• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Rusty100;36791161]It's a white knuckle thrill ride of love.[/QUOTE] [I]This summer, One Big Dumb American is going..to [B]work.[/B] [U]Big Dumb American and Work Girl; A Tale of Hijinks and Romance The Movie[/U][/I]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36790688]I think I'm feelin' some sparks with [I]Work Girl[/I] (working title), I am! She stayed twenty minutes past her shift ending, and we were talking and joking around the whole time. She told me that she had had to unclog one of the guests' toilet tonight, and I told her to get comfortable with it, because handling other peoples' crap is about 90% of life, which she found pretty funny. I am just too cool for school. I think it's time to take this relationship to the next level. I'm gonna get crazy-bold, and [I]add her on Facebook[/I]. Somebody stop me, I'm gettin' crazy with these big plays![/QUOTE] woah dude how are you so successful with women
I plant the seeds of love early, and sow my rewards [I]years[/I] down the line. My middle-school crush recently added me on facebook and told me that she still had a very cute card I made her for Valentine's Day in the fifth grade. I am just a little charmer, I guess! In nine years, Work Girl will send me a holo-message telling me that she still laughs at that hilarious joke I made about handling other people's crap when we worked together at the hotel. She'll say, "it's funny because it's just so true, in both a literal and a figurative sense!" So now we play the waiting game.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36791456]I plant the seeds of love early, and sow my rewards [I]years[/I] down the line. My middle-school crush recently added me on facebook and told me that she still had a very cute card I made her for Valentine's Day in the fifth grade. I am just a little charmer, I guess! In nine years, Work Girl will send me a holo-message telling me that she still laughs at that hilarious joke I made about handling other people's crap when we worked together at the hotel. She'll say, "it's funny because it's just so true, in both a literal and a figurative sense!" So now we play the waiting game.[/QUOTE] well the turtle always wins the race
[QUOTE=thisispain;36791694]well the turtle always wins the race[/QUOTE] But sometimes the prize isn't the same prize you were going for when you started the race. I have had that problem and it really sucks.
It's true, my fifth grade crush turned into a fat trailer park girl.
So I have a friend who gets along with me, but can be so mean to certain people, I've almost lost some friendships over it. He tried going after this one girl, and he latches on real tight, REAL quick. She swears up and down that it wasn't as serious as he claims, and he does have a habit of exaggerating. My question is, do I keep going with her? We get along incredibly well. Better than I've ever gotten along with any woman, ever. But my friend, who's never directly wronged me, can't seem to stand her, and is starting to get a grudge towards me for it I think. What do?
Sidebar: my friends' nickname for my first girlfriend was "Sally," as in the corpse-woman from the [I]Nightmare Before Christmas[/I]. I never thought she was all [I]that[/I] bad, but sometimes I wonder if I was just taken in by the fact that a girl actually wanted to have sex with me. My point is: sometimes it's okay to do shameful things, as long as you never tell your friends about it. Otherwise they'll give unflattering nicknames to those shameful things, and never let you hear the end of it. [editline]16th July 2012[/editline] That's my sage advice for the day. Hopefully it somehow applies to something that somebody said.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36787311]Yeah, should have thought of that earlier instead of going back with your word and trying to avoid looking silly. You seem to be the guy who's always calling bullshit on others. "I disagree", "that's bullshit" or "that's biased" or whatever suits you at the moment. Thing is I never see you justifying the reasons for it. You have a lot to say when it comes to telling others are wrong but I don't see you actually being argumentative about what you think of other people's advice. Might as well think before commenting, no? You've been telling me I'm wrong for a few posts now but I don't see you explaining or presenting an argument. That "i disagree" , represents nothing without support. You're just being disagreeable.[/QUOTE] Well both of those recent posts of yours were pretty godawful I don't plan on dissecting them, neither am I going back on anything, as I said I still disagree You can pretend I only do it for self-gratuitous kicks or something, but I don't think I've called bullshit on anyone else recently. Plus when your comment is directed at someone else and they have replied already, there's not much call to write paragraphs over it. I'd be content to rate disagree in 9/10 cases but your efforts of late have been so poor they're worthy of special mention.
Sure, man. Says the guy who's a page late. That doesn't clarify things much. You're just in for the extra point with answers and I never saw any useful comment from you either. And the fact I'm late doesn't mean the advice isn't useful or not. That's not even up to you to decide, it's up to the person I'm directed and to the other users of this topic who don't seem to have any problem with me so far. I just have things to do other than continuously tapping F5 so I can be the first to comment, or in your case, trying to cover up the fact you were a big dork some posts back by blaming it all on my "late" (I don't see what's the problem of lending advice late), "biased", "wrong" comments (who anyone seems to have a problem with but you.. ) and other adjectives you're so frequently using without any point of view or personal imput attached. I'm not here for personal grudges. But being late sure beats being bitchy all the time without justification or counter argumentation. If you're the only one having problems with my posts, report them or feel free to chose from a variety of rating options. I hope my super friendly social and love advice was of any use to you.
Oh Super Friendly Social and Love Advice thread, everything's just fucked. I'm having a bit of a run-in with one those people that's all sweetness and light with you one day, then maybe a few days later it's like "oh what yeah it's this guy". I'm old enough to know that I really can't be bothered with things like this, but it really upsets me when someone who I thought really liked me just apparently changes their mind. I don't know why but it really makes me feel like I'm a piece of shit, I think it's the fact that you let these people get to know you perhaps more than others. Whatever it is, it just makes me want to rebel against all of my good decisions. I don't know why, I just want to be "fuck everything!" and take up smoking again (I said I was quitting in one of these threads months ago, and I managed it!), drink a whole bottle of wine and go to my friends house and get really high. As if that's going to 'show them'. But I can't because I live at home when I'm not at uni, and I can't walk in the house absolutely battered (I could if I was drunk, but it's 2 O'Clock in the afternoon here). Obviously not a good idea anyway, I'm not trying to be a bad ass or anything. Wah wah wah, rant over.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36793855]I'm not here for personal grudges. But being late sure beats being bitchy all the time without justification or counter argumentation. If you're the only one having problems with my posts, report them or feel free to chose from a variety of rating options.[/QUOTE] I don't think you give the best advice, but that's just my opinion and I'm sure that your advice is useful to at least someone. But yeah, this is the super friendly love advice thread - let's try to keep it super friendly (thisispain being the exception)
[QUOTE=Glitch360;36790141]I feel like shit because of some stuff that happened today, I don't think i've ever felt this bad in a while. What do?[/QUOTE] Talk to us about it dude, let out dem feels and deal with them properly. You don't have to spend the next month sitting on your ass, you can still go out and meet other people, or just use this time figure shit out for yourself. Visit the library and expand your mind, or hit the gym and get those feel-good chemicals pumping. Just don't resort to self-destructive tendencies to distract yourself from how you're feeling (: [QUOTE=Hmn30;36790908]so should we talk about it tomorrow or should i try to do something right off the bat?[/QUOTE] I'd suggest just acting casual about it, go into it expecting nothing more than to have a fun night with a friend, and if it happens then it happens. Don't be afraid to be physical and shit if the vibe is there, and if it does come up in conversation just be honest, and confident, about how you feel. If she doesn't want to have sex with you, don't sulk over it, just accept it and continue watching the film and enjoying yourself. It's actually a lot more likely to end up in your favour if you're not coming across as needy and shit, and that you're not expecting anything from her. Relax, let her relax, and have a good night; the rest will fall into place. [QUOTE=D0C H.;36792046]So I have a friend who gets along with me, but can be so mean to certain people, I've almost lost some friendships over it. What do?[/QUOTE] Your friend has his own issues which you shouldn't make your own issues. I can understand if you care about him and his feelings because he's your friend, but I really doubt the solution to all of his problems is going to be you avoiding this girl. Do what you want, see this girl or whatever, and in the mean time sit your friend down and have a talk to him and let him know how you feel about his shit. Don't be aggressive about it, just let him know that you're genuinely concerned that his tendencies are pushing people away, including yourself. [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36793855]Sure, man. Says the guy who's a page late.[/QUOTE] Holy language barriers Batman; he meant to use the phrase, [I]'as of late'[/I], meaning, [I]'recently'[/I]. Now can we all calm down plz thx.
I was hanging out with like 3 of my buddys yesterday when my ex and her friend call me up and ask if we want to go drink and smoke on my boat. So I agree and the 6 or so of us hangout. I find my ex repulsive, and really I was just trying to hook my friends up. Somehow my girlfriend caught wind of it, and she's pissed. Good thing I'm a good liar, I wouldn't cheat on her ever but after 3 years of dating you'd expect more trust......
so I got a job at a new chick-fil-a. I had my video orientation a few days ago, and I'm really pissed because there was this one chick there that I really had an eye for. really pretty, in my opinion. redish brown hair, blue eyes, and some freckles. rather petite too. I'm real pissed at myself though, because I cannot remember her name for the life of me. I obviously wasn't paying attention when we were all introducing myself, and facebook investigations have not helped me at all. Guess I'll have to wait a week before seeing her again. I vowed myself to introduce myself and try to make friends next time I see her. I won't pussy out!
[QUOTE=bluesky;36795045][b]Good thing I'm a good liar,[/b] I wouldn't cheat on her ever [b]but after 3 years of dating you'd expect more trust......[/b][/QUOTE] seriously?
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;36794980] Your friend has his own issues which you shouldn't make your own issues. I can understand if you care about him and his feelings because he's your friend, but I really doubt the solution to all of his problems is going to be you avoiding this girl. Do what you want, see this girl or whatever, and in the mean time sit your friend down and have a talk to him and let him know how you feel about his shit. Don't be aggressive about it, just let him know that you're genuinely concerned that his tendencies are pushing people away, including yourself. [/QUOTE] I also learned last night that he told her some very private things about me....... so I guess that really shows how great of a friend he is right? It's just a shame to lose a 'friend' that I've known for years over this. But hey, after learning that, it might not be such a bad thing.
[QUOTE=bluesky;36795045]I was hanging out with like 3 of my buddys yesterday when my ex and her friend call me up and ask if we want to go drink and smoke on my boat. So I agree and the 6 or so of us hangout. I find my ex repulsive, and really I was just trying to hook my friends up. Somehow my girlfriend caught wind of it, and she's pissed. Good thing I'm a good liar, I wouldn't cheat on her ever but after 3 years of dating you'd expect more trust......[/QUOTE] maybe she is pissed because you're acting like an asshole
So a guy just confessed his love for me. Over Tumblr. A guy who is two years younger and who I've never met before. Oh dear..
oh wow pascall i didn't know you were such a cougar
yes I prey on all the young children no really though it was really like out of the blue and somewhat sad not entirely sure what to tell him other than, "sorry but I don't feel the same". I don't even know what brought this on tbh I haven't even talked to him in like a few months.
Hi Pascall, I kinda love you a whole lot. Ttyl hmu [editline]16th July 2012[/editline] I'm pretty sure Work Girl was flirting me up proper tonight. We only chatted for about fifteen minutes, but she was all "you look really good!" and "I'm single," and also she kept leaning over things and looking at me over her shoulder with this whole [I]"I know you're trying not to look at my bum, and I find that amusing because I know my bum is pretty rockin"[/I] look. I don't know, I might have ascribed a bit more meaning to that last bit, but either way I'm getting the impression that I should prolly ask her out before she learns I'm a dork. I had a really awesome opportunity to do it, too, but I didn't even think of it until after she'd left. I was all, "See ya tomorrow, Ash. Oh, wait, I'm off tomorrow." And she was like, "You are? Me too!" And instead of saying "We should go out, then!" I said, "Very cool. Oh well, I guess I'll see you in a couple of days!" What a dummy, I am!
[QUOTE=Pascall;36803968]So a guy just confessed his love for me. Over Tumblr. A guy who is two years younger and who I've never met before. Oh dear..[/QUOTE] I'm sorry, I can't contain my love for you anymore, it had to be done. But seriously, I met this one chick, and let me tell you she is hot. And I already liked her before, but it turns out she also plays video games. Like, good ones. But she got my number off a mutual friend and so we've been texting, so far so good so yeah I just wanted to share that, I'm just gonna see how this plays out. Wish me luck.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;36793855]Sure, man. Says the guy who's a page late. That doesn't clarify things much. You're just in for the extra point with answers and I never saw any useful comment from you either. And the fact I'm late doesn't mean the advice isn't useful or not. That's not even up to you to decide, it's up to the person I'm directed and to the other users of this topic who don't seem to have any problem with me so far. I just have things to do other than continuously tapping F5 so I can be the first to comment, or in your case, trying to cover up the fact you were a big dork some posts back by blaming it all on my "late" (I don't see what's the problem of lending advice late), "biased", "wrong" comments (who anyone seems to have a problem with but you.. ) and other adjectives you're so frequently using without any point of view or personal imput attached. I'm not here for personal grudges. But being late sure beats being bitchy all the time without justification or counter argumentation. If you're the only one having problems with my posts, report them or feel free to chose from a variety of rating options. I hope my super friendly social and love advice was of any use to you.[/QUOTE] Wow, that's some phenomenally bad reading you've done there But let's bury the hatchet anyway, I can't be bothered with all this
I was just browsing some facebook and there is a girl who was in my class several years, she posts a lot of pictures and such. She did some sidejobs as a model, she is pretty good at that. But whenever I see those pictures, holy damn she hangs with all kinds of people together who look like models and perfected humans, not one single mark or anything. Besides she constantly hangs in Mallorca and Barcelona, she studies there. I just wonder how people can be like this, it amazes me somewhat.
[QUOTE=junker|154;36808831]I was just browsing some facebook and there is a girl who was in my class several years, she posts a lot of pictures and such. She did some sidejobs as a model, she is pretty good at that. But whenever I see those pictures, holy damn she hangs with all kinds of people together who look like models and perfected humans, not one single mark or anything. Besides she constantly hangs in Mallorca and Barcelona, she studies there. I just wonder how people can be like this, it amazes me somewhat.[/QUOTE] Boobs.
[QUOTE=junker|154;36808831]I was just browsing some facebook and there is a girl who was in my class several years, she posts a lot of pictures and such. She did some sidejobs as a model, she is pretty good at that. But whenever I see those pictures, holy damn she hangs with all kinds of people together who look like models and perfected humans, not one single mark or anything. Besides she constantly hangs in Mallorca and Barcelona, she studies there. I just wonder how people can be like this, it amazes me somewhat.[/QUOTE] They just have friends who like to take pictures a lot. I mean, there are people out there that nowadays can't go out without bringing a camera. Facebook can give people a great alter-ego but most of the time that doesn't correspond to what they really are. I can understand how the confidence that some people on facebook transmit can be really intimidating sometimes. Point is, although facebook can be a powerful social tool, sometimes appearances can be deceiving, so there's nothing like meeting people in person.
OKAY, contact initiated. Commencing Operation Sleep-Date: phase 1) sleep phase 2) ask Work Girl out Phase 3) TBD Godspeed, me.
hai, i'm new to relationships and i'm wanting one, i don't need one and i think i am ready, advice on how to start would be superb.
Is is not acceptable to expect a girlfriend of around a year to not have secrets from me? I know that I'm too intrusive and want to know things a whole lot, but it's always when people are explicitly keeping information from me. And I don't expect other people to open up completely, but I expect to be able to do it with her. I'm completely open with her and my friends and don't keep secrets from any of them, so it's not as if I'm being a huge hypocrite. It just bothers me immensely when she withholds shit and It's causing problems because, while I'm a naturally very open person, she's naturally very closed off. We've had arguments concerning this a few times throughout the relationship. I guess it's unrealistic of me to expect that of her, but I expect it of myself... This and a few other things are making me question whether or not I should actually be with her right now and it's tearing me up.
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