• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[url]http://jtravisrolko.tumblr.com/post/25634240231/to-all-the-women-of-the-world-if-youve[/url] A tumblr user's response to the friendzone.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36469483][url]http://jtravisrolko.tumblr.com/post/25634240231/to-all-the-women-of-the-world-if-youve[/url] A tumblr user's response to the friendzone.[/QUOTE] Feminists are going to go apeshit
[QUOTE=Reimu;36469483][url]http://jtravisrolko.tumblr.com/post/25634240231/to-all-the-women-of-the-world-if-youve[/url] A tumblr user's response to the friendzone.[/QUOTE] I hope this is sarcasm, if not that is really pathetic.
[QUOTE=Moonsorrow;36469747]Feminists are going to go apeshit[/QUOTE] They already did, just read the notes :v:. [QUOTE=junker|154;36469795]I hope this is sarcasm, if not that is really pathetic.[/QUOTE] Unfortunately it isn't.
So this girl at work is super freaking cute. I'm awful at reading people but i think (if i had to go with my gut) that she's into me. We talk lots at work, always joking and stuff. Sometimes i'd say it gets pretty flirty. I tried convincing her to come to a party with myself and some coworkers but plans changed and the party got cancelled. Then for a while nothing happened really, things went on as usual. But then today she kept texting me so i played along to see what would happen. It stated out as us just discussing work (i am the manager who does the scheduling and her sister also works at the same place as us so she was asking about her sister's shifts) but then the topic changed. [code] Her: I hope that nickname you gave my sister sticks. I really do. Her: And Thanks for that :). By the way you misspelt july in the new schedule. Me: Oh. Rookie of the week award goes to me. Her: hahaha. [at this point i assume our little conversation is over, but then she replies again a few minutes later] Her: Did you work today? Me: Yep i did. but now i'm supervising a beer on my dock, it's hard work. Her: Very hard work. I should leave you 2 alone. Been swimming yet? Me: Yeah my mom lives on a small lake it's warm as pee. Her: eeew. lol. lucky :P. I went swimming today, the first time this year. Me: Where is your camp? Her: [place] Me: Haha, not like those [other place] wannabes. Her: I'm the REAL deal. Me: Damn and i didnt get an autograph. Her: Well i'm pleased to inform you, that you will be graced with my presence again. Me: Good, haha. My dog just knocked over my beer. Hide ya beers hide ya cans. Her: Hide the cooler cuz everything is getting fouled out there. Me: The dog is just looking at me like im dumb, im just sitting here laughing to myself. Her: bahaha. my plan is working Me: fell right into that trap. Operation Make [me] Embarassed In Front Of His Dog is a success Her: Mission complete Me: Hahaha :)[/code] So i tossed in a smiley face. Cuz bitches love smiley faces. But idk if this chick is diggin me or just bored and looking for a friend because it ended as soon as i Dropped The Smiley (i don't really use smileys... at all. So she probably caught my vibe). I hate texting because you can never really tell what someone's real motives are unless they drop lots of incredibly obvious hints in the form of winks and shit like that. Can a ~pickup artist~ tell me what they make of this? Should i throw in some negs or initiate with light kino? Normally this kind of thing wouldn't be a problem for me, but in this case i have to be a little more careful. If this girl isn't actually into me then i have to deal with my [inappropriate] advances for the rest of the time we're working together at this place. So, as Le Reddit Community would say, i have to woo this derpina like a Sir.
Hey, been a lurker to the forum for a while and decided to set up this account. I'll just cut right to the chase and make the post as short as possible without missing a detail. Got a new job about four months ago, whilst working one day I noticed in the corner of my eye a fellow employee staring at me. I decide to look up towards her and she instantly looks elsewhere, naturally I thought I either had something on me or that I was over-thinking it. So as the days go by, I keep noticing her directing her attention towards me every time I'm around, and then her female friends started to look towards me with a smile and giggling towards themselves while pointing me out. Then soon after that, one of her male friends called me out with a loud "Hey!" but she hushed him when I turned around, and I believe I heard him saying "Maybe he likes you" to her. Jump to yesterday, and once again I see her doing the usual glance towards me, but she wanted to stand around where I work and not from a distance this time. Then all of a sudden she asks me if I go to college or high school or anything, I say I graduated high school two years ago and I'm saving money for college. She congratulates me on graduating high school and I asked her about her education. Associates degree and whatnot, I ask her for her name and I gave her mine. Well, I failed on making the post as short as possible but - I am wondering, am I missing red flags here that indicates she is interested in me? I won't beat around the bush and I admit I think my low self-esteem makes it hard to believe any girl would actually colour me interesting/attractive, but I don't want to be the one that over-thinks anything as "oh my god she digs me!" So, any tips?
[QUOTE=Skuzee;36475288]Hey, been a lurker to the forum for a while and decided to set up this account. I'll just cut right to the chase and make the post as short as possible without missing a detail. Got a new job about four months ago, whilst working one day I noticed in the corner of my eye a fellow employee staring at me. I decide to look up towards her and she instantly looks elsewhere, naturally I thought I either had something on me or that I was over-thinking it. So as the days go by, I keep noticing her directing her attention towards me every time I'm around, and then her female friends started to look towards me with a smile and giggling towards themselves while pointing me out. Then soon after that, one of her male friends called me out with a loud "Hey!" but she hushed him when I turned around, and I believe I heard him saying "Maybe he likes you" to her. Jump to yesterday, and once again I see her doing the usual glance towards me, but she wanted to stand around where I work and not from a distance this time. Then all of a sudden she asks me if I go to college or high school or anything[/QUOTE] Yeah dude, she's into you. Even if she wasn't, I'd say to ask her out regardless. Stares at you, friends teasing her, randomly asks about your personal life of her own initiative. She's into you.
[QUOTE=twoski;36475228]So, as Le Reddit Community would say, i have to woo this derpina like a Sir.[/QUOTE] as if the awkward chatlog wasn't bad enough
[QUOTE=Kopimi;36475467]as if the awkward chatlog wasn't bad enough[/QUOTE] i wasn't being serious, i guess that's something hard to detect around here since there are so many idiots that actually say that kind of shit unironically.
you're so superior to us dude [editline]24th June 2012[/editline] fuck off
when did i imply that i was better than anyone? i simply wanted some advice but i guess you guys would rather get all spergy about how i made an ironic reddit joke.
[QUOTE=twoski;36475228]So this girl at work is super freaking cute. I'm awful at reading people but i think (if i had to go with my gut) that she's into me. We talk lots at work, always joking and stuff. Sometimes i'd say it gets pretty flirty. I tried convincing her to come to a party with myself and some coworkers but plans changed and the party got cancelled. Then for a while nothing happened really, things went on as usual. But then today she kept texting me so i played along to see what would happen. It stated out as us just discussing work (i am the manager who does the scheduling and her sister also works at the same place as us so she was asking about her sister's shifts) but then the topic changed. [code] Her: I hope that nickname you gave my sister sticks. I really do. Her: And Thanks for that :). By the way you misspelt july in the new schedule. Me: Oh. Rookie of the week award goes to me. Her: hahaha. [at this point i assume our little conversation is over, but then she replies again a few minutes later] Her: Did you work today? Me: Yep i did. but now i'm supervising a beer on my dock, it's hard work. Her: Very hard work. I should leave you 2 alone. Been swimming yet? Me: Yeah my mom lives on a small lake it's warm as pee. Her: eeew. lol. lucky :P. I went swimming today, the first time this year. Me: Where is your camp? Her: [place] Me: Haha, not like those [other place] wannabes. Her: I'm the REAL deal. Me: Damn and i didnt get an autograph. Her: Well i'm pleased to inform you, that you will be graced with my presence again. Me: Good, haha. My dog just knocked over my beer. Hide ya beers hide ya cans. Her: Hide the cooler cuz everything is getting fouled out there. Me: The dog is just looking at me like im dumb, im just sitting here laughing to myself. Her: bahaha. my plan is working Me: fell right into that trap. Operation Make [me] Embarassed In Front Of His Dog is a success Her: Mission complete Me: Hahaha :)[/code] So i tossed in a smiley face. Cuz bitches love smiley faces. But idk if this chick is diggin me or just bored and looking for a friend because it ended as soon as i Dropped The Smiley (i don't really use smileys... at all. So she probably caught my vibe). I hate texting because you can never really tell what someone's real motives are unless they drop lots of incredibly obvious hints in the form of winks and shit like that. Can a ~pickup artist~ tell me what they make of this? Should i throw in some negs or initiate with light kino? Normally this kind of thing wouldn't be a problem for me, but in this case i have to be a little more careful. If this girl isn't actually into me then i have to deal with my [inappropriate] advances for the rest of the time we're working together at this place. So, as Le Reddit Community would say, i have to woo this derpina like a Sir.[/QUOTE] Well the convo ended cause you all you said was hahaha, but I think she's into you. Cultivate her interesting by staying a rad dude, cause you seem like a rad dude. Also, when's the next time she'll "grace you with her presence"?
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;36475754]Well the convo ended cause you all you said was hahaha, but I think she's into you. Cultivate her interesting by staying a rad dude, cause you seem like a rad dude. Also, when's the next time she'll "grace you with her presence"?[/QUOTE] at work i assume she means. because we both work 5 days a week. thank you for the earnest reply. to be honest i am glad the texting convo ended because i hate texting, i'd rather just talk face to face.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36475664]you're so superior to us dude [editline]24th June 2012[/editline] fuck off[/QUOTE] If you're only the second hugest faggot here I'd hate to see first I keed
[QUOTE=twoski;36475706]when did i imply that i was better than anyone? i simply wanted some advice but i guess you guys would rather get all spergy about how i made an ironic reddit joke.[/QUOTE] i don't think you quite understand what irony means
[QUOTE=Kopimi;36475797]i don't think you quite understand what irony means[/QUOTE] The joke was not serious. I don't actually post on reddit and i think that anyone who posts ragecomics and says shit like "le" and "derpina" seriously is a waste of skin. And so, when posting the derpina comment, i was acknowledging that it's something that the reddit folk say, thereby making the comment "ironic". jesus christ you think i wouldn't have to explain this shit but here i am
[QUOTE=twoski;36475841]The joke was not serious. I don't actually post on reddit and i think that anyone who posts ragecomics and says shit like "le" and "derpina" seriously is a waste of skin. And so, when posting the derpina comment, i was acknowledging that it's something that the reddit folk say, thereby making the comment "ironic". jesus christ you think i wouldn't have to explain this shit but here i am[/QUOTE] that's not ironic
yes well maybe you don't know me enough to know when i am doing something ironically. my avatar is also ironic. basically everything i do that involves rage faces or reddit lingo is ironic. check out my super ironic bad rage comic [img_thumb]http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0s10iufLS1qmdokno1_500.jpg[/img_thumb]
[QUOTE=twoski;36475884]yes well maybe you don't know me enough to know when i am doing something ironically. my avatar is also ironic. basically everything i do that involves rage faces or reddit lingo is ironic[/QUOTE] you don't have a clue what the word irony means please stop
Twoski you don't have shit to prove, let's just talk about that girl god damn
Blah blah reddit/irony bullshit: [video=youtube;7FYTc55nGEI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7FYTc55nGEI&feature=youtube_gdata_player[/video]
[QUOTE=babyarm-bat;36476032]Twoski you don't have shit to prove, let's just talk about that girl god damn[/QUOTE] yes i don't feel like discussing what is and isn't being done ironically. my next question would be, if this last text conversation went well, should i be more forward with her? she seems receptive to my flirty behaviour.
This is going to be a heck of a long read but I'll try to keep it as short as I can so I don't write a book. I'm actually nervous right now. So since I'm on summer holidays and my friend's still studying for exams, I haven't been able to go do crazy shit with my friends. No beer drinking and hell raising and that sort of things with my dudes. So, to avoid sitting my ass in front of the computer all day I decided it would be a good idea - since I just took my driver's licence - to pick up my car and go to concerts meet new people and make new friends. Now I'm into Heavy Metal. Not that screaming noisy crap. I mean the real rock n roll shit. You can find very nice people in those events but on the other hand there are really messed up, fucked up people that frequent those places. And I'm talking about skin-heads (don't know why they suddenly showed up in the scene), drug addicts, biker gangs and that sort of trouble makers. I've had trouble with both bikers and skin heads since they started to stop by the same placed I go. And since I go there alone, those pricks tend to chose me and other loners as the victims some days. Now I have a whole story of bikers in my family. People that lived for biking and the joys of it, real tough guys and not just random grease balls who think they're tough because they're in group. I intend to become a biker someday, but only when I manage to earn the money to it. But anyway, there's this biker gang that came from Canada called the Hell's Angels. Most of you have already heard about them and their times with the Mafia back in the 80s. It seems they are back now and they are all over Europe. Problem is the people that are now in Hell's Angels are nazi skinheads looking for trouble all the time. So I was drinking and chatting with some friends I made there some days ago when this girl (really cute) comes sitting next to me on the bar. I notice she knows some of the guys I was with that night but since they were already drunk, they barely noticed her. She seemed tired and fed up by something so I started to pick a conversation with her and getting to know her. You know, It was kinda easy to pick up a conversation, I told her hey, that I used to go there alone, that I'm trying to meet new people, and yadda yadda yadda the conversation went on and we really had a great time that night. It was so great that we kinda flirted a bit and at the end we exchanged phone numbers. Weird things start to happen from now on. She keeps checking her phone and starts getting worried and tells me she's got to go and runs to the entrance of the pub. I then turn around to the entrance and I see a lot of these skin head biker dudes entering and she just ran to one of them yelling something. That guy yells at her, pointing in my direction, pushed her and gives her a mild punch in the arm and pushes her away) it hurt her. I then stand up (foolish of me) and my "Hey!" gets muffled by the noise of the music. I then realize they're moving towards me and since I want to keep calm and keep things cool, I sit down eyeballing the exit in case I needed to run outta there. The guy that shoved the girl (apparently her boyfriend), pushes me to the bench I was sitting earlier and 2 of his friends sit next to me, one on the left and another one on the right. I was scared shitless cause I've never been in such a situation before. I then tried to keep calm and remember what my krav maga teacher told me about keeping things calm, so I raised my hands, palms towards them and I said to take it easy, lets talk, what's the matter here... blabla So apparently the guy starts accusing me of flirting with his girlfriend and she wanted to start a fight with me. I was facing the counter, my head was kinda swimming from the beers I had, so I stood up. They stand up too, start to tease me to start a fight, I kept telling it was cool and that I was sorry. His girl then comes back crying cause the situation was getting pretty tense. She was pushing the guy trying to talk some sense into him, to stop. He didn't. They started pushing me and I just reached a state that I had to explode into one of them and run out of there as fast as I can. So I did it. I don't know what I did exactly, it all happened so fast and I was so full of adrenaline, I only remember hitting the chin of one of them, guy falls on the floor. Another guy swings at me, I try to defend with my skinny arm but get hit anyway... I only remember that at the end the guy just gets a knife out of his pocket and since I had nothing I had to break a beer bottle to be able to defend myself. So the girl is like crying and she gets in front of his boyfriend yelling at him to stop, everybody there's just looking and telling us to stop. She tells me to get out of there, the guy drops the knife and I'm gone and probably will never return there so soon. So a couple of days ago, she calls me (I was surprised because she calls me instead of just texting me), now I did know this girl from sight and I occasionally used to say hello to her because we have mutual friends. - she tells me that she's sorry about what happened and I say that she has nothing to be sorry for. She then starts venting about her boyfriend. How he changed over time into the prick he is today, about how scared she is of him and how she wants to get away from him but she's very afraid of him and his friends. ... the guy beats her and he's fucking nuts. He's very jealous about her so he doesn't stand for other guys talking to her. from my opinion, I have no fucking idea how such a smart girl ends up with such a prick. We ended up going out together yesterday and the day before because she wanted to stay away from him again. She asked me If I knew a place to stay in my city while she tries to temporarily move her things and since I didn't want her to throw away any money in hotels and other easy to find places I asked my grandfather for his home keys. My grandfather is 96 but he's still very lucid and healthy and as I explained the situation he gave me the keys for his house. Since my grandmother died, my GF has been living with us, so the place has nobody. However, despite being a little dusty, it has water and electricity so it's habitable. So now the guy's obsessed. Her phone is flooded with calls from him and text messages. Somehow he managed to find my facebook and keeps threatening me. Says he's going to kill me. I sent word to my friend at the local pub to be on the lookout in case some skin heads or him show up. And they actually did show up to my town at that pub looking for me. ( i go to this pub a lot and sometimes I play music there). He even came here to the hotels looking for her. So now I'm thinking what the fuck did I get myself into this time. I'm involving myself with this girl. She likes me and is currently living in my GP home without my parents knowing. Now getting her out of there is out of the question. The guy is crazy and most likely hurt her if he finds her. I'm thinking ,fuck, if he finds me or her, it's going to involve me, my grandfather and my parents (they are going to be pissed if they find out). Now I'm the one picking up the mail there so my mother doesn't need to to avoid finding her. And to sum up, the girl kissed me today when I stayed with her for dinner. I made her dinner and then stayed till midnight with her talking and watching TV. Then she kissed me and we kissed and cuddled a little , but she's an emotional mess right now so as I didn't want to take advantage of it i left. I have no idea what to do other than trying to lay low for a while. I have no experience whatsoever with dealing with these people and my head is full of "what have I got myself into!" I don't know how far this guy is willing to go or able to do but he's fucking crazy. I've been so tired lately and so insecure when I go out that it's hard to sleep with all these thoughts. I really don't know what to do, I feel I fucked up bad this time and may have gotten into trouble for life... shit facepunch... I don't even know if I'm ready for having something with someone again. I know this text may have some inconsistencies but I'm too tired right now to sort them all out. I'm like writting this at full speed so I can go to bed and sleep properly. Sorry for the cautionary tale: [B]TL;DR:[/B] flirted with some skin-head's girlfriend. girl had to run from him. She's living at my GF home. Guy and his gang want my head on a plate.
Block the guy on facebook and ask every of your relatives to do so . Call the police (seriously) show them the chatlog and tell them what happened as a proof. This is going way too far and things might get out of your control and it could end up in someone getting seriously injured / killed.
I feel like pure shit right now. The girl I had a major crush on and a huge chance of winning over just suddenly fell for a guy I haven't talked to in years. Additionally, she is "not allowed to talk to any other guys" based on some "promise" her new BF persuaded her into. Just when I was starting to feel less depressed. I am afraid of growing attached to anyone else now, because I have a historic track record of building a friendship, having it blossom into a crush, grow more attached, and have it come crashing down when they suddenly find that "perfect someone" with the potential to stay with them for years, and see all of your progress demolished overnight. Then you get the type of "friend" who gleefully shoves knives in your back as they start rumors and gossip "without you knowing." Not to mention I am as bored as hell. I am feeling and acting bitter, and I am back to square one now. Fuck.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36476721] [B]TL;DR:[/B] flirted with some skin-head's girlfriend. girl had to run from him. She's living at my GF home. Guy and his gang want my head on a plate.[/QUOTE] Get the cops on that dude. That dude seems insane, like he'd actually kill you insane. And block him on facebook, definitely, since he's probably able to get information about you and your friends there. Hope you don't get killed dude.
[QUOTE=Lyonidis;36477089]I feel like pure shit right now. The girl I had a major crush on and a huge chance of winning over just suddenly fell for a guy I haven't talked to in years. Additionally, she is "not allowed to talk to any other guys" based on some "promise" her new BF persuaded her into. Just when I was starting to feel less depressed. I am afraid of growing attached to anyone else now, because I have a historic track record of building a friendship, having it blossom into a crush, grow more attached, and have it come crashing down when they suddenly find that "perfect someone" with the potential to stay with them for years, and see all of your progress demolished overnight. Then you get the type of "friend" who gleefully shoves knives in your back as they start rumors and gossip "without you knowing." Not to mention I am as bored as hell. I am feeling and acting bitter, and I am back to square one now. Fuck.[/QUOTE] You don't talk to enough girls. Having more female friends makes you less likely to start crushing on them. By the way if her new boyfriend could convince her to not talk to any other guys, she wasn't worth it in the first place.
[QUOTE=twoski;36475228]So this girl at work is super freaking cute. I'm awful at reading people but i think (if i had to go with my gut) that she's into me. We talk lots at work, always joking and stuff. Sometimes i'd say it gets pretty flirty. I tried convincing her to come to a party with myself and some coworkers but plans changed and the party got cancelled. Then for a while nothing happened really, things went on as usual. But then today she kept texting me so i played along to see what would happen. It stated out as us just discussing work (i am the manager who does the scheduling and her sister also works at the same place as us so she was asking about her sister's shifts) but then the topic changed. [code] Her: I hope that nickname you gave my sister sticks. I really do. Her: And Thanks for that :). By the way you misspelt july in the new schedule. Me: Oh. Rookie of the week award goes to me. Her: hahaha. [at this point i assume our little conversation is over, but then she replies again a few minutes later] Her: Did you work today? Me: Yep i did. but now i'm supervising a beer on my dock, it's hard work. Her: Very hard work. I should leave you 2 alone. Been swimming yet? Me: Yeah my mom lives on a small lake it's warm as pee. Her: eeew. lol. lucky :P. I went swimming today, the first time this year. Me: Where is your camp? Her: [place] Me: Haha, not like those [other place] wannabes. Her: I'm the REAL deal. Me: Damn and i didnt get an autograph. Her: Well i'm pleased to inform you, that you will be graced with my presence again. Me: Good, haha. My dog just knocked over my beer. Hide ya beers hide ya cans. Her: Hide the cooler cuz everything is getting fouled out there. Me: The dog is just looking at me like im dumb, im just sitting here laughing to myself. Her: bahaha. my plan is working Me: fell right into that trap. Operation Make [me] Embarassed In Front Of His Dog is a success Her: Mission complete Me: Hahaha :)[/code] So i tossed in a smiley face. Cuz bitches love smiley faces. But idk if this chick is diggin me or just bored and looking for a friend because it ended as soon as i Dropped The Smiley (i don't really use smileys... at all. So she probably caught my vibe). I hate texting because you can never really tell what someone's real motives are unless they drop lots of incredibly obvious hints in the form of winks and shit like that. Can a ~pickup artist~ tell me what they make of this? Should i throw in some negs or initiate with light kino? Normally this kind of thing wouldn't be a problem for me, but in this case i have to be a little more careful. If this girl isn't actually into me then i have to deal with my [inappropriate] advances for the rest of the time we're working together at this place. So, as Le Reddit Community would say, i have to woo this derpina like a Sir.[/QUOTE] [i]warm as pee[/i] You old charmer you! [editline]25th June 2012[/editline] Seriously you're a very terrible conversationalist, if this girl actually likes you you should marry her ASAP
Well it is literally warm as pee. It's a thing that lots of people say around here, which is why she didn't freak out and stop talking to me. Our text conversation seemed really forced, we just hopped from topic to topic aimlessly. She's the one that initiated the whole thing, i just kinda rolled with it. She hasn't deleted me from facebook and stopped talking to me altogether yet, so i'm doing okay. I'm an awful texter, i'd much prefer to just talk to her in person. This is less about the content of our mundane text conversations and more about whether or not she's really interested in me in terms of more than just friendship. if she's really into me then that's half the battle right there.
she hasn't called the police yet.. making progress..
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