The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;36555477]kind of off topic, but last night my dad and i were talking about psychology and i told him how i'm dead set on going into cognitive neuroscience, he said it was a great idea. today he came home from work and handed me a college textbook on neuroscience, he stopped at the bookstore to pick it up for me. (:[/QUOTE]
i wish i had a dad, could i get some advice on how to get one?
[QUOTE=thisispain;36558969]i wish i had a dad, could i get some advice on how to get one?[/QUOTE]
Be conceived
[QUOTE=vizard38;36553574][b]which albeit sounds selfish considering the other injustices of the world and here I am complaining about social issues so on that I'm really sorry.[/b][/QUOTE]
I have never seen a facepuncher use albeit correctly, ever
It's like a forum-wide DISEASE
(Sorry, that was my vent)
[QUOTE=vizard38;36553574]Well, that's my /rant, and I hope it wasn't stupid or dumb, and I'm really sorry if this is the wrong thread. I hope the rest of you chaps have a wonderful day, and I would love any advice or something.[/QUOTE]
Maaan you sound a lot like I did during my final years of high-school. It gets better, trust me, and the fact that you're already asking these questions is great; it's an indication that you're willing to confront yourself, your situation and how you feel about it, and willing to put in the effort to find a solution. The truth is, the answers you're looking for won't come straight away, I know I still haven't completely found mine, but life itself is the journey towards those answers, so long as you're willing to embrace it.
And typing up that 'stupid rant'? That's the first step (:
I get the feeling that you're somewhat young, lonely and ultimately 'lost'; confused as to what your place in the world is and what you can do to contribute to it. You shroud yourself with cynicism but you know inside, you're an idealist that likes to entertain the 'bigger questions' of life, someone who wants to make genuine connections and see real change in the world, but at the same time you feel selfish and even immature to think you have reason to suffer yourself. Firstly, you need to accept that all suffering is relative, and whilst there are undoubtedly many, many people out there who have it far worse off than we do, you still have the right to feel lonely, confused or disillusioned. It's important to understand this because it's easy to begin to lose sight of yourself and your own internal life whilst placing so much of a focus on all of the larger problems of the world. Maybe I'm just speaking for myself but it took me some time to realize that inward and outward growth need to occur hand-in-hand, two interdependent forces which ultimately drive social change; love yourself as much as you love the world and its people, basically.
So, what exactly can you take away from all this seemingly pointless rhetoric? First and foremost, just keep moving forward. You're asking the right questions, don't be afraid to continue doing so, and you'll find yourself forming your own answers as you move through life and its many challenges and opportunities. Your social circle is also very important, and the way it sounds now is that you just have a bunch of friends out of convenience; you said it yourself, people you just hang out with. Now, you shouldn't blame them or hold anything against them for being different to you, or for not holding similar world-views, because you're who you are and they're who you are and that's just life. Whilst not sacrificing yourself or what you believe, you can still definitely make more of an effort to be more sociable with them and to be more fun to be around. I was a massive dick during my earlier years of high-school for similar reasons, and of course, I ended up having very few friends, always just longing for someone to ~see me for who I was~ or whatever other angsty bullshit I used to justify my behaviour. Once I began learning everything I'm trying to communicate to you now, I started making friends with the bigger groups, getting involved with the grade's parties and whatever else, even though I was still the same person with the same opinions. I just allowed people to see more of my humour, kindness, friendliness, and so on, whilst still retaining everything else that made me who I was.
But of course, being friends with the 'cool' kids or going to parties doesn't really mean shit, and in the end you still want people which you can genuinely connect with on a deeper level. I moved through high-school feeling pretty similar, lonely and longing for people that I could actually connect with on the things that meant the most to me. You won't ever be able to force these things out of anyone, trust me, and so instead you should just focus on being the best version of yourself, every single day, and the right people will fall into place. And that means exactly what it sounds like it does. It's so easy to be complacent, or to even feel guilty about how little we can do for the world, but think about every opportunity you have in every single day to give back. Whether you're pushing yourself towards a career in which you can effect real, sustainable social change at an international level, or whether you're sitting on a forum and trying to help some kids move through their lives, there's literally countless opportunities to give back to the world. And if that's what you're passionate about, the right people will notice you, I promise that.
It sounds ridiculous but honestly, since graduating, I've connected with people I never even knew in high-school, just because they've noticed the type of person I am from Facebook statuses, even just shit like that. I've started dating girls I wouldn't have even considered during high-school, and through them I've met new people and formed new connections. Even better, go find clubs, groups or any other local community of like-minded individuals, but if that's not plausible, there's always university/college which is undoubtedly going to have many people who will be able to relate to you and vise versa. You've seen a very small slice of what the world has to offer, don't lose your faith just yet dude.
Ultimately, all of this shit takes time man. On the surface, perhaps you have concerns over your friends or lack thereof, or maybe some days you're feeling lonely and wish you had someone to talk to, or maybe you just wish you could give something back to the world and have a real impact on its people, but realize that all of these things will find their place as long as you're pushing yourself to be the best version of yourself, every single day. I've already written more than I intended to, but I wrote a blog post recently with some thoughts which may resonate with you based on what you've said here. [URL="http://toshowyouwhathystericsis.blogspot.com.au/2012/06/stand-at-top-of-cliff-and-jump-off-and.html"]It's here if you're interested[/URL] (:
Oh and, I want to leave you with this quote as well. It's one of my favourites!
[quote]Playboy: If life is so purposeless, do you feel its worth living?
Kubrick: Yes, for those who manage somehow to cope with our mortality. The very meaninglessness of life forces a man to create his own meaning. Children, of course, begin life with an untarnished sense of wonder, a capacity to experience total joy at something as simple as the greenness of a leaf; but as they grow older, the awareness of death and decay begins to impinge on their consciousness and subtly erode their joie de vivre (a keen enjoyment of living), their idealism - and their assumption of immortality.
As a child matures, he sees death and pain everywhere about him, and begins to lose faith in the ultimate goodness of man. But if he’s reasonably strong - and lucky - he can emerge from this twilight of the soul into a rebirth of life’s élan (enthusiastic and assured vigour and liveliness).
Both because of and in spite of his awareness of the meaninglessness of life, he can forge a fresh sense of purpose and affirmation. He may not recapture the same pure sense of wonder he was born with, but he can shape something far more enduring and sustaining.
[B]The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent; but if we can come to terms with this indifference and accept the challenges of life within the boundaries of death - however mutable man may be able to make them - our existence as a species can have genuine meaning and fulfilment.
However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light.[/B]
— Stanley Kubrick in interview for Playboy, Stanley Kubrick Interviews, University Press of Mississippi, 2001, p.73[/quote]
Godspeed, nigguh. I don't mind at all if you want to add me on Steam as well, I'm more than happy to listen to any and all of your stupid rants!
ur posts are long u should be more concise these arent thesis'
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[QUOTE=Rusty100;36561585]ur posts are long u should be more concise these arent thesis'[/QUOTE]
Shut the fuck up.
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My girlfriend is literally obsessing over My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. She talks about it everyday, and how she wants to go to bronycon and cosplay as Rainbow Dash. Any tips on how to tell here to "Shut the fuck up, please." in a nice way? Whenever I say something people always take offense because of my abruptness.
By the way I've never been so abrupt as to actually say "Shut the fuck up".
[QUOTE=Seith;36561839]Shut the fuck up.
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good job
at least it was concise!
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36561910]My girlfriend is literally obsessing over My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. She talks about it everyday, and how she wants to go to bronycon and cosplay as Rainbow Dash. Any tips on how to tell here to "Shut the fuck up, please." in a nice way? Whenever I say something people always take offense because of my abruptness.
By the way I've never been so abrupt as to actually say "Shut the fuck up".[/QUOTE]
shut the fuck up please??
when someone has a hobby or interest you should either tolerate it with at least a fake smile, if that's impossible for you break up with her.
maybe people take offense because you act like a pillock, not because you are "abrupt". just putting that out there considering this is social advice and if people get offended when you say something it's 99% likely to be your problem.
girlfriend a brony? that's a dealbreaker.
yeah don't worry though i'm sure she can find some other bloke with a hard-on for ponies that's willing to spend hours talking about molesting horses.
Oh god
you people are great helpers
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36561910]My girlfriend is literally obsessing over My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. She talks about it everyday, and how she wants to go to bronycon and cosplay as Rainbow Dash. Any tips on how to tell here to "Shut the fuck up, please." in a nice way? Whenever I say something people always take offense because of my abruptness.
By the way I've never been so abrupt as to actually say "Shut the fuck up".[/QUOTE]
Jettison her into a lake
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562103]Oh god
you people are great helpers[/QUOTE]
Get used to it :v:
Also why do you have a pony avatar if YOU aren't a brony
It's quite misleading and makes people disregard you as a legitimate poster
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36562124]Also why do you have a pony avatar if YOU aren't a brony
It's quite misleading and makes people disregard you as a legitimate poster[/QUOTE]
I AM a brony :v:
[editline]30th June 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36562111]Jettison her into a lake[/QUOTE]
That's rude :c
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36561910]My girlfriend is literally obsessing over My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. She talks about it everyday, and how she wants to go to bronycon and cosplay as Rainbow Dash. Any tips on how to tell here to "Shut the fuck up, please." in a nice way? Whenever I say something people always take offense because of my abruptness.
By the way I've never been so abrupt as to actually say "Shut the fuck up".[/QUOTE]
Tell her that it isn't really your interrest and you don't like to hear it and ask her to keep it to herself when you are with her, you may offend her a little bit, but she should stop.
Also I can't be a legitimate poster and a brony. OH FACEPUNCH, YOU SO SILLLLLY
DAMMIT MY AUTOMERGE, YOU ASSHOLE.
Bronies suck, so do Ponies.
Like seriously, it is an opinion after all. But that shit, seriously just why?
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562136]I AM a brony :v:
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wait i dont even see the problem now it just seems like you're deliberately trying to stir up shit in the thread
[editline]30th June 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562148]Also I can't be a legitimate poster and a brony. OH FACEPUNCH, YOU SO SILLLLLY
DAMMIT MY AUTOMERGE, YOU ASSHOLE.[/QUOTE]
help my girlfriend is a brony how do i tell her to shut up ps im a brony too guys please treat me equally
err
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36562164]wait i dont even see the problem now it just seems like you're deliberately trying to stir up shit in the thread
[editline]30th June 2012[/editline]
help my girlfriend is a brony how do i tell her to shut up ps im a brony too guys please treat me equally
err[/QUOTE]
So I can't be a casual brony who doesn't obsess over EVERYTHING?
THE PROBLEM IS THAT SHE NEVER SHUTS UP ABOUT IT
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562206]So I can't be a casual brony who doesn't obsess over EVERYTHING?
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now you're gettin it!
"can't i just be a casual watcher of an animated kids cartoon about ponies aimed at prepubescent girls based off a toy line of ponies who's defining characteristic was that you can brush their hair?"
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562210]Also ponies are da shit what you talkin bout
AGH MY MUTHERFUCKING MERGE[/QUOTE]
stop
Also ponies are da shit what you talkin bout
AGH MY MUTHERFUCKING MERGE
This argument is fundamentally flawed.
bronies are fundamentally flawed
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562136]I AM a brony :v:
[/QUOTE]
Oh you are? Another visit to the lake is in order then
[editline]30th June 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562148]Also I can't be a legitimate poster and a brony. OH FACEPUNCH, YOU SO SILLLLLY
DAMMIT MY AUTOMERGE, YOU ASSHOLE.[/QUOTE]
Case in point
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562210]Also ponies are da shit what you talkin bout
AGH MY MUTHERFUCKING MERGE[/QUOTE]
please leave the thread in a timely fashion
[QUOTE=atttapi0;36562210]Also ponies are da shit what you talkin bout
AGH MY MUTHERFUCKING MERGE[/QUOTE]
You're the kind of people that makes me and everyone else hate bronies.
Bronies are a bunch of straight up bustas
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