The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=redBadger;37182656]I don't know, I just feel like asking 'hey want to go out sometime?' is way too generic and I just get scared trying to say it.
I've only asked out two girls, you know, and one of them was over text. The first one I did use that line and got a yes, but I still feel really nervous asking.[/QUOTE]
I'd recommend going for something more organic. Make it more of an invitation than a request, to paraphrase a previous poster (he called the latter "subtle begging"). For instance, as he also said, something like "I'm going out for a coffee [owtte], wanna' come?" is much better than "Would you like to go out for a coffee?"
Of course both of those two are better than something as generic/boring/immature as "want to go out sometime". Not an insult, just the truth as far as I can see.
So I guess 'hey do you want to go out for lunch sometime' would be the best way to ask?
[QUOTE=redBadger;37182941]So I guess 'hey do you want to go out for lunch sometime' would be the best way to ask?[/QUOTE]
Or if you still feel kind of akward saying it, as that is more of a direct request, you can approach it how Jgcx said, sort of like, "hey i'm going to grab lunch at XYZ, wana come?"
Just try not to feel akward saying it (easier said than done I know!), if you think shes interested, it wont matter how you ask her really, she'll be glad of the invitation!
Awesome, thanks for the help. I'll try again today if she's there.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37182368]A few days ago I met someone I came very well along with.
It would be a good idea to ask her out.
It's just that my two best friends loathe her.[/QUOTE]
i am prepared for another adventure with roast
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;37183309]i am prepared for another adventure with roast[/QUOTE]
If I were to go on another "Roast's adventure" I'd go more "Spock" this time.
Less infatuation madness and more logical conclusions.
As in:
Before I met her my best friend told me that he'd be impressed if I would not get severely pissed off in her company by getting in arguments with her all the time. So I was prepared to tolerate some grade-A bitchiness that my best friend and his girlfriend had warned me about the whole day before.
Instead my friends were surprised over how well we came along with each other.
Conclusion: Either don't ask her out or ask her out and tell my two best friends to deal with it.
So the girl I have been crushing on big time just asked me if I wanted to hang out so I flipped shit and said yes. She asked if I wanted to bring anyone along but I could not think of anyone so I said no.
She is asking me what I want to go do and I have no idea, help please before I do something stupid.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184172]So the girl I have been crushing on big time just asked me if I wanted to hang out so I flipped shit and said yes. She asked if I wanted to bring anyone along but I could not think of anyone so I said no.
She is asking me what I want to go do and I have no idea, help please before I do something stupid.[/QUOTE]
see a movie? That's what I would say right away, probably not the best idea idk
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184172]So the girl I have been crushing on big time just asked me if I wanted to hang out so I flipped shit and said yes. She asked if I wanted to bring anyone along but I could not think of anyone so I said no.
She is asking me what I want to go do and I have no idea, help please before I do something stupid.[/QUOTE]
For a start, do be careful, but well done! That's a good start, she evidently already has some incentive to be around you.
With regards to what to do, I'd recommend the good ol' stalwart of blossoming relationships: coffee shops. Walks are good too, but often come more organically and therefore shouldn't normally be suggested especially if it's the first time. However, often "hanging out" can actually be viable - this depends on the person. Some people (talking from experience here) like to just sit and talk in the park. Some don't. It really depends.
I don't know what age you are, but unless you're under 15 I would not recommend going to the pictures. It's not really a good way to bond with people. Of course that's fine if you're "mates" and all, there's no need to get any closer there. But it generally can seem a little detached sometimes. Again, depends on the situation.
In short, you want a good location where you can bond, thus a more quiet place with fewer distractions would be best.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37184530]For a start, do be careful, but well done! That's a good start, she evidently already has some incentive to be around you.
With regards to what to do, I'd recommend the good ol' stalwart of blossoming relationships: coffee shops. Walks are good too, but often come more organically and therefore shouldn't normally be suggested especially if it's the first time. However, often "hanging out" can actually be viable - this depends on the person. Some people (talking from experience here) like to just sit and talk in the park. Some don't. It really depends.
I don't know what age you are, but unless you're under 15 I would not recommend going to the pictures. It's not really a good way to bond with people. Of course that's fine if you're "mates" and all, there's no need to get any closer there. But it generally can seem a little detached sometimes. Again, depends on the situation.
In short, you want a good location where you can bond, thus a more quiet place with fewer distractions would be best.[/QUOTE]
Right well I am fifteen and she is sixteen, though she is in a relationship it is long distance and I am not sure how long it will last (although it sounds solid enough right now.) Still hanging out with her would be awesome and I do not want to try anything yet.
We live rather far apart and in a big suburban area so I do not know of many things to do besides go see a movie, so we are going to see the new Batman movie some time. Still going nuts though.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184599]Right well I am fifteen and she is sixteen, [B]though she is in a relationship[/B] it is long distance and I am not sure how long it will last (although it sounds solid enough right now.) Still hanging out with her would be awesome and I do not want to try anything yet.[/QUOTE]
not cool mang, not cool
[QUOTE=Autumn;37184767]not cool mang, not cool[/QUOTE]
What? I just said I do not want to try anything.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37184767]not cool mang, not cool[/QUOTE]
I think he's being okay, Autumn. Nothing wrong with waiting for an opportunity.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184794]What? I just said I do not want to try anything.[/QUOTE]
you may not want to try and put your dick in her, but you're still trying to be in an emotional place that is not cool if she already has a boyfriend.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37184886]you may not want to try and put your dick in her, but you're still trying to be in an emotional place that is not cool if she already has a boyfriend.[/QUOTE]
I am fifteen, I have no plan of putting my dick in her :/
I read somewhere it means something if she brings up crushes and that sort of thing in unrelated conversation, that true?
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184916]I am fifteen, I have no plan of putting my dick in her :/
I read somewhere it means something if she brings up crushes and that sort of thing in unrelated conversation, that true?[/QUOTE]
"it means something" - something what?
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that she's into you?
I don't fucking know I am a sperglord fifteen year old who is grasping at straws at a girl who is completely out of my league, cut me a break.
Yes.
Leagues don't exist, it's all about your confidence.
I have none.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37185270]I have none.[/QUOTE]
i'll make a man out of you
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184954]I don't fucking know I am a sperglord fifteen year old who is grasping at straws at a girl who is completely out of my league, cut me a break.
Yes.[/QUOTE]
Girls don't really have a secret code. If anything it might mean she just considers you a good enough person to talk about it with.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184916]I am fifteen, I have no plan of putting my dick in her :/
I read somewhere it means something if she brings up crushes and that sort of thing in unrelated conversation, that true?[/QUOTE]
You're looking too deep into this stuff.
It's possible that she's just friendly with you and that you got infatuated.
[QUOTE=Spirit_Breaker;37185380]You're looking too deep into this stuff.
It's possible that she's just friendly with you and that you got infatuated.[/QUOTE]
I've felt like this since I met her :/
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37185559]I've felt like this since I met her :/[/QUOTE]
that doesn't mean anything re: infatuation, in fact it probably makes it even more likely
[QUOTE=Seith;37182175]I agree, but that's a temporary solution and it's completely bullshit when people say "it will go away with time". Nothing goes away on it's own, unless you treat it.
Deep breathes to the stomach, concentrating only on that to calm yourself is a brilliant way to keep your head off shit. That's physically speaking.
Mentally, I would suggest sitting and finding out why you care so much[B] and reversing that thought process.[/B][/QUOTE]
I don't want to reverse it. Things are going great. I just need to find a way to find my hobbies interesting again instead of being bored when I'm not around her. I know it's silly and things might go back to normal after a bit, but it's still really annoying.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37184886]you may not want to try and put your dick in her, but you're still trying to be in an emotional place that is not cool if she already has a boyfriend.[/QUOTE]
She is the one whom asked him out? Might as well do friendly stuff and get to know eachother if she is gonna initiate it.
Yeah but it wasn't really asking him out, she asked him to hang out and bring friends
(eg. it is likely she wants to just be friends)
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37187583]Yeah but it wasn't really asking him out, she asked him to hang out and bring friends
(eg. it is likely she wants to just be friends)[/QUOTE]
She never said to bring friends, she asked if I wanted to or not.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37188105]She never said to bring friends, she asked if I wanted to or not.[/QUOTE]
It's still just a friendly outing, that doesn't mean she wants in your pants.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37188105]She never said to bring friends, she asked if I wanted to or not.[/QUOTE]
From what I've seen, bringing friends during the beginning is a good idea more often than not.
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