• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=loopoo;37586312]Are you sure your college offers no aid to people with dyslexia? Over here (Ireland), if you have dyslexia or another other disorder (anxiety, depression, ADD, ADHD, a huge host of them), you get lots of help from the school system. I remember when we were all applying to our colleges, this guy with depression got the grades he required knocked down by a huge margin (he had to get official documents from a psychiatrist and his doctor), and another girl who was suffering from dyslexia also had the grades required lowered. They both got the courses they wanted (I can't remember what they picked) and once they got into college, the college's guidance counselor took care of them and ensured they both could work to their full potential. If you don't have that sort of treatment in America, then I feel bad for you, because it's unfair on you and anyone else who suffers from dyslexia. Look into any help or aid you can receive for having dyslexia, I'm sure there must be something (education-wise, to see if perhaps there's something you can do to make learning an experience that sits better with the way your brain works).[/QUOTE] what i meant was that i had never been diagnosed with it in spite of struggling my whole life due to it. i haven't really looked into what my college has for people with learning disabilities yet but i'll probably look into it in the next few weeks. from now on, i'm probably going to let my professors know that i'm dyslexic so they're a bit more understanding about the struggles i have with certain types of assignments. if possible i might ask my professors if i can complete certain assignments in a way that's more comfortable to me, such as answering a question in essay form instead of with multiple choice.
Just wanted to say that while I never post here (and if I have I'd probably start with this kind of thing), I like to come by here and read about your lives in a totally non-creepy way. Not because mine isn't as interesting as yours, but because it's just plain interesting. At the moment, since I'm not a citizen of Australia even though I've lived here most of my life, I'm working in a cafe in north queensland until I pay my citizenship application fees. Only after that's gone through will I be able to apply for university and have HECS fees granted. Since I work full-time though, I've hit a stump in a social life. Long story short, I wish my parents cared as much as Physykotik's parents do (no offence) but it's worked out in a strange way though I'm still yet to talk to them on a normal plane for about five months now. Anyway, literally the only person I know personally is my girlfriend of two years. My room-mate, a classmate of hers (she is a dental student) never talks to me, and I'd really enjoy the contact but no matter how much I talk to him there's really not much to say. Any idea how I can turn it up a bit? I remember BDA asked how to make friends with room-mates or room-mate-y activities that aren't weird. Any suggestions? [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] tl;dr I've moved out of home about five months ago, and moved into a new city 300kms away from my old one where I know no one but my girlfriend and I'm having trouble socialising with a full-time job and I'd like some help thank you. :)
What was it like, moving to a whole new place, Aries? I've fantasized about doing the same thing for years now, but I've never quite gotten the balls to just go for it. Australia was actually one of the places I was most highly considering, too. How easily did you adjust, and what kinds of challenges did you face when you got there? Is it terribly difficult to establish yourself as an immigrant, as far as finding work and housing goes? What about school?
Where are you living Aries and what are your interests? Also I'm totally moving about 150ks away in a few months, I'm super excited and super scared so I know the feelings, but I travel there lots and got socials going before I start living here, so I guess its not as bad
Oh, wait, nevermind. I just saw that bit about you having lived there most your life. I missed that the first time, and thought you had immigrated to Australia from another country.
I was born in South Africa, and we moved to a place in northern Australia when I was eight. When I was ten we moved to the aptly named Townsville, where I grew up until this year. Following a stint of parental care, I left home just before my eighteenth birthday with the help of a few well-placed phone calls thanks to my lovely girlfriend, even though she was in a different town. I stayed with my job for three more months, and then left to head up north where I am now. My major worry was finding a job, but I found one in literally half an hour! I dropped my things off at my house, decided I needed to do a bit of shopping and scout the area and walked into the nearest shopping centre and found a job as a barista in the first shop in the centre that I saw. It really helped that I dressed sharpish that day. Always dress sharp, girls go crazy. That took a huge load of worry off my back, and I've been working there since. To answer your questions BDA, finding work as an immigrant is pretty easy since I've mostly lived in Australia, but since I live in the only tourist hub in Queensland foreigners get all the jobs here, particularly in hospitality. I graduated high school last year, and have been working my ass off to secure the citizenship payment. It's only $200, but in the first year of living in your own means finding a spare $200 is a scary accomplishment I hope to achieve. Housing was fairly simple, I visited a few times throughout the year to meet people, including my girlfriend, because I planned on moving here to attend university some day anyway. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37586941]Oh, wait, nevermind. I just saw that bit about you having lived there most your life. I missed that the first time, and thought you had immigrated to Australia from another country.[/QUOTE] haha no problem. I will add that as a kid, it sucks dick to move to Australia when you have a very thick south african accent, and you move straight to a very rural, closeminded and racist community. From an early age, I've learned that if I walk and talk like everybody else, it tends to be okay but you do get the occasional reminder that you're from quite a different culture sometimes
[QUOTE=Aries;37586992]I was born in South Africa, and we moved to a place in northern Australia when I was eight. When I was ten we moved to the aptly named Townsville, where I grew up until this year. Following a stint of parental care, I left home just before my eighteenth birthday with the help of a few well-placed phone calls thanks to my lovely girlfriend, even though she was in a different town. I stayed with my job for three more months, and then left to head up north where I am now. My major worry was finding a job, but I found one in literally half an hour! I dropped my things off at my house, decided I needed to do a bit of shopping and scout the area and walked into the nearest shopping centre and found a job as a barista in the first shop in the centre that I saw. It really helped that I dressed sharpish that day. Always dress sharp, girls go crazy. That took a huge load of worry off my back, and I've been working there since. To answer your questions BDA, finding work as an immigrant is pretty easy since I've mostly lived in Australia, but since I live in the only tourist hub in Queensland foreigners get all the jobs here, particularly in hospitality. I graduated high school last year, and have been working my ass off to secure the citizenship payment. It's only $200, but in the first year of living in your own means finding a spare $200 is a scary accomplishment I hope to achieve. Housing was fairly simple, I visited a few times throughout the year to meet people, including my girlfriend, because I planned on moving here to attend university some day anyway. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] haha no problem. I will add that as a kid, it sucks dick to move to Australia when you have a very thick south african accent, and you move straight to a very rural, closeminded and racist community. From an early age, I've learned that if I walk and talk like everybody else, it tends to be okay but you do get the occasional reminder that you're from quite a different culture sometimes[/QUOTE] Cairns/Brisbane? it really shouldn't be hard to find stuff that you can join, clubs and stuff like that, and seeing as you have a job as a barista, why not go out with people from work/make friends with them? Also I know I don't do it, but my dad is a regular around a few cafes and his best friend is the manager of a place he used to regularly have lunch at before it closed down, so that's an option too Should obviously be like super easy once university starts
[QUOTE=killerteacup;37586935]Where are you living Aries and what are your interests? Also I'm totally moving about 150ks away in a few months, I'm super excited and super scared so I know the feelings, but I travel there lots and got socials going before I start living here, so I guess its not as bad[/QUOTE] I live in Cairns, Queensland. I like video games, having intriguing conversations, eating well and staying fit and helping people out. Turns out there's one single homeless person here, so every Thursday night I give him a bag of groceries to eat. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=killerteacup;37587021]Cairns/Brisbane? it really shouldn't be hard to find stuff that you can join, clubs and stuff like that, and seeing as you have a job as a barista, why not go out with people from work/make friends with them? Also I know I don't do it, but my dad is a regular around a few cafes and his best friend is the manager of a place he used to regularly have lunch at before it closed down, so that's an option too Should obviously be like super easy once university starts[/QUOTE] Yeah, once uni starts it'd be really easy. I never really got along with people from my old town, so I'm hoping to make a fresh start here. A lot of people from America and Sweden attend the university, so there's hope for me yet.
[QUOTE=Aries;37587026]I live in Cairns, Queensland. I like video games, having intriguing conversations, eating well and staying fit and helping people out. Turns out there's one single homeless person here, so every Thursday night I give him a bag of groceries to eat. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] Yeah, once uni starts it'd be really easy. I never really got along with people from my old town, so I'm hoping to make a fresh start here. A lot of people from America and Sweden attend the university, so there's hope for me yet.[/QUOTE] I know your dilemma, for the last year I've been working to save up to leave this city and because all my old friends are at uni, my social connections have really dried up. It's pretty frustrating, but there are loads of cool ways to find other people, like if you're looking to go to uni you could just go there on a free day and check it out, get talking to some people there and ask them a few questions about what it's like, etc. I have a few friends waiting down at my uni for when I start because I went in there. But yeah, there are loads of options around.
Yeah, there was an open day a few days ago but I was working on that day. Essentially my problem in a nutshell.
I've started college this week (UK, so 16-18 y/o) and I went there *knowing* that I wouldn't have met anyone there ever in my life. The weird thing is though, is that there was a girl in my English classes, which I have two hours a day, every day, who is a friend of a friend; basically, I haven't met her, or come into contact with her, for about four or five years. And even then it was only for a few minutes! As soon as the register is read out, she notices my name, turns round, waves, and smiles. This girl comes over to me after class, and we start chatting for about 20 minutes about how life has been since we last saw each other... Honestly, at this point, I'm completely perplexed that she actually remembers me at all - yet she was almost talking to me like we'd known each other all this time. We talk about the 'necessities', such as exam results, which school we both came from, etc. and honestly, I feel we really hit it off. The only issue is that I hardly have time to talk to her. There's the transitional time between lessons, and waiting outside the classes... Could that be enough time for me to get to know her well? Or should I ask her out, to get to know her better? I don't know if she's single or not. I don't even know what I'm asking here to be honest.
On the topic of moving away, I literally moved to the other side of the world. I grew up in Sweden and I moved all all the way to New Zealand to study for a degree in Game Art. It's been a blast and I like being here. Met some really interesting people both in school and in the temporary hostel I live in right now. Me, my fellow swedish buddies and this South African dude called Jeandre I met at school is currently looking for something more permanent. The first days were really rough though. I had started at this really smelly hostel with not so very nice people, even though I was traveling with two other friends I called my mom and really cried my eyes out. I chocked myself with this gloomy mood as I'm always cheery and always crack jokes whenever I can. After the jet lag settled and I found myself the current hostel I live in, I felt a lot better. We even met a lovely British gal named Harriet and we had lots of laughs! When school started, I was blasted away by all the awesome personalities. My 3D teacher is an awesome dude with a hilarious personality and great track record in the industry; he worked on Quake, Halo 3 and some Microsoft Simulators (he fucking loves trains).
woah what's game art?
[QUOTE=thisispain;37588005]woah what's game art?[/QUOTE] concept art, texturing, modeling, sculpting, rigging, animating, game design etc etc and stuff and things
Heh, I didn't think this would get any better. So yesterday when we talked on Skype with a few of the girls in my school, I've heard quite a few times that a few girls, and especially one in particular likes me. I've come to the point of thought that this is some kind of dream, that my brain is mocking me. I've never had a girlfriend before, either. I'm trying to get to know all of them at the moment, especially the ones that like me more than the others. I don't want to go into a relationship with someone that I'm not interested in. For a week, this has been pretty great.
[QUOTE=Jacko245;37587829]I've started college this week (UK, so 16-18 y/o) and I went there *knowing* that I wouldn't have met anyone there ever in my life. The weird thing is though, is that there was a girl in my English classes, which I have two hours a day, every day, who is a friend of a friend; basically, I haven't met her, or come into contact with her, for about four or five years. And even then it was only for a few minutes! As soon as the register is read out, she notices my name, turns round, waves, and smiles. This girl comes over to me after class, and we start chatting for about 20 minutes about how life has been since we last saw each other... Honestly, at this point, I'm completely perplexed that she actually remembers me at all - yet she was almost talking to me like we'd known each other all this time. We talk about the 'necessities', such as exam results, which school we both came from, etc. and honestly, I feel we really hit it off. The only issue is that I hardly have time to talk to her. There's the transitional time between lessons, and waiting outside the classes... Could that be enough time for me to get to know her well? Or should I ask her out, to get to know her better? I don't know if she's single or not. I don't even know what I'm asking here to be honest.[/QUOTE] Jesus invented facebook to find out if girls are single.
I got tipsy off of 3 drinks last night and I'm 6'7" tall an 215 lbs heavy. Maybe it's because I rarely drink
Or empty stomach. Not much need to worry about it though, I don't take much to get drunk either. As long as you're drinking at your own pace and enjoying yourself, it's all good.
Why was my post rated winner? I don't understand! [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Gump;37589490]Jesus invented facebook to find out if girls are single.[/QUOTE] It says she's married to one of her friends. Girls do that even when they have boyfriends, right?
[QUOTE=Jacko245;37587829]It says she's married to one of her friends. Girls do that even when they have boyfriends, right?[/QUOTE] ask her out on date mannnnnnnn
[QUOTE=Jacko245;37590084]Why was my post rated winner? I don't understand! [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] It says she's married to one of her friends. Girls do that even when they have boyfriends, right?[/QUOTE] They can, yeah. My girlfriend had her status as that until just a month and a half ago. She changed it to "in a relationship" so guys would stop hitting on her.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;37591121]They can, yeah. My girlfriend had her status as that until just a month and a half ago. She changed it to "in a relationship" so guys would stop hitting on her.[/QUOTE] I'm still worried she might though-- then I'd look like a complete idiot. [QUOTE=Mobon1;37590098]ask her out on date mannnnnnnn[/QUOTE] I'm scared. Only really known her for 2 days...
[QUOTE=Jacko245;37591346]I'm still worried she might though-- then I'd look like a complete idiot. I'm scared. Only really known her for 2 days...[/QUOTE] Why would you look like a complete idiot? If everybody had that mindset nobody would ask anybody out. Ask her to go shopping or something and then go for a drink after. Don't offer the drink until you're actually shopping but if she says no to the initial offer because she has a boyfriend you can say "Oh I didn't mean like that! I'm glad you think like that though :)" That way the role is reversed and you have nothing to fear. People have one night stands all the time, you've known her twice as long! haha all jokes aside, you'll have plenty more time to get to know her while shopping or whatever date you choose, just don't choose something that everybody does, eg cinema, dinner, coffee etc. Find something fun like wall climbing or something.
[QUOTE=Aries;37587026]I live in Cairns, Queensland. I like video games, having intriguing conversations, eating well and staying fit and helping people out. Turns out there's one single homeless person here, so every Thursday night I give him a bag of groceries to eat. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] Yeah, once uni starts it'd be really easy. I never really got along with people from my old town, so I'm hoping to make a fresh start here. A lot of people from America and Sweden attend the university, so there's hope for me yet.[/QUOTE] Im dutch (europe) and spend half a year studying in Brisbane. I found that the international students are really easy to befriend since everybody is halfway across the world from their home and needs new people to hang out with asap. It does suck that everybody knows they will be leaving in 5-10 months though so friendships stay shallow...
I just started college last week. Don't know anyone. never had a girlfriend or any friends that much. I don't know what to do anymore facepunch. How do I meet girls? Just walk up and talk? ugh
#1 method is joining clubs. If you have a clubs day/week or something, go and sign up for everything you're mildly slightly interested in. If you live on campus, go to residence parties. If you live off campus, go to residence parties. Arrive early to class and chat with the first people that come in. Labs/tutorials are more relaxed than lectures, I met a couple people in labs before. Finally, friends of friends are the best way, if you have any friends near campus.
Well I've been in university for a whole week now and I'm falling back into my good old high school mentality. It's just seeming like everyone has settled in to their own little groups now. And there are cute girls in my classes and I lack the confidence to talk to them now, whereas for the first couple days I would have been all over that. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] Hell, on thursday a girl seemingly purposefully sat beside me in a class but I was still too autistic to talk to her. That and her hair was almost as short as mine which made me almost instantly assume lesbian, as bad as that sounds.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37595147]Well I've been in university for a whole week now and I'm falling back into my good old high school mentality. It's just seeming like everyone has settled in to their own little groups now. And there are cute girls in my classes and I lack the confidence to talk to them now, whereas for the first couple days I would have been all over that. [editline]8th September 2012[/editline] Hell, on thursday a girl seemingly purposefully sat beside me in a class but I was still too autistic to talk to her. That and her hair was almost as short as mine which made me almost instantly assume lesbian, as bad as that sounds.[/QUOTE] uhh i have shorter hair than most of the guys i meet and i'm pretty straight
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37595283]uhh i have shorter hair than most of the guys i meet and i'm pretty straight[/QUOTE] That's kind of why I said it's a bad assumption. I don't even like short hair that much and I'll even say she looked good. I probably already fucked up by not talking to her though. But I don't have that class again until Tuesday so she hopefully has plenty of time to forget I was even there.
wait what really? I always thought you were gay. seriously. i'm really sorry.
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