current boyfriend used to date the girl in question[/sp]says she's cheated on every boyfriend she's ever had. Obviously I don't want anything to do with that, but I'm hesitant to just immediately disregard her based on hearsay.Thoughts? My first instinct is to talk to her about it, but "So I heard you're a filthy cheating whore, what's that all about?" doesn't seem like the sort of thing you casually bring up during a phone call. On a completely unrelated note, I'm beginning to think one of my other coworkers, whom I've known much longer, is trying to flirt with me. She's started calling me names (ex: "Hey stupid", "bye stupid","Ew. Just kidding.") more often when we talk. This isn't entirely new, since sometimes I pester her when work is slow, but I haven't really given her any reason lately. Its not really an unfriendly thing, it just strikes me as unusual. I'm thinking about trying to have lunch with her sometime and see where things go from there.
Maybe she just thinks you're stupid? Start bringing calculus books to work, and study up on obscure scholars on wikipedia, then reference them during the course of normal conversation.
[QUOTE=Gmod4ever;36268453]I know this is completely off-topic to your dilemma, but I'm just wondering, was they any reason at all for mentioning this? Call me paranoid with a minor persecution complex, but it really bothers me when people seem to imply that listening to metal has some inherently negative connotations. I can understand you being upset that they're doing drugs, since that's not my thing either, but why does the music they listen to bother you?[/QUOTE] I always thought being perceived as a metalhead is majorly uncool. I listen to 80% metal and 20% electronic music but I keep the metal part under my hat generally. When people ask to peek at my iPod or music library if I have guests over I just say no. The metalheads in my school never get invited to parties, they're just kind of there really. They aren't like, picked on or anything, they're just kind of there. And one more thing that happened recently. So, in my circle of friends, there are two guys who are basically the significant members of the group. Now, a few weeks back there was some drinking around a campfire, and I was accused of trying to steal their girlfriends even though I'm not at all interested in the girls in question. This lead to some ugly words being thrown around and me being booted from the group essentially. Out of the 10 people I used to hang with usually, nobody texts or calls or even makes eye contact with me anymore. What the fuck, man? What did I do wrong? As I said, their gf's are my friends but I have zero romantic interest in them. lmao one dude even threatened me that he'd kick my ass if I ever talked to his girl again. I spent the weekend with her while he's out of town and, well, in a way it kind of feels like she might have a crush on me. she gave me her necklace yesterday that she's worn for years (wolf design made from bone). He's back on the 17th. I'm wondering if it was just a friendly gesture on her part though. What does this mean? And will he be majorly pissed when he finds out? This leaves me with a dilemma. Where do I find new friends? They've all been my buddies since 9th grade (i'm in grades 11 and 12 atm, taking grade 12 courses because I'm slightly ahead) and as much as I like to think I don't care I feel like kind of a loner now. Possible answer: I was out buying groceries when I met my cousin. He's slightly popular and me and him were pretty close buddies in our younger years. He invited me to drink with him next weekend, and I'm wondering whether to take him up on his offer. He lives just down the street and there's always fights and sometimes cop cars there and once, an ambulance (dude got beaten up badly, there was a weapon involved i think but I don't know the whole story). I kind of want to but at the same time it seems sketchy as fuck, he's just a step below "raging alcoholic" and his circle of friends are all like that. I don't want to be "that guy" who doesn't go to parties but at the same time, like I said, very rowdy dudes who get piss drunk. What do you think, thread? Should I do it or stay the fuck away and make other friends?
[QUOTE=Djentleman;36282800]I always thought being perceived as a metalhead is majorly uncool. I listen to 80% metal and 20% electronic music but I keep the metal part under my hat generally. When people ask to peek at my iPod or music library if I have guests over I just say no. The metalheads in my school never get invited to parties, they're just kind of there really. They aren't like, picked on or anything, they're just kind of there. And one more thing that happened recently. So, in my circle of friends, there are two guys who are basically the significant members of the group. Now, a few weeks back there was some drinking around a campfire, and I was accused of trying to steal their girlfriends even though I'm not at all interested in the girls in question. This lead to some ugly words being thrown around and me being booted from the group essentially. Out of the 10 people I used to hang with usually, nobody texts or calls or even makes eye contact with me anymore. What the fuck, man? What did I do wrong? As I said, their gf's are my friends but I have zero romantic interest in them. lmao one dude even threatened me that he'd kick my ass if I ever talked to his girl again. I spent the weekend with her while he's out of town and, well, in a way it kind of feels like she might have a crush on me. she gave me her necklace yesterday that she's worn for years (wolf design made from bone). He's back on the 17th. I'm wondering if it was just a friendly gesture on her part though. What does this mean? And will he be majorly pissed when he finds out? This leaves me with a dilemma. Where do I find new friends? They've all been my buddies since 9th grade (i'm in grades 11 and 12 atm, taking grade 12 courses because I'm slightly ahead) and as much as I like to think I don't care I feel like kind of a loner now. Possible answer: I was out buying groceries when I met my cousin. He's slightly popular and me and him were pretty close buddies in our younger years. He invited me to drink with him next weekend, and I'm wondering whether to take him up on his offer. He lives just down the street and there's always fights and sometimes cop cars there and once, an ambulance (dude got beaten up badly, there was a weapon involved i think but I don't know the whole story). I kind of want to but at the same time it seems sketchy as fuck, he's just a step below "raging alcoholic" and his circle of friends are all like that. I don't want to be "that guy" who doesn't go to parties but at the same time, like I said, very rowdy dudes who get piss drunk. What do you think, thread? Should I do it or stay the fuck away and make other friends?[/QUOTE] I'll bet anything that your former friend is gonna be hella pissed about the necklace if/when he finds out. Besides that, I'd say try going to the party, and leave early if needed. Just like, sneak out after 20 minutes or so if you decide it's sketchy and you're not comfortable. I'd at least try it though. But regardless I'd say that you need some new friends that aren't from that group.
[QUOTE=Djentleman;36282800]*long read about all around bad company*[/QUOTE] It really seems like those weren't too great friends to begin with. And it would not strike me as a suprise if that girl really had feelings towards you (as her boyfriend seems like a controlling prick who threathens other guys for just talking with his girlfriend). I really doubt if that her giving away her necklace was just a friendly gesture. She propably wants to leave her current boyfriend for you, but you said that you have zero romantic interest and that you probably don't want to get your face punched inside out. And be a bit careful when hanging out with "raging alcoholics" as their idea of fun might be doing something extremely stupid and irresponsible.
Sorry for interrupting but I hate those kinds of exes that are all needy and kinda creepy stalkers. Yesterday something weird happened regarding that. Recently my childhood friend and still a big friend of mine got a girlfriend and I can tell you things between them are really working out! She's a big friend of mine too since they started to date so me, him, his girl and another friend of mine (which his ex is one of those weird stalkers too with serious issues), and we kinda keep a very open friendship. We talk a lot about our secrets and private life and there's a huge feeling of trust among us. So recently my friend's girlfriend, let's call her Ana, started receiving text messages from her ex. They started talking and suddenly the guy starts being all creepy with that text message terrorism thing "I still love you" "I still miss you" stuff and she's been pretty annoyed by that. She's even had to turn of her phone because it was just impossible for her to be at peace with us without her phone ringing or receiving texts from the guy. My friend, let's call him Joe, was starting to feel very pissed about the guy but he did want to keep things civilized cause both of them live in the same residence. So yesterday we all decided to go out at night ad since we were far from out city we decided to crash in Joe's residence. That and the fact we had some drinks and didn't want to drive home in that state. So we stayed up late in the residence's lounge. Which was actually pretty cool, we had pinball, snacks machine and TV and some very comfortable couches. It was basically an oasis among lounges. So in that residence there's 2 places people like to hang out, the lounge and the kitchen, which is huge too and has some royalties such as TV and snacks too, and Ana's Ex was there awaken all night too. For some reason he found out she was there and showed up saying he wanted to talk to her alone. Joe was apprehensive at first but Ana wanted to settle things straight so they went to talk. Later Ana comes to us completely frustrated saying it was no use talking to the guy since he was obsessed and harassing her. And after a while comes the jewel of the crown: Ana receives a message from the guy saying "I know you still love me, I'll never forget you, I'll be in my room waiting for you. Meet me in bed". That fucking prick. I know maybe we were harsh but we were very pissed of by his harassment. So both me, Joe and the other friend, John, went upstairs to deal with him. We knocked on his room's door, he says "come in" we open the door and the guy was naked in bed under his sheet with candles lit here and there. The fucking idiot. We jumped towards him and trapped him in bed with the sheet. John closed the door behind him and basically he shat himself. We told him: "Your going to stop this nuisance right now and grow some balls, you hear me", "You're going to stop stalking and harassing Ana or we're going to have a problem." He just stared at us. So we left his room. Curious how Joe, the boyfriend kept very calm about everything during our "assault", I thought he was going to punch him or something but he kept collected about the situation and just stood there holding the sheet. I know some of you will find it extreme what we did. And yeah, looking back it was pretty extreme. However we were under the heat of the moment and there was no stuff broken nor agression so as much as things could be resolved in another way it was effective since the guy never harassed Ana again. TL;DR: We made a my friend's girlfriend stalker ex shit his pants
I wouldn't say it was extreme I would say you sound like a tool for pretending you were all in a shitty hollywood movie or something. Those lines are fucking embarrassing, who would put something like that in real life
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36281854]Maybe she just thinks you're stupid? Start bringing calculus books to work, and study up on obscure scholars on wikipedia, then reference them during the course of normal conversation.[/QUOTE] That is entirely possible, although I don't really see her as the type to be impressed by calculus. Besides, I already stand around reading astronomy books whenever I think I can get away with it :v:
[QUOTE=Deathhunter;36259518] [i]I have this best friend (or best friend from what I think). Usually him and I group together with other people. He's a really socially interactive person and he is nice. He's got alot of friends, he's got a girlfriend, his family is rich, he's really smart, he's athletic and he's musical. He's like the perfect person which I portray. However, I'm the complete opposite of him mostly. I do want to be really socially interactive and nice and really try and thrive to do it. But, I lack barely any friends, I have never been in a relationship (a virgin still), my family is rich but doesn't like or allow me to spend compared to my friend, and I falter in education compared to him and a lot of people, although I was a good swimmer once, I lost to one guy and no one considers me good anymore, (shit to be honest), and I played the trumpet but I was the only one who played and everyone considers me to bad, which I am because I lack confidence in playing because no one wants to hear the instrument. Alot of other people play the guitar, drums, clarinet, etc which is considered much more better than the trumpet and the people who play them are considered popular, hot, etc which I ain't defo.[/i][/QUOTE] Hold it right there. All right. First of all. Stop comparing yourself to him. Things like that always lead to envy, or even worse, jealousy. I've been there. Actually. I've been in your shoes exactly. I used to be really shy. What a trip that was. Being an introvert, I guess this comes naturally. Always wondering how people felt about me, or thinking about how they always viewed me. It made me self conscious and extremely insecure about the way I act or what I say in front of people. It resembled being gagged and then being thrown in a cage with eyes always on me. This made me extremely uncomfortable with being myself. Fear of judgement. Fear of the unknown. Then I thought about it. Honestly, give this a wee bit of thought. Have you ever judged anyone? This should be an immediate yes, unless you are a fucking saint. Now think about this. Did you actually care? Did you give it more than a second of thought before you moved on? I hope so. Obsession is a keen mental disorder. Now put yourself in their shoes. Not everyone is like this, but there are tons of people just like you. Always self conscious. Always "aware" of what people think. They are possibly just as nervous as you when it comes to a social situation. But like yourself, they are too busy focusing on themselves to even care. Their own future and status is way more important than some stranger's own state of being. They don't care. Nor do they care about the past you, or what you've done. They only want to know the present you. It's human to look for approval from others, but the only way to find that is to be yourself, and friends and loved ones will follow shortly after. Don't be so hard on yourself either. You are literally kicking your own ass. It seems you idolize this guy. It's not so bad since it gives you something to work for, but honestly I am pretty sure he is not the perfect human being. I'm sure he has problems of his own. But really, you should just be focusing on your own. Don't work to be like this guy. Work to be your own identity. I'm definitely happy that you really want to do something about it, so that's definitely a start. But stop comparing yourself to him. Instead, compare yourself to you. Five seconds ago, there was a younger Deathhunter reading the above sentences. That's the past you. This is now. How have you improved? Don't answer that, that's just an example. Instead of competing with someone else, make sure to grow and improve yourself everyday. Work harder to be better than you were 5 seconds ago. If you want to make friends, then work for it. If you fail, then learn from what you've just done and move on. If you want to be a better musician, put the time and effort into becoming one instead of reading my post. Work for what you want, say what you want, and mostly, do what you want. There is no one stopping you other than yourself. And authorities.
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36284777]I wouldn't say it was extreme I would say you sound like a tool for pretending you were all in a shitty hollywood movie or something. Those lines are fucking embarrassing, who would put something like that in real life[/QUOTE] I didn't get it. You didn't believe my story? It's a student's residence. You can easily go in and out other people's rooms. You have the living room downstairs, a common kitchen upstairs, the showers and then it's a hallway full of rooms. It's not like it's a motel or something. Students actually go in an out each others rooms. We didn't break in, the door was just open and everybody knows where everybody sleeps. What's so hard to believe in it. That fact that the way I told it sounds like a hollywood shitty movie? What would I get for making up such a story anyway.?
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36283973]We told him: "Your going to stop this nuisance right now and grow some balls, you hear me", "You're going to stop stalking and harassing Ana or we're going to have a problem." He just stared at us. So we left his room.[/QUOTE] no, this is the part that sounds embarrassing and like lines from a shitty hollywood movie
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36291669]I didn't get it. You didn't believe my story? It's a student's residence. You can easily go in and out other people's rooms. You have the living room downstairs, a common kitchen upstairs, the showers and then it's a hallway full of rooms. It's not like it's a motel or something. Students actually go in an out each others rooms. We didn't break in, the door was just open and everybody knows where everybody sleeps. What's so hard to believe in it. That fact that the way I told it sounds like a hollywood shitty movie? What would I get for making up such a story anyway.?[/QUOTE] i don't think anyone is saying that you're lying, just that the way you wrote the story makes it all sound completely pathetic the line that lil_nooblet quoted perfectly sums up how awkward and self-serving the entire post was, like you're trying to write some awful action novel.
I think you guys are being a bit too picky about the way Behemoth wrote his story and not paying enough attention to the story itself. Who cares if it sounds like a novel? It obviously wasn't his goal, he was just trying to be as sincere as possible. @Behemoth, not sure what kind of advice you were expecting , though.
I see. Yeah, you guys are right. Now that I look at it. It kinda looks like I'm depicting a play. Didn't notice it in he morning when I posted it. guess I was inspired. I wasn't expecting no advice. I was just sharing some episode that happened to me, though. Let's move along! :v:
I don't know if this counts as love advice, but I have social anxiety or paranoia or whatever you want to call it. I can't look at a girl in the eye and the most I've ever said to one who wasn't related to me was "yeah, okay". Is there any way to make girls seem less "scary", if that makes any sense? I'm starting college soon so obviously there will be a lot more girl interaction, I'd like to work on my "fear" before then.
[QUOTE=KirinoKousaka;36294679]I don't know if this counts as love advice, but I have social anxiety or paranoia or whatever you want to call it. I can't look at a girl in the eye and the most I've ever said to one who wasn't related to me was "yeah, okay". Is there any way to make girls seem less "scary", if that makes any sense? I'm starting college soon so obviously there will be a lot more girl interaction, I'd like to work on my "fear" before then.[/QUOTE] Get used to it. You know how you can talk to a guy or family and look them in the eye? Do the same for women. This might sound really simple, but it actually is. Just get used to it. Also related but not really. I never am sure of which eye to look at when I look at someone. So I think I stare at their brow.
[QUOTE=KirinoKousaka;36294679]I don't know if this counts as love advice, but I have social anxiety or paranoia or whatever you want to call it. I can't look at a girl in the eye and the most I've ever said to one who wasn't related to me was "yeah, okay". Is there any way to make girls seem less "scary", if that makes any sense? I'm starting college soon so obviously there will be a lot more girl interaction, I'd like to work on my "fear" before then.[/QUOTE] the same way you'd get over most fears, you have to force yourself outside your comfort zone. don't think twice about it, just dive headfirst and say what comes to mind, just start talking and talking. you'll get over it quick, and you'll look a lot more confident.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36295039]the same way you'd get over most fears, you have to force yourself outside your comfort zone. don't think twice about it, just dive headfirst and say what comes to mind, just start talking and talking. you'll get over it quick, and you'll look a lot more confident.[/QUOTE] Alright thanks guys, I'll give it a go. My mind works in a way that it always tells me I'm going to fuck up, but hopefully I'll learn to ignore that.
So here is the situation. A couple months ago, a new girl started at my work who I didn't really talk to until a few weeks ago I invited her to go dancing with me and a couple of other co-workers. She said no because she didn't really know us yet and she was tired or whatever. The next week she invited me and a bunch of other co-workers to her house for a BBQ and to go dancing. She then asked me if I wanted to go out with just her and two other co-workers the day before just for some drinks, and I said sure. She's was texting me quite a bit over a few days, which kinda died down, but I [I]think[/I] she keeps looking over at me at work, but I cannot tell for sure because we both work on opposite sides of our department and she could just be looking in my general direction. May seem obvious that she likes me.. BUT, she is extremely confident and outgoing, and she seems to be inviting out co-workers left right and centre, and I think I just happen to be in the mix of people to invite out. She is a social butterfly who likes to party, etc. I'm also mellow, relaxed and kind of shy which makes me think she's out of my league. And she also told me the other day she loves being single and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. Any thoughts would be appreciated if anyone reads this whole thing :v:
[QUOTE=KirinoKousaka;36295551]Alright thanks guys, I'll give it a go. My mind works in a way that it always tells me I'm going to fuck up, but hopefully I'll learn to ignore that.[/QUOTE] don't worry about it if you feel like you messed up or ruined a conversation or made something awkward, anything; more than likely, you will at some point or another. but you'll learn, and you'll get better at talking to people. [QUOTE=Electroholic;36295588]So here is the situation. A couple months ago, a new girl started at my work who I didn't really talk to until a few weeks ago I invited her to go dancing with me and a couple of other co-workers. She said no because she didn't really know us yet and she was tired or whatever. The next week she invited me and a bunch of other co-workers to her house for a BBQ and to go dancing. She then asked me if I wanted to go out with just her and two other co-workers the day before just for some drinks, and I said sure. She's was texting me quite a bit over a few days, which kinda died down, but I [I]think[/I] she keeps looking over at me at work, but I cannot tell for sure because we both work on opposite sides of our department and she could just be looking in my general direction. May seem obvious that she likes me.. BUT, she is extremely confident and outgoing, and she seems to be inviting out co-workers left right and centre, and I think I just happen to be in the mix of people to invite out. She is a social butterfly who likes to party, etc. I'm also mellow, relaxed and kind of shy which makes me think she's out of my league. And she also told me the other day she loves being single and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. Any thoughts would be appreciated if anyone reads this whole thing :v:[/QUOTE] well, her possibly maybe kind of sort of looking in your direction on occasion means nothing. don't look for cues like that. the only way you'll ever know what a girl thinks of you is to go out with them. from the sound of it however, you're just another person she's invited to hang out with. the important thing in that is that she acknowledges you and obviously thinks you're at least bearable enough to hang out with, so while she probably doesn't really think about dating you, it's not too far out of the question to try it out. i would suggest that for basically any girl in that situation for everything except the part where she told you directly she is enjoying being single and doesn't want a relationship right now. that's pretty clear. you could ask her out anyway, but that's a pretty good sign she isn't really interested.
her telling you she loves being single is a little weird, but I say definitely go for it, she seems interested in you, or if not at least friendly enough to give it a shot just make a move and ask her out or something
[QUOTE=KirinoKousaka;36294679]I don't know if this counts as love advice, but I have social anxiety or paranoia or whatever you want to call it. I can't look at a girl in the eye and the most I've ever said to one who wasn't related to me was "yeah, okay". Is there any way to make girls seem less "scary", if that makes any sense? I'm starting college soon so obviously there will be a lot more girl interaction, I'd like to work on my "fear" before then.[/QUOTE] I highly doubt you have genuine social anxiety. You can go outside without being petrified that people are watching you, you can probably eat in public, you can talk to people that aren't girls. It's more likely that you're just really shy. I was just like you, and used social anxiety as a crutch to blame for my bad social skills. Basically, practice makes perfect, and googling 'how to talk to girls' doesn't work. Eye contact - just stare them down. Seriously, the worst that'll happen is they'll think you're creepy ([I]which they already do if you're constantly looking at your shoes[/I]). You can also just pretend you're looking at something directly behind her head if it helps. Hold conversations with girls you're related to, then apply that to girls that aren't related to you. It's all about practice. I'm not sure if you're in high school still or not, or if classes are still running, but if you don't have assigned seating, force yourself to sit next to a girl (no procrastination allowed) and just shoot the shit. Talk about the class, the teacher, recent assignments, plans for college, etc. just stuff that you can both relate to. I did this for my first semester of uni and it definitely helped. To work on conversation skills, use the keyword system. Girl - "Yeah, I really hate how long the assignments for this class are." [I]Topics - long assignments, this class, the teacher that assigns them, other classes with long assignments, your opinion[/I] You - "It's not as bad as my English teacher last year. The final assignment was 15 pages long." Girl - "You're kidding! That's ridiculous - how is he still a teacher?" [I]Topics - ridiculous teachers, similar teachers, the school's hiring/firing policy, how shit your English teacher was last year, comparison to current teacher, other stuff last English teacher did[/I] You - "I dunno, probably gets paid just to keep coaching the football team." Girl - "Haha, I don't even like football!" [I]Topics - football, sports, coaches, other athletic stuff, how you don't do athletic stuff, back to teachers, a joke if you can think of one[/I] You - "Join the club, the only person I know that watches football is [person], I just don't get it." [editline]11th June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Electroholic;36295588]So here is the situation. A couple months ago, a new girl started at my work who I didn't really talk to until a few weeks ago I invited her to go dancing with me and a couple of other co-workers. She said no because she didn't really know us yet and she was tired or whatever. The next week she invited me and a bunch of other co-workers to her house for a BBQ and to go dancing. She then asked me if I wanted to go out with just her and two other co-workers the day before just for some drinks, and I said sure. She's was texting me quite a bit over a few days, which kinda died down, but I [I]think[/I] she keeps looking over at me at work, but I cannot tell for sure because we both work on opposite sides of our department and she could just be looking in my general direction. May seem obvious that she likes me.. BUT, she is extremely confident and outgoing, and she seems to be inviting out co-workers left right and centre, and I think I just happen to be in the mix of people to invite out. She is a social butterfly who likes to party, etc. I'm also mellow, relaxed and kind of shy which makes me think she's out of my league. And she also told me the other day she loves being single and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. Any thoughts would be appreciated if anyone reads this whole thing :v:[/QUOTE] Ask her out. If she says no, then she says no and you can stop worrying about it. If she says yes, you win.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36295777]I highly doubt you have genuine social anxiety. You can go outside without being petrified that people are watching you, you can probably eat in public, you can talk to people that aren't girls. It's more likely that you're just really shy. I was just like you, and used social anxiety as a crutch to blame for my bad social skills. Basically, practice makes perfect, and googling 'how to talk to girls' doesn't work. Eye contact - just stare them down. Seriously, the worst that'll happen is they'll think you're creepy ([I]which they already do if you're constantly looking at your shoes[/I]). You can also just pretend you're looking at something directly behind her head if it helps. Hold conversations with girls you're related to, then apply that to girls that aren't related to you. It's all about practice. I'm not sure if you're in high school still or not, or if classes are still running, but if you don't have assigned seating, force yourself to sit next to a girl (no procrastination allowed) and just shoot the shit. Talk about the class, the teacher, recent assignments, plans for college, etc. just stuff that you can both relate to. I did this for my first semester of uni and it definitely helped. To work on conversation skills, use the keyword system. Girl - "Yeah, I really hate how long the assignments for this class are." [I]Topics - long assignments, this class, the teacher that assigns them, other classes with long assignments, your opinion[/I] You - "It's not as bad as my English teacher last year. The final assignment was 15 pages long." Girl - "You're kidding! That's ridiculous - how is he still a teacher?" [I]Topics - ridiculous teachers, similar teachers, the school's hiring/firing policy, how shit your English teacher was last year, comparison to current teacher, other stuff last English teacher did[/I] You - "I dunno, probably gets paid just to keep coaching the football team." Girl - "Haha, I don't even like football!" [I]Topics - football, sports, coaches, other athletic stuff, how you don't do athletic stuff, back to teachers, a joke if you can think of one[/I] You - "Join the club, the only person I know that watches football is [person], I just don't get it."[/QUOTE] I like how you just got done saying you can't google a guide on how to talk to girls, and then attempted to give just that
My policy on women is the same as my policy on food; even a bad meal is better than starving. [editline]11th June 2012[/editline] Not really. I just had a little giggle when I thought of it, and said, "Gee whiz, this is too clever not to share!" [editline]11th June 2012[/editline] lms if youa gree
I wrote another blog post, about... making mistakes I guess? Self-improvement? I don't really know, I should probably plan these a little more so they don't end up so long and sporadic, but eh, if anyone's interested: [url]http://toshowyouwhathystericsis.blogspot.com.au/2012/06/stand-at-top-of-cliff-and-jump-off-and.html[/url]
[QUOTE=KirinoKousaka;36294679]I don't know if this counts as love advice, but I have social anxiety or paranoia or whatever you want to call it. I can't look at a girl in the eye and the most I've ever said to one who wasn't related to me was "yeah, okay". Is there any way to make girls seem less "scary", if that makes any sense? I'm starting college soon so obviously there will be a lot more girl interaction, I'd like to work on my "fear" before then.[/QUOTE] well if you're calling it "social anxiety or paranoia or whatever" then it sounds like you haven't actually been diagnosed with anything, so your first stop should probably be to go see a therapist/councillor/somebody that can help you, as they will understand and be able to help you much more. the advice posted still stands, but if you're serious about getting help i think it needs to be from somewhere more than an internet forum.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36295906]I like how you just got done saying you can't google a guide on how to talk to girls, and then attempted to give just that[/QUOTE] This is about all I ever got out of it. What can I say :v:
My situation: I've been working at a cafe for the last year, there is also one next door, a cute girl works there. But I haven't ever spoken to her at all for the all this time, being an idiot I played the cool card (and i've always been incredibly shy). Anyways I've been trying to break that habit and spoke a tiny bit with her a couple of weeks ago, the opportunity to stand around and have small talk is difficult when we're working. On top of this, she likes and has slept with one of the other guys at work. I've discussed it with the said guy, who isn't emotionally attached to her but just wants to fuck. She's apparently head over heels for him. My question now is - would it be rude/selfish of me to just walk up to this chick and tell her that despite the fact I know she likes the other guy, I still find her really attractive and just wanna get to know her? etc etc Might be a completely stupid situation, but any advice would be cool.
some cute girl works at subway and we MADE S CONNECTION but i cant give her my number because i don't have one and havent for like a week because tmobile can't fucking ship sim cards in a timely manner and the store wont sell prepaid sims or sign me up without a contract
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