The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Howdy facepunch,
So I just started college a few days ago and to my extreme suprise I found out that my high school crush is going to the same college and I just cannot think of a single way to go about approaching her.
It's mostly difficult because we only kind of know each other from a mutual friend and we are both pretty quiet people. At the moment I would be happy just to be friends with her if anything.
Any advice would help since I have to go back there tomorrow and possibly see her again.
[QUOTE=kidpix;37421639]Howdy facepunch,
So I just started college a few days ago and to my extreme suprise I found out that my high school crush is going to the same college and I just cannot think of a single way to go about approaching her.
It's mostly difficult because we only kind of know each other from a mutual friend and we are both pretty quiet people. At the moment I would be happy just to be friends with her if anything.
Any advice would help since I have to go back there tomorrow and possibly see her again.[/QUOTE]
say hello and ask her if she'd like to hang out some time.
[QUOTE=kidpix;37421639]Howdy facepunch,
So I just started college a few days ago and to my extreme suprise I found out that my high school crush is going to the same college and I just cannot think of a single way to go about approaching her.
It's mostly difficult because we only kind of know each other from a mutual friend and we are both pretty quiet people. At the moment I would be happy just to be friends with her if anything.
Any advice would help since I have to go back there tomorrow and possibly see her again.[/QUOTE]
.. go up to her and say hi? what is the problem lol
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37421652].. go up to her and say hi? what is the problem lol[/QUOTE]
She is an extremly shy person, I'm scared I will give off the wrong impression.
for the time being I just want to be friends.
uh?
you made it sound like you haven't even talked to her. you don't need to rush straight to proposing to her or something, just get to know her..
it's VERY hard to make a bad impression by going "hey remember me? we went to high school together"
[QUOTE=kidpix;37421675]She is an extremly shy person, I'm scared I will give off the wrong impression.
for the time being I just want to be friends.[/QUOTE]
uhhh
saying hello doesn't imply that you want to put your pee pee in her vajayjay
I just threw out all of my girlfriends' stuff as she is currently out screwing some guy.
I have never experienced this kind of pain.
[QUOTE=Theater;37421983]I just threw out all of my girlfriends' stuff as she is currently out screwing some guy.
I have never experienced this kind of pain.[/QUOTE]
i'd say i'm sorry to hear what happened, but i'm happy for you dude
she's out of your life, now you can focus on making yourself happy, now you can fight off throngs of girls who want you, hang out with your friends and enjoy good company, and remind yourself you had more integrity than to lie and cheat
[QUOTE=Theater;37421983]I just threw out all of my girlfriends' stuff as she is currently out screwing some guy.
I have never experienced this kind of pain.[/QUOTE]
alright, i feel like LA has encountered a bit of a happy relationship drought, why is everyone just getting totally fucked over right now?
summer is ending. it's astrological you see
Winter is coming, god help our relationships.
better store up my relationships for hibernation
Just got back from my vacation, I don't know if I'm ever going to see the girl I was "dating" there again and now I have a mouse in my kitchen. It't getting better and better.
I don't know. 2 weeks till I'm back in uni and I feel like I haven't got much out of my holidays. All the dates and go outs with girls either have gone terribly wrong leading me to meet the most crazy people and on the other hand when I meet nice girls that I'd like to spend time with, I can't cause they live miles away.
Anyway, I guess this is my last "go out with a girl" for this summer. Me and this friend agreed somewhere this week to meet and catch up since she's studying abroad and I only see her every summer.
I'm going to keep it simple with her and make things like last time she came to meet me. Lunch and a day at the beach. Although she has a boyfriend and since I barely see her I have no romantic feelings for her, it will be nice to have a nice day with someone before university starts again and I get entangled in work and monotony.
I guess I've gotten used to being single but somehow I kinda feel the need of finding someone meaningful in my life.
So eh, whenever I talk to a girl and stuff, my face gets all red.
Anything I can do to prevent this?
get liquored up
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37423673]I guess I've gotten used to being single but somehow I kinda feel the need of finding someone meaningful in my life.[/QUOTE]
i used to be like that, which meant that for a year or so i was bouncing around between relationships, never particularly satisfied with them but it seemed like it was better than nothing. and then i realised that you just don't need it. having ~someone special~ is always nice (but sometimes risky), but i think so long as you can get past this need for another individual you do a lot better. spending more time with your friends definitely helps, especially if you have other single friends.
if at the moment relationship stuff just isn't working out for you then i really wouldn't worry about it, just throw yourself into other parts of your life, like your education/job. i think that if you haven't found anyone, you dont [u]need[/u] anyone.
iirc you're not that old, and certainly not at an age where you need to worry about not being in a relationship!
are you not suppose to eat a lot of shreddies? i just had two bowls and had two cataclysmic poops
[QUOTE=Parakon;37427827]are you not suppose to eat a lot of shreddies? i just had two bowls and had two cataclysmic poops[/QUOTE]
Shreddies are high in fibre, which is not a digestible content. It goes through the digestive tract and cleans it out. More shreddies = more fibre = lots of waste product.
Okay, so I just got back from going out with that girl I talked about a page or so back. It seemed to go really well. We just kinda walked around a bit, sat on a wall, and then on the floor in an alleyway (it was raining :v:)
My only worry is that she might've thought it was just a friendly thing? I didn't really make as much physical contact as I probably should have, and she just hugged me at the end. We also bumped into her grandparents and uncle, she introduced me as her friend (which I'd expect anyway), but she didn't want to tell her mum about me... So I guess that means she didn't see it as just a friendly thing?
We went into a coffee shop and she got a drink, she didn't really give me the chance to offer to pay so I dunno
She was in a rush at the end to meet her mother (they were going to see a play), she we just hugged. I'm gonna ask her later if she wants to go to the cinema tomorrow. The film on really is the new Bourne film... Is that too action-y?
By the sounds of it, it was a friendly thing. I did the same thing on what I thought was a date with a girl I was infatuated with a few months ago. We went to her apartment and watched a bunch of movies, ate a pizza - and that was basically it. Eventually I learned she wasn't interested at all - figures.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37428648]By the sounds of it, it was a friendly thing. I did the same thing on what I thought was a date with a girl I was infatuated with a few months ago. We went to her apartment and watched a bunch of movies, ate a pizza - and that was basically it. Eventually I learned she wasn't interested at all - figures.[/QUOTE]
Bleeeergh :(
[QUOTE=Autumn;37426110]i used to be like that, which meant that for a year or so i was bouncing around between relationships, never particularly satisfied with them but it seemed like it was better than nothing. and then i realised that you just don't need it. having ~someone special~ is always nice (but sometimes risky), but i think so long as you can get past this need for another individual you do a lot better. spending more time with your friends definitely helps, especially if you have other single friends.
if at the moment relationship stuff just isn't working out for you then i really wouldn't worry about it, just throw yourself into other parts of your life, like your education/job. i think that if you haven't found anyone, you dont [u]need[/u] anyone.
iirc you're not that old, and certainly not at an age where you need to worry about not being in a relationship![/QUOTE]
Yeah, I guess you're right.
I think The fact that all my relationships so far got me into this vortex of frustration, you know. And now that all my close friends are in or pursuing relationships gets me somehow frustrated. I don't know.
On one hand the confident person is telling me "you need some vacation from the relationships you've got so far", the other part, I think a more and "over-thinker" sees my friends getting their first relationships right and somehow my subconscious wants to grasp that. I think it's that "all my relationships were bad" and the fact that this summer I hadn't got a proper date due to circumstances that got me thinking like this.
Other than that I think I'm just feeling frustrated for not making the things I'd like this summer such as meeting new people and the fact that in two weeks I'm back to routine.
But, I think It's going to be ok, hopefully I'll meet new people at uni.
Oh, and that meeting with that friend got cancelled. It's been raining so going to the beach is a no-go for her. We're going to figure out something else I think.
I'm at university, no luck yet. I'm working on it. Slowly....
Am I allowed to brag about my ability to endure self inflicted second degree frost burns?
Got a few tickets to go to a country concert coming up. I have all but 2 left - the rest went to my buddies. I am going to ask this girl if she wants to go with me. I am honestly expecting a let-down but its not binding since I can just get another buddy to go
I'd like to get something off my chest here, if I may.
So, basically, I became friends with a girl through her boyfriend at the time, who was my current best friend. When they broke up, I stayed hanging around with her, and she became my best friend in the whole damn world, ever. We used to hang out all the time at school whenever we weren't in lessons, and when we weren't near each other we were chatting via text, skype and stuff. We pretty much talked 24/7. I really loved her as a friend.
Then she got a new boyfriend, which changed the group of people she called friends to people I didn't like that much, but I still did my best to spend as much time with her as I could. However she pretty much stopped talking to me as she was spending all her time with the new boyfriend, so we fell out of touch.
In February we both went on a trip to New York with our school. I was in the same group as her and I went round with her whilst we were there, but I felt unwanted and sort of left out. She seemed to prefer talking to the others than me.
Since then I haven't had so much as a hello from her. I smile at her when I see her and she smiles back but that's all.
I just miss her loads, and I always end up thinking about it some way or another.
I'm not normally a very emotional person, and I regularly pretty much forget people I've lost touch with, but I still miss my old friend more than anything before. It makes me very sad.
Thanks for reading, it feels a bit better to tell people.
I occasionally lurk this thread but I don't think I've ever posted here. Now, I have a problem...
I've been in a relationship for a little while. Close to... a few months I believe? 2-4. But then she broke up with me and explained - quite well, actually - why we shouldn't be together. It made sense, but that did nothing to make the pain any easier. It was horrible. I ended up crying at least once a day for a week, but eventually I had begun to get over it.
We ended up getting back together and I've been trying to act like everything's normal, which it is, but the problem is that I don't completely feel 100% into it like I used to be. What I feel like it boils down to is if I should try to stay and work on getting my feelings back or talk to this about her or break up. Option #2 obviously seems like the best one, but I'm scared... I'll basically be admitting that I may or may not have been lying to her this whole time we were together, and she'll get so sad and stuff... That's why I feel like I'm in favor of things that involve me solving this on my own and haven't said anything about it yet.
I don't know what to do though... It's like... I'm doing things I never would have when we were originally together. I flirted once with someone else and, when I feel committed, that never happens. That was the real eye-opening moment for me. So... um... yeah... advice?
[QUOTE=Pucenator;37436806]I'd like to get something off my chest here, if I may.
So, basically, I became friends with a girl through her boyfriend at the time, who was my current best friend. When they broke up, I stayed hanging around with her, and she became my best friend in the whole damn world, ever. We used to hang out all the time at school whenever we weren't in lessons, and when we weren't near each other we were chatting via text, skype and stuff. We pretty much talked 24/7. I really loved her as a friend.
Then she got a new boyfriend, which changed the group of people she called friends to people I didn't like that much, but I still did my best to spend as much time with her as I could. However she pretty much stopped talking to me as she was spending all her time with the new boyfriend, so we fell out of touch.
I'm not normally a very emotional person, and I regularly pretty much forget people I've lost touch with, but I still miss my old friend more than anything before. It makes me very sad.
Thanks for reading, it feels a bit better to tell people.[/QUOTE]
I put my buddy in a similar situation - However this is good for both of them. We pretty much started hanging out lot (the girl) and got them talking. She, at the time, was already in a relationship but she quickly ditched that man (thank god. This is where the story comes from) and went for my buddy. My friend, who is also in the Law Enforcement field, was actually so happy and for two reasons: He has a girlfriend, and secondly, we are saving this girls life.
This girl's life was ruined by her now ex-boyfriend. Nothing but drugs, parties, clubbing, etc. The whole nine yards. He was very abusive and otherwise a complete asshole.
We have now gotten her sobered up, set her straight with a job, and started piecing her life back together. And, they are both happy.
Omg. I made a friend in my class today :> I think. He just copied my notes
i'm kind of hoping to work with the guy who sat next to me today in my chem lab. he seems pretty young, fresh out of high school or dual enrolled i think, and totally clueless about college science labs. last semester i had a lab partner who wouldn't let me do anything myself, so i'm looking forward to doing more of the work this time around.
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