The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=djshox;37262540]i think i may know an issue, but it's going to be harsh
do you still want to hear it?[/QUOTE]
Why not.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37262495]That is an incredibly stupid perception. Anyway the stereotype of bi being sluts is mostly from slutty females who just decide they are bi but arn't really.
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Automerge why you fail me now![/QUOTE]
i wasn't really being serious, i don't get how sexual orientation makes you whorish other than if you're a pornstar or something
[QUOTE=Mobon1;37262583]i wasn't really being serious, i don't get how sexual orientation makes you whorish other than if you're a pornstar or something[/QUOTE]
Ah okay, and thats true it doesn't, its a weird stereotype. Everyone has one :v:
Pansexuals arn't too well known so there isn't one I know of woo
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37262623]Ah okay, and thats true it doesn't, its a weird stereotype. Everyone has one :v:
Pansexuals arn't too well known so there isn't one I know of woo[/QUOTE]
I get a lot of "YOURE JUST A GAY MAN IN A WOMANS BODY" shit from some people. Also, a LOT of people are all "So you wanna fuck trees and shit?" It really angers me how people toy with my sexuality as if it's some joke.
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37262703]I get a lot of "YOURE JUST A GAY MAN IN A WOMANS BODY" shit from some people. Also, a LOT of people are all "So you wanna fuck trees and shit?" It really angers me how people toy with my sexuality as if it's some joke.[/QUOTE]
Im very selective in who knows my sexuality for this reason. Ive had bad experiences with telling people so I avoid most people knowing.
Gay man in a womans body? I dont even get that concept XP? People make up weird things to call people sometimes. The second one makes a little sense.
hey bamfan my sarcastic comment sort of caused you to prejudice against me but i have genuine advice
and as easy as it is to believe, i'm not trying to be a dick
i creeped a little on your facebook and to put it lightly, i would work on your weight
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37262841]Im very selective in who knows my sexuality for this reason. Ive had bad experiences with telling people so I avoid most people knowing.
Gay man in a womans body? I dont even get that concept XP? People make up weird things to call people sometimes. The second one makes a little sense.[/QUOTE]
Exactly. I told someone my sexuality and gender identity and he was all " you just want an excuse to be a whore/ you cant get a real man so you open yourself up to everyone".
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37262914]Exactly. I told someone my sexuality and gender identity and he was all " you just want an excuse to be a whore/ you cant get a real man so you open yourself up to everyone".[/QUOTE]
Yeah, that's the perception that happens a lot. Really annoying. Just cause someone likes girls doesn't mean they want to fuck every one of them. Same with pan. Just cause I can be attracted to anyone doesn't mean I want to fuck everyone lol.
Anyway we should stop whining about the same stuff I guess :v: I doubt the rest of the thread wants to read this
ANYWHO. Agreeing with Rhenae.
Anybody here watch Game of Thrones? :D
[editline]15th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Mobon1;37262904]hey bamfan my sarcastic comment sort of caused you to prejudice against me but i have genuine advice
and as easy as it is to believe, i'm not trying to be a dick
i creeped a little on your facebook and to put it lightly, i would work on your weight[/QUOTE]
I am, actually. :D Thanks for the advice.
personally i think gay man in a woman's body is quite a hilarious way to describe pansexuals
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37262703]I get a lot of "YOURE JUST A GAY MAN IN A WOMANS BODY" shit from some people. Also, a LOT of people are all "So you wanna fuck trees and shit?" It really angers me how people toy with my sexuality as if it's some joke.[/QUOTE]
If people rag on you for who you are attracted too that's p. bad, but if there's one thing I learned from my years as a gay guy is that sexuality isn't hollowed ground of conversation, even amongst other queer people. I mainly bring this up because the tree fucking thing made me chuckle (albeit I dunno the context in which it was said).
[QUOTE=BagMinge104;37263567]If people rag on you for who you are attracted too that's p. bad, but if there's one thing I learned from my years as a gay guy is that sexuality isn't hollowed ground of conversation, even amongst other queer people. I mainly bring this up because the tree fucking thing made me chuckle (albeit I dunno the context in which it was said).[/QUOTE]
It made me laugh at first as well, then I realized the person saying it was being serious. I was like "Uhhh, wtf?"
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37263683]It made me laugh at first as well, then I realized the person saying it was being serious. I was like "Uhhh, wtf?"[/QUOTE]
How does tree fucking work? I'd imagine you'd find a knot (or a branch if your a bottom) and just...
oh dear
[QUOTE=BagMinge104;37263738]How does tree fucking work? I'd imagine you'd find a knot (or a branch if your a bottom) and just...
oh dear[/QUOTE]
Well, I dunno. I remember seeing something, I think Family Guy, where he walks up on a tree smacking it's jack
[QUOTE=BagMinge104;37263738]How does tree fucking work? I'd imagine you'd find a knot (or a branch if your a bottom) and just...
oh dear[/QUOTE]
You find a friendly Ent and let him ravish you.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;37264486]You find a friendly Ent and let him ravish you.[/QUOTE]
Woah, woah, woahhhh. Are you an Ent?
[QUOTE=Dan2593;37256517]Sorry but what the fuck.
You just gonna stroll into a shop and say "Excuse me, let's be boyfriend and girlfriend because we're in a coffee shop so you're probably my type". That's not weird as shit or anything.
You're going about it wrong. You don't force meeting somebody. It freaking happens. You meet a friends friend (or maybe just a friend or a person) and go "Oh shit I kinda like them" and you get to know them a bit more and decide what to do about it. You don't make a shopping list and try to find a shop which specialises in what you're looking for. I've fancied a lot of girls I never would've initially gone for, that's life. Your friends have friends, they have friends, one of those friends throws a party or organises a night out and you all go and bam you've met somebody. My arse bookish people are stereotypes and don't go to parties or clubs, I've met more bookish people at parties and clubs. I know a girl who reads Lord of the Rings religiously and I met her in a club. Plus you're more likely to talk and make progress with somebody who has had a little than some sober girl who's just trying to read a fucking book and drink a latte on her own because she got some down time to herself.
Sorry. I just got annoyed at this entire question.
I guess my point is, in the nicest way, stop forcing things. Let life happen. It's more fun.
[editline]15th August 2012[/editline]
Somebody (Possibly him himself) give me the Sunday Roast situation in a concise paragraph. I don't care enough to read the whole fucking thread to see somebody not accept advice.[/QUOTE]
I never questioned his reasoning for choosing bookish type of women, nor should I. Everyone gets turned on by whatever turns them on, I won't go around barking my unbased opinions on whether his choice to chase bookish women is legitimate or not.
yesterday at 2:00 A.M my girlfriend messaged me on skype saying "I can't do this let's just be friends sorry," i wasn't exactly upset by this but just surprised because it was random
asked why and she told me because she "wants to hang out in real life before committing to anything"
bear in mind that we hung out before and it's not like we were completely alienated to eachother, yet she says this after being with 10~ guys on the internet whom live fucking thousands of miles away and one of them she didn't even know what he looked like yet she dated him for 6 months
girls are fucking confusing as hell
[QUOTE=The First 11'er;37266140]yesterday at 2:00 A.M my girlfriend messaged me on skype saying "I can't do this let's just be friends sorry," i wasn't exactly upset by this but just surprised because it was random
asked why and she told me because she "wants to hang out in real life before committing to anything"
bear in mind that we hung out before and it's not like we were completely alienated to eachother, yet she says this after being with 10~ guys on the internet whom live fucking thousands of miles away and one of them she didn't even know what he looked like yet she dated him for 6 months
girls are fucking confusing as hell[/QUOTE]
Is this a long distance relationship? If so, even if she is known to be flip floppy, that is a very good reason to not want to stay in a relationship as its hard to find feelings when you are apart for extended periods of time without having a strong bond.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37266167]Is this a long distance relationship? If so, even if she is known to be flip floppy, that is a very good reason to not want to stay in a relationship as its hard to find feelings when you are apart for extended periods of time without having a strong bond.[/QUOTE]
no, we live in the same city and i use to go to school with her, she transferred though
[QUOTE=The First 11'er;37267053]no, we live in the same city and i use to go to school with her, she transferred though[/QUOTE]
Well if you aren't with her regularly then its hard for a real relationship to come out of it, or at least she feels that way. You can't change the way she acts or what she wants, perhaps it is for the best.
[QUOTE=Seith;37265967]I never questioned his reasoning for choosing bookish type of women, nor should I. Everyone gets turned on by whatever turns them on, I won't go around barking my unbased opinions on whether his choice to chase bookish women is legitimate or not.[/QUOTE]
Nobody questioned the legitimacy of his interests, just the way he was going about it. What Dan said is true, you [I]do[/I] just meet people, you don't go to place x in search or type y. It hardly ever happens like that. Sure, you're probably more likely to meet someone who likes reading books in, y'know, a book store, but to think of it so categorically is limiting and really kinda dumb.
Want to meet women? Get out of the house, do your thing, and enjoy your life. Seriously.
Also 11'er, so wait, she, "wants to hang out in real life before committing to anything"? So you've never spent time together and she's somehow your 'girlfriend'? I am confused.
Edit: I misread your last post. If she honestly 'broke up' with you over Skype like that then fuck it, man. It doesn't sound like you're too beat up about it, which is good.
Personally, I'd ask her if she would like to talk things over in person, but otherwise, onto better things dude.
UNRELATED BUT STILL KIND OF RELATED, I made this Status the other day. Some food for thought, maybe:
"Why is it that being a homosexual man is considered to be such a social taboo and contrary to so many of our 'ideals' of masculinity, whilst being a homosexual woman is regarded as a symbol of empowerment and ~independent womanhood~ (who dun need no man u go gurrrl, etc)?
Is that right? Or do we still hold and continue to perpetuate some pretty skewed gender roles and ideals within our society? Why are we yet to call into question what 'being a man' is all about, given the context of our post-feminist world? Has the whole women's rights movement distracted us from the fact that much of our perceptions of, and the discourse surrounding masculinity is still just as outdated and similarly repressive?
I think that for a man to honestly confront and accept whoever or whatever he is, and to find confidence and fulfillment in that, is infinitely more 'manly' than a guy who has benched enough plates, knocked back enough beers, and 'gamed' enough women to forget what genuine emotion feels like.
So I say fuck your 'alpha' male; we're human beings, not apes.
Discuss (?),
faggots."
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;37269838]
UNRELATED BUT STILL KIND OF RELATED, I made this Status the other day. Some food for thought, maybe:
"Why is it that being a homosexual man is considered to be such a social taboo and contrary to so many of our 'ideals' of masculinity, whilst being a homosexual woman is regarded as a symbol of empowerment and ~independent womanhood~ (who dun need no man u go gurrrl, etc)?
Is that right? Or do we still hold and continue to perpetuate some pretty skewed gender roles and ideals within our society? Why are we yet to call into question what 'being a man' is all about, given the context of our post-feminist world? Has the whole women's rights movement distracted us from the fact that much of our perceptions of, and the discourse surrounding masculinity is still just as outdated and similarly repressive?
I think that for a man to honestly confront and accept whoever or whatever he is, and to find confidence and fulfillment in that, is infinitely more 'manly' than a guy who has benched enough plates, knocked back enough beers, and 'gamed' enough women to forget what genuine emotion feels like.
So I say fuck your 'alpha' male; we're human beings, not apes.
Discuss (?),
faggots."[/QUOTE]
Pardon me, but lesbians get just as much shit as gay men, if they come out. Often from other women. Dyke is not a pleasant term and is often used as an insult for a woman who is "too masculine".
Fag is the equivalent for a male, calling them essentially too feminine. Irrelevant of if they are actually gay or not.
The concept of strong independent woman, to be honest, comes more from those who go lesbian because men hurt them, so they perpetuate that. It's a vocal part of the community. The whole LGBT community is made of a mix of people, of varying personality. The males are just as proud at a pride parade as the females :)
It's a nice sentiment you have there but seems to be lacking some data. :)
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Also I would love to see what responses you get to that post :v:
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;37269838]So I say fuck your 'alpha' male; we're human beings, not apes.
Discuss (?),
faggots."[/QUOTE]
What's your argument for this? The fact you're assuming an alpha male is someone who bench presses weights and drinks beer shows to me you're not thinking of it from a balanced and neutral perspective and instead from one where you have pre-conceived thoughts about that type of person, the same type of person you would consider an alpha male. It seems, and I'm not meaning this as an insult, as though you believe you are [B]not[/B] an alpha male.
Discuss.
how do i talk to people
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37270100]Pardon me, but lesbians get just as much shit as gay men, if they come out. Often from other women.[/QUOTE]
Uggh I'm so tired of hearing gay friendly women say that this doesn't happen.
Of course it does, homophobia doesn't come just from men. Women can be just as touchy about the matter as men can, sometimes even more.
She just told me she might just put off boy friends until college and now I am freaking out and trying to find ways to convince her otherwise without seeming interested. Woo.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37271086]She just told me she might just put off boy friends until college and now I am freaking out and trying to find ways to convince her otherwise without seeming interested. Woo.[/QUOTE]
Ask her why she wants to do that? Seems silly to me.
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My dad has now called my bf by my previous bfs name twice now.
The first time was while he was here at supper, at least my bf wasn't around this time :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37271224]Ask her why she wants to do that? Seems silly to me.
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My dad has now called my bf by my previous bfs name twice now.
The first time was while he was here at supper, at least my bf wasn't around this time :v:[/QUOTE]
She just went through a break up with the guy she has been going out with for a while a day or two ago.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37271308]She just went through a break up with the guy she has been going out with for a while a day or two ago.[/QUOTE]
Tell her that a break might be a good idea but there is no reason to put a specific date or time on things, just wait until she meets someone else she likes.
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