The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Well something totally awesome happened and is currently is happening between a girl and I.
So about a week before school ended there was a fire drill in the middle of the rain and we still all had to come out to the front parking lot. I was blinded by the rain droplets covering my glasses so I ended up tripping and stumbling into a girl whom one of my friends knew but I had yet to meet. Because I was wearing a windbreaker that I had donned as I left the building I felt that considering she only had a t-shirt and was getting drenched that it was a suitable thanks for stopping me from falling into the mud. She gladly took it after I offered and I apologized for almost knocking her over. As the minutes dragged on and seeing as neither of us could find our friends we chatted casually and things became spontaneously flirtatious surprisingly quickly. The entire time this happened, neither of us actually got the other persons name.
We didn't talk again until we ran into each other a week later. This was during exams. We have two exam periods a day and 20 minutes in between to study or chill or do whatever. It happened that one of my friends was going to come home with me on the bus that day and I couldn't find him pretty much anywhere I looked. Because I saw another friend who might have seen him I walked over and there she was asking him where she could find [I]me[/I]. I found out that she's was still relatively new seeing as she only came to my school earlier that year and hadn't really met many people. She seemed different for some reason so I just let her follow me while I looked for my other friend we talked about stuff the entire time and things also became spontaneously flirty for no reason. Eventually she spotted him in the crowd and we went our separate ways.
Finally on the last day of school, she caught me as I was walking to my bus and we chatted a little bit. She seemed nervous and I asked her why. She informed me that she was actually developing a bit of a crush on me and wanted to tell me because it was the last day of school. She wanted to see me again. She gave me her phone number and I gave her mine and we left.
Now after talking for quite a bit with her on Facebook we've found out that we actually have a lot in common. She and a few of her friends are going bowling soon. She said that she wanted me to come with her and asked me to invite some of my friends also. I invited some people and both me and her are looking forward a lot to actually getting to talk in person again.
Apparently she think I'm "cute."
So i had friends over for a party friday night and my best friend stayed over cause he couldnt get a lift home. I was fine with that.
Then all saturday we played xbox and drank and he asked to stay over again. I said ok even though i have 3 assignments due monday and was gonna use the weekend to finish them.
Now its sunday. He checked the bus times and as he was walking out the door my parents stopped him and asked him to stay over for dinner. I really really needed today to finish my work and now im totally fucked for tomorrow. And i cant say anything to him or my parenta without sounding like a total dickbag.
Fuck.
[QUOTE=Moonsorrow;36362082]Your situation is kinda confusing and I'd like to help but I'm not sure what to say. Care explaining what happened exactly? Do you still have feelings for her?[/QUOTE]
not entirely sure how i feel. and to the other guy who replied, im taking her to the prom as a friend now.
Is there an easy way to lower ones libido? I tried googling this but the only reliable answer I found was that SSRI's are the only solid way of reducing libido but I'd much rather get something over the counter. I came across this [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anaphrodisiac[/url] But I don't think that's going to help me much either since I haven't heard of any pills or OTC drugs relating to that.
Why would you want to reduce your own libido?
[QUOTE=Kaihong;36363564]Is there an easy way to lower ones libido? I tried googling this but the only reliable answer I found was that SSRI's are the only solid way of reducing libido but I'd much rather get something over the counter. I came across this [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anaphrodisiac[/url] But I don't think that's going to help me much either since I haven't heard of any pills or OTC drugs relating to that.[/QUOTE]
Cold turkey masturbation, cold turkey porn. After two weeks or so your libido vanishes and don't feel any sort of sex drive whatsoever.
I don't know why you'd want to though unless you're being a creepy horndog around girls, and even then, less libido won't do much.
>No porn for two weeks
>Girlfriend wants sex
"Sorry, I killed my sex drive, I feel nothing whatsoever now"
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36367274]Cold turkey masturbation, cold turkey porn. After two weeks or so your libido vanishes and don't feel any sort of sex drive whatsoever.
I don't know why you'd want to though unless you're being a creepy horndog around girls, and even then, less libido won't do much.[/QUOTE]
this is such bullshit, if anything it would only increase
i have never understood when people worry about the amount of porn they're watching or stupid methods for cutting down on porn and wanking in order to improve how long you last at sex or how sexually frustrated you are or how much less obsessed with porn you'll be or some shit
it's all weird and unhealthy
if you want to have a wank then you should have a wank okay
[editline]17th June 2012[/editline]
assuming you won't get arrested for it
yeah your body biologically wants to spread it's seed. that's why some people jerk off before they gotta do stuff so they're more clear headed. trying to do anything when you're 'full' is pretty hard especially around women (or men, whatever). "wanna fuck wanna fuck wanna fuck wanna fuck - quiet brain im trying to do things - wanna fuck wanna fuck"
tactical masturbation is a much better idea than abstinence, because that always works so well right??
[editline]18th June 2012[/editline]
it's normal and healthy. abstaining from it is counter productive to your body's makeup
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36367726]i have never understood when people worry about the amount of porn they're watching or stupid methods for cutting down on porn and wanking in order to improve how long you last at sex or how sexually frustrated you are or how much less obsessed with porn you'll be or some shit
it's all weird and unhealthy
if you want to have a wank then you should have a wank okay
[editline]17th June 2012[/editline]
assuming you won't get arrested for it[/QUOTE]
I had times where I wanked so much, which really reduced my mood for sex. Thus making the actual sex that I had during that day less enjoyable and great. Sometimes it is awesome to abstain.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36367785]trying to do anything when you're 'full' is pretty hard especially around women [/QUOTE]
Hah, but doesn't that narrow down your potential headspace to either "[i]full[/i]" or "just recently had a wank"
[QUOTE=kaine123;36363195]
Apparently she think I'm "cute."[/QUOTE]
[B]YOU ARE SO IN![/B]
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36367785]yeah your body biologically wants to spread it's seed. that's why some people jerk off before they gotta do stuff so they're more clear headed. trying to do anything when you're 'full' is pretty hard especially around women (or men, whatever). "wanna fuck wanna fuck wanna fuck wanna fuck - quiet brain im trying to do things - wanna fuck wanna fuck"
tactical masturbation is a much better idea than abstinence, because that always works so well right??
[editline]18th June 2012[/editline]
it's normal and healthy. abstaining from it is counter productive to your body's makeup[/QUOTE]
Abstaining from it is awesome.
I don't get why is it black and white with you. Why would you be a homicidal pedophile when you don't wank, and when you do, you're Robocop.
It's all about balance.
If you masturbate too much you won't give yourself the time to lower your libido, but if you don't masturbate enough your libido will naturally bloom and you'll be hornier than you otherwise would.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36367446]this is such bullshit, if anything it would only increase[/QUOTE]
I did it before and I felt literally nothing for a month
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36369536]I did it before and I felt literally nothing for a month[/QUOTE]
see a doctor
I had the realization today that I had a pretty rough breakup, but I was also a dick to my ex in the process. I guess I could blame it on how I was broken up with, but to be honest I just feel like a real dick and wish I could fix it, buuuuut we're both off to college pretty soon, and I think I've said and done enough already. Forget it and just move on?
Move on, college will be a new experience anyway. You learned a lot and so you are able to do it better in the next relationship.
i suck at making plans with people!
So, some people are born naturally better at making plans?
another gem of advice from seith^
the girl i was hung up over got totally disses by her ex. he called her boring and is not speaking to her any longer. as predicted, she once again shattered and started texting me again because I'm the only guy who will still tolerate her. i bought into it during the day today, but my phone died while I was out and I when I plugged it in I was greeted with messages from her pleading me to answer. foolishly, I replied with "I'm here what's wrong," but I've been up thinking for the past five hours and realized I don't need to nor want to put up with this shit any longer. I'm not going to reply to a single one of her messages hence forth. I'll take pictures with her at prom, fool around a bit and have fun if the opportunity presents itself that night (which is Wednesday) but other than that she's out of my life.
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
dissed*
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
ps she didn't answer my "what's wrong" but when she does i won't reply back.
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
I honestly do pity her but I know I can't change her and I know that anything between us will only have me less happy over all with brief highs so really what is the point.
How to get out of the friend zone, go.
Or don't you guys 'believe' in that shit
[QUOTE=Jacko245;36395677]How to get out of the friend zone, go.
Or don't you guys 'believe' in that shit[/QUOTE]
No because it is almost a supernatural belief in some mythic area of the mind that girls put you in when they decide they are friends with you and because it's a zone you hold onto the belief you can get out of it like one may escape the twilight zone
[QUOTE=Seith;36394752]So, some people are born naturally better at making plans?[/QUOTE]
haha, yes. because absolutely everyone's strengths and weaknesses are entirely determined from their birth.
derrrr
[QUOTE=Jacko245;36395677]How to get out of the friend zone, go.
Or don't you guys 'believe' in that shit[/QUOTE]
Be more attractive and have a different name and personality
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
Go
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36395714]haha, yes. because absolutely everyone's strengths and weaknesses are entirely determined from their birth.
derrrr[/QUOTE]
i think you are replying sarcastically to a sarcastic post
i think
[QUOTE=Jacko245;36395677]How to get out of the friend zone, go.
Or don't you guys 'believe' in that shit[/QUOTE]
She's just not that into you
This is sort of a last resort. I need as many opinions as possible on this matter.
So I started "dating" this girl from class but we stopped going out back in April due to increasing pressure from school since we were about to graduate and all. Anyhow, fastforward to a few days ago I told her that we should hang out but one thing led to another and I got fed up with her random behaviour and simply told her that I like her and whatnot. She said that I am one of her best friends and that she didn't like me in the same way. Fine, friendzoned, life goes on and I will never see her again.
But then today she starts to fucking text me again. I told her that I will remain her friend but I need some time to "reset". Clearly she didn't get that part and now.. now she wants to fucking meet next week. What the fuck does this woman want from me.
I'm probably applying for a Uni in Stockholm anyway, I got until thursday to decided whether I will stick around this part of Sweden or not. I'm pretty sure that I am going so even if she has changed her mind it is too late.
So.. what the fuck do I do? Think I'll just leave for Stockholm, this girl is so fucking random and even though I like her a lot she will most likely remain random.
maybe she just wants to see you to catch up and see how you're doing...
[editline]19th June 2012[/editline]
(mostly you need to calm down though)
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