The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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she's the one who requested like 4 times I switch in to her class
there might be something I'm missing here
Since this just happened to me and I couldn't figure out the solution, what do you do when there's a cute girl in class that you want to talk to but she has a friend who won't shut the fuck up?
I posted this in the Depression thread, no replies and I kinda need help, so I am posting here.
I am really depressed, was suicidal yesterday, I found out the girl I like, likes my brother which was a shock, I am slowly accepting it, except it is still on my mind, if someone could give me tips to get it off my mind, or possibly help me with my depression, that would be nice.
[QUOTE=Sardonus;37633474]yeah but this is like, 3-4 smilies per texts
winky faces :p faces and all around :) faces
no one types like that[/QUOTE]
Sounds like she li-
[QUOTE=Sardonus;37633907]she's the one who requested like 4 times I switch in to her class
there might be something I'm missing here[/QUOTE]
Oh-kay, that's kinda wierd
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37634177]Sounds like she li-
Oh-kay, that's kinda wierd[/QUOTE]
is there a problem I'm not catching on
Personally, that's strike me as kinda creepy, unless it was someone I know really well. But then again I've never had that happen to me so I dunno
[editline]11th September 2012[/editline]
Maybe I'm just paranoid
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37634353]Personally, that's strike me as kinda creepy, unless it was someone I know really well. But then again I've never had that happen to me so I dunno
[editline]11th September 2012[/editline]
Maybe I'm just paranoid[/QUOTE]
we talk daily, I've known her for about 2 years, I thought it was normalish
Oh, gotcha. In that case it just sounds like she's being friendly
[QUOTE=Xonax;37634064]I posted this in the Depression thread, no replies and I kinda need help, so I am posting here.
I am really depressed, was suicidal yesterday, I found out the girl I like, likes my brother which was a shock, I am slowly accepting it, except it is still on my mind, if someone could give me tips to get it off my mind, or possibly help me with my depression, that would be nice.[/QUOTE]
Anyone?
uh if you're feeling suicidal you should consider getting professional help
[QUOTE=thisispain;37634573]uh if you're feeling suicidal you should consider getting professional help[/QUOTE]
My mom hasn't bothered getting me a new Therapist, other one told me to act like a rocket and count to 3 when depressed.
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37634506]Oh, gotcha. In that case it just sounds like she's being friendly[/QUOTE]
yeah I don't know
We chat daily, like I said, sometimes for hours at a time
I feel like there could be something mutual but I don't know if I'm talking out of my ass right now.
[QUOTE=ThePinkPanzer;37632865]Problem though.
Normally it goes that I introduce myself to the kid sitting next to me and shake hands and we hit it off and then I ask for their number and then we text and then they love me and get their friends to love me.
However, I asked one of the new girls too soon and came off as a big creeper, then I lost the number she handed me. Now I feel like a massive dumb ass.
[IMG]http://i.imgur.com/HHehi.png[/IMG][/QUOTE]
help
[QUOTE=Xonax;37634635]My mom hasn't bothered getting me a new Therapist, other one told me to act like a rocket and count to 3 when depressed.[/QUOTE]
Can someone please help me control it? I am going to Sydney in October, and I don't want to be dead (If it gets worse), or seriously depressed.
[QUOTE=Xonax;37635119]Can someone please help me control it? I am going to Sydney in October, and I don't want to be dead (If it gets worse), or seriously depressed.[/QUOTE]
oh dear
first of all put this on:
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9kPIp4MtX0[/media]
now relax, sit back for a bit, and slow down. you sound like you're having an anxiety attack for christ sake
I'm feeling a lot of emotions lately, but one keeps surfacing. Okay, it's not an emotions so much as an urge. I really feel like performing *ahem* cunnilingus *ahem* on someone. No one in particular. Which is strange. I just want to make a girl feel good and I don't particularly care if it pleasures me in any physical way to do so. Maybe I'm just wanting some sort of confirmation.
Probably.
That or one of my lady friends gets a lucky day, then we feel awkward afterwards when I try to act like nothing is different.
I'm not necessarily a shy guy, but I don't understand how someone can just walk up to someone they just met and ask for their number. It just seems somewhat awkward/weird to me. I suppose I fear the consequences if I'm rejected.
Not doing it is probably one of the reasons I'm not making huge social progress at all, but the idea just seems so foreign to me.
[QUOTE=Xonax;37635119]Can someone please help me control it? I am going to Sydney in October, and I don't want to be dead (If it gets worse), or seriously depressed.[/QUOTE]
Ok, so here's my advice. One of the first steps to getting over depression or even just general sadness is accepting that at the end of the day no matter who tries to help you out you're still the one in control. Obviously emotions stem from instinctual reactions, but I can guarantee you that you still have control over how far those emotions escalate. I know it doesn't seem like you do, but trust me you can change for the better. One of the most important things I've ever learned (for myself) is that if you can't change your situation then you have to change your perspective. Obviously this girl means a lot to you and you can't change the fact that she likes someone else. It doesn't matter who she likes though. Don't even let that enter your mind. I know it's hard, but you need to understand that this girl isn't making you depressed, you are. Find something new to work on, like a project or maybe even start watching a new show or something. Another good exercise is to actually think about the issue and try to list the problems that it's actually causing in your life. Then look at each problem and try to figure out which ones don't actually matter that much. After that you'll usually come down to just a few (or even just one) main points. Once you realize that you can actually break down and assess your situation you can start to realize that you're able to manipulate your own perspective. It's almost like pulling up a list of detected viruses on your computer and realizing that certain ones can be removed pretty easily. After that you'll start to realize that you feel at least a little less stressed out due to the fact that you have less on your mind. Once you feel this difference you should hopefully feel what it's like to alter your perspective. There are so many ways to do it, but I found that this is usually my most effective process. Never let suicide enter your mind as an option, because no matter what ever happens in your life suicide is absolutely never the answer. I can tell you that as someone who has gone through quite a bit in his own life. Just remember that you're only as weak as you allow yourself to be and you control your mind, not the other way around.
[QUOTE=Xonax;37635119]Can someone please help me control it? I am going to Sydney in October, and I don't want to be dead (If it gets worse), or seriously depressed.[/QUOTE]
sorry but as a group of people on an online forum who barely know you at all, there's not much we can do. all i can really think of is to find a hobby or something to focus on.
That wasn't meant to be funny. Has anyone else felt similar?
[editline]12th September 2012[/editline]
Like, all I want to do is make someone else feel really good and be able to see immediate and obvious signs. I don't care that I'm not getting anything out of it, because I would just enjoy it for the fact that they are.
[QUOTE=Sardonus;37634715]yeah I don't know
We chat daily, like I said, sometimes for hours at a time
I feel like there could be something mutual but I don't know if I'm talking out of my ass right now.[/QUOTE]
I know that feel bro. There was a girl who was pretty much my best friend, except that I had an enormous crush on her. We texted every day and hung out whenever we could, and for the longest time I was sure she liked me too (she wasn't dating at that time). And then one day I found out she was looking for a boyfriend and when I asked her about it she was all surprised that I liked her.
[sp] We eventually started dating; she broke up with me almost exactly a month later because she was madly in love with some guy she'd known way before we ever met. And then she turned into a hipster. [/sp]
On a completely unrelated note, last week I asked a girl to go to a concert with me. She said she'd see what she had going on and let me know. I still hadn't heard from her yesterday, so I assumed that was a 'no' and asked someone else. Girl 2 said yes, I bought tickets, then she announced she had a sorority meeting and couldn't go. So I asked the first girl again, and she said she'd let me know tomorrow. The concert is tomorrow night, I have 2 tickets and possibly (probably) no date. Fuuuuuck
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;37637091]That wasn't meant to be funny. Has anyone else felt similar?
[editline]12th September 2012[/editline]
Like, all I want to do is make someone else feel really good and be able to see immediate and obvious signs. I don't care that I'm not getting anything out of it, because I would just enjoy it for the fact that they are.[/QUOTE]
I literally felt the exact same way about a girl I know. The feeling went away in a couple weeks or so. It's a horny phase, I guess.
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37637488]I know that feel bro. There was a girl who was pretty much my best friend, except that I had an enormous crush on her. We texted every day and hung out whenever we could, and for the longest time I was sure she liked me too (she wasn't dating at that time). And then one day I found out she was looking for a boyfriend and when I asked her about it she was all surprised that I liked her.
[sp] We eventually started dating; she broke up with me almost exactly a month later because she was madly in love with some guy she'd known way before we ever met. And then she turned into a hipster. [/sp]
On a completely unrelated note, last week I asked a girl to go to a concert with me. She said she'd see what she had going on and let me know. I still hadn't heard from her yesterday, so I assumed that was a 'no' and asked someone else. Girl 2 said yes, I bought tickets, then she announced she had a sorority meeting and couldn't go. So I asked the first girl again, and she said she'd let me know tomorrow. The concert is tomorrow night, I have 2 tickets and possibly (probably) no date. Fuuuuuck[/QUOTE]
That sucks ass man.
I've known her for a while now.. .we text every day and we've gone out to a couple movies. I.... I feel it's mutual but there's still this niggling feel in the back of your brain that you're too afraid to pursue this for fear of rejection.
I should just come clean with it shouldn't I
[QUOTE=Alan Ninja!;37637488]I know that feel bro. There was a girl who was pretty much my best friend, except that I had an enormous crush on her. We texted every day and hung out whenever we could, and for the longest time I was sure she liked me too (she wasn't dating at that time). And then one day I found out she was looking for a boyfriend and when I asked her about it she was all surprised that I liked her.
[sp] We eventually started dating; she broke up with me almost exactly a month later because she was madly in love with some guy she'd known way before we ever met. And then she turned into a hipster. [/sp]
On a completely unrelated note, last week I asked a girl to go to a concert with me. She said she'd see what she had going on and let me know. I still hadn't heard from her yesterday, so I assumed that was a 'no' and asked someone else. Girl 2 said yes, I bought tickets, then she announced she had a sorority meeting and couldn't go. So I asked the first girl again, and she said she'd let me know tomorrow. The concert is tomorrow night, I have 2 tickets and possibly (probably) no date. Fuuuuuck[/QUOTE]
ask one of your friends if they'd want to go if your original plans fall through, maybe?
So my plans for friday just got a bit more complicated with three texts I got tonight
[quote]I think im in love with my bestfriend. He's funny and gets me for me. He's seen me without make up and when I dance with him I feel so safe and so at home. He's all I need and I think he should know that. I love you MYNAME. So much.[/quote]
[quote]I'll be your crying shoulder, I'll be love's suicide I'll be better when I'm older, I'll be the greatest fan of your life.[/quote]
[quote]I want you speechless. I love you. So fucking much. I can be a complete and total ditz but you still talk to me and just laugh and I love that. I love you.[/quote]
Call me crazy, but I think this is a lead on for a relationship.
[editline]12th September 2012[/editline]
or music lyrics.
She seems a bit obsessed and infatuated. I'd be creeped out, but it's your friend after all.
I think you should make use of the situation, while remaining aware that such infatuation has a tendency to burn itself out.
I think you should indulge her, but don't let yourself get too carried away.
[QUOTE=Haxxer;37639434]She seems a bit obsessed and infatuated. I'd be creeped out, but it's your friend after all.[/QUOTE]
I doubt she'd be one of those girls who knock on your door crying at 3 am. On the contrary, she sounds like a passionate lay.
[QUOTE=Seith;37640369]I doubt she'd be one of those girls who knock on your door crying at 3 am. On the contrary, she sounds like a passionate lay.[/QUOTE]
There better not be any 3am door knocks of I seal the deal lol.
[QUOTE=Repulsion;37636413]I'm not necessarily a shy guy, but I don't understand how someone can just walk up to someone they just met and ask for their number. It just seems somewhat awkward/weird to me. I suppose I fear the consequences if I'm rejected.
Not doing it is probably one of the reasons I'm not making huge social progress at all, but the idea just seems so foreign to me.[/QUOTE]
Well it typically doesn't work like "Hey, I'm Repulsion. Give me your cellular phoneullar number."
It's more "Well, I've got to get to my next class - hey, it might be a good idea to get your number, here's my phone" which you conveniently have opened on the add new contact page (which is great if you forgot their name).
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