• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Keeping eye contact after talking, touching hair, sometimes dilated pupils, looking at me from afar and then quickly turning her head away when I notice, open body (no arms crossed etc), sometimes mimicking my own actions/body language, rubbing thighs, smiling & laughing a lot (especially when I tease her), taking an interest in things I show/have to say, among a few others.
creepy sex looks [editline]6th July 2012[/editline] basically, dont act like annekin skywalker
Disseminate. You didn't get anything that I was telling up there.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36633688]creepy sex looks [editline]6th July 2012[/editline] basically, dont act like annekin skywalker[/QUOTE] The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v4 - Don't act like annekin edition
So I'm at my friends 18th. It's the chilled kind with friends and family and no one getting smashed or anything. So a girl who's there comes over and sits with me and we start talking. We end up dancing for a while, then my dad texted me that he was outside and was there to pick me up, so I said a quick goodbye and left. The next day she added me on Facebook, I accept when I see it and message her in chat (A silly way of saying hi or something, I duno I forget). Two weeks later...No reply. Yepp so that's good. A few days later I found out that she talked a lot with another kid I know at a party about a year ago, the guy asked for her phone number and she gave it to him. Then he texted her, when she didn't reply he texted her again, then she replied saying something along the lines of "Yeah, can you stop texting me, you're clogging up my inbox". lol. Also found out that there was a couple of other girls there that thought I was nice and wanted to come up and talk to me but I was already talking with the first girl...
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36630136]no no no this post is an excuse you [I]always[/I] ask a girl out in person. no exceptions.[/QUOTE] Well I know one person from facepunch who asked this girl he liked out over facebook, now they are in a relationship.
[QUOTE=Xonax;36634341]Well I know one person from facepunch who asked this girl he liked out over facebook, now they are in a relationship.[/QUOTE] Well that person was stupid and got lucky. Your chances are significantly improved in person.
[QUOTE=Xonax;36634341]Well I know one person from facepunch who asked this girl he liked out over facebook, now they are in a relationship.[/QUOTE] Luck, really it all comes down to chance with multiple variables affecting those chances
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36621895]i dunno mate usually people with no friends aren't happy[/QUOTE] Unless they have a personality disorder like I do.
a personality disorder that makes you happy without friends? or a personality disorder that results in no friends? you can still be unhappy because of that i don't see how a personality disorder would make you happy being alone. even introverts and misanthropes who seclude themselves because it's what they prefer, are not happy as a result of it.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36634675]even introverts and misanthropes who seclude themselves because it's what they prefer, are not happy as a result of it.[/QUOTE] This. I was miserable growing up when I had no friends. I'm happier now with them.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;36634354]Well that person was stupid and got lucky. Your chances are significantly improved in person.[/QUOTE] How do you ask someone out that you aren't going to see for months otherwise and don't have their number?
[QUOTE=Kingy_ME;36634978]How do you ask someone out that you aren't going to see for months otherwise and don't have their number?[/QUOTE] Meet up over facebook one time, and then ask for her/his number.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36630098]wall of text[/QUOTE] This is a little late, but no one really replied to any of this, so here goes. It's impossible to really tell what's going through her head; any other girl and it'd be pretty obvious that up until now they were interested. Things went well for the most part, you cuddled to horror movies and whatnot, that's basically a surefire sign. It's pretty peculiar for her to suddenly stop responding, but that's probably where her relationship issue comes in. It's possible she just hasn't gotten around to replying for some reason, but I think it's likely that she's hit a point in talking to you that she's working out/worked out what she wants, and feels that she has to make a choice or just feels plain guilty because she knows she's gone behind her boyfriend's back quite a bit. She probably knows that if she keeps seeing you, the physicality in your relationship is going to escalate soon and then there will be no denying that she's being unfaithful. She might just have finally come to the conclusion that her boyfriend is too important and she's cutting you cold turkey before she feels the need to explain why things can't go any further. As for your part in all of it, though, and the moral side, I know you're generally a pretty nice guy, which is why I'll tell you that you should leave it. You haven't reached the point of no return yet, and she can still continue her relationship relatively guilt-free. If she decides to break it off with her boyfriend and she's still interested, she'll contact you. Personally, I kind of think what you did wasn't right. You've either forced or were on your way to forcing a girl in a long-term relationship into making a choice between you and her boyfriend, and one of you was going to get hurt, and it's your own fault for doing it. We're all pretty big believers of 'there's plenty of fish in the sea,' so it's your fault for letting yourself get so attracted to a girl that was in a relationship. Besides that, unless a girl's in a shitty/abusive relationship, I really think you should let a relationship run its course. So for you to come in full-well knowing she was seeing someone and try to get her, well, you're kind of the bad guy in that scenario. You're a good guy though Dark_Light, but you definitely need to change your outlook on this one. Sure, I could be totally wrong about what she's going through, but do you really want to keep it up with this girl and ruin a relationship? You feel like she's special, but she's not. You can find a girl who's just as pretty, just as fun, and is single. You can find a hundred of them. And they're not meaningless people, you just have to try to get to know them and stop thinking about some girl who isn't picking up your calls.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36635587]Meet up over facebook one time, and then ask for her/his number.[/QUOTE] Seems like the only option, unless you are fine with waiting 3 months.
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;36635587]Meet up over facebook one time, and then ask for her/his number.[/QUOTE] So ask them out, then ask them out once you've asked them out?
Dating blows my mind. How does anyone even have a girl friend? The two latest girls I clicked with and seemed to be hitting it off pretty well and even made plans with both stood me up and never talked to me again. The first because I was 'too sweet' and the second because I was two years younger and wouldn't be able to go drinking with her. So, in addition to women having incredibly high standards. Where do you even meet them? 9/10 if you just start talking to a girl in public you're automatically a creep. Talk to her at work? Creep? Say hi in passing? Creepy. Shit like that. It literally blows my mind.
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;36635971]Dating blows my mind. How does anyone even have a girl friend? The two latest girls I clicked with and seemed to be hitting it off pretty well and even made plans with both stood me up and never talked to me again. The first because I was 'too sweet' and the second because I was two years younger and wouldn't be able to go drinking with her. So, in addition to women having incredibly high standards. Where do you even meet them? 9/10 if you just start talking to a girl in public you're automatically a creep. Talk to her at work? Creep? Say hi in passing? Creepy. Shit like that. It literally blows my mind.[/QUOTE] Yeah, women can be strange. Hit and miss dude, keep trying.
It's more like miss miss miss miss miss and I don't get why. But oh well. If you guys could point out to me how to actually talk to women without coming off a creep that'd be great too.
Most people say the rejection rate is 9/10. Probably not a real statistic but it's an important fact to live by. Everyone gets rejected. It's a part of dating, and if it didn't exist, finding someone would be much less rewarding. [editline]5th July 2012[/editline] Personally, networking works really well. If you're not a stranger - if they've seen you or heard about you or have a friend in common - you're less likely to be blown off.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;36634675]a personality disorder that makes you happy without friends? or a personality disorder that results in no friends? you can still be unhappy because of that i don't see how a personality disorder would make you happy being alone. even introverts and misanthropes who seclude themselves because it's what they prefer, are not happy as a result of it.[/QUOTE] I feel as though you are coming at this too much from a personal point of view. It might help to look at it more biologically, in which the brain fails to develop normally. In many cases, it isn't faultiness that is the cause, but rather underdevelopment. Underdevelopment of certain parts of the brain is typically caused by a lack of stimulation during childhood, and it is usually permanent. This is to say that if the social interaction parts of the brain are not stimulated that they won't develop and will have little to no impact on behavior later in life. For example, there are certain parts of the brain that deal with empathy. If this part of the brain does not develop, the person is likely to suffer from a multitude of personality disorders such as narcissism, psychopathy, autism, or sadism. It of course gets confusing in that some scientists believe that repression is a factor in a lot of personality disorders, and this is likely to be true in a lot of cases, in that someone is simply repressing feelings and impulses subconsciously. But other scientists suggest that though this might be the case in some circumstances, that there are people with personality disorders that aren't repressing anything as their behavior is a function of the structure of their brain.
[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;36635971]Dating blows my mind. How does anyone even have a girl friend? The two latest girls I clicked with and seemed to be hitting it off pretty well and even made plans with both stood me up and never talked to me again. The first because I was 'too sweet' and the second because I was two years younger and wouldn't be able to go drinking with her. So, in addition to women having incredibly high standards. Where do you even meet them? 9/10 if you just start talking to a girl in public you're automatically a creep. Talk to her at work? Creep? Say hi in passing? Creepy. Shit like that. It literally blows my mind.[/QUOTE] Well that is the problem when you only see each girl as a romantic prospect. Try treating a girl as you would treat a guy, I.E without possible romance colouring the way you act. You shouldn't be worrying about that until you're somewhat familiar with her personality anyway. Even if you're not a "creep", walking around in public looking for a girl to strike up an impromptu relationship with IS creepy. Who wants to go out with someone who'll settle for anyone mildly attractive?
okay. i've had it. 4 fucking weeks my sister has been off university. 4 fucking weeks, and she's been playing that goddamn saxophone non-fucking-stop. every time i tell her to practice somewhere else, she throws a hissy fit and starts crying -- she's 20 fucking years old. like, literally, she'll yell "daaaaaaad!" like she's some kind of toddler. really. it's like she never grew up. for fuck's sake, she writes fanfiction about disney movies. and of course my dad has deal with all the crap she herself gets into. hell, he did a good chunk of studying for her exams - and he's paying a good chunk of her debt - around $500 out of student loans / fees - because god knows, she can't handle herself. hell, she can't even fry an egg. seriously guys, how do i get her to grow the fuck up?
Send her to the army.
[QUOTE=Mon;36640903]okay. i've had it. 4 fucking weeks my sister has been off university. 4 fucking weeks, and she's been playing that goddamn saxophone non-fucking-stop. every time i tell her to practice somewhere else, she throws a hissy fit and starts crying -- she's 20 fucking years old. like, literally, she'll yell "daaaaaaad!" like she's some kind of toddler. really. it's like she never grew up. for fuck's sake, she writes fanfiction about disney movies. and of course my dad has deal with all the crap she herself gets into. hell, he did a good chunk of studying for her exams - and he's paying a good chunk of her debt - around $500 out of student loans / fees - because god knows, she can't handle herself. hell, she can't even fry an egg. seriously guys, [I]how do [B]i[/B] get her to grow the fuck up[/I]?[/QUOTE] This seems to be more about you than her. There are definitely some hints of projection at play here. I would say that the bold is most telling. I feel as though you are projecting your own need to grow up on your sister. The tone and circumstance of the post certainly seems to indicate it. I am of course not saying anything about your sister, especially in that I don't believe I can understand anything about your sister from this post. I am completely open to being completely wrong about my inclination, but either way I'd suggest rereading this post a few months from now. If you're too impatient for that, you can try sending the post to random people and ask them what they think the age of the author is.
[QUOTE=Pepin;36642298]This seems to be more about you than her. There are definitely some hints of projection at play here. I would say that the bold is most telling. I feel as though you are projecting your own need to grow up on your sister. The tone and circumstance of the post certainly seems to indicate it. I am of course not saying anything about your sister, especially in that I don't believe I can understand anything about your sister from this post. I am completely open to being completely wrong about my inclination, but either way I'd suggest rereading this post a few months from now. If you're too impatient for that, you can try sending the post to random people and ask them what they think the age of the author is.[/QUOTE] eugh, i'm fighting my pride by saying this, but yeah, it could be me. i guess i am being childish myself. i'll look back on this when the time comes for it.
I walk away from my computer to watch Seinfeld, and I come back to find one of my good friends is getting MRIs for some health concerns, and my friend I like is having an extra hard time dealing with her break-up/mood/everything today. Seriously, wtf.
So my girlfriend's father likes to talk. He'll just talk and talk and talk even when he has no clue what he's actually talking about. Don't get me wrong, he's a nice guy, but it gets annoying when he just repeats himself over and over. How can I tell him to STFU without coming off as a dickhead?
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I'm gonna prove how retarded I am here but whatever. I'm nearly finished Uni and through a combination of poor coordination, living out of town and plain retardedness, I've only seen or talked to my friends from there a few times this year. Now one of them is having a party and it's easy enough to get to, should be an easy choice to go or not. Unfortunately I have been feeling shit in both body and mind, bordering on self-diagnosed depression if that wasn't so stupid. Maybe stress, maybe from less social contact, who fucking knows. All that matters is I'm probably going to be a sad sack of shit, drink til I puke and fuck everything up even more, as I usually do. I can't think of any reason I want to go other than feeling as if I should just to be social. So I dunno, just seems like a stupid situation and I'm not sure why I'm in it.
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