The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Memnoth;37356677]Psychologically speaking, too much contact between two individuals can worsen the relationship unless you possess a near perfect compatibility of personality traits. This suggests that redundant communication in purpose of simply establishing communication, for example, should be avoided.[/QUOTE]
This isn't the animal kingdom, seriously, you could have said it with one word.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37356256]Actually it's quite a long time until Monday. Does it matter if I don't text her every day?[/QUOTE]
Yes, it would be advised not to text her everyday, but you should contact her 1-3 times with something interesting in mind.
[QUOTE=Seith;37356822]This isn't the animal kingdom, seriously, you could have said it with one word.[/QUOTE]
Unfortunately, being a sufferer of autism blinds me of certain rules in social situations.
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37356864]Unfortunately, being a sufferer of autism blinds me of certain rules in social situations.[/QUOTE]
That's cool
College classes starting today. I've made it a goal of mine to stop being so reserved and branch out to find study buddies (and possibly more...?) wish me luck guys!
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37356677]Psychologically speaking, too much contact between two individuals can worsen the relationship unless you possess a near perfect compatibility of personality traits. This suggests that redundant communication in purpose of simply establishing communication, for example, should be avoided.[/QUOTE]
tl;dr "spending too much time together can damage your relationship in the long term"
there's no psychological basis in your post and its accuracy is questionable, is it really necessary to throw in a ton of extra words to sound smart?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37357142]tl;dr "spending too much time together can damage your relationship in the long term"
there's no psychological basis in your post and its accuracy is questionable, is it really necessary to throw in a ton of extra words to sound smart?[/QUOTE]
Psychology pertains to mental functions and behaviors. Formulating a statement about the interaction between relationships and communicative parameters of magnitude falls within the relevance of both mental function and behavior.
Having grown up in isolation being autistic, these differential semantics you suggest mean nothing to me, as rules in social conversational conventions can only be applied to cognitive behavior by growing up as a neurotypical individual with a social life. This is how I communicate, you either learn to deal with it or perpetuate your irrational emotions.
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37357493]Psychology pertains to mental functions and behaviors. Formulating a statement about the interaction between relationships and communicative parameters of magnitude falls within the relevance of both mental function and behavior.
Having grown up in isolation being autistic, these differential semantics you suggest mean nothing to me, as rules in social conversational conventions can only be applied to cognitive behavior by growing up as a neurotypical individual with a social life. This is how I communicate, you either learn to deal with it or perpetuate your irrational emotions.[/QUOTE]
You will adapt your collective language to my own. Resistance is futile.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
Beep boop
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37357737]You will adapt your collective language to my own. Resistance is futile.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
Beep boop[/QUOTE]
That's actually why I'm active on this forum, to learn and adapt to avoid undesired situations.
Edit: Though not by conforming to the unwritten rules of social conduct, as I lack the cognitive ability to automatically mimic them. But I can learn how to logically defuse unwanted emotional responses.
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37357493]Psychology pertains to mental functions and behaviors. Formulating a statement about the interaction between relationships and communicative parameters of magnitude falls within the relevance of both mental function and behavior.
Having grown up in isolation being autistic, these differential semantics you suggest mean nothing to me, as rules in social conversational conventions can only be applied to cognitive behavior by growing up as a neurotypical individual with a social life. This is how I communicate, you either learn to deal with it or perpetuate your irrational emotions.[/QUOTE]
i'm skimming your posts due to your verbosity but "psychology" refers to a scientific field; unless you have medical journals to back up what you're saying, your suggestions are no more reliable or accurate than what common sense would dictate.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37354699]Oh no it's not the same one that cancelled before. It's happened once with 3 different girls now.[/QUOTE]
This is the worst thing! They let you build up and get excited for the date, just to snag it back at the last minute. I've had this go down several times, and it's a total drag. It always leaves me wondering, "If you didn't want to go out, why didn't you just say no?"
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37357937]i'm skimming your posts due to your verbosity but "psychology" refers to a scientific field; unless you have medical journals to back up what you're saying, your suggestions are no more reliable or accurate than what common sense would dictate.[/QUOTE]
My verbosity is a result of obsessively studying thesauruses and dictionaries to compensate for the deprived vocabulary in lack of social stimulation.
Having contemplated for some time, I can only procure the following query: As the scientific field of psychology by definition is the study of the mind, should it not be semantically correct to pioneer in a new perspective to the relevant area, even if its solely based on rhetoric to simply elucidate a statement even without the purpose of establishing a formal theory?
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37358694]My verbosity is a result of obsessively studying thesauruses and dictionaries to compensate for the deprived vocabulary in lack of social stimulation.
Having contemplated for some time, I can only procure the following query: As the scientific field of psychology by definition is the study of the mind, should it not be semantically correct to pioneer in a new perspective to the relevant area, even if its solely based on rhetoric to simply elucidate a statement even without the purpose of establishing a formal theory?[/QUOTE]
This is kind of pitiful honestly.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37358773]This is kind of pitiful honestly.[/QUOTE]
He's an autist, keep that in mind. It's not like he's doing this to try to be superior or some shit
[QUOTE=Zanpa;37358976]He's an autist, keep that in mind. It's not like he's doing this to try to be superior or some shit[/QUOTE]
Oh, so that's why he stated that. I was confused.
Edit: It does certainly not provoke positive emotions to know that people perceive me as a vanity ill narcissist.
You've managed to out-Seith Seith. Congratulations.
I don't see why autism should hinder you - there have been loads of autists on this forum that dealt with it and had they not pointed out that they had autism, I wouldn't have noticed.
(note i dont have autism so its not my place to judge but hey)
I think autism is most apparent when you meet somebody in person.
It's tough to figure out just based on what people are typing anonymously on a forum.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37359652]You've managed to out-Seith Seith. Congratulations.[/QUOTE]
Could you explain what that means?
[QUOTE=Chocolate.;37359800]I think autism is most apparent when you meet somebody in person.
It's tough to figure out just based on what people are typing anonymously on a forum.[/QUOTE]
Actually, the form of high-functioning autism called Asperger Syndrome, which is the name of my official diagnosis, has been referred to as an invisible syndrome. This because of the difficulty to assess the symptoms of the individual if you don't know them well enough to have an idea of how the structure in their daily life looks like. So often they are dismissed as simply arrogant by non-professionals since all they perceive is the social aspect of a problematic whole in the individual.
i mean, he already knows he behaves and feels differently from us, saying he's weird/pitiful is kind of pointless. however, memnoth, you might want to take into account that most people aren't going to bother reading your posts when they're so drawn out and oddly worded. instead of using your thesaurus just stick to words that are commonly used - instead of saying "query" just stick to "question" like everyone else would.
i don't know much about autism so i'm not going to make any assumptions about your condition.
Guy Mannly; You don't know much about autism, yet chose to make a shit load of assumptions (i.e people won't read his posts & his ability to phrase sentences)
It's English either way, I see no problem (I'm not objective, unfortunately) whether he writes 'query' or 'question'.
i meant i'm not going to say something like how most other people on the forum cope with autism fine and that he should be able to as well, considering that i don't know anything about what he's enduring.
reading his posts gives me a headache because of how inconcise and strangely worded they are. considering that the phrase "tl;dr" is so widely used on the internet, it's generally safe to assume that at least a few other people feel the same way.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37360065]i mean, he already knows he behaves and feels differently from us, saying he's weird/pitiful is kind of pointless. however, memnoth, you might want to take into account that most people aren't going to bother reading your posts when they're so drawn out and oddly worded. instead of using your thesaurus just stick to words that are commonly used - instead of saying "query" just stick to "question" like everyone else would.
i don't know much about autism so i'm not going to make any assumptions about your condition.[/QUOTE]
This may sound arrogant, though I don't think I care enough to take the initiative in rethinking the systematic entirety of my phrasing. I could establish an analogy where the motivation for my change in method of expression is equal to the motivation in others to read my cognitively programmed identity of language.
then why post?
beep boop doesn't describe the weirdness of this conversation.
the love advice thread has turned into a group of vulcans comparing field notes on human behavior
I was really close to getting that coffee date with the girl today.
Was on my way home from her bf's place and I saw her drive the opposite way so I made a u-turn and decided to follow her a bit.
Then once there was a red light to stop at she waved at me to drive next to her and then I asked her if she would have been up for a coffee at the gas-station. But she could not come because she was going to meet her friends at her place.
Good so because at the time I had finished my coffee there it started to rain.
When following her I could only think how embarrasing it would be if it weren't her, but I could add up from her attire that it was her (especially the shoes).
holy fuck you are creepy
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37360312]then why post?[/QUOTE]
Everyone is different in one way or another, if my noticeable difference is solely based upon my way of articulating myself, are you really going to question the validity of my mere presence on this forum?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37360379]holy fuck you are creepy[/QUOTE]
I'm certain that she too identified me when she saw me.
And what's so creepy about making a u-turn to say hi to a friend of yours?
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37360429]Everyone is different in one way or another, if my noticeable difference is solely based upon my way of articulating myself, are you really going to question the validity of my mere presence on this forum?[/QUOTE]
i don't understand the point of talking on a forum when you don't actually care if anyone even reads what you're saying.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[sp]is anyone else reading memnoth's posts in HAL 9000's voice?[/sp]
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37360429]Everyone is different in one way or another, if my noticeable difference is solely based upon my way of articulating myself, are you really going to question the validity of my mere presence on this forum?[/QUOTE]
using vocabulary like that doesn't help you articulate yourself, it just alienates people
articulation comes from being short and sweet
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