• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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I'm kind of introverted so I find it really hard to vocalise what I'm thinking or feeling to people. Like I have a hard time really having a proper conversation about what's on my mind. Any advice?
[QUOTE=Slowbro;37189825]I'm kind of introverted so I find it really hard to vocalise what I'm thinking or feeling to people. Like I have a hard time really having a proper conversation about what's on my mind. Any advice?[/QUOTE] There isn't really any advice other than to practice and get comfortable talking to people. Its something you have to do on your own mostly.
My college friend just sent me nude pics of local chicks, is taking me working out with him and is dragging me to a party full of drunk college chicks. I am so conflicted right now.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37190664]dragging me to a party full of drunk college chicks[/QUOTE] That's what they always say, then you get there and there's 20 guys, 2 girls and no AC.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37190664]My college friend just sent me nude pics of local chicks[/QUOTE] [img]http://facepunch.com/image.php?u=381945&dateline=1344323869[/img] [sp] I couldnt resist[/sp]
Besides, parties are overrated unless you're looking to get laid.
So there's this chick I work with. I sorta like her. We've always talked on our shifts (shes a cashier, I am a bagger, we work at a local food chain). Today was my last day, hence i will not be working there anymore. I'm pretty sure, since my mom wants me to spend this week with her (as I leave for college in one week, Saturday), I will not get a face to face encounter. Would it be acceptable to "give" her my number via FB message?
[QUOTE=gerbile5;37191261]So there's this chick I work with. I sorta like her. We've always talked on our shifts (shes a cashier, I am a bagger, we work at a local food chain). Today was my last day, hence i will not be working there anymore. I'm pretty sure, since my mom wants me to spend this week with her (as I leave for college in one week, Saturday), I will not get a face to face encounter. Would it be acceptable to "give" her my number via FB message?[/QUOTE] I would. I'd say something like "Hey! I had fun talking to you at work. Here's my number is you ever want to just chat/talk/text/hang out/chill", or whatever your preferred choice is.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37185270]I have none.[/QUOTE] yo seriously confidence is just telling yourself that you have it its not some magic substance you need to train hard for months to obtain its just a state of mind where you say "im gonna do it" and you do it (or at least make an honest attempt). its literally just something where you remind yourself to be confident and in the end things turn out -awesome- because of it. in a totally non-cliche way its just "believing in yourself" and not hating yourself and saying "im too ugly" or "im too short" or whatever. just remind yourself you're good enough, you're smart/skilled/handsome or whatever and go for it. even if you're a trainwreck, just being confident will take you a LONG ways and when you walk away from having asked some girl to go get lunch you'll feel stellar [editline]12th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37188105]She never said to bring friends, she asked if I wanted to or not.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184172]So the girl I have been crushing on big time just asked me if I wanted to hang out so I flipped shit and said yes. She asked if I wanted to bring anyone along but I could not think of anyone so I said no. She is asking me what I want to go do and I have no idea, help please before I do something stupid.[/QUOTE] ?
Yesterday/Aug11 was my birthday. I don't tell that to anyone, really ever, because I don't want them to feel obligated to be all "Happy Birthday" and stuff. :| happy birthday to me
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37184954]I don't fucking know I am a sperglord [b]fifteen year old[/b] who is grasping at straws at a girl who is completely out of my league, cut me a break.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37190664]My college friend just sent me nude pics of local chicks, is taking me working out with him and is dragging me to a party full of drunk college chicks.[/QUOTE] going cougar hunting?
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37191721]yo seriously confidence is just telling yourself that you have it its not some magic substance you need to train hard for months to obtain its just a state of mind where you say "im gonna do it" and you do it (or at least make an honest attempt). its literally just something where you remind yourself to be confident and in the end things turn out -awesome- because of it. in a totally non-cliche way its just "believing in yourself" and not hating yourself and saying "im too ugly" or "im too short" or whatever. just remind yourself you're good enough, you're smart/skilled/handsome or whatever and go for it. even if you're a trainwreck, just being confident will take you a LONG ways and when you walk away from having asked some girl to go get lunch you'll feel stellar [/QUOTE] You can't just tell yourself you have confidence, because you can lie. A person has to garner it, create it, feel it, and harness it properly to have an effect. Easiest way to garner confidence is to increase self-esteem and practice in the area where you feel lacking, feel good about yourself and your ability and your confidence will grow. Sure you might fail and get kicked down more than a few times, but failing is still experience much needed and failing is just another sign on the road to success. Go on and get 'em tiger. [IMG]http://www.higheredutah.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/all-thumbs-up-blue-sky.jpg[/IMG]
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[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37190664]My college friend just sent me nude pics of local chicks, is taking me working out with him and is dragging me to a party full of drunk college chicks. I am so conflicted right now.[/QUOTE] gross
[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;37191936]gross[/QUOTE] Who said they were ugly? Unless you are gay..
[QUOTE=G3rman;37191966]Who said they were ugly? Unless you are gay..[/QUOTE] i think hes referring to a university student sending nude pictures of local girls who are probably underage to a 15 year old
Yooooo guys. It's been a while! I know I always say this but I am going to make much more of an effort to stay posted on this thread (at the least), it's just that I've recently started working a full-time job! It's been great, I'm an IT support officer for a school, so it's basically a 9-5, 5 days a week. The whole experience has been so rewarding and I've learnt so much already, and overall it has just felt so great to finally be doing [I]something[/I] after graduating high-school. It's given me such an insight into what goes on on the other side of being a school student, as well as just the general life experience which comes from travelling to and from and working in a professional work environment. I've also been trying to write/blog more, so if anyone's interested in following that, [url=http://toshowyouwhathystericsis.blogspot.com.au/]this post here[/url] serves as a kinda about me/about the blog, so feel free to check it out. It's not [I]entirely[/I] shameless self-promotion as I think some of the things I write about could be useful and/or relevant to this thread and its members, or at least I'd like to think so. Apart from all that, I've been doing well. I decided to stop 'trying' with that girl I was harping on about for the last ages, and since then we've actually just become more friendly, which I'm genuinely quite happy about. Fuck all this friend-zone nonsense, to me any such concept only exists for guys which are frustrated with a girl and their lack of reciprocity, leading them to do a whole assortment of things which only make the situation worse. You can have feelings for a girl and still be very comfortable with being their friend. If that becomes a problem to you, or her, or causes any drama or discomfort for either of you, [I]then[/I] you've got an issue which you need to figure out. Anyway, I've been making some other new friends too, and next Monday I have a dinner date with a girl from high-school which I'm quite excited about. It'll be nice to catch up after so long! That's all for now. /updates on my life
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37191721]yo seriously confidence is just telling yourself that you have it its not some magic substance you need to train hard for months to obtain its just a state of mind where you say "im gonna do it" and you do it (or at least make an honest attempt). its literally just something where you remind yourself to be confident and in the end things turn out -awesome- because of it. in a totally non-cliche way its just "believing in yourself" and not hating yourself and saying "im too ugly" or "im too short" or whatever. just remind yourself you're good enough, you're smart/skilled/handsome or whatever and go for it. even if you're a trainwreck, just being confident will take you a LONG ways and when you walk away from having asked some girl to go get lunch you'll feel stellar ?[/QUOTE] Misworded. [editline]12th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Kopimi;37192030]i think hes referring to a university student sending nude pictures of local girls who are probably underage to a 15 year old[/QUOTE] He just graduated this year so he had the pics from high school. [editline]12th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Disseminate;37190814]That's what they always say, then you get there and there's 20 guys, 2 girls and no AC.[/QUOTE] Apparently the parties this guy throws are nuts. My friend got laid in the middle of the last one, some random guys from Philly had nitrogen balloons to pass around and there was alcohol and drunk chicks everywhere.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37192169]Misworded. [editline]12th August 2012[/editline] He just graduated this year so he had the pics from high school. [editline]12th August 2012[/editline] Apparently the parties this guy throws are nuts. My friend got laid in the middle of the last one, some random guys from Philly had nitrogen balloons to pass around and there was alcohol and drunk chicks everywhere.[/QUOTE] how did you misword it
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37192734]how did you misword it[/QUOTE] Didn't make it clear enough.
[QUOTE=ramirez!;37191768]Yesterday/Aug11 was my birthday. I don't tell that to anyone, really ever, because I don't want them to feel obligated to be all "Happy Birthday" and stuff. :| happy birthday to me[/QUOTE] Happy birthday! My 21st was on the 9th.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37192807]Didn't make it clear enough.[/QUOTE] well i know what misworded means, i was asking how you didn't make it clear enough / to make it clear you said she asked you if you wanted to bring people and then said she didn't ask you to bring friends so i was/am confused!
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37192831]well i know what misworded means, i was asking how you didn't make it clear enough / to make it clear you said she asked you if you wanted to bring people and then said she didn't ask you to bring friends so i was/am confused![/QUOTE] I meant she asked if I wanted to bring people but she really did not push for it at all, sorry I am tired.
[QUOTE=D0C H.;37186355]I don't want to reverse it. Things are going great. I just need to find a way to find my hobbies interesting again instead of being bored when I'm not around her. I know it's silly and things might go back to normal after a bit, but it's still really annoying.[/QUOTE] This post is barely coherent. You're all over the place.
[QUOTE=Seith;37192984]This post is barely coherent. You're all over the place.[/QUOTE] SYNTAX ERROR: Abort, Retry, Fail?
[QUOTE=Slowbro;37189825]I'm kind of introverted so I find it really hard to vocalise what I'm thinking or feeling to people. Like I have a hard time really having a proper conversation about what's on my mind. Any advice?[/QUOTE] start on the internet in text chats move onto skype move into IRL works, mostly
[QUOTE=trotskygrad;37193940]start on the internet in text chats move onto skype move into IRL works, mostly[/QUOTE] No...no..
[QUOTE=G3rman;37193961]No...no..[/QUOTE] ?
[QUOTE=Seith;37194005]?[/QUOTE] Best way to build up your skill in RL conversation is RL conversation, not text on the internet. You can act like anyone on the internet, but you can't hide behind a monitor in real life. Just talk to friends or family and then step it up to people you don't normally talk to. It's just something you have to experience first hand.
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