• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Larry_G;36422366]Well obviously since internet relationships are pretty much the dumbest thing ever.[/QUOTE] My Skaipfuu~~
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36396832]i think you are replying sarcastically to a sarcastic post i think[/QUOTE] it seemed like he was making a statement and the question mark was because of the so?, which would be TYPICAL SEITH [editline]21st June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36403018]seith's sarcastic attempt to make a stupid point was mind-blowingly retarded as always, but you definitely let it go over your head[/QUOTE] wow it was just a misreading of his post!!! gosh
Guy Mannly, have you tried doing things like clubs or groups on campus? Or going to any campus events? It seems like you have a problem on both sides - it's hard for you to keep up a conversation, and it's hard to find people who are worthwhile friends. The best advice I can give is try broadening your horizons a bit, talking to people you might not normally talk to. [QUOTE=Seith;36421601]1. That was a nice sob story, really. "I'm paranoid" "I'm terrible at conversation" "don't know what to say"... cut the bullshit. Unless you have aspergers, stop making up excuses and go out there and get what you want. 2. Men, women, all have the stuff they usually enjoy talking, but it's not obligatory to follow those subjects. If you're human, you've got what to talk about.[/QUOTE] Even though it's important to put yourself out there, being able to socialize is a skill. None of us were born with the knack to socialize; everyone started as a crying baby who couldn't communicate a simple sentence. Even the most charming people in the world had to learn how to do it. I think it's really hard for someone to "get what they want" if they really don't know where to start. Obviously Guy Mannly keeps trying and it's not working.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36423085]Guy Mannly, have you tried doing things like clubs or groups on campus? Or going to any campus events? It seems like you have a problem on both sides - it's hard for you to keep up a conversation, and it's hard to find people who are worthwhile friends. The best advice I can give is try broadening your horizons a bit, talking to people you might not normally talk to. Even though it's important to put yourself out there, being able to socialize is a skill. None of us were born with the knack to socialize; everyone started as a crying baby who couldn't communicate a simple sentence. Even the most charming people in the world had to learn how to do it. I think it's really hard for someone to "get what they want" if they really don't know where to start. Obviously Guy Mannly keeps trying and it's not working.[/QUOTE] Hard doesn't make it impossible, just difficult. Why are you speaking for her?
If anybody wants to talk about anything that's being a burden to them right now, feel free to hit me up on steam. I've got a lot of spare time on my hands lately and it's always nice to meet new people , plus I'm very good at listening to others :)
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[QUOTE=Rusty100;36424204]weird[/QUOTE] I already told you I don't want to send you nudes of myself ffs Stop harassing me
Classic homicidal paedophile rusty
Weird and sad thing came to my ears yesterday. A former old school colleague of mine was murdered last week during the Holand x Portugal game in my town. I mean, we weren't what you can call friends but we used to talk and he seemed like a pretty cool guy. So basically it looks like he invited some friends over to watch the game at his grandma's house, they built a tent there to watch the game. I don't know what happened cause this was told to me by his mom's friend who's a co worker with my mom, but it seems that there was this big disagreement between 2 of them. His friend got slapped or kicked, I don't know, he went home to pick up a knife and slit the guys throat in front of her grandmother and some other friends. I'm really still shocked by this and it's weird how someone that wasn't that close to you can still impact and shock you when he dies. The funeral was yesterday but I didn't go cause I don't know anyone there and I really hate funerals and I didn't know what to say there to people. His mom was devastated. The guy who did it was sent to jail but there are some rumours about alcohol abuse and drugs involvement with that guy. I know this is a bit offtopic but it's something social. I really don't know what's going on with people nowadays to do something like this.. maybe it's the crisis, the stress, I don't know. Who in his right mind would do something like this to a friend over some misunderstanding?
Someone's who is not in the right mind. These things happen all the time, even though it must be a shock to you...
wow way to comfort him seith.
[QUOTE=BassB;36425334]wow way to comfort him seith.[/QUOTE] Who says he needs comforting ?
[QUOTE=Seith;36425111]Someone's who is not in the right mind. These things happen all the time, even though it must be a shock to you...[/QUOTE] its like you're trying to respond to every single post in here, but you dont know what to say, so you just say something really weird and robotic to fill in the gap and keep your little self-image afloat
[QUOTE=Seith;36423319]Hard doesn't make it impossible, just difficult. Why are you speaking for her?[/QUOTE] It is hard. All I'm saying is that socializing is a skill that takes time and it isn't always easy to just grasp it. I'm speaking from my own experience anyway.
[QUOTE=Seith;36425385]Who says he needs comforting ?[/QUOTE] "Huh, former schoolmate died? Well, that shit happens all the time." We know it does, but there's something called "tact" that exists, and in this case it's usually a good thing to make use of it.
seith at it again misreading posts, i see i could list countless occasions where i tried to speak to someone for one reason or another and they either insulted me or flat out ignored me. i'm sure you can understand if i'm afraid to talk to people when it ends in getting ridiculed 99% of the time. thanks for the advice, reimu. one of my friends had suggested the "broadening your horizons" thing too - most of the people i meet/talk to are gamers and i tend to have pretty bad experiences with them for one reason or another. i'll look into clubs at my campus - there isn't really much aside from math and psychology but i'm sure it wouldn't hurt my grades to join one. [editline]21st June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36425082]I'm really still shocked by this and it's weird how someone that wasn't that close to you can still impact and shock you when he dies. [/QUOTE] i used to go to a pretty dead forum where everyone knew each other fairly well (maybe 50-100 people left on it at the time). one of the moderators was extremely well respected. one day someone posted on his account saying he had fallen on the stairs and injured his head and died. he was maybe 20 years old. i hardly knew the guy but it was pretty upsetting knowing he died so young.
There is a girl at work that likes me, and she always invites me to her house and to the mall and stuff, but then she always invites like 2 or 3 other dudes from my work. It seems like she likes every guy that I work with as well.
do you know for sure that she [I]likes[/I] you, and isn't just very friendly and relaxed around you because she sees you as a friend?
Yeah she told me she likes me, and she has told other girls who have told me.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36425935]It is hard. All I'm saying is that socializing is a skill that takes time and it isn't always easy to just grasp it. I'm speaking from my own experience anyway.[/QUOTE] So she came her to get comforted or get tips on how she could change it? [editline]21st June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=KnowProblem;36425973]"Hh, former schoolmate died? Well, that shit happens all the time." We know it does, but there's something called "tact" that exists, and in this case it's usually a good thing to make use of it.[/QUOTE] You know nothing for sure. "I mean, we weren't what you can call friends but we used to talk and he seemed like a pretty cool guy." ....
well then i'd say inviting other people out at the same time is just so that it's less awkward and more enjoyable for the both of you she can still get to spend time with you, but there's no sort of "omg it's just us two and we're alone..." if you want to spend time with her alone then just ask her out somewhere
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;36426335]seith at it again misreading posts, i see i could list countless occasions where i tried to speak to someone for one reason or another and they either insulted me or flat out ignored me. i'm sure you can understand if i'm afraid to talk to people when it ends in getting ridiculed 99% of the time. thanks for the advice, reimu. one of my friends had suggested the "broadening your horizons" thing too - most of the people i meet/talk to are gamers and i tend to have pretty bad experiences with them for one reason or another. i'll look into clubs at my campus - there isn't really much aside from math and psychology but i'm sure it wouldn't hurt my grades to join one.[/quote] No problem. I know what it's like to feel like making friends is going no where. Yeah, I rarely try to make friends with gamers. Instead I usually try to find friends based on mild interests or personality. In the end, you end up really broadening your interests and horizons and doing things you never thought you would. For me, I also found out that most of my friends play video games in some shape or form. It's just that they won't talk about it constantly and make it the forefront of their life. [QUOTE=Seith;36426606]So she came her to get comforted or get tips on how she could change it?[/quote] Someone is more likely to listen to advice if you make it friendly/comforting. You can still give advice without telling them to "cut the bullshit."
[QUOTE=Seith;36426606]You know nothing for sure. "I mean, we weren't what you can call friends but we used to talk and he seemed like a pretty cool guy." ....[/QUOTE] So because you're not sure how well he knew him, despite there being a recent death, that gives you an excuse to act tactlessly? He knew the dude from school, the dude died in a pretty horrific manner, that's more than enough.
[img]http://i.imgur.com/s9dZt.png[/img] um ok why are you doing that?
he'll rate you winner next!!
[QUOTE=Seith;36425385]Who says he needs comforting ?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36425082]I'm really still shocked by this [/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=BassB;36428231][/QUOTE] I got shocked the other night when my dog decided to take a shit in the middle of my hallway. Did I need comforting? My point is, this is all guessing. No one knows what's best for him, thus making my post tactless only in your eyes, which completely should be left out of the discussion. [editline]21st June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36427946][img]http://i.imgur.com/s9dZt.png[/img] um ok why are you doing that?[/QUOTE] I'm not. It's a waste of time trying to prove otherwise, it doesn't matter.
[QUOTE=Seith;36428274]My point is, this is all guessing. No one knows what's best for him, thus making my post tactless only in your eyes, which completely should be left out of the discussion.[/QUOTE] well his friend just got brutally murdered so maybe people could give him advice on how to deal with it??
[QUOTE=Seith;36428274]I got shocked the other night when my dog decided to take a shit in the middle of my hallway. Did I need comforting? My point is, this is all guessing. No one knows what's best for him, thus making my post tactless only in your eyes, which completely should be left out of the discussion.[/QUOTE] except he didn't come here asking for advice... he just came here to say it/vent/whatever and you've just been terribly insensitive to the situation, and now have just compared somebody he knew getting their throat slit to a dog shitting in your hallway. nice.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36427015] Someone is more likely to listen to advice if you make it friendly/comforting. You can still give advice without telling them to "cut the bullshit."[/QUOTE] If she decided to be insulted by that, then she's not looking for advice. [editline]21st June 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Autumn;36428344]except he didn't come here asking for advice... he just came here to say it/vent/whatever and you've just been terribly insensitive to the situation, and now have just compared somebody he knew getting their throat slit to a dog shitting in your hallway. nice.[/QUOTE] Who said he was looking for advice? As I've said, stop assuming venting = nessecarily means comforting. No one knows what's best for him.
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