The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ShadowSocks8;36321529]-Kelly: Nymphomaniac, engaged to a soldier who's currently serving
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Heeeey you can't fool me this is the plot of Black Snake Moan
why is there no Samuel L. Jackson in your story
So one of my close friends has somehow managed to stay in a relationship from second semester freshman year through graduation (high school). They were originally planning on trying long distance for college (they'd be like 2-3 hours away from each other, but with school, and without cars they wouldn't be able to see each other for a while), but a few days ago they went through some shit about that so my friend basically dropped off the face of the planet for a few days. Since we're working on some programming projects together and he disappeared, after it was all over, he messaged me on facebook telling me what happened and that it's resolved and all that jazz. They decided to enjoy the rest of the summer together and end the relationship when they leave for college.
That's all good and fine, and we talked for a bit, mostly about the changes I made to the code while he was gone. About 10 minutes after the conversation ended, while I was coding, it hit me like a fucking train. I got that same sinking feeling I got around this time last year when the girl I was trying to date straight up told me she had a new boyfriend. Earlier in the school year I started dating another girl, and it started off pretty awkward, but things got better. We still didn't communicate that much and around February she ended it by saying that it was too close to college for a serious relationship. I realized in that moment that the relationship didn't end because she thought it was too close to college, but because I didn't care enough about the relationship. Or at least it seemed I didn't care enough, and I didn't know how to express it.
The worst part is that I also missed the perfect opportunity for a first kiss with her a few weeks before that. I already felt bad about that since the day after it happened (or rather, didn't happen). I probably just confused the hell out of her, and I feel terrible for that. We're still friends now, and since we're both part of the same larger group of friends we see each other a lot. The post-breakup awkwardness ended around prom time (which was super early for us, late March) when our friends said that we should go to prom together, so we went as friends. Now that I think about it, that would have been a perfect time to start things up again instead of just accepting it and trying to move on.
I guess there's really no use in continuing to rant about it. I've only got about 2 months before I'm on a plane to the other side of the US to become a freshman at RPI, at this point I don't think there's much I can do about it. At least now I have a better understanding of what happened and I learned from it...
just forget about it, you'll have a new life at university.
[QUOTE=thisispain;36337916]just forget about it, you'll have a new life at university.[/QUOTE]
Thanks, today's been a slow day for me and I've been thinking about it too much.
She didn't show. Obviously.
I haven't said a single word to her since that last email that you all said was a stupid idea. OHWELL.
Got a bunch of friends coming over tonight for our little beer pong comp we hold. Will be nice to get my mind off things.
I have no excuse to not start moving on now.
[QUOTE=Mon;36317814]i just can't keep myself awake throughout the day. it sucks because i always get super awkward when i'm tired, and i really need to be on top of my game for this girl i'm dating. how can i fix this?[/QUOTE]
Caffeine pills could do the trick.
[QUOTE=thisispain;36337916]just forget about it, you'll have a new life at university.[/QUOTE]
For me University was a reset button. So I fully agree.
So my friend just showed me my ex's myyearbook page. Openly admitting to looking for a fuck pal, talking about whether she liked to be cummed inside or rather outside off, with condoms or pull out... things like that. It's nice to know I dated a fucking whore. thoughts?
[QUOTE=gerbile5;36344642]So my friend just showed me my [b]ex's[/b] myyearbook page. Openly admitting to looking for a fuck pal, talking about whether she liked to be cummed inside or rather outside off, with condoms or pull out... things like that. It's nice to know I dated a fucking whore. thoughts?[/QUOTE]
Forget about it, move on. What she does now doesn't make a blind bit of difference to you.
bahaha so the girl who dumped me because of her "problems" has been hanging out with her ex and shit and I've been ignoring her completely as a result of this and now she's texting me trying to start conversations again. good to be in the drivers seat. I don't know if I'm going to answer though
[QUOTE=gerbile5;36344642]So my friend just showed me my ex's myyearbook page. Openly admitting to looking for a fuck pal, talking about whether she liked to be cummed inside or rather outside off, with condoms or pull out... things like that. It's nice to know I dated a fucking whore. thoughts?[/QUOTE]
lmao if she's the kind of chick who posts on myyearbook, why the fuck would you even be angry? their community is uniformly retarded, don't even get upset. it should make it even easier to get past her.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36345061]bahaha so the girl who dumped me because of her "problems" has been hanging out with her ex and shit and I've been ignoring her completely as a result of this and now she's texting me trying to start conversations again. good to be in the drivers seat. I don't know if I'm going to answer though[/QUOTE]
don't
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36345199]lmao if she's the kind of chick who posts on myyearbook, why the fuck would you even be angry? their community is uniformly retarded, don't even get upset. it should make it even easier to get past her.
don't[/QUOTE]
I'm not upset about thing with her, persay, but im upset with having been involved with her, and how someone can have so little respect for their own privacy. I just can't believe this. oh well... life goes on
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36345199]lmao if she's the kind of chick who posts on myyearbook, why the fuck would you even be angry? their community is uniformly retarded, don't even get upset. it should make it even easier to get past her.
don't[/QUOTE]
i did but I just endured her attempt at small talk just to remain civil because I don't want her to start bullshit. we're friends with the same people.
Aow aow aow business time with Red Dress Girl and "da gang."
I am organizing some wicked-sick meetings for my school club, to arrange a curriculum for next semester's activities and budget. Me, Red Dress girl, and two people who aren't me or Red Dress Girl are prolly going to get sandwiches and excitedly talk about club stuff.
There's truly no better bonding agent than brainstorming field trip ideas and managing schedules.
Lately my general anxiety has force me to get motivated and get out and all this shit, I'm actually into a hobby - airsoft, I swear it's hella' exhilarating. I barely even play video games anymore, that's how happy I am that I got this random anxiety disorder. Yet, I only have one problem, oh so annoying...
I can't talk to women, I mean I generally don't talk much at all, but I have it worse when dealing with females. I believe if I ever try to say something, it will either be horribly stupid or people will think I'm weird / an idiot.
Anyone else feel this way?
If you don't make mistakes, you won't know whether you are or not able to talk to women.
"I believe it will be.... x/y"
My ex messaged me last night and said "Hey, how are you doing?" so I said I'm okay how are you yadadada. I then asked why she messaged me and she said she just randomly wanted to say hi.
We had a quick chat and she was friendly, then she said she needed to go. What was all that about? We had broken up a month a bit ago.
she was probably just checking on you. i wouldn't take it as a hint that she wants to get back together, at least not based on that.
hooked up with some random last night at a party. not sure why i feel like a cheating piece of shit even though me and the girl i feel like im cheating on are broken up. fuck this.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36353979]hooked up with some random last night at a party. not sure why i feel like a cheating piece of shit even though me and the girl i feel like im cheating on are broken up. fuck this.[/QUOTE]
Woah settle down.
im very calm i just feel like i cheated on her and i can't grasp why.
Don't feel bad about it dude, you know you've done nothing wrong.
yea you're right, especially since now she's hanging out with her ex every day. we said we would just be friends but I'm about ready to call the high school and ask them to not let her into my senior prom. (she is a junior) is this too drastic?
Sounds a little drastic dude, just leave it completely imo. Be passive about it/towards her until you feel over it, and it's clear you're not really there yet. Just keep moving forward, avoid talking to her if you're not fully comfortable with it, and don't do anything rash in the mean time.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36354888]yea you're right, especially since now she's hanging out with her ex every day. we said we would just be friends but I'm about ready to call the high school and ask them to not let her into my senior prom. (she is a junior) is this too drastic?[/QUOTE]
No not at all, it's very romantic
just cheel man, you're in complete control of how you handle the situation, so handle it in a way you'd want others to handle it.
handle.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36354888]yea you're right, especially since now she's hanging out with her ex every day. we said we would just be friends but I'm about ready to call the high school and ask them to not let her into my senior prom. (she is a junior) is this too drastic?[/QUOTE]
That would be pretty dang petty.
So for the past 2 months I've been taking this summer course at my university. It wasn't until a few weeks after halfway through the course when my friend, who was my main partner in that class, told me that I was being creeped on from across the room. She and I both looked for this creeper who was simply staring at me and didn't look away when we stared at her back.
Now it is the end of the course with exams in 4 days. I've noticed my creeper has a routine.
She would always sit with her best friend. This best friend of hers would purposely sit in front or behind me but as soon as miss creeper arrives and noticed that I was within arms reach she would turn around, leave and sit on the opposite side of the lecture hall, shortly followed by her best friend later on.
With a 50% exam in 4 days, I think I'm going to show up just on time and sit right beside this girl. I hope she's not one to get nervous.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36357980]That would be pretty dang petty.[/QUOTE]
yea, having some time isolated at work today made me realize that. im going to try and salvage the friendship i guess. if i did any damage, that is. if not, status quo
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36361365]yea, having some time isolated at work today made me realize that. im going to try and salvage the friendship i guess. if i did any damage, that is. if not, status quo[/QUOTE]
Your situation is kinda confusing and I'd like to help but I'm not sure what to say. Care explaining what happened exactly? Do you still have feelings for her?
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36361365]yea, having some time isolated at work today made me realize that. im going to try and salvage the friendship i guess. if i did any damage, that is. if not, status quo[/QUOTE]
you definitely don't have to (and probably shouldn't) try salvaging the friendship, being friends with exes rarely works out. you don't have to like her to be respectful to her. just treat her like someone you don't know. live and let live.
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