• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Errorproxy;36537177]Yeah. I accept it's over but you guys know that's not how our brains work.. The thing is.. just when I think I've recovered. I'm pulled back in.[/QUOTE] So then pull yourself back out This whole bullshit with "Just when I think I've recovered, I'm pulled back in" is just silly. That's the silliest thing I've read in awhile. Please snap out of it and move on.
That was the most painful, cheesy thing I've read in weeks
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36537695]So then pull yourself back out This whole bullshit with "Just when I think I've recovered, I'm pulled back in" is just silly. That's the silliest thing I've read in awhile. Please snap out of it and move on.[/QUOTE] You let yourself get melodramatic and things get worse.
facebook is the devil when it comes to relationship shit yo
Facebook status... text message terrorism... oh the drama!
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36537994]Facebook status... text message terrorism... oh the drama![/QUOTE] "this girl texted me a winky smiley face and made a facebook status that I've convinced myself is about me DOES SHE LIKE ME?????"
fuuuuuuu
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36537695]So then pull yourself back out This whole bullshit with "Just when I think I've recovered, I'm pulled back in" is just silly. That's the silliest thing I've read in awhile. Please snap out of it and move on.[/QUOTE] It's like snapping out of depression or something, you can't. I'm fine but every now and then.. you know? I'm better now. All right, unsuscribing to this thread.
[QUOTE=Errorproxy;36539899]It's like snapping out of depression or something, you can't. I'm fine but every now and then.. you know? I'm better now. All right, unsuscribing to this thread.[/QUOTE] Depression and melodrama are two completely different things, don't play that card.
[QUOTE=Errorproxy;36539899]It's like snapping out of depression or something, you can't[/QUOTE] haha wow how offensive
why do people come into advice threads, but when people call them out on their issues, they argue or leave? its an advice thread on the internet, if you dont like hearing the truth, dont post in it
Facepunch, I am in between a rock in a hard place here. So me and this girl have been dating off and on for a quite a long time. I love her very much, but recently she has gotten a job and is barely able to talk to me or even spend time with me anymore. Just recently she said she was off of work for two days, this was the first day she was off in quite a while and we got into a small fight and she ended up not even coming over. So I shrugged it off because she then said she would come over the next day. The next day however she just decided to go spend time with her nanny instead of coming to see me again because she was still mad. That really hurt me, so I got mad and we got into a big fight which wound up being about that and what we had fought about the day before. She gave me a bunch of reasons why she couldn't come over and just kinda told me to deal with it and I broke up with her. After that I had gotten on to Facebook feeling not too well. Another girl, who is the daughter of a family friend, messaged me. She had confessed to liking me before and I had done the same. It was quite some time back when we had said we liked one another and before her and I ever had a real relationship me and the girl stated before started dating and I just stopped talking to her. Well anyways she asked about the break up and we talked a bit. After a while she said that I should come over to her house and hang out. I wasn't sure about this because I had a feeling me and my ex would wind up getting back together again and going to her house would make sure that me and my ex's relationship would definitely be over. The girl I talked to on Facebook is really quite hot and I wouldn't mind trying someone new. On the other hand though I really love my ex, she says we will be able to hang out more but I'm not sure if we really will. I hate being so lonely all of the time and with the girl on Facebook we would be able to see each other much more often. What do?
If you really love your ex, then having a fling with the other girl won't help matters at all. It'll just be short term relief I would think. I spose the question would be do you want to get back with your ex?
"So me and this girl have been dating off and on for quite a long time" your relationship with her already sounds like it has some serious flaws and it isn't likely to work past the constant off and on. realize that, and stop wasting your time.
[QUOTE=Zareox7;36542890]If you really love your ex, then having a fling with the other girl won't help matters at all. It'll just be short term relief I would think. I spose the question would be do you want to get back with your ex?[/QUOTE] Well I mean I love her and I do want to get back with her, I'm just afraid we won't be able to see each other much and I will be lonely like I was before. [QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36543002]"So me and this girl have been dating off and on for quite a long time" your relationship with her already sounds like it has some serious flaws and it isn't likely to work past the constant off and on. realize that, and stop wasting your time.[/QUOTE] I've gotten that before, but I've really grown attached to her, she was my first love I guess you could say.
Well then it sounds like you need to have a long talk with her about the future of the relationship. You should lay down the problems that you're having with it and see if you two can compromise. If you can't compromise and nothing will change for the better, then move on.
[QUOTE=Zareox7;36543057]Well then it sounds like you need to have a long talk with her about the future of the relationship. You should lay down the problems that you're having with it and see if you two can compromise. If you can't compromise and nothing will change for the better, then move on.[/QUOTE] I could try that, but I have a feeling it will just start another fight.
[QUOTE=Rayboy1995;36543007]Well I mean I love her and I do want to get back with her, I'm just afraid we won't be able to see each other much and I will be lonely like I was before. I've gotten that before, but I've really grown attached to her, she was my first love I guess you could say.[/QUOTE] it doesn't matter if she was your first love if neither of you are happy with the way things are going and you clearly don't care if you're saying things like "it would be nice to try someone new." you have no obligation to stay with her just because you dated her before anyone else. [QUOTE=Rayboy1995;36543087]I could try that, but I have a feeling it will just start another fight.[/QUOTE] If even trying to communicate will cause a fight, your relationship is not working. [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] and seriously, you broke up with her not long ago and immediately had the mindset that you'd probably just get back together? you don't even take break-ups seriously, so what's the point? you should be able to see the issues here.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36543170]it doesn't matter if she was your first love if neither of you are happy with the way things are going and you clearly don't care if you're saying things like "it would be nice to try someone new." you have no obligation to stay with her just because you dated her before anyone else. If even trying to communicate will cause a fight, your relationship is not working. [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] and seriously, you broke up with her not long ago and immediately had the mindset that you'd probably just get back together? you don't even take break-ups seriously, so what's the point? you should be able to see the issues here.[/QUOTE] I suppose you are right. I should just let her go and move on. I'm sorry I'm just fucking retarded when it comes to relationships. lol
[QUOTE=Rayboy1995;36542830]Facepunch, I am in between a rock in a hard place here. So me and this girl have been dating off and on for a quite a long time. I love her very much, but recently she has gotten a job and is barely able to talk to me or even spend time with me anymore. Just recently she said she was off of work for two days, this was the first day she was off in quite a while and we got into a small fight and she ended up not even coming over. So I shrugged it off because she then said she would come over the next day. The next day however she just decided to go spend time with her nanny instead of coming to see me again because she was still mad. That really hurt me, so I got mad and we got into a big fight which wound up being about that and what we had fought about the day before. She gave me a bunch of reasons why she couldn't come over and just kinda told me to deal with it and I broke up with her. After that I had gotten on to Facebook feeling not too well. Another girl, who is the daughter of a family friend, messaged me. She had confessed to liking me before and I had done the same. It was quite some time back when we had said we liked one another and before her and I ever had a real relationship me and the girl stated before started dating and I just stopped talking to her. Well anyways she asked about the break up and we talked a bit. After a while she said that I should come over to her house and hang out. I wasn't sure about this because I had a feeling me and my ex would wind up getting back together again and going to her house would make sure that me and my ex's relationship would definitely be over. The girl I talked to on Facebook is really quite hot and I wouldn't mind trying someone new. On the other hand though I really love my ex, she says we will be able to hang out more but I'm not sure if we really will. I hate being so lonely all of the time and with the girl on Facebook we would be able to see each other much more often. What do?[/QUOTE] This is one of those things when you have to get some balls and take action. I'm not telling you what to do but I since it was you who broke up I wouldn't advise involving yourself romantically with this new girl. However, you should definitely go out with this new girl. It will definitely make your GF interest in you because she'll feel she's losing you to another girl. You can use this to kinda "manipulate" her. It's an ass move, yeah. Otherwise if you really love your girl and if you're really meant to be with each other, you should definitely go to her with a present and apologize for fighting.
you're not fucking retarded, dude. we all know how hard it is to actually see straight when you have feelings for someone, or at least think you do. that's why this thread is here! :) [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] @rayboy [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] although reading your post over again that was a really moronic reason to break up with her, it might be better for you both to stay separated.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36544714]This is one of those things when you have to get some balls and take action. I'm not telling you what to do but I since it was you who broke up I wouldn't advise involving yourself romantically with this new girl. However, you should definitely go out with this new girl. It will definitely make your GF interest in you because she'll feel she's losing you to another girl. You can use this to kinda "manipulate" her. It's an ass move, yeah. Otherwise if you really love your girl and if you're really meant to be with each other, you should definitely go to her with a present and apologize for fighting.[/QUOTE] I could try that, though she may just think I hate her and move on. I think I'll go with the second option lol. [QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36544951]you're not fucking retarded, dude. we all know how hard it is to actually see straight when you have feelings for someone, or at least think you do. that's why this thread is here! :) [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] @rayboy [editline]28th June 2012[/editline] although reading your post over again that was a really moronic reason to break up with her, it might be better for you both to stay separated.[/QUOTE] Idk dude I was just really lonely and hurt and my mind was like "whatever man screw her she doesn't care go get some one else" then later my heart was like "fuck dude why in the hell did you do that?? You love her!" And now im just confused as fuck.
You go with whatever suits you best. At this time you just have to kinda "have the balls" to stick to your plan. If you go have something with this other chick without knowing what you're doing, might as well do nothing. I think if you let things cool off a bit you'll have pretty good chances with yout girlfriend. Otherwise, well you still have the other chick if things go wrong.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36548255]You go with whatever suits you best. At this time you just have to kinda "have the balls" to stick to your plan. If you go have something with this other chick without knowing what you're doing, might as well do nothing. I think if you let things cool off a bit you'll have pretty good chances with yout girlfriend. Otherwise, well you still have the other chick if things go wrong.[/QUOTE] Crap I meant to rate agree, I hate this phone lol, but yes I agree with you.
Hello Facepunch and sorry if this post doesn't fit what this thread's about; just a bit of venting out and I hope to get any advice if possible, but do tell me if I'm being stupid or such. So basically, I'm in a bit of a rut. I've been harboring rather negative thoughts about certain things. Mainly, I've realized that I have virtually no close/good friends, just a bunch of friends for hangout purposes, but no one I can turn to for advice or such, hence why I'm here asking you guys on Facepunch. Even then, I have been thinking that the people I do hangout with, well I really don't think they like me being with them. I get angry, I'm dickish, an ass, etc, and so I don't blame them, but basically I'm really disconnected with them. I'm never the first to get called, the first for this or that, or anything, and usually I'm never invited in general. I don't mind, but correlated with the fact that I have literally no one else, it gets really lonely. That wouldn't be so much of an issue, but whenever I try to make a point in any discussion of any sort, I'm shut down or ignored. I'll try to make an insightful point and literally the fucks given is equal to zero. Again, it gets really lonely when you can't even talk to the people you consider friends, coupled with the fact that you aren't even close friends with any of these people. Secondly, I've had this realization. I literally have no motivation to work or study, and this isn't some teen angst shit. What I've come to realize is that we work the first quarter of our lives in order to get a job and work for the next two quarters of our lives only to live in relative peace in our last quarter of life. We study, we work, we die, and every day becomes the same circle: Eat, Work, Recreation, Sleep, Rinse and Repeat. I know come to the question, why bother? If the only reward we get is money, then why bother working so hard? People that study harder than others simply get a better pay, but in the end, they still get a job, a family, money, and death. They live mundane lives and I'm getting sick of this forced-filled propaganda of getting a better job for a better life, when really it isn't. Why can't I work for something that gives purpose? Why can't I change the world, have an influence? What I want is to leave my mark here, not to be in some desk job doing the same meaningless task for forty years, then to retire, then to die. That's not what I want. Thirdly, when I even bring Point 2 up in any debate about what my "friends" want to or do when they're older, I get these odd looks or something. Hell I'm not even sure what, but I do see that they disagree with me there. Again, its my beliefs, but I can't even bring them up. But lastly, I just feel like no one cares about me, [b]which albeit sounds selfish considering the other injustices of the world and here I am complaining about social issues so on that I'm really sorry.[/b] I really just wish that someone would give two fucking shits about my day, but instead I have to initiate the conversation. No one says "How was your day?" No one sends me a steam message asking me about how was my meal or something. Instead, I message them. But does anyone want to send a message on how vizard38 was or how his fucking birthday is? Nope.avi. I really wish someone would care you know? The only people that ever message me are the people I know online... Well, that's my /rant, and I hope it wasn't stupid or dumb, and I'm really sorry if this is the wrong thread. I hope the rest of you chaps have a wonderful day, and I would love any advice or something.
[QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]So basically, I'm in a bit of a rut. I've been harboring rather negative thoughts about certain things. Mainly, I've realized that I have virtually no close/good friends, just a bunch of friends for hangout purposes, but no one I can turn to for advice or such, hence why I'm here asking you guys on Facepunch. Even then, I have been thinking that the people I do hangout with, well I really don't think they like me being with them. I get angry, I'm dickish, an ass, etc, and so I don't blame them, but basically I'm really disconnected with them. I'm never the first to get called, the first for this or that, or anything, and usually I'm never invited in general. I don't mind, but correlated with the fact that I have literally no one else, it gets really lonely. That wouldn't be so much of an issue, but whenever I try to make a point in any discussion of any sort, I'm shut down or ignored. I'll try to make an insightful point and literally the fucks given is equal to zero. Again, it gets really lonely when you can't even talk to the people you consider friends, coupled with the fact that you aren't even close friends with any of these people.[/QUOTE] So you know you have a problem, tackle it. Find new friends. Find things to talk about. [QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]Secondly, I've had this realization. I literally have no motivation to work or study, and this isn't some teen angst shit.[/quote] You say that it isn't angst, and then you say the following quote. Kind of contradictory [QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]What I've come to realize is that we work the first quarter of our lives in order to get a job and work for the next two quarters of our lives only to live in relative peace in our last quarter of life. We study, we work, we die, and every day becomes the same circle: Eat, Work, Recreation, Sleep, Rinse and Repeat. I know come to the question, why bother?[/QUOTE] Why bother? Because being alive is better than being dead? Why live a boring life if you don't have to? [QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]Thirdly, when I even bring Point 2 up in any debate about what my "friends" want to or do when they're older, I get these odd looks or something. Hell I'm not even sure what, but I do see that they disagree with me there. Again, its my beliefs, but I can't even bring them up.[/QUOTE] Sounds like your first point, you just aren't well adjusted to socializing I guess? How old are you? [QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]But lastly, I just feel like no one cares about me, [B]which albeit sounds selfish considering the other injustices of the world and here I am complaining about social issues so on that I'm really sorry.[/B] I really just wish that someone would give two fucking shits about my day, but instead I have to initiate the conversation. No one says "How was your day?" No one sends me a steam message asking me about how was my meal or something. Instead, I message them. But does anyone want to send a message on how vizard38 was or how his fucking birthday is? Nope.avi. I really wish someone would care you know? The only people that ever message me are the people I know online...[/QUOTE] You just need to make more friends. Your current ones are seemingly shitty. [QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]Well, that's my /rant, and I hope it wasn't stupid or dumb, and I'm really sorry if this is the wrong thread. I hope the rest of you chaps have a wonderful day, and I would love any advice or something.[/QUOTE] No rant is dumb :) Even I have to do it now and then.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36553675]No rant is dumb :) Even I have to do it now and then.[/QUOTE] It's good to vent every now and then. I ended up bottling up my childhood issues and when I hit a low point in my life, I got really fucking depressed and withdrawn for several weeks. My sisters helped me through it and I owe them greatly for it. Don't bottle up, it bubbles over after a while and then you can't control the anger or whatever and gets pretty serious.
kind of off topic, but last night my dad and i were talking about psychology and i told him how i'm dead set on going into cognitive neuroscience, he said it was a great idea. today he came home from work and handed me a college textbook on neuroscience, he stopped at the bookstore to pick it up for me. (:
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;36555477]kind of off topic, but last night my dad and i were talking about psychology and i told him how i'm dead set on going into cognitive neuroscience, he said it was a great idea. today he came home from work and handed me a college textbook on neuroscience, he stopped at the bookstore to pick it up for me. (:[/QUOTE] he sounds like a cool dad
The best feeling in the world is when you see someone you know start to change their ways because of you (for the better). I am basically saving this girl that I know from falling into the same steps as the rest of her family and today she finally posted something that is a direct reference to me. The feeling is amazing.
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