[QUOTE=Seith;36625549]Is that the only way you think of yourself "generating your own happiness" ?[/QUOTE]
It would make an amusing euphemism.
[editline]4th July 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Autumn;36625563][/QUOTE]
syncs up well to what i'm listening to now.
Let's not flood more paged about seith
Seith. No offence but some of your advices are so vague and trivial that they become annoying. They are so theoretical that it seems you're quoting from some lousy philosophical advice book just to fill in the gaps.
They lack, personal experience and essence. They look like you're preaching something you don't even practice cause it doesn't make any sense other than in theory.
We're not telling you to stop posting, not at all, sometimes you can say pretty agreeable stuff. However it's these Fill in the gaps posts that are really unnecessary.
[QUOTE=thisispain;36625486]most of my friends are women because i have "girly" interests like reading and music
maybe i'd have more male friends if i liked sports but i can't stand sports, most of them are boring and just metaphors for pregnancy.[/QUOTE]
Haha same for me too. I mean, I like sports, but only moderately. So I have a hard time keeping a friendship afloat where one of the few core interests is sports.
I know a lot of guys that share my interest for video games, history, politics, etc. though so I usually get along with them too.
Here in Portugal most people are crazy about the portuguese football league. (There's a fever here about football that you can't imagine). I only go crazy about football when it comes to the World cup and the Euro Cup, but I notice some girls like the fact that I'm not crazy about soccer at all.
Also, most of my girl friends like video games, movies and some have a small interest for footbal, and sports like me.
I find that cute. I find it more difficult to reach out to a girl obcessed with girly stuff. Not that I feel intimidated. I just don't feel any interest at all, you know. Some girls act so "girly" that they just reduce that they kinda reduce themselves to that. As a man, I hate that.
Latelly I've been missing the company of some nice girl who you can talk about everything and smoke weed with. (yeah, :v:).
Latelly life has been so unpredictable to me. It's like I have everything worked out and then something unexpected occurs and I have to change all my plans.
I was suppose to go to Cape Verde now in June to do some volunteering work. It seems they need some help with building stuff and computers and I had to cancel because our teacher decided to change the date of my last exam to 26 June... And now I can't go because of it and because I'm going for yellow belt this saturday in Krav Maga.
And to sum up, it seems our douchebag politicians announced a raise in the deficit and now my dad fears for his business so I have to find work in August. Now I'm going to have to pack my bags and go stay with my grandparents to help out and to work in their town. So, no girls for now.
And the cherry on top of the cake is that the friends who used to go out with me and organise huge barbecues and stuff decided to have some intrigues between them and now I can't get them together.
Oh well... gonna be a lonely and hard working summer .
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36625736]Let's not flood more paged about seith
Seith. No offence but some of your advices are so vague and trivial that they become annoying. They are so theoretical that it seems you're quoting from some lousy philosophical advice book just to fill in the gaps.
They lack, personal experience and essence. They look like you're preaching something you don't even practice cause it doesn't make any sense other than in theory.
We're not telling you to stop posting, not at all, sometimes you can say pretty agreeable stuff. However it's these Fill in the gaps posts that are really unnecessary.[/QUOTE]
Most of the time his advice is all right, but the way he says it sounds like the Microsoft paper-clip trying to give advice.
I met this girl through a friend, and got her to like me. I thought that I liked her too, but I think that was just an illusion because she seemed so 'available' (not slutty or anything), is that possible? I haven't spoken to her too much lately and I rejected her when she asked if she could stay at my place. So without going into detail, is it better not to get together with her or, since she's there and all, is it a valuable way to get experience or something? I've never been with a girl.
what are you doing mr. jazzy
what am I doing you tell me
[editline]5th July 2012[/editline]
I'm so bored of life
you say you thought you liked her but then said that it was an illusion???
and you rejected her too
maybe there's something going on that makes you feel that way?
[QUOTE=thisispain;36627135]you say you thought you liked her but then said that it was an illusion???
and you rejected her too
maybe there's something going on that makes you feel that way?[/QUOTE]
well the situation was very complicated, turned out my friend had liked her for months but nothing was going to happen between them, but he's a silent guy and I realised he still had a crush so that's partially why I stopped moving on her but I know I've made an impact already, ruining his chances. She's not half-bad, a decent girl but nothing special and I suppose that's what I'm looking for, but is that what you should go for when you try to find your first girl?
you shouldn't be trying to find anything, if there's a chance go for it and don't worry about anything else.
you're right, I guess I'm just generally bored and tired
If you want my honest opinion you just blew it.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36627695]If you want my honest opinion you just blew it.[/QUOTE]
if I blew it I wouldn't be here asking for advice now would I?
If you like her what exactly kept you from going forward with her. She wanted to stay with you, so...? Was it because she's all "available"? I didn't understand that.
I know you never had anything with a girl, but there is no rocket science behind it. Sounds to me you got a little intimidated and overwhelmed about all of it. Right?
There will be more opportunities with her.
Ask her out.
I been wanting to go out with this girl whose parents own a cafe in town.
I've known her for about 5/6 months and her parents don't let her date. They want to get to know the guy.
Well, Her parents are great friends with my family and I was thinking of asking her out. Her mother is quite funny and has been trying to help me get out of being shy.
She speaks english and spanish so I was thinking of learning a bit of spanish and asking her out in spanish.
Any ideas?
Her parents don't let her date without their aproval? wow.
How old are you both?
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36628412]Her parents don't let her date without their aproval? wow.
How old are you both?[/QUOTE]
Yeah. They want her to be with someone that will be good to her.
Anyway, I'm a year older than her. I'm 18. She is 17.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36617829]Push yourself to approach and talk to people dude.[/quote]
Now to try and stop myself from feeling alienation from people.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36617829]Find clubs or groups at your college of like-minded individuals and get to know people there.[/quote]
Can't. No time to attend.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36617829]
Just go out, form connections at your work, meet new people at clubs, and just keep expanding your social circles. Don't think about things like if they have similar interests or what age they are, you can find all of that shit out once you start talking to them. Hell, you should get yourself used to talking to everyone, whether it's nothing more than a friendly 'hi' as you walk past someone, to small talk with the girl serving your coffee, it's a good habit to push yourself to be more sociable.[/quote]
I still have not learned how to continue small talk. It usually dies less than two phrases after it begins.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36617829]
Really though, maybe you should keep focusing on defining yourself and what your values and passions are, and finding that confidence in yourself and your own personality, rather than actively 'trying to find someone.' I think generally the latter can lead to more problems and consequent disappointment, whilst the former is more likely to present you with more genuine or real opportunities, y'know?[/QUOTE]
I think I know myself quite well. As I said, I have a job, a hobby, visit a friend who works close-by. I have much less computer time than I used to had back when I was in High School. Of course, I still feel socially undeveloped, although for all the longing to be alongside people, I always feel alienation from them. I still have my own problems to solve, and I'll only finally get to see a psychologist once the college start once more.
In regards to finding a girl, though, I do see where you're coming from - hell, I am afraid that if I do find someone, I'll just abandon all and focus on them. And then of course, we all know what happens.
[QUOTE=gufu;36628649]Now to try and stop myself from feeling alienation from people.[/quote]
To do that you have to push yourself to approach and talk to people.
[QUOTE=gufu;36628649]Can't. No time to attend.[/quote]
Everyone always says this. If you want to socialize hard enough, you'll make time. Club meetings are like one hour every Wednesday or something, and if you don't have time for that, you don't have time to post on facepunch.
[QUOTE=gufu;36628649]I still have not learned how to continue small talk. It usually dies less than two phrases after it begins.[/quote]
Practice makes perfect.
[QUOTE=gufu;36628649]Of course, I still feel socially undeveloped, although for all the longing to be alongside people, I always feel alienation from them.[/QUOTE]
Getting a girlfriend won't fix this.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36629240]To do that you have to push yourself to approach and talk to people.[/QUOTE]
True.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36629240]
Everyone always says this. If you want to socialize hard enough, you'll make time. Club meetings are like one hour every Wednesday or something, and if you don't have time for that, you don't have time to post on facepunch.
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As i said. I am only at campus for 10 hours, then I have to get home, which is a 2 hour drive. Mind you, I was in the CS club back when the two days I was at college, corresponded with the club's meeting days.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36629240]
Practice makes perfect.
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True.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;36629240]Getting a girlfriend won't fix this.[/QUOTE]
Obviously fixing one is likely to lead to another.
wow are you fucking serious
so i tried to contact my ex about returning his books, because i found it's a bit over $30 to mail them to him and since i'm RIGHT near his house once a week i figured i could just drop them off. so he declines when i try to send him a steam message or friend request.
so i message a mutual steam friend who i'm pretty close with and ask him if he can copy paste a message to my ex essentially saying that i'd rather drop off his books at his house or he could pick them up from my front porch if that's more comfortable for him, ex responds that he'll reimburse me for the costs and i ask why i can't just drop them off, his response? "i don't want her anywhere near me"
then he says to stop using mutual friends to contact him when he hasn't given me any other option, i tell the mutual friend to tell him to add me on steam, and my ex insists that i call him and he will not talk to me in any other way. the guy's being a complete child, it's been 7 months and apparently he was even slandering me to my mutual friend (he said at one point my ex was talking to him directly and whatever was being said couldn't be passed on). he's CLEARLY not over it yet and there's no fucking way i'm calling him. now i don't even have another way to contact him to tell him i'm not returning his books.
Is it bad that all I want from girls is to get laid? I don't want a relationship or anything, just want to do the whole "hit it and quit it" thing
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36630025]Is it bad that all I want from girls is to get laid? I don't want a relationship or anything, just want to do the whole "hit it and quit it" thing[/QUOTE]
it's normal and totally acceptable as long as you don't give girls the wrong idea. most guys i know who are like that get tired of it after a while though
Yeah it's definitely not going to be long-term, it's just the horny teenager phase :v:
I got caught in the friendzone, decided to ask her out yesterday over hotmail since I forgot to do it in person.
She didnt say yes or no, she said "i dont want to mess up our friendship but we can go as mates"
There must be a way out of the Friendzone. Anyone know how?
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