• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Memnoth;37361189]Because I was trying to learn.[/QUOTE] you're not trying to learn. we've been giving you advice on socializing and telling you exactly why your posts are difficult to read and you've responded by saying you don't care if we understand you.
id much rather mock sunday_roast for never learning than someone with an actual learning disability
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37361232]you're not trying to learn. we've been giving you advice on socializing and telling you exactly why your posts are difficult to read and you've responded by saying you don't care if we understand you.[/QUOTE] Learning is not possible without first examining the patterns of what you are trying to learn.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37361164]wait he has a condition that makes him talk like a dictionary??? what condition is this? [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] LMAO and you thought that even though she saw you but chose not to slow down and say hi, you'd better keep following her just in case?[/QUOTE] Is was at a red light, she drove past me, there was a barrier between the two directions and she was going to meet her friends. Once my light turned green I decided to catch up with her because I wasn't in a hurry anywhere and I was already thinking about getting myself some coffee from somewhere.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37361248]id much rather mock sunday_roast for never learning than someone with an actual learning disability[/QUOTE] I do not have a learning disability, it's as simple as that the part of my brain that should do empathy recognition is substituted with logic recognition, figuratively speaking. The only thing that is implied is that there is no natural feeling of how socially accepted conduct is pursued until I isolate the patterns of logic in behavior and consciously focus on them. Telling me that I have a learning disability is the same as me telling you to have a logical deficiency in pattern recognition.
It doesn't matter how you explain it or the reasoning behind it, it still is creepy as fuck [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] @Sunday_roast
Fine, I'm a sick creep. Next time I'd see a friend of mine make stray from their direction the road to make an effort to say "hi" to I should be worried. And not do it in the future to not get the cops called on me or to get a restraining order.
I'm emotionally overwhelmed. Damn, why do I always fail at every try with being socially active.
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37361375]I do not have a learning disability, it's as simple as that the part of my brain that should do empathy recognition is substituted with logic recognition, figuratively speaking. The only thing that is implied is that there is no natural feeling of how socially accepted conduct is pursued until I isolate the patterns of logic in behavior and consciously focus on them. Telling me that I have a learning disability is the same as me telling you to have a logical deficiency in pattern recognition.[/QUOTE] learning disabilities usually overlap with other forms of autism; aspergers is unique in that it doesn't impair learning.
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37361542]I'm emotionally overwhelmed. Damn, why do I always fail at every try with being socially active.[/QUOTE] but the difference is that now you're starting to make sense
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37361542]I'm emotionally overwhelmed. Damn, why do I always fail at every try with being socially active.[/QUOTE] Well you are pushing yourself out of your comfort-zone in order to work at your social activity ain't you?
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37361560]but the difference is that now you're starting to make sense[/QUOTE] ^this. your last few posts have been a lot more coherent, i'd say you're making progress. i also found your description of your thought processes interesting and pretty well worded. i study psychology and it's interesting hearing about a disorder like that firsthand.
It seems that a valid hypothesis could be that my brain gets overwhelmed with stress hormones when I try because I'm not used to human contact, which would explain erratic behavior.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37360358]I was really close to getting that coffee date with the girl today. Was on my way home from her bf's place and I saw her drive the opposite way so I made a u-turn and decided to follow her a bit. Then once there was a red light to stop at she waved at me to drive next to her and then I asked her if she would have been up for a coffee at the gas-station. But she could not come because she was going to meet her friends at her place. Good so because at the time I had finished my coffee there it started to rain. When following her I could only think how embarrasing it would be if it weren't her, but I could add up from her attire that it was her (especially the shoes).[/QUOTE] Even my plan of scaring my person shitless is not as creepy as that. Holy shit dude.
I apologize to everyone for my weird behavior, it seems I should get help with stress and anxiety related problems first. Need to spend some time in social isolation to process emotions now.
nah, don't apologize. our only issue was that your posts were very hard to read, and you're articulating yourself much better now. everyone has to learn to conform to society to some extent, so you're not totally alone on that. i know that i talk way differently after a few years on facepunch than i did when i got here. i used to have trouble articulating myself as well, but over time i've gotten better at being more concise and avoiding rambling.
[QUOTE=areolop;37361716]Even my plan of scaring my person shitless is not as creepy as that. Holy shit dude.[/QUOTE] I should have made it clear that I was on my motorcycle and she was on her moped. Yes I can see how creepy it seems like if everyone thinks that I was going by car: - Why is that car making an u-turn to follow me? As opposed to: - Hey, there goes a friend of, wonder were he's going? Oh he's making an u-turn. Wonder what he's up to?
don't pick on the weird kid you guys
[QUOTE=Memnoth;37361871]I apologize to everyone for my weird behavior, it seems I should get help with stress and anxiety related problems first. Need to spend some time in social isolation to process emotions now.[/QUOTE] Holy shit. You should be in management as a career. You speak fluent meaningless long worded bullshit that could be phrased so much more concisely, you come across mildly unlikable and arrogant and you never stop. You are a grade company manager material. I bet you know how to embezzel like a pro.
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37362475]I should have made it clear that I was on my motorcycle and she was on her moped. Yes I can see how creepy it seems like if everyone thinks that I was going by car: - Why is that car making an u-turn to follow me? As opposed to: - Hey, there goes a friend of, wonder were he's going? Oh he's making an u-turn. Wonder what he's up to?[/QUOTE] Its not justifiable that you make a u-turn as soon as you see someone just to say hi.
this is killing me [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] i could make a movie out of this [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] it would be like the land before time adventures of the autistiathesaurus-rex
[QUOTE=metallics;37362799]Holy shit. You should be in management as a career. You speak fluent meaningless long worded bullshit that could be phrased so much more concisely, you come across mildly unlikable and arrogant and you never stop. You are a grade company manager material. I bet you know how to embezzel like a pro.[/QUOTE] um, he has aspergers.. christ you guys are rude sometimes
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37363887]um, he has aspergers.. christ you guys are rude sometimes[/QUOTE] Well he came onto an internet forum and continues to bring up his condition. I'm not going to pity him and ignore it, because that's impossible and it won't help him. Alienating him like that isn't the way to go, pushing him can help depending on how willing or receptive he is to the embedded advice.
oh yeah being a cock to him on the internet will fix up that neuro-developmental disorder in just a jiff you must think we're retarded
[QUOTE=thisispain;37364080]oh yeah being a cock to him on the internet will fix up that neuro-developmental disorder in just a jiff you must think we're retarded[/QUOTE] Well outright being a dick no, but just pitying him and ignoring the obvious elephant in the room won't help either. Like some people have been doing is pointing out his problem and basically telling him to loosen up.
Everyone has a disease or social disorder to hide behind nowadays
[QUOTE=G3rman;37364169]Well outright being a dick no, but just pitying him and ignoring the obvious elephant in the room won't help either. Like some people have been doing is pointing out his problem and basically telling him to loosen up.[/QUOTE] that doesn't fix autism. obviously you don't know what autism is. it's a bit different from "being spergy", it's a lack of development in the brain that is permanent. [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=areolop;37364171]Everyone has a disease or social disorder to hide behind nowadays[/QUOTE] well thank god areolop, the facepuncher with the following expertise:, is here to set the record straight.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37364208]that doesn't fix autism. obviously you don't know what autism is. it's a bit different from "being spergy", it's a lack of development in the brain that is permanent. [editline]22nd August 2012[/editline] well thank god areolop, the facepuncher with the following expertise:, is here to set the record straight.[/QUOTE] It doesn't fix it obviously, but if the person isn't willing to at least work on the problem and just blame it on his condition then how can he expect to interact with people at all?
[QUOTE=G3rman;37364244]It doesn't fix it obviously, but if the person isn't willing to at least work on the problem and just blame it on his condition then how can he expect to interact with people at all?[/QUOTE] he's here to try and work on it, as he's already said he's trying to understand our mannerisms and talk similarly to us. he has emotions too, even if he has trouble expressing them. insulting him when he's already doing something he's extremely uncomfortable with isn't going to help at all.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37364244]It doesn't fix it obviously, but if the person isn't willing to at least work on the problem and just blame it on his condition then how can he expect to interact with people at all?[/QUOTE] uh if he's diagnosed with autism by an actual doctor person, then he's likely getting treatment. and again you somehow think that forum posts are going to fix a physiological disorder. he can't work on the problem as much as a person with a broken leg can fix his own leg. i know that the internet-crawler people are skeptical of autism (seems ironic to me) but it's not a made up thing. go read up on the many reports and studies into autism before you start making assumptions. as if FP was even remotely qualified to help people with autism. looking at this thread i can very clearly and assertively say we are not qualified.
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