The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Hahahahahha move on? Keeping it to yourself is better than spurting it out.
Do you speak to people often? Like real humans? Because it doesn't seem like you have any idea about people and bad social situations.
even the mod doesn't read posts
anyway i got what i needed, which was opinions to weigh a decision (again, i did not say i did not like the responses.. but whatever?)
thanks guise
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=I ARE REPTAR;37553033]Hahahahahha move on? Keeping it to yourself is better than spurting it out.
Do you speak to people often? Like real humans? Because it doesn't seem like you have any idea about people and bad social situations.[/QUOTE]
what are you talking about
[QUOTE=DrBreen;37553054]even the mod doesn't read posts [/QUOTE]
egotistical as fuck
"you guys disagree with me so clearly you didn't read what i wrote!!"
get over yourself
*Eating lunch*
you: "Hey funny story haha, I used to Love you."
her: ".........."
you: "Hows your food?"
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37553129]egotistical as fuck
"you guys disagree with me so clearly you didn't read what i wrote!!"
get over yourself[/QUOTE]
so much for the friendly advice thread huh! i never even disagreed with anyone
I also find your post ironic as fuck considering you yourself mistunderstood my posts
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37552790]lol wait
you were "in love" with a girl you were never in a relationship with?
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
for FOUR YEARS?[/QUOTE]
Are you saying you understood completely?
lmao
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
EVERYBODY'S WRONG BUT ME!!
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37553309]lmao
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
EVERYBODY'S WRONG BUT ME!![/QUOTE]
nice argument
I don't even know what Dr. Breen is going on about and I don't care!!
Listen to me talk about this instead:
Red Dress Girl is back! I feel like I should have a crush on her, because she's rockin' hot, and has this crazy cool personality. Very unique lady, she stands out in a positive way. Plus, I think she likes me! Romantically, I dunno, but as a person? Yeah, I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm a cool dude. We hung out together for a couple hours today for our club (even though we were the only two members to show up), and when it was over we went and sat in her car and joked around while she had a smoke.
Thing is, I'm totally not crushing on her. I just think she's a kicking rad lady, and I want to hang out with her as friends. Her outlook on life is refreshing as hell, and she's got this carefree bubbliness that gets me all excited and happy.
Only thing is, we've really got nothing in common! She drinks, smokes, and gets high on a regular basis, whereas I'm pretty darn conservative in most respects. I'm totally cool with her getting slammed, and would even have fun hanging out with her when she was, but it's not really something I'm interested in doing myself. Not out of a moral stance, just personal preference, you know? I'd have some drinks, but that's about it.
So what I want to know is: is that even normal grounds for a friendship? Like, I know I feel a bit weird about drinking if I'm the only one doing it, so don't you think that'd put her off to the whole idea of hanging out with me? It probably sounds weird, but I want to hang out with her pretty much [I]because[/I] she's a stoner. She's ultra casual, tons of fun, and extremely happy. Like, infectiously so. It's just a real joy to hang with her, you dig?
I'd like to spend time with her outside school grounds and just chill, have some drinks and joke around and watch a dumb movie as friends, but I'm a bit nervous that if she finds out I'm not a smoker, she'll be like, "woah, I totally had the wrong idea about this guy. I thought he was fun, but I guess he's just some stuffy weirdo!"
Is that a normal thing to be nervous about?
[QUOTE=DrBreen;37553278]so much for the friendly advice thread huh! i never even disagreed with anyone
I also find your post ironic as fuck considering you yourself mistunderstood my posts
Are you saying you understood completely?[/QUOTE]
you are making a huge mistake in telling her you love(d) her
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37553367]I don't even know what Dr. Breen is going on about and I don't care!!
Listen to me talk about this instead:
Red Dress Girl is back! I feel like I should have a crush on her, because she's rockin' hot, and has this crazy cool personality. Very unique lady, she stands out in a positive way. Plus, I think she likes me! Romantically, I dunno, but as a person? Yeah, I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm a cool dude. We hung out together for a couple hours today for our club (even though we were the only two members to show up), and when it was over we went and sat in her car and joked around while she had a smoke.
Thing is, I'm totally not crushing on her. I just think she's a kicking rad lady, and I want to hang out with her as friends. Her outlook on life is refreshing as hell, and she's got this carefree bubbliness that gets me all excited and happy.
Only thing is, we've really got nothing in common! She drinks, smokes, and gets high on a regular basis, whereas I'm pretty darn conservative in most respects. I'm totally cool with her getting slammed, and would even have fun hanging out with her when she was, but it's not really something I'm interested in doing myself. Not out of a moral stance, just personal preference, you know? I'd have some drinks, but that's about it.
So what I want to know is: is that even normal grounds for a friendship? Like, I know I feel a bit weird about drinking if I'm the only one doing it, so don't you think that'd put her off to the whole idea of hanging out with me? It probably sounds weird, but I want to hang out with her pretty much [I]because[/I] she's a stoner. She's ultra casual, tons of fun, and extremely happy. Like, infectiously so. It's just a real joy to hang with her, you dig?
I'd like to spend time with her outside school grounds and just chill, have some drinks and joke around and watch a dumb movie as friends, but I'm a bit nervous that if she finds out I'm not a smoker, she'll be like, "woah, I totally had the wrong idea about this guy. I thought he was fun, but I guess he's just some stuffy weirdo!"
Is that a normal thing to be nervous about?[/QUOTE]
if she's as really cool as you say she is she probably wont give a shit
i will prove you guys ronggg!!!11
anyways this was blown out of proportion
[QUOTE=DrBreen;37553411]i will prove you guys ronggg!!!11
anyways this was blown out of proportion[/QUOTE]
(nobody cares)
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37553367]Is that a normal thing to be nervous about?[/QUOTE]
IMO you should let her know that you don't do that sort of stuff but that you have nothing against her doing it. just tell her what you told us (though maybe leave out the part about how you like hanging out [i]because[/i] she's a stoner).
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37553367]So what I want to know is: is that even normal grounds for a friendship?[/QUOTE]
sure - I have some friends that wouldn't go out clubbing if they were paid, and some friends that get wasted on wednesdays. that way you get a motley crew-dealio going on!
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37553367]I don't even know what Dr. Breen is going on about and I don't care!!
Listen to me talk about this instead:
Red Dress Girl is back! I feel like I should have a crush on her, because she's rockin' hot, and has this crazy cool personality. Very unique lady, she stands out in a positive way. Plus, I think she likes me! Romantically, I dunno, but as a person? Yeah, I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm a cool dude. We hung out together for a couple hours today for our club (even though we were the only two members to show up), and when it was over we went and sat in her car and joked around while she had a smoke.
Thing is, I'm totally not crushing on her. I just think she's a kicking rad lady, and I want to hang out with her as friends. Her outlook on life is refreshing as hell, and she's got this carefree bubbliness that gets me all excited and happy.
Only thing is, we've really got nothing in common! She drinks, smokes, and gets high on a regular basis, whereas I'm pretty darn conservative in most respects. I'm totally cool with her getting slammed, and would even have fun hanging out with her when she was, but it's not really something I'm interested in doing myself. Not out of a moral stance, just personal preference, you know? I'd have some drinks, but that's about it.
So what I want to know is: is that even normal grounds for a friendship? Like, I know I feel a bit weird about drinking if I'm the only one doing it, so don't you think that'd put her off to the whole idea of hanging out with me? It probably sounds weird, but I want to hang out with her pretty much [I]because[/I] she's a stoner. She's ultra casual, tons of fun, and extremely happy. Like, infectiously so. It's just a real joy to hang with her, you dig?
I'd like to spend time with her outside school grounds and just chill, have some drinks and joke around and watch a dumb movie as friends, but I'm a bit nervous that if she finds out I'm not a smoker, she'll be like, "woah, I totally had the wrong idea about this guy. I thought he was fun, but I guess he's just some stuffy weirdo!"
Is that a normal thing to be nervous about?[/QUOTE]
Everything is normal to be honest you got nothing to worry about, just be honest and cool about it
But i don't get your stance because you say you like her because she's a stoner while not being one yourself, isn't that projection of some sort?
[QUOTE=DrBreen;37553522]Everything is normal to be honest you got nothing to worry about, just be honest and cool about it
But i don't get your stance because you say you like her because she's a stoner while not being one yourself, isn't that projection of some sort?[/QUOTE]
Yeah, it's projection. I admire her personality, wish I had half her optimism! I'm not interested in the pot side of things so much, though it's not like I'm super opposed, and I'd probably give it a go at some point just for the experience, but I really dig the way she looks at the world.
She's got this whole, "Oh well, what the hell!" thing going, like she knows everything is gonna turn out alright in the end either way. It's pretty refreshing, meeting somebody who's not constantly stressing about school and work and bills and whatnot.
My other friends, they all need something out of our relationship. They need to vent about work, or women, or school, or whatever, and when we hang out, that makes up a pretty big chunk of our time. And I'm cool to be that for them, because they're my friends, you know? And because they do the same for me, when I need that. But I can't help but think about how nice it'd be to have a friend or two who I can just have fun with, somebody who's able to shrug that shit off and live for the moment. If I had more people like that in my life, then I could do the same thing.
That kind of outlook reminds me of being a kid again, and playing in the back yard. You didn't care about anything back then, you just enjoyed having a good time. I miss that a lot, sometimes!
dr breen you say you're 21 yet you act like a 14 year old
[editline]5th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37553367]
Is that a normal thing to be nervous about?[/QUOTE]
noo it's not normal to be nervous about that. there's nothing to be nervous about.
though don't be surprised if she'll offer you pot once every week or something, it's a courtesy
"BDA," she'll say, "Why will you not just have some smokes of my marijuana cigarettes? They have a the biggest weedy-jane for getting mad snorkled."
"I am ashamed," I'll reply, "I am not the wickedest purp-skurper; I just don't partake."
So apparently I'm dragging my brother to his first-ever kickback.
Sweet :v:
And maybe his first tailgate party this Saturday if all goes well.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37554925]"BDA," she'll say, "Why will you not just have some smokes of my marijuana cigarettes? They have a the biggest weedy-jane for getting mad snorkled."
"I am ashamed," I'll reply, "I am not the wickedest purp-skurper; I just don't partake."[/QUOTE]
I hope the conversation happens just so.
I always write much more than I had intended to write. I think I need a built-in character limit. I should just communicate entirely through haiku, to keep myself on-point.
[I]
Fighting digression,
the winded writer vows this:
no more paragraphs.[/I]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37554925]"BDA," she'll say, "Why will you not just have some smokes of my marijuana cigarettes? They have a the biggest weedy-jane for getting mad snorkled."
"I am ashamed," I'll reply, "I am not the wickedest purp-skurper; I just don't partake."[/QUOTE]
Rated artistic for [b]pure fucking poetry[/b].
I teared up
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37554398]Yeah, it's projection. I admire her personality, wish I had half her optimism! I'm not interested in the pot side of things so much, though it's not like I'm super opposed, and I'd probably give it a go at some point just for the experience, but I really dig the way she looks at the world.
She's got this whole, "Oh well, what the hell!" thing going, like she knows everything is gonna turn out alright in the end either way. It's pretty refreshing, meeting somebody who's not constantly stressing about school and work and bills and whatnot.
My other friends, they all need something out of our relationship. They need to vent about work, or women, or school, or whatever, and when we hang out, that makes up a pretty big chunk of our time. And I'm cool to be that for them, because they're my friends, you know? And because they do the same for me, when I need that. But I can't help but think about how nice it'd be to have a friend or two who I can just have fun with, somebody who's able to shrug that shit off and live for the moment. If I had more people like that in my life, then I could do the same thing.
That kind of outlook reminds me of being a kid again, and playing in the back yard. You didn't care about anything back then, you just enjoyed having a good time. I miss that a lot, sometimes![/QUOTE]
Well looks like she's a good influence on you, just shrug off the weed thing it's no big deal, if she asks why you don't smoke just say you're a new age muslim and sharia prevents you from toking up, or something
Why would you lie about something like that?
Can't he just say that he isn't one too keen on getting intoxicated.
[QUOTE=DrBreen;37555314] if she asks why you don't smoke just say you're a new age muslim and sharia prevents you from toking up, or something[/QUOTE]
genioos
Yeah, Breen. Sure. And you get to tend the rabbits.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37555888]Yeah, Breen. Sure. And you get to tend the rabbits.[/QUOTE]
nah i was joking, it won't really become a problem, if she makes a big deal out of you not smoking or whatever then it's her problem not yours
So I just got a date for this Sunday. I don't know the girl personally, I've just seen her on the webcam alongside her friend while they were talking to my brother who was the one who offered me this opportunity to go and have a double date with him. My brother is going with her friend. What do you guys think about this? Also, any suggestions on how I should behave, etc?
[QUOTE=gsp1995;37556035]So I just got a date for this Sunday. I don't know the girl personally, I've just seen her on the webcam alongside her friend while they were talking to my brother who was the one who offered me this opportunity to go and have a double date with him. My brother is going with her friend. What do you guys think about this? Also, any suggestions on how I should behave, etc?[/QUOTE]
Sounds cool?
Just do your own thing and all that and it'll either go [b]great[/b] or terrible or anything in between, but that's the point of dates.
If it's your first date then you have your brother to give you some leadership and ideas for conversation at least, so it can't go too bad either way.
EDIT: oh god i wrote terrible or bad whoops
Can we please keep this civil?
From what I gather, yes, Breen has made a mistake, but unless I'm mistaken (which is by no means impossible) I think you guys are being a little harsh, which just kinda' means he'll stop listening, even if you may be correct.
Let's be nice to each other, and if someone is clearly not going to listen, express as clearly as possible what mistakes they are making and leave it at that. :)
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