The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34734919]
and no it's not really physically bad to smoke pot on a regular basis at least in a long term basis, and unless he does sports that require almost only running he should be fine.
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this is not true
its not horrible for you, but its not without its risks
[QUOTE=GameDev;34745862][sub][sub]repost from other thread[/sub][/sub]
So there's this chick who i'm really getting in to, she shares a passion of photoshop and photography with me, and we really seem to get along; but we talk occasionally.
How do I get to the point where I can ask her if she wants to hang out or whatever[/QUOTE]
Tell her that you like MLP and you'll get laid instantly. Nah, but just ask her.
I thought I'd let this out, but I am getting tired of my family looking down on me. Everyone calls me the dumbest child in the whole family, and I find it terrible to believe the truth. My cousins are all honor roll students with 4.0 GPA's. My other cousin won a small teenage beauty pageant and my oldest cousin has a model for a girlfriend. All their parents are very proud of them.
I have nothing, as a matter of fact I hear them talking shit like " oh dont be like anthony he cant do anything right". fucking shit, if only i could do something to make my mother proud. I'm fucking graduating highschool in 3 months. Never got an award for anything, no friends, never had a girlfriend(in fact i got blocked by this chick on my first date few months ago). I need a life change
Go to a different state school if you can.
he's expressed interest in dealing now
not going to get involved but oh man hes being such an idiot
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;34749091]I thought I'd let this out, but I am getting tired of my family looking down on me. Everyone calls me the dumbest child in the whole family, and I find it terrible to believe the truth. My cousins are all honor roll students with 4.0 GPA's. My other cousin won a small teenage beauty pageant and my oldest cousin has a model for a girlfriend. All their parents are very proud of them.
I have nothing, as a matter of fact I hear them talking shit like " oh dont be like anthony he cant do anything right". fucking shit, if only i could do something to make my mother proud. I'm fucking graduating highschool in 3 months. Never got an award for anything, no friends, never had a girlfriend(in fact i got blocked by this chick on my first date few months ago). I need a life change[/QUOTE]
You'll never change yourself with that attitude. As for the awards and friends, get involved. Join a club or a sport that you have interest in. Find a hobby, go to the gym and work out or something. If you enjoy something, chances are others enjoy it as well, you're sure to find friends.
Any tips on how to be less nervous about a date? We're just having a few drinks but still.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;34749913]Any tips on how to be less nervous about a date? We're just having a few drinks but still.[/QUOTE]
Don't think about. That's all I can say, don't play it out in your head or anything either.
I used to pride myself on how laid back I was compared to my tightly wound friends but I'm starting to realize that I am in fact the most tightly wound of all and it blows.
[QUOTE=Occlusion;34749913]Any tips on how to be less nervous about a date? We're just having a few drinks but still.[/QUOTE]
Drink a little.
[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34752235]Drink a little.[/QUOTE]
No. For two reasons:
1. That's like lighting a cigarette every time you are about to engage in something stressful (i.e, meetings, job interviews). He'll start relaying on that, and if ever ran out, he'd be even more stressful. Meaning the problem still exists and he just treated the symptoms.
2. Fogs the mind. Even if it's 0.2l of beer, that won't help him at all.
Figured i could get some advice here.
I need to forget this girl you see, we tried countless times but we never worked. i hadnt seen her for about 4 years or even given her as much as a thought. But last year she reappeared in my life. and instantenously i realised i had never truly put her behind me. instead burying it in loads of work.
A part of me wants to give it another shot, But i know better than that... i would prefer to just forget so i can return to my life of working like an idiot
There's no medicine for that other than having more women in your life. The abundance of them will make it so your brain realizes you don't need to cling on a certain person.
Well, these few weeks have been shit for me... I thought I was fine after this last relationship ended, then I get a call from one of my closest friends who's currently a sophomore in college. He got an internship offer at Microsoft, which means he won't be heading back home for the summer. It's awesome and I'm proud for him, but we won't be doing any of the stuff we were planning on doing and this summer isn't looking too exciting right now. My friends who are still in high school are either stressing out because they're juniors or spending more time with their girlfriends because we're graduating soon.
At the same time I've realized that my life has come down to: wake up -> school -> homework/programming at home -> bed (minus school on weekends) and I'm getting sick of it. A few of us tried to go out and have fun one afternoon and quickly realized there's nothing to do here but theaters and mid-high range dining for people who aren't 21 yet. I'm starting to feel pretty fucking lonely, and I'm getting increasingly frustrated with where I am right now. I want to just leave and get some real independence/freedom and be able to start fresh. I just don't know what to do until then.
Yeah I don't think I'm getting a reply to that valentine on facebook.
At least the friend I sent it to hasn't been acting weird towards me, which is good. But feels bad and embarrassing :(.
[editline]18th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=robmaister12;34754590]
At the same time I've realized that my life has come down to: wake up -> school -> homework/programming at home -> bed (minus school on weekends) and I'm getting sick of it. A few of us tried to go out and have fun one afternoon and quickly realized there's nothing to do here but theaters and mid-high range dining for people who aren't 21 yet. I'm starting to feel pretty fucking lonely, and I'm getting increasingly frustrated with where I am right now. I want to just leave and get some real independence/freedom and be able to start fresh. I just don't know what to do until then.[/QUOTE]
Good thing you're lucky enough to realize that you have to get out of that situation. I think that's a really common problem for people who are our age. Personally, I see a lot of kids in high school who can't wait to get out of my state and go somewhere else. Everything from Arizona to Maryland to New York.
Is there anything small you can do around the house to shake things up? Maybe just changing your local environment and work patterns a bit will put some excitement into life that will distract you from some of the more negative parts of your surroundings.
[QUOTE=robmaister12;34754590]Well, these few weeks have been shit for me... I thought I was fine after this last relationship ended, then I get a call from one of my closest friends who's currently a sophomore in college. He got an internship offer at Microsoft, which means he won't be heading back home for the summer. It's awesome and I'm proud for him, but we won't be doing any of the stuff we were planning on doing and this summer isn't looking too exciting right now. My friends who are still in high school are either stressing out because they're juniors or spending more time with their girlfriends because we're graduating soon.
At the same time I've realized that my life has come down to: wake up -> school -> homework/programming at home -> bed (minus school on weekends) and I'm getting sick of it. A few of us tried to go out and have fun one afternoon and quickly realized there's nothing to do here but theaters and mid-high range dining for people who aren't 21 yet. I'm starting to feel pretty fucking lonely, and I'm getting increasingly frustrated with where I am right now. I want to just leave and get some real independence/freedom and be able to start fresh. I just don't know what to do until then.[/QUOTE]
Find a purpose, a goal. A goal beyond school, friends and weekends. Something personal, nobody else could relate to.
[QUOTE=Seith;34754352]No. For two reasons:
1. That's like lighting a cigarette every time you are about to engage in something stressful (i.e, meetings, job interviews). He'll start relaying on that, and if ever ran out, he'd be even more stressful. Meaning the problem still exists and he just treated the symptoms.
2. Fogs the mind. Even if it's 0.2l of beer, that won't help him at all.[/QUOTE]
Yeah i wasn't planning on drinking my problems away haha.
But should i be really flirty/physical on the first date? We've talked quite a bit but nothing overly flirty yet.
Just take it as it goes; be dynamic. If it's going really well take it further, if it's going slowly and she seems a bit tentative, go slow with things.
[QUOTE=Seith;34754783]Find a purpose, a goal. A goal beyond school, friends and weekends. Something personal, nobody else could relate to.[/QUOTE]
I actually haven't done any mapping for Source in a really long time, maybe I'll get back into that with the goal of actually finishing and releasing a map over the period of a few months. There's also the Ludum Dare competition to look forward to in April. I think I just need to really get immersed in some project and I'll be fine.
Maybe try a more outdoor and social goal?
[QUOTE=robmaister12;34755322]I actually haven't done any mapping for Source in a really long time, maybe I'll get back into that with the goal of actually finishing and releasing a map over the period of a few months. There's also the Ludum Dare competition to look forward to in April. I think I just need to really get immersed in some project and I'll be fine.[/QUOTE]
I was talking about a life goal.
Come now, people, whatever works.
[QUOTE=The Maestro;34756226]Come now, people, whatever works.[/QUOTE]
no
mapping for a source project isn't something that is beneficial for him in the long term
go workout
go find a girlfriend
i'm starting to feel like more of a clown than anything lately
yeah sure, the people i hang round laugh at the jokes, but i can tell they don't take me seriously. i want to move somewhere else and start fresh.
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;34755338]Maybe try a more outdoor and social goal?[/QUOTE]
The thing is that most of the people I spend time with are off doing other things, it's hard to be social when there's no one to be social with.
[editline]18th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34758512]no
mapping for a source project isn't something that is beneficial for him in the long term
go workout
go find a girlfriend[/QUOTE]
Hmm, I should probably work out a bit, I haven't done that in a while.
As for the girlfriend, I've tried but never managed to get that far. This last time I was told that it was getting too close to college and it wouldn't make sense to get into a relationship just to break up a few months later.
I doubt I'd be able to start something new with someone at this point, but that doesn't mean I won't try if I see an opportunity.
[editline]18th February 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Seith;34755426]I was talking about a life goal.[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure I want to do some sort of game development in the future, whether that's programming or level design, and I'm already working towards that. Unless you were talking about something not career-oriented.
Yeah unless both you and your girlfriend would be close by for college then don't go for a relationship. In-fact, even if you were going to the exact same college, the relationship might face a lot of strain because college brings a brand new environment.
However, you could do something like ask a girl out to prom. Where I live Senior prom is a bigger deal, even the girls that normally don't go to, say, Junior prom will go to the Senior one. Of course depends where you live, what your school is like, etc etc
[editline]18th February 2012[/editline]
Also you guys should chill out. robmaister is only a Senior in high school, it's not like he's out of college and frustrated with his job. Most of us high school seniors are absolutely [b]sick[/b] of things around them, which is why we go to colleges with totally different environments. Plus if rob wants to be a game designer, any work he can do now is beneficial to a career later down the road. He has a perfect opportunity too: not a good time for a girlfriend, friends aren't really around that often, school is about a quarter of a year left, nothing to do around town, etc. Really as long as rob can find a balance between map developing and being stressed out he should be fine. Unless, of course, he still finds himself unhappy.
I've been having a bit of a shit time lately. Everything's sort of came to a halt socially, and I'm not one of them unsocial people normally, it's not like I need any pointers. But lately when I put my head to the pillow to go to bed I just can't help but think I'm a massive wanker and I have nothing to offer anyone but stolen opinions (what I mean is sometimes a friend of mine will have an opinion about something, and I'll think "Oh makes a lot sense", and then when I'm asked about the same thing by someone else, I'll have that opinion too. Which is perfectly fucking reasonable, but for some reason I think I must be an opinion thief) or the odd funny comment. The thing is, I know that isn't true. If I was to look at me through someone else's eyes I'd think I was a pretty great fella (bah screw modesty!). But genuinely, lately, I feel like shit. The thing is I can't even go out to clubs and meet new people (which I think I really could do with, if only just for the self esteem boost) because the group of people I always go out with are rock-bottom poor. Like seriously considering selling weed poor. In fact the only way they're coming out for my 21st birthday this week is if I lend them money.
So anyway that's that. The annoying thing is, I know I'm being ridiculous. I'm not all that unhappy, or at least I shouldn't be. Has anyone else had this? Misery loves company, so I would like to know if it's fairly common.
On the bright side, I brought (is it brought or bought) myself a suit today for my 21st birthday. I look fucking swag as. We're gonna go for a meal in our suits and then go to a strip club. I can't wait.
How do you find out if you have a personality disorder?
I imagine you go to a therapist and answer a lot of questions. But if that's directed at me I don't think I have one of them, I think a lot of people feel like that sometimes - it's not as drastic as my post makes out, I was frustrated when I wrote it. It's more of a general feeling sad thing, and a bit of a self esteem thing, and I know I'm not the only one that feels like that sometimes - I think I just put myself down unnecessarily because I think that I shouldn't be allowed to feel like that given how objectively well my life is going. But that's obviously rubbish and people are gonna have off days, and people are gonna feel a bit crap sometimes, and people do quite like a bit of self pity.
Besides I met this proper actually clinically depressed girl with borderline personality disorder and I can tell you she was straight-up messed up, I'm genuinely thankful for my good health in that respect.
Edit: If that wasn't directed at me then ignore that, I just realised I hadn't read all the posts I'd missed and you could have been talking about something else!
Hey guys, i'm drunk
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