The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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"I mean to fuck your daughter, you mind?"
[QUOTE=Lexinator;34717977]So I need permission from a girls dad yet i dont know what to say because im a nervous wreck atm advice :3:[/QUOTE]
He's a person just as much as anybody else. But, be advised, he will put you to the test - he will identify your weak spots and ride on them like a cowboy in the PBR World Finals. That's just him being a dad.
If you're a genuine person, it won't matter.
[QUOTE=Seith;34724197]He's a person just as much as anybody else. But, be advised, he will put you to the test - he will identify your weak spots and ride on them like a cowboy in the PBR World Finals. That's just him being a dad.
If you're a genuine person, it won't matter.[/QUOTE]
I have never noticed a dad "identifying my weak spots and riding them like a cowboy".
What the hell, he just wants to know if youre a good kid or not, dont act like a douchenozzle and you will be fine.
[QUOTE=1chains1;34724297]I have never noticed a dad "identifying my weak spots and riding them like a cowboy".
What the hell, he just wants to know if youre a good kid or not, dont act like a douchenozzle and you will be fine.[/QUOTE]
It's a defense mechanism. It's not like he will "cut to the chase" and ask questions like "you gonna bang her and throw?" "You got condoms?" Dads do this, even if they admit to it or not. You will too.
[QUOTE=Seith;34724419]It's a defense mechanism. It's not like he will "cut to the chase" and ask questions like "you gonna bang her and throw?" "You got condoms?" Dads do this, even if they admit to it or not. You will too.[/QUOTE]
Actually it is not a defense mechanism, males are naturally wired to be with multiple partners and not really care for their children. We as humans have developed morals and consciousness of responsibility so we develop love for a daughter and thus a sedentary lifestyle with them. (mostly)
Even then, no dad will "analyze you for weaknesses", they will just make sure you are a decent man who will not harm their daughter. He will not care about your "weaknesses", he will care about how you treat his daughter, and even then it comes down to her decision in the end.
[QUOTE=Seith;34724197]he will identify your weak spots and ride on them like a cowboy in the PBR World Finals. That's just him being a dad.[/QUOTE]
umm
has your father ever touched you inappropriately?
That being said I imagine I would be that kind of dad.
Except without the human bit, and more fire.
[editline]17th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=1chains1;34724463]males are naturally wired to be with multiple partners and not really care for their children. We as humans have developed morals and consciousness of responsibility so we develop love for a daughter and thus a sedentary lifestyle with them. (mostly)[/QUOTE]
[B]everytime I come back to this thread there is someone spouting evolutionary psychology bullshit[/B]
oh lordy
so much wrong with that
[editline]17th February 2012[/editline]
but it's not even evolutionary psychology because maybe 0.001% of the population had a sedentary lifestyle prior to last few decades
how in the world is 'not caring for the carriers of your genetic material' an adaptive mechanism which would be selected for?
[QUOTE=1chains1;34724463]Actually it is not a defense mechanism, males are naturally wired to be with multiple partners and not really care for their children. We as humans have developed morals and consciousness of responsibility so we develop love for a daughter and thus a sedentary lifestyle with them. (mostly)
Even then, no dad will "analyze you for weaknesses", they will just make sure you are a decent man who will not harm their daughter. He will not care about your "weaknesses", he will care about how you treat his daughter, and even then it comes down to her decision in the end.[/QUOTE]
By "weaknesses" I meant his behavior, not his physical or mental skills. For example, if he were to ask him if he's going to use protection, and he will start stuttering and fidgeting, he will push further on.
Also, if you were to take the biological point of view about how males should treat their off-springs, I'd say to completely deny the requirement of a father is wrong. According to science;
([url]http://www.jstor.org/pss/1127548[/url]) the absence of a father can have detrimental results on the cognitive abilities of a child.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. What you said may be true in males, and may be true as well in females. To say this is an exclusive male behavior is ignoring science and assuming purely on anecdotal and personal experience alone. So, using science to deny the fact males do not have a defense mechanism when it comes to a possible harm to their offspring, is contradictory to your biological point of view.
Furthermore, we have no knowledge on the subject; I didn't see any studies correlating to the matter (males have a greater tendency biologically and not due to culture to have multiple sex partners and by thus creating a very "uncaring" behavior to their offspring) so it would be fair to assume both, males and females, will have this defense mechanism and sexual desires from a biological point of view.
[QUOTE=Contag;34724725]umm
has your father ever touched you inappropriately?
That being said I imagine I would be that kind of dad.
Except without the human bit, and more fire.
[editline]17th February 2012[/editline]
[B]everytime I come back to this thread there is someone spouting evolutionary psychology bullshit[/B]
oh lordy
so much wrong with that
[editline]17th February 2012[/editline]
but it's not even evolutionary psychology because maybe 0.001% of the population had a sedentary lifestyle prior to last few decades
how in the world is 'not caring for the carriers of your genetic material' an adaptive mechanism which would be selected for?[/QUOTE]
Wait so you're agreeing but disagreeing with me?
Seith I never said being fatherless doesn't affect a child but naturally males are not wired to care for their children. I also never said that it is exclusive to males, as there are females who are exceptions but naturally the male is not the care taker of the young in our species.
Now then the reason they "do not care for the carriers of their genetic material" and why they do not have a defensive mechanism for them is in that very reason. As stated, males of our race are wired to not care for their young and have [B]multiple[/B] partners because as our race grew it didn't matter if you could physically defend the child as many died from diseases and other causes. The only way to survive as a species is to produce as much as possible so the birthrate exceeds the mortality rate, so males are wired to try and have sexual intercourse with as many partners as possible to ensure survival.
Because we have advanced so much, we have technically eliminated natural selection from our race but we have advanced so quickly that our evolution can not catch up. So we have the wiring of our ancestors in a modern world where they are not needed, so we override them mostly.
So no, dads are protective of their daughters because of our modern conditioning, and not because of natural tendencies. Do you want me to bring up historical records of fathers killing their daughters and considering them burdens for a majority of our society?
So no, I was not "spouting evolutionary psychology bullshit", infact I said fathers override their evolutionary psychology.
Well uh, consider that they used to have to try and sell them off to guys, virginity intact and all. They still had to be scrupulous about possible suitors and drive away any hooligans to protect their investment.
But I would still say that the inidividual's psychology is far more important than what fathers in general do. My father is a high-school nerd style introvert and would be incapable of anything offensive or confrontational with very, very little chance of every turning someone away.
[QUOTE=Devodiere;34724994][B]Well uh, consider that they used to have to try and sell them off to guys, virginity intact and all. They still had to be scrupulous about possible suitors and drive away any hooligans to protect their investment[/B].
But I would still say that the inidividual's psychology is far more important than what fathers in general do. My father is a high-school nerd style introvert and would be incapable of anything offensive or confrontational with very, very little chance of every turning someone away.[/QUOTE]
But that was again in a built society and was a result of viewing them as assets, or ways to get a son that could actually produce something of value. So that defensiveness comes from the concept of monetary value which is not a natural concept but a concept of value we created. So it actually goes with my argument that male defensive nature originates from society.
But I am speaking from a general view point of the male nature and you are completely right that it boils down to the individual and his actions. This also does not excuse fathers who do abandon their children in this modern age as we have replaced instincts with reason and each should go against this nature. It just explains why so many fathers in the end DO leave their families and children.
Roommate and I acting like I didnt catch him jerking off to porn involving pizza.
Seriously, who leaves the tv on while fapping. You can't hear anyone unlocking the door!
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;34726028]Roommate and I acting like I didnt catch him jerking off to porn involving pizza.
Seriously, who leaves the tv on while fapping. You can't hear anyone unlocking the door![/QUOTE]
He gets a better rush when he knows someone might come in.
Wow, pretty much my every friend is in a relationship now.
Well, they aren't really my friends anymore, but still.
Your point is?
Thats depressing.
Since when did the word "relationship" equally stand with the words "happiness", "fulfillment" ?
You are just missing something you currently don't have. The problem is you are looking for happiness in others, rather than in yourself, and that's why this is "depressing".
If you were to ask me, I'd say "good for them".
I mean, the point is, im 18 in a moment and i havent had one girlfriend.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
Im just looking for content from other people. At the moment, i dont really enjoy doing anything.
Except sleeping.
Sleeping is good.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;34727085]I mean, the point is, im 18 in a moment and i havent had one girlfriend.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
Im just looking for content from other people. At the moment, i dont really enjoy doing anything.
Except sleeping.
Sleeping is good.[/QUOTE]
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1160468[/url]
[QUOTE=Contag;34727129][url]http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1160468[/url][/QUOTE]
NO YOU DIDN"T.
Yup. Appareantly im in the wrong thead. This shit is not for me.
I should learn how to deal with it, rather than actually trying to get a girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;34727085]I mean, the point is, im 18 in a moment and i havent had one girlfriend.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
Im just looking for content from other people. At the moment, i dont really enjoy doing anything.
Except sleeping.
Sleeping is good.[/QUOTE]
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck
The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~Robert Byrne
That's all there's to it.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Str4fe;34727172]Yup. Appareantly im in the wrong thead. This shit is not for me.
I should learn how to deal with it, rather than actually trying to get a girlfriend.[/QUOTE]
Dealing with something is accepting it. It's not your only way.
[QUOTE=Seith;34727177]When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~Erma Bombeck
The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ~Robert Byrne
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To be far, those sort of platitudes could drive someone to suicide
Why im not in the depression thrad really, is because people over there have a lot bigger problems than i do, Therefore, nobody bothers to help over there. And since my problems are pretty much social, except the fact that im depressed, thats why i thought this thread would be a bit better for me. Im a bit socially awkward, a bit too average kind of guy, skinny as shit, short.
I need help for social problems, and thats pretty much what this thread is about.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
And to the above poster, yeah, i dont think those platitudes really help.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;34727403]Why im not in the depression thrad really, is because people over there have a lot bigger problems than i do, Therefore, nobody bothers to help over there. And since my problems are pretty much social, except the fact that im depressed, thats why i thought this thread would be a bit better for me. Im a bit socially awkward, a bit too average kind of guy, skinny as shit, short.
I need help for social problems, and thats pretty much what this thread is about.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
And to the above poster, yeah, i dont think those platitudes really help.[/QUOTE]
All you can do really is to put yourself out there, start going out and trying to meet people or talk to people more at your school/job, the only way to become more sociable is by socialising and talking to people i'm afraid. Trust me tho, it gets easier over time.
-Snip wrong thread didnt realise my bad.
[QUOTE=Str4fe;34727403]Why im not in the depression thrad really, is because people over there have a lot bigger problems than i do, Therefore, nobody bothers to help over there. And since my problems are pretty much social, except the fact that im depressed, thats why i thought this thread would be a bit better for me. Im a bit socially awkward, a bit too average kind of guy, skinny as shit, short.
I need help for social problems, and thats pretty much what this thread is about.
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
And to the above poster, yeah, i dont think those platitudes really help.[/QUOTE]
This has been said many many times. The only way to get better socially is to put yourself out there and take risks in interactions that you normally don't do on a daily basis.
Still though, being average is a great thing. I wouldn't call myself the most attractive guy in the world, I'm 5'9" and the only thing going for me physically is I work out which women love in a dude. Your problems are all solvable within a reasonably short amount of time if you put in the effort. Start going to the gym 3-4x a week, workout for an hour. Also start to make small talk with people who you see everyday, but don't take initiative to speak to normally. You'll get better socially and you'll start to feel better about yourself every week you [b]spend time for yourself[/b].
Is asking a girl if she's going out with someone (specific) a really awful idea? We're going out on Saturday but I think she might be thinking of it as just a friendly thing and she listed being "married" to the other guy on facebook.
Depends on your moral standing
As a person who likes suits too much once said, "Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score"
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
And if she listed as being "married", it's possibly just some stupid facebook crap
[QUOTE=Glitch360;34729612]
[editline]16th February 2012[/editline]
And if she listed as being "married", it's possibly just some stupid facebook crap[/QUOTE]
Yeah that's exactly what I was thinking. I'm just going to text her now, I'd rather just know what's happening.
[QUOTE=Contag;34727277]To be far, those sort of platitudes could drive someone to suicide[/QUOTE]
"platitudes" ? hmm... that just proves your lack of ability to relate, because none of them represent who you are. They represent me, my goals and who I am striving to be everyday.
I shall clarify even more; these are not a sad attempt to throw quotes in the air and sound smart. These are what I personally use each and everyday - my life support.
To call it a "banal" thing, is assuming stuff and really not reading or wanting to comprehend even one of my posts, anywhere on these forums.
I am alive and kickin', this is a pure, untapped, power source my friend.
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