• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37689228][URL]http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml[/URL] [/QUOTE] I've read this more than enough times. I actually understand what it's trying to say. The "you have to like yourself" part is where it all goes to shit for me.
so you have self-esteem/image issues
Alright gents, situation here. So i know this girl for a very long time, when i was a little dude i always hang out with her brother, i met her again when i saw her on my first day on my new school, well actually i was to shy or i didn't really bothered saying her (I think more of the first one..) and so she came to me first a few days later. Now fast forward a year to now and it started to get odd since a month ago, a few weeks ago i made a post also about her but then she was different, it was after i went with her to a theme park, she really wanted me to go with her so alrighty. In the theme park i hugged her several times and did other uh, things with her (kiss on the cheek, let her sit on my lap etc etc) but all that time i did not had the feeling she was into me, that it was all very general and normal for friends to do. Now through steam and skype she talks to me from time to time and on the times we talk she always says things like 'Days on school without [my name here] are just boring' and sometimes she sorta teases me with saying 'I'm like really really bored, watching vids about how to kiss better ;)' and 'When i go watch a movie with someone i always like to hug and snuggle while watching' and then like 1 day later she asks me to watch a movie with her (However i really could not go since i was far to busy and when i asked when she wants to watch a movie with me she kinda lost interest/ignored it) That sounds all good till a few days ago when she randomly throws in things like that she is interested in someone from her Steam friendlist and she really likes him, even though that guy lives 200 KM from her. She is super sweet to me and all, and as person in general she is really fun to hang out with. But now comes up to me that i think that for the 5th time its all because of my Joker card personality. (Just hanging out with you because you are funny) Not sure what i need to say/do in order to secure myself that she is into me yes or no or this is another one of these Joker things..
[QUOTE=areolop;37638760] [quote]I think im in love with my bestfriend. He's funny and gets me for me. He's seen me without make up and when I dance with him I feel so safe and so at home. He's all I need and I think he should know that. I love you MYNAME. So much.[/quote] [quote]I want you speechless. I love you. So fucking much. I can be a complete and total ditz but you still talk to me and just laugh and I love that. I love you. [/quote] [quote]I'll be your crying shoulder, I'll be love's suicide I'll be better when I'm older, I'll be the greatest fan of your life. [/quote] [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=areolop;37682903]Didnt seal the deal :( I had my chance and I chickened out because of my peers around me. However, whats ironic is that she bailed on me only to show up to where I was and hang out with me unexpectedly. God damnit. I should have made my move. God. Fucking. Damnit.[/QUOTE] Still should have done it. I dont even know when I'll see her again but I always chicken out of this shit at the last minute, especially when the timing is right. [editline]16th September 2012[/editline] and now her and myself are in the middle of another situation that involves our best friend's (hers and mine) that are now pregnant. They are flipping out, we're flipping out but we're all here for each other
Well guys, I want some advice here. First time posting here aswell though, Fuck should've asked earlier but I was banned :v:. Anyhow, I'm deeply in love with a girl from my school. we've known each other fro 4 years now and I've had a crush on her for 3+ years. Now, I'm beta as fuck and I am too scared to tell her my feelings towards here. More or less because she may reject me, Or become less of friends then right now. We're fairly close to each other. If she ever rejects me I'd probably be in a mental breakdown since she's my life. Really, She is. I wouldn't know what it would be if she wasn't there anymore. How do I keep my confidence to tell her that? It's... It's scary but I really have to tell her. As far as I know, She was recently single again too. Sigh, Love is a bitch.
There are many things wrong with that post 1) You're not in love with her; you're infatuated with her. Congrats 2) Why do you want to tell her you like her..? 3) "Beta as fuck" is a self fulfilling prophecy 4) She's probably going to reject you because you've been her friend for four years and if she was interested by now she'd probably have indicated it 5) She's not your life, you're just infatuated
Yeah no thanks for the confidence boost there, Buddy.
[QUOTE=RobyYe;37690456]Yeah no thanks for the confidence boost there, Buddy.[/QUOTE] I'm probably even more beta than you and could still pick out everything wrong with that post.
What exactly are you looking for? An e-pat on the back and a "You can tell her you like her! I [I]believe[/I] in you"?
[QUOTE=RobyYe;37690456]Yeah no thanks for the confidence boost there, Buddy.[/QUOTE] You don't need a confidence boost if you've held back your feelings for almost four years now. You need a reality check.
Yeah I've never said anything about it being a retarded post so you are right. But eh, It's just that I like her and I just don't have the confidence to tell her, To make it short.
[QUOTE=RobyYe;37690496]Yeah I've never said anything about it being a retarded post so you are right. But eh, It's just that I like her and I just don't have the confidence to tell her, To make it short.[/QUOTE] See if she likes you by taking slow steps, maybe ask what she's doing the next weekend and if nothing. Maybe hint towards a movie night at your place? (Or just ask her straight out)
[QUOTE=darth-veger;37690809]See if she likes you by taking slow steps, maybe ask what she's doing the next weekend and if nothing. Maybe hint towards a movie night at your place? (Or just ask her straight out)[/QUOTE]Thanks, I will. Though to be realistic here, She won't like me back in that way as you all had said. I guess there are other girls in the world so yeah...
[QUOTE=redBadger;37688581]define bluntly[/QUOTE] "hey come grab coffee with tomorrow" [editline]16th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=RobyYe;37690868]Thanks, I will. Though to be realistic here, She won't like me back in that way as you all had said. I guess there are other girls in the world so yeah...[/QUOTE] Being realistic is a waste of time if it stops u from getting what u want.....
Well, today was the day of my café meet-up with the random bus girl - it went rather well. Of course it's hard to talk with a person you have no actual connection too, and there were a few pauses here and there, but overall it was a nice experience. Might ask her to the cinema in some time - I don't really have much time this week or the next.
[QUOTE=Seith;37691976]"hey come grab coffee with tomorrow"[/QUOTE] then what wouldn't be blunt?
I know you guys are probably going to hate me at this point, but I have run into a small problem that I'm not really sure what to do about... So this girl I like, her sister gave me her number (the girl I like's number, not the sister's number). I didn't really want to get it unless I got it from her herself, but now that I have it, I was wondering if it wouldn't be too weird to text her and ask her if she wanted to hang out? I know it's sort of a...cowardish(?) thing to do because it's not face-to-face, but this might be the only way I really get a chance to talk to her outside of work. Suggestions?
call her maybe?
I didn't end up texting her, figured it may have been a bad idea too. But I guess her sister went to her house and ended up telling her that I had her number :/ She said she was cool with it and that she's always down for a good movie. Not exactly how I imagined things would go, but if it works it works, right?
Seems like you're over thinking it. Just chill out.
face to face is always preferable.
[QUOTE=slayer20;37694238]I didn't end up texting her, figured it may have been a bad idea too. But I guess her sister went to her house and ended up telling her that I had her number :/ She said she was cool with it and that she's always down for a good movie. Not exactly how I imagined things would go, but if it works it works, right?[/QUOTE] Her sister gave you that number for a reason, she doesn't go around giving her sister's number to everybody right?
[QUOTE=darth-veger;37689699]Alright gents, situation here. So i know this girl for a very long time, when i was a little dude i always hang out with her brother, i met her again when i saw her on my first day on my new school, well actually i was to shy or i didn't really bothered saying her (I think more of the first one..) and so she came to me first a few days later. Now fast forward a year to now and it started to get odd since a month ago, a few weeks ago i made a post also about her but then she was different, it was after i went with her to a theme park, she really wanted me to go with her so alrighty. In the theme park i hugged her several times and did other uh, things with her (kiss on the cheek, let her sit on my lap etc etc) but all that time i did not had the feeling she was into me, that it was all very general and normal for friends to do. Now through steam and skype she talks to me from time to time and on the times we talk she always says things like 'Days on school without [my name here] are just boring' and sometimes she sorta teases me with saying 'I'm like really really bored, watching vids about how to kiss better ;)' and 'When i go watch a movie with someone i always like to hug and snuggle while watching' and then like 1 day later she asks me to watch a movie with her (However i really could not go since i was far to busy and when i asked when she wants to watch a movie with me she kinda lost interest/ignored it) That sounds all good till a few days ago when she randomly throws in things like that she is interested in someone from her Steam friendlist and she really likes him, even though that guy lives 200 KM from her. She is super sweet to me and all, and as person in general she is really fun to hang out with. But now comes up to me that i think that for the 5th time its all because of my Joker card personality. (Just hanging out with you because you are funny) Not sure what i need to say/do in order to secure myself that she is into me yes or no or this is another one of these Joker things..[/QUOTE] i'm pretty sure some girls like guys who are jokers it makes it less boring to be in a relationship aka she is in to you i mean she's giving you all of those obvious signs
[QUOTE=darth-veger;37689699]Alright gents, situation here. So i know this girl for a very long time, when i was a little dude i always hang out with her brother, i met her again when i saw her on my first day on my new school, well actually i was to shy or i didn't really bothered saying her (I think more of the first one..) and so she came to me first a few days later. Now fast forward a year to now and it started to get odd since a month ago, a few weeks ago i made a post also about her but then she was different, it was after i went with her to a theme park, she really wanted me to go with her so alrighty. In the theme park i hugged her several times and did other uh, things with her (kiss on the cheek, let her sit on my lap etc etc) but all that time i did not had the feeling she was into me, that it was all very general and normal for friends to do. Now through steam and skype she talks to me from time to time and on the times we talk she always says things like 'Days on school without [my name here] are just boring' and sometimes she sorta teases me with saying 'I'm like really really bored, watching vids about how to kiss better ;)' and 'When i go watch a movie with someone i always like to hug and snuggle while watching' and then like 1 day later she asks me to watch a movie with her (However i really could not go since i was far to busy and when i asked when she wants to watch a movie with me she kinda lost interest/ignored it) That sounds all good till a few days ago when she randomly throws in things like that she is interested in someone from her Steam friendlist and she really likes him, even though that guy lives 200 KM from her. She is super sweet to me and all, and as person in general she is really fun to hang out with. But now comes up to me that i think that for the 5th time its all because of my Joker card personality. (Just hanging out with you because you are funny) Not sure what i need to say/do in order to secure myself that she is into me yes or no or this is another one of these Joker things..[/QUOTE] She is into, she's just worried that you aren't. She's actually trying to make you jealous by the sound of things with the steam person. Make a move!
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;37695286]i'm pretty sure some girls like guys who are jokers it makes it less boring to be in a relationship aka she is in to you i mean she's giving you all of those obvious signs[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Anthrax713;37695326]She is into, she's just worried that you aren't. She's actually trying to make you jealous by the sound of things with the steam person. Make a move![/quote] I shall ask her tonight then or perhaps wait for the moment when im only with her. Thanks!
[media]http://on.ted.com/f9JC[/media] This is what I'm talking about. Brilliant stuff, must watch.
A good friend of mine died in his sleep yesterday, I'm devastated
blegh. I ended up confessing to a girl a while back, with a terribad timing (she just broke up with her bf, and his bf was asking me for advice.) I was struggling to make myself not do it, ended up doing it anyways. Felt terribly guilty after that; its been almost a year now and I still feel terrible, even though they both got back together and we're on friendly terms again.
Meeting a lady from Tumblr tomorrow. Made a post about going to the city an hour east and she commented on it. I messaged her telling her we should hang when she's done with classses for the day (goes to MSU). Can someone shoot me some good ideas to do while I'm with her? You know.......date like things without giving the impression it's a date?
i am good friends with this girl, i dont really like her more than that but whatever happens happens but i also talk to her a lot about my own girl troubles, things like who i'm interested in, how far i got, etc all my friends think this girl likes me a lot, and im starting to pick up on it a little bit, im not really worried about that, it will play out however it happens. but do you think i should stop talking to her about my own sex life? it seems like that would come across as really mean if she does actually like me. i know i would hate to hear about how far some girl i fancied got with another guy
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