• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Rusty100;37518700]i dont know whats so hard about saying 'love you too' unless you don't love the person that is[/QUOTE] Some people hold more value to the word than others I guess? I really don't understand either, but I guess it's just considered one of those words you aren't supposed to say unless you really mean it.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;37518700]i dont know whats so hard about saying 'love you too' unless you don't love the person that is[/QUOTE] I just think that its really weird to say via text.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;37518700]i dont know whats so hard about saying 'love you too' unless you don't love the person that is[/QUOTE] Love means different things to different people. Sometimes people aren't comfortable saying it if they feel like they're lying to the person.
i usually just respond "i love me too"
i love U2
I feel like shes just saying like every-other girl would - but not actually mean anything. Thats how I perceive it and I dont want to just say it back because then I look like all the other dudes who say it and dont really mean it.
who cares, i say shit i don't mean all the time. you think it looses power or something?
[QUOTE=thisispain;37519031]who cares, i say shit i don't mean all the time. [/QUOTE] Thats just it because what if the other person actually thinks that you mean it. Now you have a situation on your hand
[QUOTE=areolop;37519018]I feel like shes just saying like every-other girl would - but not actually mean anything. Thats how I perceive it and I dont want to just say it back because then I look like all the other dudes who say it and dont really mean it.[/QUOTE] Just tell her that it will take a bit of time for you to be able to say it and have it mean as much as you feel it should. [editline]3rd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=areolop;37519041]Thats just it because what if the other person actually thinks that you mean it. Now you have a situation on your hand[/QUOTE] More likely than not you're not gonna have a "situation" unless the other girl is a bit... odd, but you should use it however you feel like
[QUOTE=areolop;37519041]Thats just it because what if the other person actually thinks that you mean it. Now you have a situation on your hand[/QUOTE] there's no situation. saying "i love you" doesn't change anything in a relationship. this isn't a film where "i love you" sends the plot into the climax.
There is a big difference between liking and loving somebody. Even if the phrase is used much more commonly the meaning should still carry some weight. Don't appease the girl by saying things you don't mean, otherwise it just sticks you in that spot.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37519261]There is a big difference between liking and loving somebody. Even if the phrase is used much more commonly the meaning should still carry some weight. Don't appease the girl by saying things you don't mean, otherwise it just sticks you in that spot.[/QUOTE] sure in theory it caries weight, but it's not really important unless you hang on insignificant words. liking and loving somebody is shown in your actions and your attitudes, not four-letter words. just the other i said "I love you" to my toaster, does that elevate my relationship with the toaster!??
[QUOTE=thisispain;37519297]sure in theory it caries weight, but it's not really important unless you hang on insignificant words. liking and loving somebody is shown in your actions and your attitudes, not four-letter words. just the other i said "I love you" to my toaster, does that elevate my relationship with the toaster!??[/QUOTE] Physical actions can only display so much, words and the weight we put on their meanings are just as important in displaying how we feel about a person. Words can be pretty significant.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37518994]i love U2[/QUOTE] you sicko [editline]3rd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Chocolate.;37518735]Some people hold more value to the word than others I guess? [/QUOTE] No I mean if you do love the person it should come naturally and easily because you're just telling the truth about how you feel. If you DON'T love the person, then that's a sign you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37519297]just the other i said "I love you" to my toaster, does that elevate my relationship with the toaster!??[/QUOTE] Shit, so I guess things are getting pretty serious between the two of you?
[QUOTE=Rusty100;37519329]No I mean if you do love the person it should come naturally and easily because you're just telling the truth about how you feel. If you DON'T love the person, then that's a sign you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.[/QUOTE] the way I feel about love, if I supposedly love someone as soon as I begin a relationship with them there's probably something wrong with me
[QUOTE=G3rman;37519317]Physical actions can only display so much, words and the weight we put on their meanings are just as important in displaying how we feel about a person. Words can be pretty significant.[/QUOTE] sure sure sure, but the basic point i'm trying to convey is that people will say "i love you" on a whim and it can range from meaningless to the most significant thing on the planet. saying it doesn't really change anything nor does it mean anything in reality but maybe in Germany it's different i don't know, in England it didn't really mean anything and in America it doesn't seem to really mean anything either [editline]2nd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Chocolate.;37519405]Shit, so I guess things are getting pretty serious between the two of you?[/QUOTE] we cannot be separated, our bond transcends time itself
[QUOTE=thisispain;37519418]sure sure sure, but the basic point i'm trying to convey is that people will say "i love you" on a whim and it can range from meaningless to the most significant thing on the planet. saying it doesn't really change anything nor does it mean anything in reality but maybe in Germany it's different i don't know, in England it didn't really mean anything and in America it doesn't seem to really mean anything either[/QUOTE] but he wants it to mean something which is why he should reserve it for when he actually means it
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;37519434]but he wants it to mean something which is why he should reserve it for when he actually means it[/QUOTE] well we say words to communicate something to other people, what he wants it to mean is pretty much irrelevant to be honest i mean i'm not anti-romantic, but there's no real gesture in saying "i love you".
I think the issue is with me and this girl is that I keep thinking that I dont deserve her. She's mega popular and hot while I'm just a normal, for lack of a better word. She has the option to date these really popular guys but doesn't. Why would she date me if there are 100 other guys out there who are probably more .. socially acceptable then 'the cop'. [editline]3rd September 2012[/editline] And i think thats why i am finding it hard to say it back
[QUOTE=areolop;37519551]I think the issue is with me and this girl is that I keep thinking that I dont deserve her. She's mega popular and hot while I'm just a normal, for lack of a better word. She has the option to date these really popular guys but doesn't. Why would she date me if there are 100 other guys out there who are probably more .. socially acceptable then 'the cop'.[/QUOTE] oh that's just your own self-doubt and it's so silly
stop being so insecure and roll with it there's obviously something about you she prefers so stop feeling inadequate for whatever bullshit reason you're selling yourself
[QUOTE=Boss;37498671]Any straight guys had gay guys come onto them? Happened 2 weeks ago dude was like, you like a drink? I said sure a beer please. Took it, said thank you and walked. Beer tasted good.[/QUOTE] this happened to me while i was with my girlfriend. the guy pointed over towards us and my girlfriend thought he was pointing to her but then he shook his head and motioned for me to come over. then he bought me a mixed drink and said my girlfriend is lucky hehe
Oh goddamnit, just remembered my dream last night. I have this friend in Sweden, we met over L4D2 and she's really nice, known her for a few years now. We've talked a hell of a lot and done a lot of skype'ing, both audio and video. Fairly recently we, rather abruptly, stopped talking. As in, she very rarely initiates a conversation (unlike before when it was about half-and-half), and if we do start talking she often doesn't reply for ages, sometimes not at all, and doesn't explain why she's away (again, she would normally reply within seconds). This abrupt change was pretty damn unexplained, I mean, at first she said it was connection issues fucking with Skype, which made sense, but since then we still haven't talked the way we did before apart from a couple of one-offs. Basically in the dream we were talking again as if nothing was wrong, and I was happy because of that. This has happened to me before, and it hurts. It's like their memory of the friendship has been wiped and you're a total stranger to them once again. Never understood why they never explain, no matter how gently I treat the subject (none of our mutual friends know either).
i dreamt i got shot
i dreamt everyone started turning on me in school. They started spitting negative words at me, etc. Luckily I was awoken in time to endure this nightmare even more.
everyone ever forever has weird as shit dreams i dont know why people tell them to other people theyre inconsequential and unimportant and incoherant just cuz theyre weird doesnt mean other people will find them interesting
ITT I ask for help implictly and people start talking about their own dreams
you probably shouldn't have started your post with "Oh goddamnit, just remembered my dream last night." because when people say that i tend to avoid reading the rest of the post (as to others im sure)
"You know what Dee, I don't want to hear about your dream, okay? I hate listening to people's dreams. It's like flipping through a stack of photographs. If I'm not in any of them, and nobody's having sex, I just... don't care." - Dennis Reynolds, 2005
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