• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37327162]But in all honesty, I have thought about doing it with that girl. It just never was in my top priority of what I sought in her.[/QUOTE] I'd love [i]"that girl"[/i] to read this part of what you're writing, she'd probably fall on her arse laughing.
Yeah! Quite insane that someone would be feeling something else then just sex drive towards someone. I never denied it being something I sought for. But why would I be all after sex when all I've heard from my friends who have lost their virginity has been: It's a disappointment. Better then masturbation but nowhere as good as some people say it is.
Bearing in mind I met her in the public gardens on Saturday, is it too soon to ask this girl out? She has been very flirty, too.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37329763]Yeah! Quite insane that someone would be feeling something else then just sex drive towards someone. I never denied it being something I sought for. But why would I be all after sex when all I've heard from my friends who have lost their virginity has been: It's a disappointment. Better then masturbation but nowhere as good as some people say it is.[/QUOTE] They are doing sex wrong. (At least if they say that after getting used to it and not just your first time. First times are often a flop due to expectations and anxiety)
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37329783]They are doing sex wrong. (At least if they say that after getting used to it and not just your first time. First times are often a flop due to expectations and anxiety)[/QUOTE] That I know, but I know a few who still hold it in that light. I guess I should be somewhat glad for holding low expectations for it. And then there are those who could be considered nymphomaniacs (happen to know one).
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37329842]That I know, but I know a few who still hold it in that light. I guess I should be somewhat glad for holding low expectations for it. And then there are those who could be considered nymphomaniacs (happen to know one).[/QUOTE] [quote]Nymphomania - Excessive sexual desire in and behavior by a female.[/quote] Cause I had to look it up just to check I had my meaning right :) Low expectations for anything is very convenient really, cause then when you do it is either as expected, or a positive surprise :) You shouldn't act like sex is gonna be shit no matter when you do it though. If you think it will it probably will.
I ain't thinking that sex will be shit. I think that it will at least be "okay" or better. [editline]20th August 2012[/editline] I expect it to be how my cousin described it to me: It was good but the talk afterwards was just a lot better.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37330010]I ain't thinking that sex will be shit. I think that it will at least be "okay" or better.[/QUOTE] then, like rhenae said, you're not doing it right and you're still probably not doing it right until you really enjoy it
Not to sound inconsistent with my posts or anything, but I'd dare to even say that the expectations for my first time are actually a bit higher then I'd first thought. Because I have listened to advice from the experienced.
oh no, your first time will likely be very disappointing but everything's got to start somewhere, just rest assured it doesn't (or, shouldn't) pave the way for your ~sexual future~
Yep. My expectations are still low. I just expect it to be better then expected because I don't expect much to begin with. ...expect And a huge plus if the girl I'd be doing it with the first time isn't a virgin, so there is at least one who knows what the fuck to do.
I just want my first to go to smoothly :v:
I know for me it'll be awkward. I mean, I don't want to laugh uncomfortably and make the other person feel insulted. hopefully they won't
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37331038]I know for me it'll be awkward. I mean, I don't want to laugh uncomfortably and make the other person feel insulted. hopefully they won't[/QUOTE] It was kinda awkward for myself and my bf our first time, but we both sorta laughed off the awkward stuff that did happen and continue. Wasn't a big thing. On that note: I hate queefs so friking much.
[QUOTE=Bamfan;37293563]That's the way to do it!! Just swallow your fear, and you can accomplish anything, I promise you. I'm pretty sure she likes you by the way you're talking about her.[/QUOTE] Might be a few pages back when I posted about it, but I got her number!
I asked her out anyway, she said yes! (providing she's not busy after her dentist appointment). She seem quite excited too! Only slight worry now is I didn't really specify what we'd be doing; and I can't think of anything (I think coffee would be weird) [editline]20th August 2012[/editline] Turns out we have the same dentist, too!
The two days that I work when this girl I like comes in, I've been scheduled off now. I don't know any other way of talking to her other than talking to her sister. help
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37329783]They are doing sex wrong. (At least if they say that after getting used to it and not just your first time. First times are often a flop due to expectations and anxiety)[/QUOTE] I couldn't orgasm the first time because of anxiety, but sex afterwards is pretty much more enjoyable because you know what to expect.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37331522]I asked her out anyway, she said yes! (providing she's not busy after her dentist appointment). She seem quite excited too! Only slight worry now is I didn't really specify what we'd be doing; and I can't think of anything (I think coffee would be weird) [editline]20th August 2012[/editline] Turns out we have the same dentist, too![/QUOTE] tried and true method: something outside and/or something physical to do [QUOTE=slayer20;37331750]The two days that I work when this girl I like comes in, I've been scheduled off now. I don't know any other way of talking to her other than talking to her sister. help[/QUOTE] hmm that definitely does put you in a tight spot, because your body language is going to be the biggest thing to help seal the deal i'd suggest asking her sister if she's going to be at her sister's place, then you could simply swing by her place casually, but by this point her sister is going to figure out what's going on
Help I have aspergers and social anxiety but I'm trying to be more social. I want to try and get to know others since I don't talk to many people. I found an older lady on craigslist to play tennis with. I usually get along with seniors a lot easier than people my age so I dunno its a start I guess. Any other advice? I want to start exercising too so I thought maybe I could find an exercise partner.
[QUOTE=Cl0cK;37334334]I couldn't orgasm the first time because of anxiety, but sex afterwards is pretty much more enjoyable because you know what to expect.[/QUOTE] so long as you aren't nervous being nervous ruins it, you either never orgasm or you do it too early and then you're like "I swear this has never happened before" and its always true because you've never done it before
[QUOTE=djshox;37335020] hmm that definitely does put you in a tight spot, because your body language is going to be the biggest thing to help seal the deal i'd suggest asking her sister if she's going to be at her sister's place, then you could simply swing by her place casually, but by this point her sister is going to figure out what's going on[/QUOTE] Long story short: Her sister is kind of annoying and they don't get along well. I know they've been talking to each other a little more lately (for unrelated reasons, but I know why), but it's not like she hates her enough to [I]completely[/I] ignore her. I wouldn't really call it a sister-sister hate relationship... Anyway, I'm fine with her sister finding out I have a crush on her :v: I just need to know my options without making things too weird or using her sister too much as a medium.
I need some help. I've always been one to deny I've had girl problems, mainly because I'm just probably a pretty humble person. But it's getting to the point where I can't deny it and I don't know what to do. Here's the situation. Girl A: Very beautiful and fun to be around. I'd seriously consider her the prettiest girl I know. Known her since freshman year, we talk a lot. I don't know if she's naturally flirty or if she's really into me. I mean she seems to be the girl who could get any guy on the face of the earth, so often I think, "why me?" But I think I'm basically friend-zone'd with her. 80% sure. And if that is the case, honestly I'm fine with it. She's a damn good friend and I wouldn't really mind. Girl B: Known her since 1st grade, she went to a different school and left at like 5th grade or something. Freshman year I ran into her again (doesn't go to the same school) and because of our old friendship we still talked every once in a while. Anyways now she's liking on me, but I don't really like her back in that sense. I mean she's a nice girl and a good friend, and we do have a lot in common. But for some reason I just can't draw myself to be attracted to her or start a relationship. Girl C: Haven't met her yet, a mutual friend wants us to talk to each other. I've texted her a bit (mutual friend insisted on giving me her number and texting her even though I haven't met her, I agreed half-heartedly), and she seems really nice. She's also really pretty and from what I hear from mutual friend she's kind of like me, quiet in certain situations but outgoing and social when there's the time for it. I'd really like to get to know her, it's just a matter of finding time for all of us to get together so mutual friend can introduce me. So, what the fuck am I suppose to do? One girl who I think I've been friend-zone'd but not sure (if so I'm fine with it, like I said), another liking on me but I really don't like back in that way, and another I have yet to meet. I honestly just don't know what I should do. Honestly I've just never really been put in a position like this. Thanks guys!
Meet girl C and see how things go I guess?
tbh i don't get what the problem is. if you aren't interested in dating the first two girls then don't date them.
That's what I'm thinking. But what do I do if I really like Girl C and get involved, how do I manage Girl B? That's the actual problem, should have explained in my post. I'm a really nice person and I don't like letting people down, I wouldn't really know what to do. Probably just stop talking to her? Or maybe if I do talk to her all I can hope is that she'll be understanding? I've known her since 1st grade and apparently she's liked me for a long time. It won't be that easy.
[QUOTE=zacht_180;37336246]I'm a really nice person and I don't like letting people down,[/QUOTE] Well how would you expect this to work out positively for her? Either way you're not going to date her.
BDA and thisispain are best posters.
[QUOTE=zacht_180;37336246]That's what I'm thinking. But what do I do if I really like Girl C and get involved, how do I manage Girl B? That's the actual problem, should have explained in my post. I'm a really nice person and I don't like letting people down, I wouldn't really know what to do. Probably just stop talking to her? Or maybe if I do talk to her all I can hope is that she'll be understanding? I've known her since 1st grade and apparently she's liked me for a long time. It won't be that easy.[/QUOTE] if you're not interested, you tell her you're not interested. you'd be doing WAY more harm by giving her the impression you're into her than by flat out rejecting her. sure, she'd be upset for a while, but you'd be letting her move on.
Things totally fixed up with my girl, turns out she's only going for 6 months and it's so long from now that if we're still together at that point we'll probably just weather it Back on the gravy train
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