The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=articpenguin;37699729]Meeting a lady from Tumblr tomorrow.
Made a post about going to the city an hour east and she commented on it. I messaged her telling her we should hang when she's done with classses for the day (goes to MSU).
Can someone shoot me some good ideas to do while I'm with her? You know.......date like things without giving the impression it's a date?[/QUOTE]
Bowling? :v:
In all reality, ask her, perhaps?
Find out what she's into and plan from there.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37700999]i am good friends with this girl, i dont really like her more than that but whatever happens happens
but i also talk to her a lot about my own girl troubles, things like who i'm interested in, how far i got, etc
all my friends think this girl likes me a lot, and im starting to pick up on it a little bit, im not really worried about that, it will play out however it happens. but do you think i should stop talking to her about my own sex life? it seems like that would come across as really mean if she does actually like me. i know i would hate to hear about how far some girl i fancied got with another guy[/QUOTE]
i've got in the habit of not really fully discussing shit like that with any girl just incase something happens and it makes me look like an asshole
well that was a bit awkward
a guy in my english class asked me out before class, he did it by passing a note asking if i wanted to "hang out" though.. i didn't want to directly turn him down because there were other people there and i didn't want to embarrass him so i just said i'm heading home for a bit after class so maybe another time, or something
i dunno, i think you should have told him there and then that you have a boyfriend. it didn't need to be embarrassing for him, now he might think there's a glimmer of a hope of something
i'll probably let him know before next class or something. we were in the classroom before class, and half of our classmates were already there and i didn't want to be like "OH YOU'RE ASKING ME OUT? WELL I'M NOT INTERESTED" when he was clearly trying to keep quiet about it
[editline]17th September 2012[/editline]
plus he didn't word it in a direct way, all he said was if i wanted to hang out sometime, so i didn't want to respond like that and embarrass him on the off-chance i was misinterpreting it
cooked dinner for my 4 new housemates today - chilli con carne with green beans + garlic bread. huge success! you don't realise how shit your life is when you're just pissing it away on the PC, really. but then again life always seems to improve wildly when I'm at uni
so i figured out why that girl i knew was acting distant
she was BSing me. don't know why, she just did. she told every one else about it except for me and now she's with some other guy
god damnit
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37640034]I think you should make use of the situation, while remaining aware that such infatuation has a tendency to burn itself out.
I think you should indulge her, but don't let yourself get too carried away.[/QUOTE]
Why was this rated funny
Well.. its a done deal. I have done it.
It was all because of a 5 hour long group chat on Facebook that turned sour (they added her to the chat) but actually turned out for the better.
Peer pressure is a bitch.
[QUOTE=areolop;37703427]Well.. its a done deal. I have done it.
It was all because of a 5 hour long group chat on Facebook that turned sour (they added her to the chat) but actually turned out for the better.
Peer pressure is a bitch.[/QUOTE]
What you actually did ask her out?
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37703670]What you actually did ask her out?[/QUOTE]
yes
[QUOTE=Disotrtion;37681006]Great. Let me know how it goes, okay?[/QUOTE]
So we hung out today on my lunch break, everything went awesome. When she was hugging me goodbye, it was a really good hug as always, and her face was pressed right up against mine. I just didn't really feel the vibe for a first kiss, she kind of looked away as we pulled apart so I didn't go for it. I think the next time we hang out I'll give it a try, if she rejects me then I'm out 'cause there's no way I'm getting friendzoned.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37700999]i am good friends with this girl, i dont really like her more than that but whatever happens happens
but i also talk to her a lot about my own girl troubles, things like who i'm interested in, how far i got, etc
all my friends think this girl likes me a lot, and im starting to pick up on it a little bit, im not really worried about that, it will play out however it happens. but do you think i should stop talking to her about my own sex life? it seems like that would come across as really mean if she does actually like me. i know i would hate to hear about how far some girl i fancied got with another guy[/QUOTE]
You can't blame yourself and you can't blame her, honestly i have no idea what advice to give you
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37700999]i am good friends with this girl, i dont really like her more than that but whatever happens happens
but i also talk to her a lot about my own girl troubles, things like who i'm interested in, how far i got, etc
all my friends think this girl likes me a lot, and im starting to pick up on it a little bit, im not really worried about that, it will play out however it happens. but do you think i should stop talking to her about my own sex life? it seems like that would come across as really mean if she does actually like me. i know i would hate to hear about how far some girl i fancied got with another guy[/QUOTE]
well i would ask her if it bothers her that you talk about your sex life
[QUOTE=thisispain;37705319]well i would ask her if it bothers her that you talk about your sex life[/QUOTE]
yeah do you think shes gonna come right out and say "yes it bothers me because i have a thing for you even though we have a nice friendship going"
shes would just play it off as if she doesn't mind (whether she actually does mind or not)
well that's not what i meant. you should bring it up like it's something that you feel uncomfortable with.
i dunno, maybe that's too much of a trick which isn't helpful or useful in anyway to you
on the one hand some people might be bothered by having someone they fancy talk about the sex they're having, on the other hand talking about it is a sign of trust and personal connection to some people
[QUOTE=Aetna;37704264]So we hung out today on my lunch break, everything went awesome. When she was hugging me goodbye, it was a really good hug as always, and her face was pressed right up against mine. I just didn't really feel the vibe for a first kiss, she kind of looked away as we pulled apart so I didn't go for it. I think the next time we hang out I'll give it a try, if she rejects me then I'm out 'cause there's no way I'm getting friendzoned.[/QUOTE]
If you are worried about whether your advances (to kiss) are going to be rejected then you need to give her lots of time to get out of it.
The process I usually go for is to (be standing up facing her) and lean it a little and take her hand, run your hand over her fingers (while maintaining eye contact).
If she hasn't bailed by then (using the same arm) raise your hand to the side of her face and run your hand from just before the back of her jaw to her chin (if you are a decent amount taller than her this is a good time to tilt her head slightly up at yours) at which point you need to lean in a little closer.
If that is still fine just move in again but if you are still not sure just hover (lips almost touching) for one breath (where hopefully she will lean and actually make first contact) but if she doesn't then you need to man up and do it.
good luck Aetna
[QUOTE=articpenguin;37699729]Meeting a lady from Tumblr tomorrow.
Made a post about going to the city an hour east and she commented on it. I messaged her telling her we should hang when she's done with classses for the day (goes to MSU).
Can someone shoot me some good ideas to do while I'm with her? You know.......date like things without giving the impression it's a date?[/QUOTE]
Get something light to eat and take a walk along some place reasonably populated like a waterfront or a busy park.
If everything is going well and you like her (and you think she likes you) you can try make your first move while walking, ask if she's cold or something - it sounds stupid I know but it's literally one of the best ways to break the physicality barrier (because you can give her your coat but also pull her in a little with your arm around her and rub her shoulder).
Another great thing is getting ice cream, it's fun and its light and easy to talk while still eating (don't get cones, only get ice cream in the little plastic cups).
ok a few days ago i was telling her about my dumb mess up with this girl who at one point literally took off her pants in front of me (to change) and didnt tell me to look away
the friend girl said "are you serious if a girl takes off her pants in front of you its an invitation!!!"
and now today this friend girl changed her pants in front of me
is it an invitation and also how can i turn it down without messing it up?
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i mean she could have literally just needed to change pants, but given what she said earlier im not so sure
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37707544]ok a few days ago i was telling her about my dumb mess up with this girl who at one point literally took off her pants in front of me (to change) and didnt tell me to look away
the friend girl said "are you serious if a girl takes off her pants in front of you its an invitation!!!"
and now today this friend girl changed her pants in front of me
is it an invitation and also how can i turn it down without messing it up?
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i mean she could have literally just needed to change pants, but given what she said earlier im not so sure[/QUOTE]
Whether or not she just needed to change pants just flirt with her, note her complete forwardness with you, accuse her of flirting with [I]you[/I], etc. Whatever way she takes it you'll probably be able to decipher her response.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37707544]ok a few days ago i was telling her about my dumb mess up with this girl who at one point literally took off her pants in front of me (to change) and didnt tell me to look away
the friend girl said "are you serious if a girl takes off her pants in front of you its an invitation!!!"
and now today this friend girl changed her pants in front of me
is it an invitation and also how can i turn it down without messing it up?
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i mean she could have literally just needed to change pants, but given what she said earlier im not so sure[/QUOTE]
just say "are you inviting me then?" and then smile like this ;)
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37707544]
is it an invitation[/QUOTE]
duh
[editline]17th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;37707776]just say "are you inviting me then?" and then smile like this ;)[/QUOTE]
mrs. robinson you're trying to seduce me aren't you?
[QUOTE=thisispain;37707802]duh
[editline]17th September 2012[/editline]
mrs. robinson you're trying to seduce me aren't you?[/QUOTE]
benjamin i am not trying to seduce you.
It's annoying how my best friend can't stop being a dick to the girl I'm going out with.
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;37707776]just say "are you inviting me then?" and then smile like this ;)[/QUOTE]
no i dont really want to do that
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i would like to stay friends i thought we had a pretty good thing going! i was happy to have made so many nice lady friends here
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37708516]no i dont really want to do that
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i would like to stay friends i thought we had a pretty good thing going! i was happy to have made so many nice lady friends here[/QUOTE]
Then that's what you need to tell her.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37707544]ok a few days ago i was telling her about my dumb mess up with this girl who at one point literally took off her pants in front of me (to change) and didnt tell me to look away
the friend girl said "are you serious if a girl takes off her pants in front of you its an invitation!!!"
and now today this friend girl changed her pants in front of me
is it an invitation and also how can i turn it down without messing it up?
[editline]18th September 2012[/editline]
i mean she could have literally just needed to change pants, but given what she said earlier im not so sure[/QUOTE]
Dude.... It was a direct request. Why would you want to turn it down?
Maybe he doesn't want to do stuff with her
[QUOTE=killerteacup;37708943]Maybe he doesn't want to do stuff with her[/QUOTE]
NO SHIT, I am asking why.
[QUOTE=Seith;37709083]NO SHIT, I am asking why.[/QUOTE]
There are a lot of reasons
Does infatuation mean you're past the point of no return when it comes to a potential relationship?
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