• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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assuming girls are stupid and can't make their own decisions is called being sexist!
Hey guys. Recently there has been a girl that contacted me on Facebook saying we should talk more and then she gave me her phone number to text. At school, we share a few classes together and share some of the same interests. I'm wondering if she actually wants to go out with me or if she just wants to be a friend.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681378]And this is where it all goes to shit. I don't even know how to pretend to be confident. I was fine for the first couple days of university, but something happened that made my confidence levels crash through the floor. I can't quite pinpoint the cause. Probably a combination of assholes and[B] everyone starting to settle into groups by this point.[/B] [/QUOTE] Yeah this is tough. A lot of people at my university settled into groups in the first two days. Sucks cause I'm kinda slow at making friends.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681378]And this is where it all goes to shit. I don't even know how to pretend to be confident. I was fine for the first couple days of university, but something happened that made my confidence levels crash through the floor. I can't quite pinpoint the cause. Probably a combination of assholes and everyone starting to settle into groups by this point. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] I don't even know, assholes in general I guess.[/QUOTE] i'm guessing your bad attitude spreads out of you you have to control it. people don't like being around moody people who lash out and call others assholes. stop being an asshole basically
[QUOTE=stupidass;37681431]Hey guys. Recently there has been a girl that contacted me on Facebook saying we should talk more and then she gave me her phone number to text. At school, we share a few classes together and share some of the same interests. I'm wondering if she actually wants to go out with me or if she just wants to be a friend.[/QUOTE] She wants to be friends. I doubt its an invite.
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;37681445]She wants to be friends. I doubt its an invite.[/QUOTE] lol what Bit of an assumption, wanting to know someone better doesn't automatically mean friend, sounds like she could actually be coming onto him. Ask her out.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37681437]i'm guessing your bad attitude spreads out of you you have to control it. people don't like being around moody people who lash out and call others assholes. stop being an asshole basically[/QUOTE] It probably doesn't help that I look like I'm pissed off all the fucking time too. Except I've had the pissed off all the time thing going on all through high school so it's really hard to stop. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] and it feels like it's physically impossible for me to smile. I try but my mouth just doesn't want to move that way.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681470]It probably doesn't help that I look like I'm pissed off all the fucking time too. Except I've had the pissed off all the time thing going on all through high school so it's really hard to stop.[/QUOTE] Probably has something to do with you assuming all guys are assholes and that women are stupid. Open up more, are you social much as it is? Drink?
[QUOTE=Lukeo;37681481] Open up more, are you social much as it is? Drink?[/QUOTE] I'm not very social. I have a small group of friends and that's it. I don't drink because alcohol tastes like piss and is too expensive and I don't see the appeal in not being able to remember what you did the night before. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] Now let's say theoretically I saw a random girl I wanted to talk to. How the fuck do I not be creepy as fuck? If I was a girl I think I'd be pretty creeped out if a random guy came up to me and started talking to me.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681591]I'm not very social. I have a small group of friends and that's it. I don't drink because alcohol tastes like piss and is too expensive and I don't see the appeal in not being able to remember what you did the night before.[/QUOTE] "I don't drink because alcohol tastes like piss and is too expensive and I don't see the appeal in not being able to remember what you did the night before" Is everything you believe an assumption? Trying a beer and disliking it doesn't make all alcohol terrible and it's not hard to moderate yourself. In reference to your question about talking to random girls, don't act creepy about it. Mention how you think you share a class together, something about your surroundings/situation, pose a question.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;37681608]"I don't drink because alcohol tastes like piss and is too expensive and I don't see the appeal in not being able to remember what you did the night before" Is everything you believe an assumption? Trying a beer and disliking it doesn't make all alcohol terrible and it's not hard to moderate yourself.[/QUOTE] I've tried enough kinds of alcohol to know I don't like the taste of it. The only thing I can tolerate is vodka and Coke but I still don't like it that much.
Sucks that I haven't been able to hang out with this one girl I like. From our chatting online things seem to look good. But that's only that and it only holds so much weight. Hanging out I could make a move, see how she takes it and adjust from there on.
It's annoying how I showed one of my friends Facepunch and now he's getting more involved in it and I'm really regretting this decision.
[QUOTE=kaine123;37681868]It's annoying how I showed one of my friends Facepunch and now he's getting more involved in it and I'm really regretting this decision.[/QUOTE] Why?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681591]I'm not very social. I have a small group of friends and that's it. I don't drink because alcohol tastes like piss and is too expensive and I don't see the appeal in not being able to remember what you did the night before. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] Now let's say theoretically I saw a random girl I wanted to talk to. How the fuck do I not be creepy as fuck? If I was a girl I think I'd be pretty creeped out if a random guy came up to me and started talking to me.[/QUOTE] stop being so negative about everything. not EVERY girl in existence goes after "assholes" is this guy even an asshole or since he's actually social and works out, he's instantly an asshole to you. im so tired of people playing the "girls only date assholes" bullshit
[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;37682248]stop being so negative about everything. not EVERY girl in existence goes after "assholes" is this guy even an asshole or since he's actually social and works out, he's instantly an asshole to you. im so tired of people playing the "girls only date assholes" bullshit[/QUOTE] He comes across as an asshole to me. I know he's going to end up hurting some girl really bad.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37681470]It probably doesn't help that I look like I'm pissed off all the fucking time too. Except I've had the pissed off all the time thing going on all through high school so it's really hard to stop. [editline]15th September 2012[/editline] and it feels like it's physically impossible for me to smile. I try but my mouth just doesn't want to move that way.[/QUOTE] yeah you're gonna have to change that because most communication is nonverbal.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37682482]yeah you're gonna have to change that because most communication is nonverbal.[/QUOTE] It's still physically impossible for me to smile though. I shouldn't have to force myself to smile but it always feels like I have to.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37682497]It's still physically impossible for me to smile though. I shouldn't have to force myself to smile but it always feels like I have to.[/QUOTE] Hey, nearly everybody can smile, the only people that can't are people with physical ailments such as burns or too much collagen etc. Go and look at the mirror and practice smiling. Focus on things that make you happy instead of the things that seem to be making you miserable. I hate to say this but from I can see in your posts you probably appear as the asshole at the moment. You're probably not, you're probably a nice guy, you just don't appear that way. I understand that you're probably frustrated but lashing out and attacking others doesn't help anything, nothing is going to swoop down and go "Hey, here's an awesome social life have fun." You're gonna have to work towards that and take note of yourself rather than others. Judging is identifying with, by the way.
Didnt seal the deal :( I had my chance and I chickened out because of my peers around me. However, whats ironic is that she bailed on me only to show up to where I was and hang out with me unexpectedly. God damnit. I should have made my move. God. Fucking. Damnit.
anyone know any places to meet people aside from the usual bar/uni club/gathering ones?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37682497]It's still physically impossible for me to smile though. I shouldn't have to force myself to smile but it always feels like I have to.[/QUOTE] You know, this makes me think of all the people that think the world doesn't understand them. Perhaps it's because you're acting like we don't understand how apparently 'physically impossible' to smile it is for you. Quit being an idiot. You can smile, unless you have some [i]horrifying[/i] condition that physically prevents you from smiling. Being happy is something you have to let yourself into, not force yourself into, except you're being a selfish twat and staying in the moody gloomy doomy (heh) realm of a misunderstood teenager. Nobody is going to be able to do anything for you until you let yourself be happy. Stop thinking about the negatives of life, pick a few good things and focus on them. I somehow doubt that [i]nothing[/i] can make you at least smile. And, for the record, I actually do get what you mean with your story about your friend dating the apparent asshole of a man. Yes, it sucks, and no, there's nothing you can do about it.
[QUOTE=ramirez!;37683130]You know, this makes me think of all the people that think the world doesn't understand them. Perhaps it's because you're acting like we don't understand how apparently 'physically impossible' to smile it is for you. Quit being an idiot. You can smile, unless you have some [i]horrifying[/i] condition that physically prevents you from smiling. Being happy is something you have to let yourself into, not force yourself into, except you're being a selfish twat and staying in the moody gloomy doomy (heh) realm of a misunderstood teenager. Nobody is going to be able to do anything for you until you let yourself be happy. Stop thinking about the negatives of life, pick a few good things and focus on them. I somehow doubt that [i]nothing[/i] can make you at least smile. And, for the record, I actually do get what you mean with your story about your friend dating the apparent asshole of a man. Yes, it sucks, and no, there's nothing you can do about it.[/QUOTE] That's a little harsh, almost seems like you don't understand him, thereby fortifying his beliefs (that is if he does feel he is misunderstood.) I know you're trying to help but I feel that's the wrong way to go about it. Be a little nicer next time, he hasn't done anything to get you so riled up so calm down. :)
[QUOTE=Lukeo;37681879]Why?[/QUOTE] Because he has some really annoying tendencies and can be a huge dick sometimes so I have to deal with it not just in real life but on FP which is (or at least was) my place where I could be "alone" and away from everything that pisses me off in real life.
This thread isn't as super friendly as the title makes it seem.
Took you that long to figure out eh.
dont come into this thread fuck off
It's annoying how one of my friends can't get along with the girl I'm going out with.
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[QUOTE=kaine123;37683591]It's annoying how one of my friends can't get along with the girl I'm going out with.[/QUOTE] I hate that, especially when it comes down to "You either got to pick me, or him"
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