• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=GlebGuy;36917287]Question: When you find out that the person you really care for doesn't have any feelings for you, you start to feel incredible hot rage (where you feel that your brain is burning) and ice-cold sorrow (and the rest of your body is cold and water-y) but it's all repressed with perfect clarity and you literally have no intentions of doing harm... How hard is it going to bite you back later in your life? Oh and yeah I had a rather difficult life to answer your question.[/QUOTE] That's pretty melodramatic. I've been with girls who haven't felt the same by the end of the relationship and I've had relationships where I've been the one not feeling it by the end. You uh move on and be thankful the other person had the balls to tell you so you weren't making more of an arse of yourself. Sounds like your first relationship to me. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say. Your love is better used on someone who will reciprocate. Further thought, none of the questions I would have asked had that answer, but it's painted a pretty clear picture of your level of self-pity. It won't come back to bite you in the ass if you act sensibly and move on. Keep on chasing it? who knows, but it won't be good.
[QUOTE=metallics;36917454]That's pretty melodramatic. I've been with girls who haven't felt the same by the end of the relationship and I've had relationships where I've been the one not feeling it by the end. You uh move on and be thankful the other person had the balls to tell you so you weren't making more of an arse of yourself. Sounds like your first relationship to me. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say. Your love is better used on someone who will reciprocate.[/QUOTE] Easier said when you're always alone and you can't meet anyone because everyone in your area is a type of person that you want to avoid at all costs. Harder to do when you're not a very interesting or 'good' character. Now how hard do you think this repressed negative emotion will bite me back later in life?
[QUOTE=GlebGuy;36917506]Easier said when you're always alone and you can't meet anyone because everyone in your area is a type of person that you want to avoid at all costs. Harder to do when you're not a very interesting or 'good' character. Now how hard do you think this repressed negative emotion will bite me back later in life?[/QUOTE] It won't, stop being a bitch and get it together. If you were to try and meet people this awful self pity would drive them off. I wouldn't like to associate with you.
[QUOTE=metallics;36917566]It won't, stop being a bitch and get it together. If you were to try and meet people this awful self pity would drive them off. I wouldn't like to associate with you.[/QUOTE] Sorry, I'm usually not like this at all so I'm just gonna go and try to calm down. Thanks.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;36912774]Yeeha, Work Girl is coming over for dinner tomorrow night! Now I need to think of an easy, but impressive dish for two. I've never really tried cooking anything fancy before, so I think I'll give it a practice run tonight.[/QUOTE] [url]http://www.youtube.com/user/foodwishes[/url] ^ impossible to fail any of these
[QUOTE=azurelao;36913336]shatteredwindow, go with your gut. if you think she' playing you, then be a little more wary around her.[/QUOTE] Yeah that's what Im gonna do. But I don't know what it is. I think part of it is is that she's older than me by like 16 months or so, she just turned 18 and I'm 16. But I'm going into sernior year and she just graduated, so it's not THAT huge a difference. But she also seems to have A LOT more dating experience than me, which kinda intimidates me. But I dunno. But we were talking, and I was making some jokes about her, you know teasing and whatever. Well she says, she prefers nice guys and that she's used to guys who are ready to lick her boots and make her feel pretty. So I says "Uh huh, I didn't realize you volunteered at the blind people's home." (yeah yeah lame whatever). And she says "(lists off like 6 guys) would never say anything like that to me." So I says "then why are you talking to me then?" and she said that they were too pansy to make any moves on her so she got bored. I don't really know what to think of that. Am I just being overly paranoid or what? Ideas?
Once again, getting really nervous for tomorrow... I hope I dont get rejected (going to shoot for lunch on friday)
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;36917918]Yeah that's what Im gonna do. But I don't know what it is. I think part of it is is that she's older than me by like 16 months or so, she just turned 18 and I'm 16. But I'm going into sernior year and she just graduated, so it's not THAT huge a difference. But she also seems to have A LOT more dating experience than me, which kinda intimidates me. But I dunno. But we were talking, and I was making some jokes about her, you know teasing and whatever. Well she says, she prefers nice guys and that she's used to guys who are ready to lick her boots and make her feel pretty. So I says "Uh huh, I didn't realize you volunteered at the blind people's home." (yeah yeah lame whatever). And she says "(lists off like 6 guys) would never say anything like that to me." So I says "then why are you talking to me then?" and she said that they were too pansy to make any moves on her so she got bored. I don't really know what to think of that. Am I just being overly paranoid or what? Ideas?[/QUOTE] I'd go for it not expecting a real relationship but just a lot of fooling around. Does not sound like a girl I would be interested in being together with for the right reasons.
[QUOTE=areolop;36917951]Once again, getting really nervous for tomorrow... I hope I dont get rejected (going to shoot for lunch on friday)[/QUOTE] Can I come? [QUOTE=G3rman;36917999]I'd go for it not expecting a real relationship but just a lot of fooling around. Does not sound like a girl I would be interested in being together with for the right reasons.[/QUOTE] That's what I would otherwise think, but apparently she's like a super christian girl. I can barely make any sex related jokes. But I dunno we'll see. But I doubt I'll get past second base.
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;36918033]Can I come? [/quote] No. God no. My patrol partner is enough
But you live right by me remember. I can record it. And then post it here. And it will be great.
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;36918148]But you live right by me remember. I can record it. And then post it here. And it will be great.[/QUOTE] no I dont?
what are you a cop now areolop?
[QUOTE=areolop;36918155]no I dont?[/QUOTE] I thought you lived in like Eagan or something?
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36918267]what are you a cop now areolop?[/QUOTE] no, but I work for my city's PD and do reserve patrol [editline]24th July 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=shatteredwindow;36918290]I thought you lived in like Eagan or something?[/QUOTE] yes... go on... [editline]24th July 2012[/editline] [url]http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1288566685[/url] is that you?
Umm no because I don't have a facebook. No I posted in the MN thread.
[QUOTE=GlebGuy;36917506]Easier said when you're always alone and you can't meet anyone because everyone in your area is a type of person that you want to avoid at all costs. Harder to do when you're not a very interesting or 'good' character. Now how hard do you think this repressed negative emotion will bite me back later in life?[/QUOTE] 2 Simple questions: 1) How old are you? 2) Is it your first relationship?
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;36918033] That's what I would otherwise think, but apparently she's like a super christian girl. I can barely make any sex related jokes. But I dunno we'll see. But I doubt I'll get past second base.[/QUOTE] She doesn't sound like a very proper christian.
christ I've finally come to the conclusion I fucking hate my job the work is boring, really non-stimulating and waking up at 6 in the morning each day is really taking it's toll. I don't know what to do. it's really annoying spending all my time sleeping instead of doing shit. work, sleep, work, sleep. this really wouldn't be bad if [I]i didn't fucking hate the work I do[/I] I don't know what to do. I don't have a particular [I]need[/I] for the money, but on the same token, it doesn't hurt to have more money. but it's really reaching that point where I just need a change of scenery.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36923375]christ I've finally come to the conclusion I fucking hate my job the work is boring, really non-stimulating and waking up at 6 in the morning each day is really taking it's toll. I don't know what to do. it's really annoying spending all my time sleeping instead of doing shit. work, sleep, work, sleep. this really wouldn't be bad if [I]i didn't fucking hate the work I do[/I] I don't know what to do. I don't have a particular [I]need[/I] for the money, but on the same token, it doesn't hurt to have more money. but it's really reaching that point where I just need a change of scenery.[/QUOTE] my advice would be to start searching and hustling for a new job, but don't quit the current one until you are asked, "when can you start?"
ok... lets get the game plan down.. #1 -> 5: Secret 6: Ask girl to go out to lunch on Friday 7: Choose lunch location... Panera or something else (probably going with Panera) 8: Hope and pray to the gods that she says yes
[QUOTE=areolop;36924771]ok... lets get the game plan down.. #1 -> 5: Secret 6: Ask girl to go out to lunch on Friday 7: Choose lunch location... Panera or something else (probably going with Panera) 8: Hope and pray to the gods that she says yes[/QUOTE] I didn't want to say anything before but this is a lot of effort for a first date. I might think about doing something like this for asking to marry though.
[QUOTE=areolop;36924771]ok... lets get the game plan down.. #1 -> 5: Secret 6: Ask girl to go out to lunch on Friday 7: Choose lunch location... Panera or something else (probably going with Panera) 8: Hope and pray to the gods that she says yes[/QUOTE] Loosen up Wait, you're the guy with the plan to arrest your love interest? IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO CHANGE YOUR MIND
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;36924957]Loosen up Wait, you're the guy with the plan to arrest your love interest? IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO CHANGE YOUR MIND[/QUOTE] OH SHIT. No, i just like having plans. Plan everything.
if you make a big deal out of it you might come off as clingy. just ask casually, like it's a completely natural progression for your relationship. don't put her on the spot
Go to the panera at burnsville center. Then let me watch.
This is the part I hate; this period between asking a girl out and actually going on the first date is awful! My brain keeps coming up with all these nasty little scenarios about how it's all prolly going to fall through! Poor me, poor me. Woe be this uncertainty.
Fuck what your brain thinks.
Brain's back to being excited again. This is an emotional thrill ride! "4.5 Stars out of 5," raves the [I]Chicago Tribune[/I].
[QUOTE=Protocol7;36923375]christ I've finally come to the conclusion I fucking hate my job the work is boring, really non-stimulating and waking up at 6 in the morning each day is really taking it's toll. I don't know what to do. it's really annoying spending all my time sleeping instead of doing shit. work, sleep, work, sleep. this really wouldn't be bad if [I]i didn't fucking hate the work I do[/I] I don't know what to do. I don't have a particular [I]need[/I] for the money, but on the same token, it doesn't hurt to have more money. but it's really reaching that point where I just need a change of scenery.[/QUOTE] How old are you? Is this a summer job, or a year-round job? Do you rely on the money for food/rent/tuition? If it's just a summer job and you're just there to get some disposable income, then I would do as GoldenGnome says, don't necessarily quit just yet but use any free time you're given to look for another job. And once you've been hired somewhere, then quit your shitty current job and work at the new place. But if it's your full time job and you need the money, then I would do the same thing but just take it slower and don't be so quick to quit your current job. Don't quit until you've found a job that you KNOW will be much better and your are absolutely sure you will get the job.
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