The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37528967]I can hardly start a conversation without going into a mad stutter and sweating like a cow, I am hoping just by getting out and talking to girls I will at least break that.
[editline]3rd September 2012[/editline]
AKA I am trying to get over my fear of women.[/QUOTE]
you're over-thinking it man, don't make it a mission. just let it happen naturally, and go after a girl's number if you genuinely like her
Wanted to ask. How do you nicely say "Please fuck off and shut the fuck up" to a girl?
There is this one girl who is probably a 2. She's fat and she has like Z sized boobs I swear (they're massive, probably one-quarter of their body size just shape a young Snookie). Anyways, she's in my classes for biology, chemistry and in school we have free periods together. She's really loud, she laughs hysterically. She starts singing random songs like Call Me Maybe, Blow My Whistle, all that shitty pop music on nowadays, which rapes my ear over.
No one in my school really likes her very well. She's arrogant and wears really inappropriately. After she leaves a group of people in free periods, everyone takes a huge breath since she's gone. Everyone is just plain as annoying as fuck with her but we have to [I]go along with it.[/I]
Ever since I got into a relationship with a girl, she's been starting to flirt on me which makes me extremely sick/queasy and disgusted. I definitely know she has a crush on me. Since my girlfriend is voluntarily working to help teachers on certain free periods, I sometimes study by myself alone, quietly. The fatty will just barge into the room I'm in and start singing and walking around as if she's some sort of model. She even sits down right next to me and wants me to teach her shit like I'm her tutor of some sort. If we don't have the same subject school mini-exams and I'm revising my butt off for it, she just starts talking to me not giving a fuck whether I do badly/fail my mini-exams.
Also she's that one type of person who borrows notes and borrows pens since she ain't fucking bothered to carry stuff around. She mainly borrows my notes and pens. Even if she loses it which is most of my stuff, she never says sorry. She's the daughter of the directing governor of our school (private school) so people are scared that they will be "shot" by her parents. I said I can't give her my notes and pens once and she said she "owns this school". This made me really angry. But there's one other reason.
Since I'm school president, I really can't say anything to her directly since I need to work with her dad after school sometimes to help further improve school, etc.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37527999]i read it, is it really necessary for us to rate/comment on everything written in the thread?[/QUOTE]
But hey. I actually wrote it for some feedback on my situation. I don't mean to force people or anything, but it's a bit frustrating not to get any advice when asked. I actually give lots of advice here too.
Zero women there, when we left the theater at 10, there were swarms of 20 year olds and packs of ten year olds. No one close to my age.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37528967]I can hardly start a conversation without going into a mad stutter and sweating like a cow, I am hoping just by getting out and talking to girls I will at least break that.
[editline]3rd September 2012[/editline]
AKA I am trying to get over my fear of women.[/QUOTE]
I just started college a week and a half ago, and before that I would only consider myself half-decent at meeting new people, maybe even kinda bad at it. But now I'm doing pretty well at starting conversations with people I've never met before. It's a skill, and you have to practice to get good at it.
Don't know if you're just starting college, but you can always ask what their major is as a conversation starter. You can also ask where they're from unless you're at a community college or something where everyone's from around the area...
Sometimes if I see someone with the same phone or something, I'll walk up to them with my phone out and be like "Hey, nice phone". As long as you're not acting creepy it works pretty well. (Sounds creeper in writing than it is in practice). Really, if you find anything that you have in common you can bring it up.
[editline]3rd September 2012[/editline]
And you probably shouldn't try the phone thing with someone on the street, could mistake you as someone who wants to steal their phone or something...
[QUOTE=robmaister12;37531192]I just started college a week and a half ago, and before that I would only consider myself half-decent at meeting new people, maybe even kinda bad at it. But now I'm doing pretty well at starting conversations with people I've never met before. It's a skill, and you have to practice to get good at it.
Don't know if you're just starting college, but you can always ask what their major is as a conversation starter. You can also ask where they're from unless you're at a community college or something where everyone's from around the area...
Sometimes if I see someone with the same phone or something, I'll walk up to them with my phone out and be like "Hey, nice phone". As long as you're not acting creepy it works pretty well. (Sounds creeper in writing than it is in practice). Really, if you find anything that you have in common you can bring it up.
[editline]3rd September 2012[/editline]
And you probably shouldn't try the phone thing with someone on the street, could mistake you as someone who wants to steal their phone or something...[/QUOTE]
to expand on this, a huge part of socializing is just how you carry yourself. if you seem awkward and mumble when you start a conversation with someone it'll come off as creepy. if you give them the impression you're bold and confident you'll come off as charismatic.
the trick to getting over shyness is just pretending you're confident. after a while it'll become true.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37531236]the trick to getting over shyness is just pretending you're confident. after a while it'll become true.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I can say from experience that this works.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37531236]to expand on this, a huge part of socializing is just how you carry yourself. if you seem awkward and mumble when you start a conversation with someone it'll come off as creepy. if you give them the impression you're bold and confident you'll come off as charismatic.
the trick to getting over shyness is just pretending you're confident. after a while it'll become true.[/QUOTE]
This - even if you say dumb stuff, you'll get a chance to sound funny! It's a win-win!
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37531236]to expand on this, a huge part of socializing is just how you carry yourself. if you seem awkward and mumble when you start a conversation with someone it'll come off as creepy. if you give them the impression you're bold and confident you'll come off as charismatic.
the trick to getting over shyness is just pretending you're confident. after a while it'll become true.[/QUOTE]
fake it till you make it
I'm actually comfortable with talking to girls now but I'm unsure what to do next. I feel like it would be a little weird to ask a girl for her number when I just met her. And if I actually managed to get to that point I have no idea what the fuck I would do after that so I don't just become a friend.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37526629]Going to start trying to get girls numbers by just talking to them after watching some of Simplepickup's tips (I hope facepunch doesn't hate them.)[/QUOTE]
no
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37526629]Just wondering, if things fall into awkward silence, is it alright to bring it up for a laugh?
"Well that got silent fast." HAHAHASHAHFHGSGSGFDS[/QUOTE]
no x 2
that's my 2 no's
And yes there are a few girls I have my eye on. A couple I've already introduced myself too in the past couple days and a couple more that I haven't introduced myself to yet but they've probably seen me around before.
[QUOTE=areolop;37519551]I think the issue is with me and this girl is that I keep thinking that I dont deserve her. She's mega popular and hot while I'm just a normal, for lack of a better word. She has the option to date these really popular guys but doesn't.
Why would she date me if there are 100 other guys out there who are probably more .. socially acceptable then 'the cop'.
[editline]3rd September 2012[/editline]
And i think thats why i am finding it hard to say it back[/QUOTE]
never worry about a girl who can choose someone else but doesn't want to.
worry about about a girl who wants to choose someone else but can't.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37526629]Going to start trying to get girls numbers by just talking to them after watching some of Simplepickup's tips (I hope facepunch doesn't hate them.)
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well don't really copy what they do because obviously they're just trying to get reactions from girls for funny videos.
but they are able to be extremely calm, casual and funny when talking to random girls so u need to work on that ;)
[QUOTE=thisispain;37532397]no
no x 2
that's my 2 no's[/QUOTE]
why & why
[QUOTE=locojaws;37534372]well don't really copy what they do because obviously they're just trying to get reactions from girls for funny videos.
but they are able to be extremely calm, casual and funny when talking to random girls so u need to work on that ;)[/QUOTE]
I looked at some of the videos from Project Go which they started on May. [SP]Through Warez because one of my friend told me about these guys. Sorry![/SP]
On Youtube they're just having fun and making the video humorous but the stuff on Project Go was actually pretty decent in advice. They were less funny and more serious in the information.
Anyways, this video always trips me over no matter what.
[video=youtube;d82Lmy46uTQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d82Lmy46uTQ[/video]
Their advice on Project Go is on the serious side. They give a breakdown of the videos and focus on specific situations people might have difficulties with.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37532397]no
no x 2
that's my 2 no's[/QUOTE]
Hey uh thisispain, this is an advice thread, not "will this work? yes or no"
I asked the same girl I like who friendzoned me out, to see a movie sometime since I have two tickets I got from volunteering, she said yes and I am not sure if she thinks it is just as friends, or as dating. Can someone clear this up for me.
[QUOTE=Xonax;37535336]I asked the same girl I like who friendzoned me out, to see a movie sometime since I have two tickets I got from volunteering, she said yes and I am not sure if she thinks it is just as friends, or as dating. Can someone clear this up for me.[/QUOTE]
if you are both friends and she has explicitly said before that she would like to be friends, and only friends, with you, then yes you are going to the film as friends. dont make a move. dont be a dick. be her friend
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37535377]if you are both friends and she has explicitly said before that she would like to be friends, and only friends, with you, then yes you are going to the film as friends. dont make a move. dont be a dick. be her friend[/QUOTE]
This is what I'd say too, make a little personal sacrifice and be a good friend. I mean at least you'll get to hang out with her once in a while, albeit not in the way you'd want.
[QUOTE='[Green];37536067']This is what I'd say too, make a little personal sacrifice and be a good friend. I mean at least you'll get to hang out with her once in a while, albeit not in the way you'd want.[/QUOTE]
There was some other stuff I didn't mention, but I rather not mention, if I did, it possibly wouldn't change your view, or it might. I rather talk about it via steam.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37532382]I'm actually comfortable with talking to girls now but I'm unsure what to do next. I feel like it would be a little weird to ask a girl for her number when I just met her. And if I actually managed to get to that point I have no idea what the fuck I would do after that so I don't just become a friend.[/QUOTE]
Just stay in touch with them and do some stuff with them, perhaps with friends, invite her to a party or something. After a while you both know eachother a lot better, asking for a date right away is really awkward and tends to fail.
Anway you will notice when she starts liking you.
[QUOTE=Xonax;37536193]There was some other stuff I didn't mention, but I rather not mention, if I did, it possibly wouldn't change your view, or it might. I rather talk about it via steam.[/QUOTE]
dont be weird about it, and if you really like her a lot just be persistent but in a subtle, not creepy way
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37535220]Hey uh thisispain, this is an advice thread, not "will this work? yes or no"[/QUOTE]
Advice: don't use simplepickup; don't point out elephants
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37536455]Advice: don't use simplepickup; don't point out elephants[/QUOTE]
That's not advice if you don't point out why, it's your personal opinion.
Don't use simplepickup because simplepickup (and other puas) have a highly distorted viewpoint. Their goal is quick hookups and sex; this makes them scummy in a way. It's great entertainment on YouTube, and in real life, you look like a jerk doing it. It's a great way to make people uncomfortable. Along with this, you don't know the girl you're picking up in any way, shape or form, and are simply getting their number for their looks. If that's your goal, fine, roll with it, but that's not what the majority of people in the Social and Love Advice thread are looking for.
Don't point out elephants because by identifying awkwardness, you're actually making it more awkward. You're basically saying "I'm shit at conversation" whenever you do that. The laugh isn't "haha funny joke" laughing, it's "haha I'll laugh to humor him, this is awkward" laughing.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37538047]Don't use simplepickup because simplepickup (and other puas) have a highly distorted viewpoint. Their goal is quick hookups and sex; this makes them scummy in a way. It's great entertainment on YouTube, and in real life, you look like a jerk doing it. It's a great way to make people uncomfortable. Along with this, you don't know the girl you're picking up in any way, shape or form, and are simply getting their number for their looks. If that's your goal, fine, roll with it, but that's not what the majority of people in the Social and Love Advice thread are looking for.
Don't point out elephants because by identifying awkwardness, you're actually making it more awkward. You're basically saying "I'm shit at conversation" whenever you do that. The laugh isn't "haha funny joke" laughing, it's "haha I'll laugh to humor him, this is awkward" laughing.[/QUOTE]
How do you know their goals? Have attached yourself magically into their brains or is this just assuming shit?
Furthermore, how do you know it makes the girl uncomfortable? You're such a goddamn white-knight that it's completely bullshit. Really, asking their number only for the looks??? OH THEY"RE SUCH BAD PEOPLE, DAMN, WHO THE HELL TALKS TO A WOMAN JUST CUS OF THEIR LOOKS ???? PREPOSTEROUS!!
Nostradamus, how do you know what people in this thread are looking for? This is completely subjective and hardly even realistic for the above reasons.
Really, the last paragraph just compltely denies any credibility you might have again for the above reasons.
Simplepickup allow people the power to change what they think about themselves and unless you want to rape the girl in front of you, this is all subjective and plain insecurity coverd by a coat of red roses called a "white knight personality".
Simplepickup seems more to me about giving you the confidence to go and approach girls to start talking to them; no one said doing that has to be followed by sex or hookups. Sure, in their videos they do it to get phone numbers from girls walking by in the street but you could apply the confidence they teach to a lot of situations. Like seith said can let people change what they think about themselves and feel better in their own skin to the point they're in what the guys call 'Godmode'.
that's not confidence, that's over-compensation.
[quote]to the point they're in what the guys call 'Godmode'.[/quote]
i cringed pretty hard
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