• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Telling a girl how it is to be friendzoned is hard. Especially when she is the one putting you in the zone. Actually I probably shouldn't even call it that. She is well aware of my feelings for her, but she is simply not interested in me. I'm glad we're so close that we can actually talk about properly.
[QUOTE=Runar;37241684]Telling a girl how it is to be friendzoned is hard. Especially when she is the one putting you in the zone.[/quote] false [QUOTE=Runar;37241684]Actually I probably shouldn't even call it that. She is well aware of my feelings for her, but she is simply not interested in me. I'm glad we're so close that we can actually talk about properly.[/QUOTE] true
Now, the ultimate question is: Does she care or would she prefer having her way/choice?
[QUOTE=gufu;37241968]Now, the ultimate question is: Does she care or would she prefer having her way/choice?[/QUOTE] She does care, I know that. And what exactly do you mean with "her way/choice"?
[QUOTE=Runar;37242011]She does care, I know that. And what exactly do you mean with "her way/choice"?[/QUOTE] Well, I would assume that the reason you are not in a relationship with her is because she does not want to be in a relationship with you. Although, that would imply that if she cares, she would start a relationship with you, which would not really be a correct way to go about that. Edit: Well, since she doesn't want to be with you, no need to creep on the gal, then.
[QUOTE=gufu;37242193]Well, I would assume that the reason you are not in a relationship with her is because she does not want to be in a relationship with you. Although, that would imply that if she cares, she would start a relationship with you, which would not really be a correct way to go about that.[/QUOTE] Yes, that is the reason we are not in a relationship. I don't think I really understand what you mean with "cares". Are you saying that because she feels sorry for me because she is not interested, she interested? I'm a bit confused now :v:
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37237124]I was interested but my two best friends advised me to not go for this girl (not the first time they have advised me to stay away from troublesome women). Like the last girl they told me to stay away from is now in a relationship with some truck driver that is almost 10 years older than her (she is 19), not to mention that she had/has a fuckbuddy in each major town (I even met one of them). Sure I'm going to keep looking for singles. But I didn't dismiss the last girl I met due to not being as good as the other one. I decided to dismiss her because of how much my best friends loathe her. But the thing is that their relationship is closing in to it's natural end, so started standing on my toes again. And I'm specifically going to mess around with it by just hanging out with her. Just thinking about it from a logical standpoint: You are in a relationship that consists of mostly of casual talk and sex, a relationship that was even put on a break at one point not too long ago, then we insert another person, your relations with this person consist of the casual talk when there are other people obscuring the flow and when you two have your space you can just go on and on until the time you have runs out. If I may take it up again (and hopefully not sound like a broken record): Today when I was going to a self-defense class with my best friend he told me that he thinks that I and the girl get along better then her and her boyfriend. First on our way back home I figured out that I should ask him why he thinks this way. Reason was that from what he's seen; me and the girl have deeper discussions, while the girl and her boyfriends interaction is that what could be described as naive and lacking in weight. I tried to dismiss it but I actually could not remember any time I've had a deeper discussion with the guy. Nothing like I've had with the girl, where I'd got to hear about her woes, aspirations, ideas and thoughts. At least I know for sure that I ain't lying to myself about why I like this girl, when a friend points out to me what makes me tick.[/QUOTE] listening to you talk about how other people are telling you you'd be a better match for this girl is so painful and awkward. you're p pathetic if you're incapable of A. handling relationships without your mongoloid friends telling you who you can and can't date, and B. find single women instead of being the creepy dude who was secretly friendzoned trying to ruin someone elses relationship. i've known this girl i absolutely adore for the past like 6 years and she's been in a relationship for like 4, but instead of being a passive aggressive and weird i just moved on and found other gals. if she wanted to date you she'd be dating you
I guess I never told told anyone in this forum how things went out with the previous girl who asked me out this summer: I met her boyfriend and also her secret lover. But is it hard to try to move on when the girl you fancy asks you out. Ergo, I'm going to ask her out next time, because the last two times we hung out it was her asking me out. And no, I was not secretly friendzoned, she is quite aware of that I have had feelings for her. Besides, I'm happy with not dating the two girls my friends advised me not to. So I'm going to try start hanging out with the girl I have a crush on because she seems to want to hang out with me. Then I'm going to try and see how things work out. The thing here kinda is that I'm asking from advice from two sides. One side being people on the internet I don't know and the other being my closest friends, whom have seen the situation from a closer perspective, thus know more, thus I might trust more on the advice. I really do appreciate your advice here and like you advised I moved on as best as I could. Last weekend I even though about all the opportunities that I would have with other girl when I go back to school. And yes, "my friend pointed out" I had put myself in the mindset that the feelings I have for the girl were just shallow infatuation. But once I hung out with her last weekend I was quick to change my mind. My friend just re-assured me.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37246712]I guess I never told told anyone in this forum how things went out with the previous girl who asked me out this summer: I met her boyfriend and also her secret lover. But is it hard to try to move on when the girl you fancy asks you out. Ergo, I'm going to ask her out next time, because the last two times we hung out it was her asking me out. And no, I was not secretly friendzoned, she is quite aware of that I have had feelings for her. Besides, I'm happy with not dating the two girls my friends advised me not to. So I'm going to try start hanging out with the girl I have a crush on because she seems to want to hang out with me. Then I'm going to try and see how things work out. The thing here kinda is that I'm asking from advice from two sides. One side being people on the internet I don't know and the other being my closest friends, whom have seen the situation from a closer perspective, thus know more, thus I might trust more on the advice. I really do appreciate your advice here and like you advised I moved on as best as I could. Last weekend I even though about all the opportunities that I would have with other girl when I go back to school. And yes, "my friend pointed out" I had put myself in the mindset that the feelings I have for the girl were just shallow infatuation. But once I hung out with her last weekend I was quick to change my mind. My friend just re-assured me.[/QUOTE] Thing is that unless her relationship really is on the verge of breaking, you are wasting your time. You can get in a relationship with a girl (Not the extremely small selection your friends suggest, go out and explore the world for women) and still hang out with the girl you like. You are just wasting your time which could be served doing much more fun things rather than waiting for an idle chance to just hang out. I'd hate for you to think this girl is good and worth the wait when she really isn't and you find out you could have been a lot more productive the weeks and months you spent waiting.
I am not going to to shun anyone yet because of this girl. I'm just going try and hang out with her some more and just see what happens. The only thing I'm actively trying to achieve right now is to become her "confidential guy friend", and that doesn't seem too far fetched. Besides, she has changed her mind before. Like her current boyfriend was her "confidential guy friend" back when she was falling head over heels for this other guy whom friendzoned her. And I have to doubt that if there were nothing between us we wouldn't have had any of those more special kinds of "moments". But that is just a personal thought I don't dare to bet on.
So am I to understand a good place to look for bookish/educated/whateveryouwanttocallit women would be coffee shops? Or bookshops? Were those the suggestions, or did I misunderstand?
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37251401]So am I to understand a good place to look for bookish/educated/whateveryouwanttocallit women would be coffee shops? Or bookshops? Were those the suggestions, or did I misunderstand?[/QUOTE] some bookstores even have their own coffee shops inside
[QUOTE=Protocol7;37251422]some bookstores even have their own coffee shops inside[/QUOTE] Okay uh cool, I knew that, but are they good places to find those kinds of women?
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37251499]Okay uh cool, I knew that, but are they good places to find those kinds of women?[/QUOTE] I can't speak from experience but I would imagine most idiot women stay away from bookshops [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] And coffee shops are generally social places so
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37251499]Okay uh cool, I knew that, but are they good places to find those kinds of women?[/QUOTE] There is never any guarantee, just go somewhere and talk.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37252350]There is never any guarantee, just go [B]somewhere[/B] and talk.[/QUOTE] ...I'm asking what that "somewhere" is. Once I've found someone, I'm fine. It's the actual looking part that I'm asking advice for.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37252632]...I'm asking what that "somewhere" is. Once I've found someone, I'm fine. It's the actual looking part that I'm asking advice for.[/QUOTE] All the places you have been finding unintelligent women, don't go there. Otherwise just explore and go new places, you can find them anywhere. Coffee shops and libraries are a start but not a guarantee.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37252632]...I'm asking what that "somewhere" is. Once I've found someone, I'm fine. It's the actual looking part that I'm asking advice for.[/QUOTE] there is no magical place where all the bookish women are guaranteed to hang out. people have already suggested coffee/bookshops and i also think they would be a good place to start.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37252689]there is no magical place where all the bookish women are guaranteed to hang out. people have already suggested coffee/bookshops and i also think they would be a good place to start.[/QUOTE] I know, I wasn't asking for that. Those seem good places to start but I was merely inquiring to see if anyone had any other ideas.
given that you've asked this question over and over and gotten the same response, it's probably fair to assume that people don't have any more suggestions at this point...
You just need to go to the bookish women convention. They meet every Friday in your local Girl Depot.
Wait, you never went to the magical intelligent people only club? You have to have an IQ of 140 or higher to get in, there it's guaranteed that all the girls will be smart [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37254052]You just need to go to the bookish women convention. They meet every Friday in your local Girl Depot.[/QUOTE] Oh you did my joke but did it better and earlier.
[QUOTE=Zanpa;37254097]Wait, you never went to the magical intelligent people only club? You have to have an IQ of 140 or higher to get in, there it's guaranteed that all the girls will be smart [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] Oh you did my joke but did it better and earlier.[/QUOTE] That actually exists and it's called Mensa.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;37254125]That actually exists and it's called Mensa.[/QUOTE] I chose my words poorly, I thought of a night club or something, I don't actually know how you call these in english so yeah. [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] IQ is the worst bullshit there is anyway so I wouldn't go to MENSA to find "smart" people
[QUOTE=Zanpa;37254177]I chose my words poorly, I thought of a night club or something, I don't actually know how you call these in english so yeah. [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] IQ is the worst bullshit there is anyway so I wouldn't go to MENSA to find "smart" people[/QUOTE] no you'd go to Mensa to find people who want to think they're [sp]pretentious[/sp] smart
So I am playing with this one girl for half a year already, told her i like her and all that crap. Still nothing, not even a kiss. (well i gave her kisses yeah). So, I decided to not give a fuck when I went out with her and friends. Well, suprisingly, she followed me. But now I feel bad for not even talking to her and I think she doesn't wants to see me lol. Should I stop?
[QUOTE=Protocol7;37254270]no you'd go to Mensa to find people who want to think they're [sp]pretentious[/sp] smart[/QUOTE] Yup, people who think IQ is worth caring about are the worst assholes. I went to a school where they asked for the results of an IQ test and you had to be over whatever number it was to enter, so supposedly all pupils there were "smart", but it was absolutely terrible and my parents got me out of there after a year. I'm sorry for the off-topic posts by the way, I will stop and try not to do it again. [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=HeatPipe;37254424]So I am playing with this one girl for half a year already, told her i like her and all that crap. Still nothing, not even a kiss. (well i gave her kisses yeah). So, I decided to not give a fuck when I went out with her and friends. Well, suprisingly, she followed me. But now I feel bad for not even talking to her and I think she doesn't wants to see me lol. Should I stop?[/QUOTE] Not even talking to her might be a bit extreme. It can be a good thing to get a bit further from her to see if she comes back to you, but completely ignoring her seems too much to me.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37246712]The thing here kinda is that I'm asking from advice from two sides. One side being people on the internet I don't know and the other being my closest friends, whom have seen the situation from a closer perspective, thus know more, thus I might trust more on the advice.[/QUOTE] The problem is that you've been listening to your friends' advice, which usually goes totally against ours, ever since you've started posting in this thread way back when, and so far it's gotten you nowhere, with anyone. You don't see a pattern? Perhaps your friends, whether or not they're closer to the situation than us, are simply wrong? If I were in your position, I would certainly be questioning the accuracy of their advice by now, and maybe, I dunno, try some out of this other giant pool of experience that you choose to ignore time and time again.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37246712]the other being my closest friends, whom have seen the situation from a closer perspective, thus know more, thus I might trust more on the advice.[/QUOTE] your closest friends are retards, true talk
you know what's hilarious how Sunday_Roast ignores all advice given, ever like, come on man
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