• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;36621590]I call this girl about twice a week over the phone and we just talk. She talks about her parents, i talk about my friends. It's really nice. Being close is nice.[/QUOTE] I don't load all my problems onto one person, I discuss life issues with a few close friends.
[QUOTE=metallics;36621607]I don't load all my problems onto one person, I discuss life issues with a few close friends.[/QUOTE] I don't have a few close friends though. I have friends i game with. 2 best friends who i drink and go parties with. And her, who i talk to about everything.
I just poured a big part of my heart out to a girl I've been friends with 10 years for now. I felt like a bother, could it be that I was one?
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36621705]I just poured a big part of my heart out to a girl I've been friends with 10 years for now. I felt like a bother, could it be that I was one?[/QUOTE] It depends on her reaction man. What did she say back? How did she react?
I super hot girl was walking around the store I work at and my friend agreed that she was hot, but he called dibs on the blonde that was with them who was also very attractive. Anyway, the three girls come through me to pay for their stuff and I realize that the hot one I originally saw was actually my really good friend in like grade 1-4. I didn't have the balls to say anything with so many hot girls around, mostly because I wasn't sure if she would recognize me or remember me at all. It's a complicated story, but in Grade 5 I left the mainstream education thing for a separated program and lost all of my friends, including this girl. Now I can't stop thinking how different my life would be if I had not lost all my good friends.
As if your happiness is determined by the fact you have good friends or not. Or friends at all.
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;36621721]It depends on her reaction man. What did she say back? How did she react?[/QUOTE] She told me she understood, and told me to stay strong. After that we had a normal conv
i dunno mate usually people with no friends aren't happy
Too afraid to be the one to generate his own happy? Do you even know how?
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36621892]She told me she understood, and told me to stay strong. After that we had a normal conv[/QUOTE] Did she add anything onto your topic? Like talk about it herself a little, or did she just straight out change topic?
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;36622015]Did she add anything onto your topic? Like talk about it herself a little, or did she just straight out change topic?[/QUOTE] Acutally, Im the one that changed topic.
[QUOTE=Seith;36622012]Too afraid to be the one to generate his own happy? Do you even know how?[/QUOTE] you have this really lose grasp on reality in general i think pretty much everyone can attest to that it doesn't take a genius to realise that people need other people, we're social creatures. an isolated person isn't a happy person, even if they isolate themselves. friends help make a person happy. good friends make a person happier. everyone always strives to be a part of a group. of course it's not the only source of happiness. but look at a guy with no friends or friends he hates and tell me if you think they're a happy person. that's not to say having friends guarantees being happy. but having no friends usually guarantees you're not.
Lose grasp of reality? Your lack imagination my friend, you are the limits you set yourself to. True happiness comes from the inside and understand you are everything you need. Whether it is friends or money, if happiness is dependent on that... then you are chasing nothing but gold.
[QUOTE=Seith;36622083]True happiness comes from the inside and understand you are everything you need.[/QUOTE] What a boring, soulless life you must live "I am all I need."
[QUOTE=Seith;36622083]Lose grasp of reality? Your lack imagination my friend, you are the limits you set yourself to. True happiness comes from the inside and understand you are everything you need. Whether it is friends or money, if happiness is dependent on that... then you are chasing nothing but gold.[/QUOTE] :siren: loner alert :siren:
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36622032]Acutally, Im the one that changed topic.[/QUOTE] Oh, alright. Well it's hard to tell if you were a bother or not. I guess if your conversations went back to usual she didn't care much. Like it didn't phase her, or make her think anything out of the ordinary. I guess that's kind of a good thing. It would suck if she got all weird over you spilling your inner thoughts to her and her not having a valid response.
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;36622209]Oh, alright. Well it's hard to tell if you were a bother or not. I guess if your conversations went back to usual she didn't care much. Like it didn't phase her, or make her think anything out of the ordinary. I guess that's kind of a good thing. It would suck if she got all weird over you spilling your inner thoughts to her and her not having a valid response.[/QUOTE] It wasn't like "oh I love you so much blabla", I told her how I was feeling because my dog passed away. I geuss I should've said that.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36622270]It wasn't like "oh I love you so much blabla", I told her how I was feeling because my dog passed away. I geuss I should've said that.[/QUOTE] Oh, sorry man. That's still a pretty deep thing to talk about. Especially if you and her have never had talks like that before. If you guys are still fine and talk like normal don't worry about it though. You asked if you were a bother and to me it seems like everything's ok. Don't worry too much.
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;36622489]Oh, sorry man. That's still a pretty deep thing to talk about. Especially if you and her have never had talks like that before. If you guys are still fine and talk like normal don't worry about it though. You asked if you were a bother and to me it seems like everything's ok. Don't worry too much.[/QUOTE] Alright. She also gave me her Skype, so that's good.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36622507]Alright. She also gave me her Skype, so that's good.[/QUOTE] Well that's a good sign she wants you two to communicate more.
[QUOTE=Seith;36622083]Lose grasp of reality? Your lack imagination my friend, you are the limits you set yourself to. True happiness comes from the inside and understand you are everything you need. Whether it is friends or money, if happiness is dependent on that... then you are chasing nothing but gold.[/QUOTE] It's like a wizard gave life to a tacky self-help book Which went on to become a regular in the love advice thread [editline]5th July 2012[/editline] Actually no, it's like the episode of Black Books where Manny ingests that awful self-help book and goes around saying add a drop of lavender to milk
[QUOTE=Seith;36622083]Lose grasp of reality? Your lack imagination my friend, you are the limits you set yourself to. True happiness comes from the inside and understand you are everything you need. Whether it is friends or money, if happiness is dependent on that... then you are chasing nothing but gold.[/QUOTE] holy shit stop trying to give advice already it's really awful all the time
People that are alone are usually the most miserable. Having people to talk to make me happy.
I've found from my own experience that trying to love yourself first, [i]then[/i] find friends is a good way of isolating yourself even more. Good friends are like comrades in arms. They don't just understand what you're going through, they know it well. They can prop you up, give you advice, and show you that they've gone through the same pain and suffering (or worse). Most of all, they can give you love and support when you're having a hard time trying to find the same in yourself. If you don't try to make friends while you're trying to improve your life, you end up isolating yourself onto another plane of thinking. It makes connecting to others really hard. That said, there definitely is a hierarchy of needs, but friendship and "belonging" should be pretty low on the rung. Somewhere between sexual intimacy and "food." Probably right after psychological stability. [editline]4th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=rivershark;36621592]Rare indeed is a friend who is familiar enough to talk with you about life/personal problems. Consider yourself lucky. It is also very relieving to talk with people about stuff like that.[/QUOTE] That's one of the reasons why most of my friends are girls. A lot of my girl friends say that guys are much better friends because there's "less drama," but girl friends are so incredibly easy to talk to about personal problems. With some girls you can just say "I'm having a bad day" and three sentences later you're both working on some sort of way to fix your problems. I usually joke around with my guy friends and talk about more personal stuff with my girl friends. That's not to say that I don't confide in my guy friends, just that girls are usually easier.
the whole "love yourself first" thing mostly relates to dating/relationships i think. i personally think it has to do with being yourself, someone who doesn't like who they are will often try and be something they're not and thus won't attract people who they're actually compatible with. [QUOTE=areolop;36617603]Asking a girl out: Be blunt or creative? (how to word it)[/QUOTE] don't make a big deal out of it, you're not proposing to her. just act natural.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36622107]What a boring, soulless life you must live "I am all I need."[/QUOTE] Sorry you think that way about yourself when you imagine that scenario. [editline]4th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;36623224]holy shit stop trying to give advice already it's really awful all the time[/QUOTE] You don't have to listen to my opinions, nor believe 'em.
[QUOTE=Reimu;36623625] That's one of the reasons why most of my friends are girls.[/QUOTE] most of my friends are women because i have "girly" interests like reading and music maybe i'd have more male friends if i liked sports but i can't stand sports, most of them are boring and just metaphors for pregnancy.
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36622866]It's like a wizard gave life to a tacky self-help book Which went on to become a regular in the love advice thread [editline]5th July 2012[/editline] Actually no, it's like the episode of Black Books where Manny ingests that awful self-help book and goes around saying add a drop of lavender to milk[/QUOTE] Nonetheless a brilliant analogy.
[QUOTE=Seith;36625459]Sorry you think that way about yourself when you imagine that scenario. [editline]4th July 2012[/editline] You don't have to listen to my opinions, nor believe 'em.[/QUOTE] then why do you keep posting? [img]http://www.sherv.net/cm/emoticons/fighting/beating-head-against-the-wall.gif[/img] or is it something you to do "to generate your own happy"
[QUOTE=Autumn;36625492]then why do you keep posting? [img]http://www.sherv.net/cm/emoticons/fighting/beating-head-against-the-wall.gif[/img] or is it something you to do "to generate your own happy"[/QUOTE] Exactly.
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