The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36973122]Will do on the avatar part.
But do you think that even though they would break up without me having anything to do with it that she would still be a no go?
I also wonder about what the reaction in this thread would been had I not given any personal input on my post and instead had it be about a friend whom is in a relationship with someone whom takes them for granted. And once he does what is considered obvious to say the least in a relationship, he thinks that he's the shit.[/QUOTE]
yes let's hope they break up so she can be dependent on the jealous douchebag instead of the arrogant one
Roast, do you really think this girl is going to appreciate you shadowing her around, whispering hateful things in her ear about her boyfriend all day, like some kind of Tolkienesque Wormtongue advisor? Even if you do succeed in splitting them up by planting your nasty little seeds, your girl is going to resent the hell out of you for being so weaselly about it. There is nothing intelligent or acceptable about this sick plan you've conceived. If you have any respect for this girl, or any respect for yourself, you'll just cut your losses and leave the poor lady alone.
He'll just skip over all these posts anyway
Maybe he'll cause the girl to split up with her boyfriend and she'll become depressed and hang her self
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36972606]Right now I'm not actively doing anything with them. Didn't even take them to the mall.
I have decided to back off and watch them fall apart by themselves.
His attitude may cause a huge fight soon.
And to be honest; I am going to try to provoke her.
I've been trying to back off as best I can during the summer.
And here's a short summary: The few single girls I've hung out with haven't so much as glanced at me, while in the other hand the taken girls have been all been flirty (some less some more).[/QUOTE]
(((((((( leave other peoples relationships alone ))))))
((unless there is physical violence)))
But Rusty, that girl's darn(!) boyfriend doesn't appreciate her enough to weasel in on other peoples' business out of some creepy, misguided sense of loyalty! If he doesn't have perverse and twisted fantasies of his lady-love's appreciation with the sick lengths to which he's willing to drag his reprehensible infatuations, then [I]can that really even be called love?[/I]
I change my mind, Roast, you should take love by force and guile, because there's nothing more romantic than obsessive scheming and unwanted meddling.
[editline]28th July 2012[/editline]
She deserves a conniving weirdo, not some under-appreciative jerk!
[editline]28th July 2012[/editline]
Gosh, I hadn't even meant to carry on like that, but I just got so excited for the opportunity to string together entertaining words like "conniving" and "reprehensible" that I simply couldn't stop myself. What fun we're having, now!
BDA, have you no self-control? Stringing words together like conniving and reprehensible, and splashing about making teriyaki chicken for a girl!
I worry.
[editline]29th July 2012[/editline]
We're all worried, man.
This kind of obsession is very unhealthy and contraproductive. Besides, no girl is worth that much trouble. Just chill out. But it's probably better for you to let her go completely.
I don't really know anything about the girl's and her boyfriend's personality and relationship. If he really doesn't appreciate her, their relationship won't last long anyway. And if she's stupid enough to stay in a messy relationship, it's her own fault. Hopefully she'll learn her lesson then.
And you? Like I said you're obsessed and your obsession blinds you. Trust me, I've been there. What you're planning to do is kinda creepy and pretty much unfair to the other guy. Even if he's an ass.
You can't breakup a relationship forcefully, there's nothing unfair. But, wasting your time on a woman with a boyfriend is quite idiotic
If you manage to get the girl to cheat on her boyfriend for you, she's not a very trustworthy girl.
If you manage to get the girl to break up with her boyfriend for you, you're not a very trustworthy guy.
There's no positive outcome that can come from trying to get a girl that's already in a relationship unless you want to hit it & quit it - which is scummy as hell.
Even though I'm not too fond of the rather aggressive ways you've been replying to me or the exaggerated images you have got of me. I still am grateful over that at least someone, somewhere is able to give me negative feedback on it.
Don't know if it has to do more with that the other people I've discussed with about it know me and thus are less likely to disagree with me or because they know more about the whole picture. For some reason all my friends who were having some opposing opinion on it were quick to change their minds.
And for my "obsessive scheming": I have tried my best of keeping my mind off it. But it just boils down to me hanging around with them and then occasionally having to disapprovingly shake my head as the guy does something to make her feel bad and then wondering for how long she is willing to put up with it.
And I sure as hell don't want to jump the gun and do something I'd be sure to regret.
Still all and all: Thanks for the critique, I really do appreciate it.
Can't wait another couple of days for one of your silly awkward posts
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36978960]Even though I'm not too fond of the rather aggressive ways you've been replying to me or the exaggerated images you have got of me. I still am grateful over that at least someone, somewhere is able to give me negative feedback on it.
Don't know if it has to do more with that the other people I've discussed with about it know me and thus are less likely to disagree with me or because they know more about the whole picture. For some reason all my friends who were having some opposing opinion on it were quick to change their minds.
And for my "obsessive scheming": I have tried my best of keeping my mind off it. But it just boils down to me hanging around with them and then occasionally having to disapprovingly shake my head as the guy does something to make her feel bad and then wondering for how long she is willing to put up with it.
And I sure as hell don't want to jump the gun and do something I'd be sure to regret.
Still all and all: Thanks for the critique, I really do appreciate it.[/QUOTE]
if by someone somewhere then you mean everyone everywhere then yea sure.
Gonna be hanging out here for a bit.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;36980230]if by someone somewhere then you mean everyone everywhere then yea sure.[/QUOTE]
Actually, this thread has been the only place where people have lashed at me for it.
God you're a douchebag.
Would you like it if someone did that to you and your girlfriend?
And besides, why do you think she would break up with him without confirming stuff (lies) you told her about him with him?
[B]Plot twist[/B]
I got food poisoning... Guess that pushes shit back a ways
Oh for fucks sake stop being such a whiteknight twat. It's not like as if he magically changes her mind, it's her choice and whether or not it's a "dickmove" by her is irrelevent.
He's bearly doing any significant "dickmoves" on his part, he's just taking advantage (he thinks he does) of the situation. Gloating over another guy's mistakes.
He's manipulating them so they can break up on purpose just so he could hook up with her. How is that not a dick move?
Seith, it's a pretty commonly accepted opinion that weaseling into somebody else's relationship and picking at its threads is a rotten and unscrupulous thing to do. Your reasoning that "if they were meant to be together, they'd be immune to outside influences" reeks to high heaven of Disney-like naievety.
Of course I would not like it being done to myself.
But were I one to watch the guy getting a tad too close with flirting with my girlfriend and then give him more incentive to him by berating her, then I could not say with total honesty that I didn't have it coming at all.
And now talking to someone about what they might already know too well is lying?
I think it is you who is naive. You can't make a person do something, it's just an excuse people make to justify their actions; "She's crazy, no wonder we broke up!", "I cheated on him because he kept lying!", "I fucked his bestfriend because I was so sad!"
Bullshit. The only thing you can do in influence, not make up their mind for them. It's the same with NLP, it only works if beneath the surface you wanted it to happen.
[editline]28th July 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Spirit_Breaker;36980952]He's manipulating them so they can break up on purpose just so he could hook up with her. How is that not a dick move?[/QUOTE]
"And for my "obsessive scheming": I have tried my best of keeping my mind off it. But it just boils down to me hanging around with them and then occasionally having to disapprovingly shake my head as the guy does something to make her feel bad and then wondering for how long she is willing to put up with it."
Truly, if I were her, I would immediately break up with him and fall into the scheming villan's arms.
[QUOTE=Seith;36980893]Oh for fucks sake stop being such a whiteknight twat. It's not like as if he magically changes her mind, it's her choice and whether or not it's a "dickmove" by her is irrelevent.
He's bearly doing any significant "dickmoves" on his part, he's just taking advantage (he thinks he does) of the situation. Gloating over another guy's mistakes.[/QUOTE]
Finally someone who doesn't reply to my posts with red-eyed rage and loathing.
I'm fair to admit that what I'm doing is not the purest of deeds, but all you people act like I'm oblivious to it.
Yes I am taking advantage of the their situation.
The feelings I had towards her never left, but I adapted the mindset of that if the feeling isn't mutual then it should not have any worth. I really started taking advantage of the whole situation with making her see me in a better light then before with the aid of her boyfriend being a total ass when it comes to the hard part of a relationship.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36981178]Finally someone who doesn't reply to my posts with red-eyed rage and loathing.
I'm fair to admit that what I'm doing is not the purest of deeds, but all you people act like I'm oblivious to it.
Yes I am taking advantage of the their situation.
The feelings I had towards her never left, but I adapted the mindset of that if the feeling isn't mutual then it should not have any worth. I really started taking advantage of the whole situation with making her see me in a better light then before with the aid of her boyfriend being a total ass when it comes to the hard part of a relationship.[/QUOTE]
No rage or loathing here, just a grim whimsy in your belief that this will have a good ending for you. Don't you realize that, even if you do succeed in driving them apart, that your lady's reaction will not be to fall into your arms? Do you not get that your position isn't unique? Almost all of us have been there. I sure as hell have! We're not saying these things out of a sense of arbitrary moral guidelines, but out of experience. It's genuine advice, and you're doing yourself a disservice by ignoring it.
This has no movie ending. The most likely result is that the girl dumps her boyfriend for not treating her well, and you for sticking your nose so far into her business, and treating her like she's incapable of functioning without your input. Your involvement in this sounds juvenile, at best; it's the stuff of mid-teen relationships.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36981178]Finally someone who doesn't reply to my posts with red-eyed rage and loathing.[/QUOTE]
so you post asking for advice and then insult everyone who advises you not to make an ass of yourself. why say anything to begin with if you're just going to bash anyone trying to help?
if you try to encourage their breakup, she's going to fucking notice and think you're an ass. that isn't going to help you draw positive attention from her.
No body wants to be a re-bound boyfriend. Trust me.
Roast, how long have you been obsessing over this girl may I ask?
It's not good obsessing over things you don't have, because you may take irrational measures to acquire them. I hope this girl flat out rejects you so you can see how stupid you're being, cry into your pillow and then perhaps realise that getting a girlfriend shouldn't involve scheming and deception.
The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - Sunday Roast edition
roast has always had these weird obsessive little schemes and from the little time that hes been posting in here i know that none of them have worked
The Grima Wormtongue approach to winning your woman's attention, as perfected by third-wheel sad sacks throughout all time.
[editline]28th July 2012[/editline]
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"He doesn't respect you. Have you seen the way he looks at other women? Remember when you wanted tickets to the ice show for your birthday, but he took you to the theater instead? He never listens to you. Not like me."
I'm not going to hang out here anymore.
god i cant stand roast's attitude
i mean seith's is worse, but at least seith has the excuse that he was created in a lab
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