• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Bamfan;37274178]I'm jealous of people with lives. :/[/QUOTE] What. Let me give you a condensed version of my life story and how it should relate to everyone. 2005 - I get my first computer 2007 - I build my first gaming computer. From 2007 through 2009 I was spending 12+ hours a day on a computer, playing games, posting on websites, etc. I had little friends and was not very happy. I was the definition of "no life". However, I changed that. I got sick of how I was living and decided to fill my schedule with things so that I could curve my addiction to the computer and to get me out of the house. I joined many programs, and even played Rugby for two years. I met a ton of new people, and was generally happier. When school came around again I was better prepared for the social life. I am now friends with everyone (yes, everyone. from the jocks to the losers) and can carry out a conversation with people I dont even know. Now, today, my life has changed completely. I have a good position at my job, have a ton of friends, and am constantly out of the house doing things with people - while still meeting new people. Its not that hard to 'get a life' whats hard is breaking your addiction to computers. I blame my social retardation on them and still will forever. [editline]16th August 2012[/editline] and I bought my first car this year too. Turns out people love it when you own your own shit
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37274804]Squeeee. You need to follow me :D[/QUOTE] Url?
don't worry guys, seith is from the future where a higher form of human along the evolutionary chain has already begun merging with machine, and has found it to be less efficient to consider compassion when making decisions he lives in a very harsh world where only a fifth of robohumans make it past childhood, and fathers and business executives alike regularly deactivate their less proficient underlings in order to provide more room on their dying planet for others that can help their species make the final push to a new homeworld with bountiful resources this clearly explains his utter lack of sympathy for people and why his advice rarely applies to conventional humans, and why he should probably be removed from the thread entirely because this will never change. it's in his cybergenes.
Not having a life is only really a problem if you are unhappy with it like that :v: I'm happy as is.
[QUOTE=Stonem;37275799]Url?[/QUOTE] [url]http://www.anarchyburger.tumblr.com[/url] :>
I moved to the riverfront in January, and now the district is having its annual festival. There will be rides and food and games and cool little booths filled with trinkets and fresh produce and whatnot, all within a five minute walk from my apartment! My girl and I are going to bring a blanket down to the river and enjoy the afternoon. It'll be lovely! When the sun goes down, I'm cooking up some lightly fried lemon pepper chicken. I'm not sure what to serve as the side, though. Probably couscous? Some kind of veggie? Peas, maybe. Help!
seared green beans with italian seasoning, drizzled with italian dressing
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37274804]Squeeee. You need to follow me :D[/QUOTE] Followed!
[QUOTE=djshox;37276406]seared green beans with italian seasoning, drizzled with italian dressing[/QUOTE] Now you're just making fun of me. You might as well go convince a six-year-old he can fly if he jumps off something tall enough! [editline]16th August 2012[/editline] It does sound pretty good though. I'll take the bait and look up a recipe. Maybe if I flap my arms hard enough, it'll stop the fall from hurting as much.
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37274178]I'm jealous of people with lives. :/[/QUOTE] No matter how dire your situation is, you can change it. I had no life this time 2 years ago. I made completely new friends, my personality changed, my attitudes and everything. 18 was a big year for me. [editline]17th August 2012[/editline] Like the guy above being addicted to computer I may have been too. Can't remember. I just took more care in my appearance and used my sense of humour to get these people way up the social ladder from me to like me. It was hard work. I ended up loosing all my old friends and spent a year with no friends. Now I couldn't be happier. [editline]17th August 2012[/editline] Spoke a bit like Yoda in one of those lines above. Tired I am.
[url]http://allrecipes.com/recipe/italian-green-beans/[/url] i set the temperature higher and cook mine for far shorter so they're still crisp, not soggy it is delicious
That actually doesn't sound very difficult at all. Thanks! I'm not familiar with Italian seasoning; is it sweet?
it's just a name for a blend of other herbs and spices, much more convenient to use as a single blend instead of dishing out a bazillion seasonings for a dish recipe #2! [url]http://frugalliving.about.com/od/foodsavings/r/Italian_Season.htm[/url]
Looks pretty doable! Thanks, yo.
There's a cute girl in most of my classes, she's been friendly to me and occasionally compliments me. But today we had a speech in english class, a lot of them were dull but I took a humourous approach and made the whole class laugh while also proving my point. Afterwards, she kept saying that my speech was amazing, complimenting me, and touching my arm. Most of our conversations are school-related and I want to get to know her better. How can I ask for her number without just awkwardly asking for it out of the blue? Sorry for crappy formatting, using my iPod.
[QUOTE=psychojake;37279414]There's a cute girl in most of my classes, she's been friendly to me and occasionally compliments me. But today we had a speech in english class, a lot of them were dull but I took a humourous approach and made the whole class laugh while also proving my point. Afterwards, she kept saying that my speech was amazing, complimenting me, and touching my arm. Most of our conversations are school-related and I want to get to know her better. How can I ask for her number without just awkwardly asking for it out of the blue? Sorry for crappy formatting, using my iPod.[/QUOTE] Just ask her out to something or whatever, even studying or something and ask for it then. Alternatively, you could just ask her - I seriously doubt she'll think less of you.
[QUOTE=psychojake;37279414]There's a cute girl in most of my classes, she's been friendly to me and occasionally compliments me. But today we had a speech in english class, a lot of them were dull but I took a humourous approach and made the whole class laugh while also proving my point. Afterwards, she kept saying that my speech was amazing, complimenting me, and touching my arm. Most of our conversations are school-related and I want to get to know her better. How can I ask for her number without just awkwardly asking for it out of the blue? Sorry for crappy formatting, using my iPod.[/QUOTE] Ask her to be a study buddy or something, and if she says yes, go ahead and ask for the number. Also, (from a female perspective) just being asked bluntly is nice :)
got that girl's number :fuckyea:
Just got back from the movie. It went really well and we really enjoyed ourselves, I think she dropped some hints but I did not try on anything.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37280256]Just got back from the movie. It went really well and we really enjoyed ourselves, I think she dropped some hints but I did not try on anything.[/QUOTE] Good for you!
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37270100]Pardon me, but lesbians get just as much shit as gay men, if they come out.[/QUOTE] I don't at all mean to say that this is an issue which [I]only[/I] affects men, but to say lesbians get "just as much shit as gay men" is honestly just not true. Whether its by the media, social culture, or even the 'dating' community, the pressure (and consequent shame) laid down on guys to fit the role and just [I]be a man[/I] is definitely greater than what it is for women. Would you agree with that? Oh and, the response was all positive. No drama, which is boring, but good. xP [QUOTE=Clunj;37270385]What's your argument for this? The fact you're assuming an alpha male is someone who bench presses weights and drinks beer shows to me you're not thinking of it from a balanced and neutral perspective and instead from one where you have pre-conceived thoughts about that type of person, the same type of person you would consider an alpha male. It seems, and I'm not meaning this as an insult, as though you believe you are [B]not[/B] an alpha male. Discuss.[/QUOTE] That's why it's in inverted commas. That's the stereotype which a lot of guys, especially around here, strive to be, and it's what quite a bunch of guys derive their confidence from. Y'know, their physical size or strength, or their ability to hold their drink in the presence of their mates, or their 'success' with women, and so on. Even the actual definition and origin of the phrase 'alpha male' is grounded in evolutionary biology/ethology, and I think it's a little bit sad to think of human relationships within such a limiting construct like that. So yes, if that's what 'alpha' means then no, I don't think I'm that at all, nor do I ever want to be. If you take alpha to mean a guy that is simply self-assured and comfortable in himself, then sure, I can agree with that definition, it's just not the most popular one.
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[QUOTE=Dark_Light;37269838] Also 11'er, so wait, she, "wants to hang out in real life before committing to anything"? So you've never spent time together and she's somehow your 'girlfriend'? I am confused. Edit: I misread your last post. If she honestly 'broke up' with you over Skype like that then fuck it, man. It doesn't sound like you're too beat up about it, which is good. Personally, I'd ask her if she would like to talk things over in person, but otherwise, onto better things dude. [/QUOTE] no i hung out with her a ton and then she asked me out on skype after we hung out
[QUOTE=psychojake;37279414]Afterwards, she kept saying that my speech was amazing, complimenting me, and [B]touching my arm[/B].[/QUOTE] She is interested in you. Go make your move.
okay right, if I think there's 40% chance that this girl likes me back, should I tell her how I feel? bearing in mind that if she doesn't feel the same way then it'll probably ruin our friendship
[QUOTE=Alcapwne;37282975]okay right, if I think there's 40% chance that this girl likes me back, should I tell her how I feel? bearing in mind that if she doesn't feel the same way then it'll probably ruin our friendship[/QUOTE] A percentage is really difficult for us to imagine what your relationship is like.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37283025]A percentage is really difficult for us to imagine what your relationship is like.[/QUOTE] Okay, we spent a week together at this summer school thing in Oxford and we always walked together and tried to sit next to each other etc. and talked, and now we talk for a couple of hours a day on skype. She lives kinda far away so a relationship isn't gonna happen but I'd just like to know whether it was all in my head or whether she does indeed like me
Really? Because you won't stay bff or is it because you are afraid of losing her? Life's isn't gonna roll your way if you don't take any chances. I'd say take your relationship a step forward, ask her out
[QUOTE=Seith;37283167]Really? Because you won't stay bff or is it because you are afraid of losing her? Life's isn't gonna roll your way if you don't take any chances. I'd say take your relationship a step forward, ask her out[/QUOTE] I think I'm mainly scared of finding out that it was all in my head and that I felt like something was going on when it wasn't :( talking every day is a nice addition to my life, but this will probably fizzle out eventually since we won't see each other very often at all
Then you have your answer.
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