• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;36712685]to plan it out with her would be really cheesy, but if you were just hanging out all day and took a walk through the park, ended up sitting in a tree/on a play structure/bench/whatever and were there for sunset, that'd be pretty legit[/QUOTE] Exactly, make it LOOK impromptu ;)
[QUOTE=mix999;36723070]Exactly, make it LOOK impromptu ;)[/QUOTE] Asking her to prom was pretty impromptu. This is gotta be easier
Went fishing today.. without the girl. But, with good reason. She had fucked up her knee pretty badly during cheer practice.
makes sense, we all know how strenuous fishing can be [img]http://fishinghabit.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Sunset-fishing.jpg[/img]
.. and im perfectly ok with that.
that's a nice rod
[QUOTE=areolop;36731295].. and im perfectly ok with that.[/QUOTE] You guys'll go fishing soon enough. When it's a problem of finding time it'll probably works out so long as it doesn't take another month to go on a date. You'll figure it out, buddy On to my own troubles... My girlfriend's smart, and we get along with literally everything, we've been together 9 months. She doesn't do too many stupid things, but the only thing (seriously the only thing) about her that upsets me is her partying with her friends (I'm 17, she's 18). She says it isn't in excess regardless of her doing it 1-5 times a week, and the only reason I'm so upset with her drinking/smoking is because she constantly tells me how smoking tobacco is stupid and she'd never do it, but she's been smoking hookah and thinking nothing of it (I know its not as bad when it's not a tobacco substance, but I'm almost positive it is seeing as how she's the only person in her group of friends who doesn't smoke cigarettes. It's still charcoal in your lungs, regardless). The only reason I'm so upset about it is because I'm like the only good influence in her life... her mom doesn't care about her, her dad is a junkie piece of shit, and ALL of her friends are the type of teenagers who think they're edgy and cool by being 18 year old alcoholics. I might sound bitchy but I'm seriously hurt by her doing this and I've told her, but all she's done is get pissed, she won't see past the fact that we're disagreeing and see how hurt I am. And anyone she's gonna go to talk to about this will tell her that I'm just being an asshole. All I want to do is help her stop making such bad decisions, because they're influencing her attitude and life for the worse. As I mentioned, this is the only problem between us at the moment and I don't see any reason to break up over it, it hasn't crossed either of our minds. But I just could really use your help, guys. Am I as big of a dick as I'm being told I am for being uncomfortable with all of this?
[QUOTE=Handsome Pete;36737110]You guys'll go fishing soon enough. When it's a problem of finding time it'll probably works out so long as it doesn't take another month to go on a date. You'll figure it out, buddy On to my own troubles... My girlfriend's smart, and we get along with literally everything, we've been together 9 months. She doesn't do too many stupid things, but the only thing (seriously the only thing) about her that upsets me is her partying with her friends (I'm 17, she's 18). She says it isn't in excess regardless of her doing it 1-5 times a week, and the only reason I'm so upset with her drinking/smoking is because she constantly tells me how smoking tobacco is stupid and she'd never do it, but she's been smoking hookah and thinking nothing of it (I know its not as bad when it's not a tobacco substance, but I'm almost positive it is seeing as how she's the only person in her group of friends who doesn't smoke cigarettes. It's still charcoal in your lungs, regardless). The only reason I'm so upset about it is because I'm like the only good influence in her life... her mom doesn't care about her, her dad is a junkie piece of shit, and ALL of her friends are the type of teenagers who think they're edgy and cool by being 18 year old alcoholics. I might sound bitchy but I'm seriously hurt by her doing this and I've told her, but all she's done is get pissed, she won't see past the fact that we're disagreeing and see how hurt I am. And anyone she's gonna go to talk to about this will tell her that I'm just being an asshole. All I want to do is help her stop making such bad decisions, because they're influencing her attitude and life for the worse. As I mentioned, this is the only problem between us at the moment and I don't see any reason to break up over it, it hasn't crossed either of our minds. But I just could really use your help, guys. Am I as big of a dick as I'm being told I am for being uncomfortable with all of this?[/QUOTE] Fuck "healthy living".
[QUOTE=mzathemind;36737786]Fuck "healthy living".[/QUOTE] yeah dude we'll be young forever!!! party on!!!
[QUOTE=psychojake;36671819]I'm going to the movies with this really cute girl on Friday, but I'm [i]extremely[/i] nervous about it. This will be my first 'date' ever and I'm afraid I'm gonna be a nervous wreck and I won't be able to think of anything to talk about. I want to go to the movies with her but everytime I think about it I get really nervous.[/QUOTE] Welp, she has to move out of her house tomorrow and she can't go to the movies with me. I dunno if she's telling the truth or just bailing. So much for getting all anxious about it.
[QUOTE=psychojake;36746323]Welp, she has to move out of her house tomorrow and she can't go to the movies with me. I dunno if she's telling the truth or just bailing. So much for getting all anxious about it.[/QUOTE] Ask if she needs help moving.
my dick got hardened when you spoke those sexy words, i couldn't help but have a little bit of sperm comme out of my 13 inch black mamba. youza qtt and we should hook up doe (; [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=G3rman;36746364]Ask if she needs help moving.[/QUOTE] my dick can help her move. i mean, it's a thirteen inch black mamba. and we could teest it out... ya know? you could touch it if you want. [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lITBGjNEp08&feature=fvwrel[/url] [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=G3rman;36746364]Ask if she needs help moving.[/QUOTE] are you gay? [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=psychojake;36746323]Welp, she has to move out of her house tomorrow and she can't go to the movies with me. I dunno if she's telling the truth or just bailing. So much for getting all anxious about it.[/QUOTE] shes a whore...youre gay deep inside, why would you feel extremely nervous if youre only going to then movies...suck my 13 inch black mamba honey <3 see you at the movie that girl lied about not being able to go (;
Nope, have fun being sexually aroused by text though.
[QUOTE=psychojake;36746323]Welp, she has to move out of her house tomorrow and she can't go to the movies with me. I dunno if she's telling the truth or just bailing. So much for getting all anxious about it.[/QUOTE] shes a whore...youre gay deep inside, why would you feel extremely nervous if youre only going to then movies...suck my 13 inch black mamba honey <3 see you at the movie that girl lied about not being able to go (; [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=G3rman;36746437]Nope, have fun being sexually aroused by text though.[/QUOTE] youza qt [highlight](User was banned for this post ("Shitposting" - Craptasket))[/highlight]
[QUOTE=Handsome Pete;36737110]You guys'll go fishing soon enough. When it's a problem of finding time it'll probably works out so long as it doesn't take another month to go on a date. You'll figure it out, buddy On to my own troubles... My girlfriend's smart, and we get along with literally everything, we've been together 9 months. She doesn't do too many stupid things, but the only thing (seriously the only thing) about her that upsets me is her partying with her friends (I'm 17, she's 18). She says it isn't in excess regardless of her doing it 1-5 times a week, and the only reason I'm so upset with her drinking/smoking is because she constantly tells me how smoking tobacco is stupid and she'd never do it, but she's been smoking hookah and thinking nothing of it (I know its not as bad when it's not a tobacco substance, but I'm almost positive it is seeing as how she's the only person in her group of friends who doesn't smoke cigarettes. It's still charcoal in your lungs, regardless). The only reason I'm so upset about it is because I'm like the only good influence in her life... her mom doesn't care about her, her dad is a junkie piece of shit, and ALL of her friends are the type of teenagers who think they're edgy and cool by being 18 year old alcoholics. I might sound bitchy but I'm seriously hurt by her doing this and I've told her, but all she's done is get pissed, she won't see past the fact that we're disagreeing and see how hurt I am. And anyone she's gonna go to talk to about this will tell her that I'm just being an asshole. All I want to do is help her stop making such bad decisions, because they're influencing her attitude and life for the worse. As I mentioned, this is the only problem between us at the moment and I don't see any reason to break up over it, it hasn't crossed either of our minds. But I just could really use your help, guys. Am I as big of a dick as I'm being told I am for being uncomfortable with all of this?[/QUOTE] The way I see it is this: Shes going out having lots of friends, partying and drinking (perfectly healthy in teenagers), venting her problems and forgetting them with people other than yourself. And now you're the one convinced you're the nice guy. Knight with shiny armour that represents her safety. Let me tell you. She doesn't need that. Let her be and don't be such a control freak. You're pressuring her into seeing something she wants to see and experience by herself. Seems to me you're the only person here with a problem in the relationship and enforcing your will on your partner's space and freedom. Trust me, I had 2 girls, both exes that used to nag and nag about my go outs and my smokes and about how I could die in a bike accident and blablabla and that's one of the main reasons they're now ex gfs. Just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean she can't have other options other than you. So what if she smokes or drinks or goes out with her friends? It's not that she's doing it just to get shitfaced. Seems to me you're the frustrated guy staying at home and having no fun. You don't have much options other than her so you feel frustrated about her seeking other entertainment than you. No offence but you gotta work that out. Else she might get fed up of that attitude of yours. Loosen up a little. It's not the end of the world.
[QUOTE=Handsome Pete;36737110]You guys'll go fishing soon enough. When it's a problem of finding time it'll probably works out so long as it doesn't take another month to go on a date. You'll figure it out, buddy On to my own troubles... My girlfriend's smart, and we get along with literally everything, we've been together 9 months. She doesn't do too many stupid things, but the only thing (seriously the only thing) about her that upsets me is her partying with her friends (I'm 17, she's 18). She says it isn't in excess regardless of her doing it 1-5 times a week, and the only reason I'm so upset with her drinking/smoking is because she constantly tells me how smoking tobacco is stupid and she'd never do it, but she's been smoking hookah and thinking nothing of it (I know its not as bad when it's not a tobacco substance, but I'm almost positive it is seeing as how she's the only person in her group of friends who doesn't smoke cigarettes. It's still charcoal in your lungs, regardless). The only reason I'm so upset about it is because I'm like the only good influence in her life... her mom doesn't care about her, her dad is a junkie piece of shit, and ALL of her friends are the type of teenagers who think they're edgy and cool by being 18 year old alcoholics. I might sound bitchy but I'm seriously hurt by her doing this and I've told her, but all she's done is get pissed, she won't see past the fact that we're disagreeing and see how hurt I am. And anyone she's gonna go to talk to about this will tell her that I'm just being an asshole. All I want to do is help her stop making such bad decisions, because they're influencing her attitude and life for the worse. As I mentioned, this is the only problem between us at the moment and I don't see any reason to break up over it, it hasn't crossed either of our minds. But I just could really use your help, guys. Am I as big of a dick as I'm being told I am for being uncomfortable with all of this?[/QUOTE] Tell her exactly how you feel. In my opinion I will say that usually people telling their partner not to drink or smoke is immature. Or just setting limits for your partner in general. Tobacco isn't the worst and she likely won't get addicted to hookah, because people do it socially, and in groups of 5. Smoking water cooled tobacco that irregularly won't do anything permanent to her lungs. Substances aren't the devil, and your girlfriend probably resents you because of it. I wouldn't be hurt because you have a difference of opinion, instead I would talk to her about it. You aren't being a dick, you're being a good boyfriend caring about her. I do think you're wrong though, but I don't know the whole situation.
He already did more than talk. You can't enforce someone to change because of you and because you're in a relationship. If someone smokes, let him. It's how they are. And by smoking I'm just using an example in thousands of them in these situations. I'm just talking from experience here. I hated it when I had girls constantly nagging either because I smoked when I got out with my friends, or drinking ( and I know my limits cause I'm used to drinking a lot). Who cares?
If you don't like what they are doing and they aren't willing to compromise, break up. Not the end of the world.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36746502]The way I see it is this: Shes going out having lots of friends, partying and drinking (perfectly healthy in teenagers), venting her problems and forgetting them with people other than yourself. And now you're the one convinced you're the nice guy. Knight with shiny armour that represents her safety. Let me tell you. She doesn't need that. Let her be and don't be such a control freak. You're pressuring her into seeing something she wants to see and experience by herself. Seems to me you're the only person here with a problem in the relationship and enforcing your will on your partner's space and freedom. Trust me, I had 2 girls, both exes that used to nag and nag about my go outs and my smokes and about how I could die in a bike accident and blablabla and that's one of the main reasons they're now ex gfs. Just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean she can't have other options other than you. So what if she smokes or drinks or goes out with her friends? It's not that she's doing it just to get shitfaced. Seems to me you're the frustrated guy staying at home and having no fun. You don't have much options other than her so you feel frustrated about her seeking other entertainment than you. No offence but you gotta work that out. Else she might get fed up of that attitude of yours. Loosen up a little. It's not the end of the world.[/QUOTE] Useless, condescending, biased as fuck input
I'm going to sounds as little creepy as possible while explaining this since its hard to understand by text. Lets take a step back.. to my prom were all this stuff with the girl begins. So I grew enough balls to ask someone to prom. If you have never asked someone to prom before you know what im talking about. It was like midnight on a school night in the pouring rain. The girl I asked is super-popular so I was surprised she already didnt have a date but thats ok. I ask her - She says yes (thank the lord). [[url=https://dl.dropbox.com/u/11823009/other/facebook8.png]pic[/url]] Our prom group consisted of like 15 couples. 12 couples were everyones friends and 3 were just.. there. So the group divided after photos. Hot damn! (we where with the 12). So my date is a diabetic - no big deal. Besides the fact she has the bladder the size of a cup of water. So as girl policy states you must take another girl with you to the bathroom. So another one of my good female friends goes with her. Everytime. The night goes very well. Everyone is happy and behaving like you should on prom night. [B]TIME SKIP[/B] So I keep in constant contact with my date, knowing that there is a 0% chance of dating her but any contact is good contact. I get many texts from and to her. A lot of jokes, smiley faces and other shit that girls text you. Then, while working, my good female friend comes in and we chat about the night. I tell her that I should try to date my date and she gives me the weirdest look then proceeds to tell me that while they were going to the bathroom, constantly, they would have talks about girl shit. (shocker.) anyway.. long story short I get told that my date would like to date me. So that peaked my interest I dont believe anything I hear because its teenager bullshit. Anyway. Now comes June. I start getting a lot of " :) !! " and other shit from her but it always has a :) at the end of it. Then I start getting a lot of "Marry me", knowing its bullshit but you go along with it anyway. Anyway, a ton of texts like that. So this is were I start going ok, gotta take this girl on a date and doing things. As I said earlier she is super-popular and im a floater for when it comes to social groups (friends with everyone) so trying to coordinate anything with her schedule, along with her cheerleading, is damn impossible. So I guess the question is.. do I keep trying to pursue her? or should I just dig for another fish in the sea
If you don't get a serious date lined up soon, don't bother. She is definitely not a keeper and you will most likely get separated by college. Have fun with her while it lasts.
[QUOTE=G3rman;36747942]If you don't get a serious date lined up soon, don't bother. She is definitely not a keeper and you will most likely get separated by college. Have fun with her while it lasts.[/QUOTE] This, absolutely. She seems way too unreliable, but still, good luck on nabbing that date. If it takes much longer, she's putting you off and either doesn't care enough and you'd be setting yourself up for disaster, or she simply isn't interested. [sp]Oh, and if she's not interested, you deserve better anyways.[/sp]
[QUOTE=Handsome Pete;36748721]This, absolutely. She seems way too unreliable, but still, good luck on nabbing that date. If it takes much longer, she's putting you off and either doesn't care enough and you'd be setting yourself up for disaster, or she simply isn't interested. [sp]Oh, and if she's not interested, you deserve better anyways.[/sp][/QUOTE] Im pretty its me who is putting off the date. Terrible at planning, haha. I'm going to try a few more times before the summer is done but after that - fuck it. [sp]Sill a nice gal though, and has many alike interests with the biggest one being EMS.[/sp]
In that case, one of these days, like when you have a plan to do something but she injures her knee or whatever, go to her house and spend time with her there. Just make it clear that you want to spend time with her, that's the reason you're trying to pursue her anyways Plus she'll probably love it. Most of the time
So is it filed under being a dick if you flirt with a girl and hint at a relationship, but then she passes you off to the friend zone but still expects you to continue serving her, and then basically you cease contact and tell her you aren't interested in being just 'friends'?
Ok, So I know I looked like a douchebag from my last post, and I was being one. But I'm starting to think that I might not be so disconnected from it myself. I don't know. In any case, It's pretty much understood that you don't date a bro's ex right? And I agree, to an extent. What if this friend is super dramatic, the "relationship" lasted about a week, and he has like 2/3 "girlfriends" a month. So, pretty much they didn't really have a relationship. She seems over it, but he's not by any means. He seems to have some kind of hate for her. He won't tell me exactly why. Now I'm not talking about hopping straight into a deep relationship, but just us talking is really bothering him. Should I let him just deal with it and do what I want? In any case, I plan to figure out why he's so pissed about it.
So... umm... I posted this in the other thread, but, w/e, I'm doing it here as well So, this girl and I have known each other for about a year now We chat on facebook for hours on end, everyday, we hang out frequently, we've been out to see movies and shit... How do I segue that into something... more... relationship...y. Cause right now it's the "just friends" thing, and I'm looking for more. [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] As I said in the other thread, I'm just really worried if it goes sour I'll never end up speaking to her again :/
[QUOTE=G3rman;36749131]So is it filed under being a dick if you flirt with a girl and hint at a relationship, but then she passes you off to the friend zone but still expects you to continue serving her, and then basically you cease contact and tell her you aren't interested in being just 'friends'?[/QUOTE] Well from what you're saying, she never intended to go out with you, it'd be a pretty awkward/dumb thing to announce as an ultimatum that you'll stop talking to her if she doesn't want to. So yes, file that under being a complete bellend.
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36749405]Well from what you're saying, she never intended to go out with you, it'd be a pretty awkward/dumb thing to announce as an ultimatum that you'll stop talking to her if she doesn't want to. So yes, file that under being a complete bellend.[/QUOTE] No, the only reason I was making the effort to get close to her was for a relationship. Since she just wants to be friends and expects to keep being the 'nice guy', basically I'm moving on. Wasted potential unfortunately. [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Sardonus;36749191]So... umm... I posted this in the other thread, but, w/e, I'm doing it here as well So, this girl and I have known each other for about a year now We chat on facebook for hours on end, everyday, we hang out frequently, we've been out to see movies and shit... How do I segue that into something... more... relationship...y. Cause right now it's the "just friends" thing, and I'm looking for more. [editline]13th July 2012[/editline] As I said in the other thread, I'm just really worried if it goes sour I'll never end up speaking to her again :/[/QUOTE] Just man up and ask her out on an actual date. Wording would be key in your case. If she is going to make things awkward from that then she probably isn't the greatest person you think she is.
[QUOTE=G3rman;36749997]No, the only reason I was making the effort to get close to her was for a relationship. Since she just wants to be friends and expects to keep being the 'nice guy', basically I'm moving on.[/QUOTE] So you were pretending to be nice instead of your true bellend self and it really took it out of you? But she wasn't interested anyway, so you're just going to stop talking to her because she's ungrateful or something and not worth being friends with? You really do come across as a wanker
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