• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=RobbL;34763104]Hey guys, i'm drunk[/QUOTE] People always seem to tell other people they're drunk specifically when no one's asked. But regardless good work bro, why are you on facepunch though? Have you just come home from a night out or did you get drunk alone in front of facepunch? Don't say the second one.
[QUOTE=RobbL;34763104]Hey guys, i'm drunk[/QUOTE] What did you drink?
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34763170]People always seem to tell other people they're drunk specifically when no one's asked. But regardless good work bro, why are you on facepunch though? Have you just come home from a night out or did you get drunk alone in front of facepunch? Don't say the second one.[/QUOTE] I went to my local bar to watch my cousins band play (they are pretty good for a covers band!) I didn't stay out longer because i'm saving everything ofr next week when i'll be wathcing the wales vs england game (rugby for those who don't know) [editline]19th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JohanGS;34763184]What did you drink?[/QUOTE] Oh, the usual lager haha
Jenkins I feel similar to that a lot. While I wouldn't say feeling like that is normal, I wouldn't say it's something that can't be solved with a change in perspective. Most people have low points where they feel useless, and low self-esteem is borderline epidemic in our society. I notice that, once I'm out socializing in public, it usually fades away. Preoccupying yourself with another thought might help blow away that opinion too. Also you're totally right about the clinically depressed girl. People tend to blow their problems out of proportion, whether out of self-pity or an actual loss of perspective. Seeing someone who is legitimately messed up really puts things back into perspective.
Just went for a few drinks with a girl on my course, was good, we talked pretty much constantly for 3 hours, but nothing physical happened (a fault on my part). As a result it felt more friendly than a date. Can this be recuperated with a second date, or did i miss my chance?
[QUOTE=Occlusion;34764252]Just went for a few drinks with a girl on my course, was good, we talked pretty much constantly for 3 hours, but nothing physical happened (a fault on my part). As a result it felt more friendly than a date. Can this be recuperated with a second date, or did i miss my chance?[/QUOTE] Dude, just becuase you didn't get any physical stuff doesn't mean it was wasted, sounds like you two spent some time together and got to know each other.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34763066]I imagine you go to a therapist and answer a lot of questions. But if that's directed at me I don't think I have one of them, I think a lot of people feel like that sometimes - it's not as drastic as my post makes out, I was frustrated when I wrote it. It's more of a general feeling sad thing, and a bit of a self esteem thing, and I know I'm not the only one that feels like that sometimes - I think I just put myself down unnecessarily because I think that I shouldn't be allowed to feel like that given how objectively well my life is going. But that's obviously rubbish and people are gonna have off days, and people are gonna feel a bit crap sometimes, and people do quite like a bit of self pity. Besides I met this proper actually clinically depressed girl with borderline personality disorder and I can tell you she was straight-up messed up, I'm genuinely thankful for my good health in that respect. Edit: If that wasn't directed at me then ignore that, I just realised I hadn't read all the posts I'd missed and you could have been talking about something else![/QUOTE] holy fuck this is exactly how i get sometimes. i start to feel shitty but then realize that i live a good life and have no right to feel shitty so the shittiness just makes me feel shittier by being denied.
[QUOTE=JenkinsJ;34763066]I imagine you go to a therapist and answer a lot of questions. But if that's directed at me I don't think I have one of them, I think a lot of people feel like that sometimes - it's not as drastic as my post makes out, I was frustrated when I wrote it. It's more of a general feeling sad thing, and a bit of a self esteem thing, and I know I'm not the only one that feels like that sometimes - I think I just put myself down unnecessarily because I think that I shouldn't be allowed to feel like that given how objectively well my life is going. But that's obviously rubbish and people are gonna have off days, and people are gonna feel a bit crap sometimes, and people do quite like a bit of self pity. Besides I met this proper actually clinically depressed girl with borderline personality disorder and I can tell you she was straight-up messed up, I'm genuinely thankful for my good health in that respect. Edit: If that wasn't directed at me then ignore that, I just realised I hadn't read all the posts I'd missed and you could have been talking about something else![/QUOTE] You're at what I like to call an emotional recession. It's when you're feeling like you aren't as worthwhile as other people. But you know what I do when I'm in this state? I realize, I'm sitting in front of two monitors that cost me $300. I have a computer to brag about. I've got portable devices running all sorts of OSes. Not trying to brag here - just making a point. Perhaps you've forgotten all the good things you have every day?
i have just one pube that's as long as my penis
[QUOTE=Road Safari;34767777]i have just one pube that's as long as my penis[/QUOTE] i hope its a very long pube or you may be in trouble my friend
Let's just hope he didn't shave a week ago.
[QUOTE=Protocol7;34767561]You're at what I like to call an emotional recession. It's when you're feeling like you aren't as worthwhile as other people. But you know what I do when I'm in this state? I realize, I'm sitting in front of two monitors that cost me $300. I have a computer to brag about. I've got portable devices running all sorts of OSes. Not trying to brag here - just making a point. Perhaps you've forgotten all the good things you have every day?[/QUOTE] No I'm saying that I can feel bad in spite of the good things I have. That's precisely the annoying bit.
A friend of mine invited me to go to her church to participate in some open forum the other day. I didn't go, (I wanted to, but I couldn't) is it fair for me to invite her somewhere?
It's not only fair, but a better choice than going to church and participating in an open forum thing...
[QUOTE=Seith;34772346]It's not only fair, but a better choice than going to church and participating in an open forum thing...[/QUOTE] ummm and your reasoning behind this is
[QUOTE=Cows Rule;34772280]A friend of mine invited me to go to her church to participate in some open forum the other day. I didn't go, (I wanted to, but I couldn't) is it fair for me to invite her somewhere?[/QUOTE] Try to make it up to her first if you can. Since you wanted to but couldn't, it doesn't necessarily make you a dick so you should be OK. Really as long as you can make it up to her later it's not a huge deal. [editline]19th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Seith;34772346]It's not only fair, but a better choice than going to church and participating in an open forum thing...[/QUOTE] Tell me what's wrong with seeing a new perspective in an open forum and I'll change that dumb raiting to an agree. Even if everyone involved in the open forum is stupid, at least you get to hear new takes on an issue. Usually open forums host lecturers too, who will obviously bring fact and/or research into the discussion.
Good ideas for a second date? Just went for a casual drink first time. [highlight]...[/highlight]
I've thought about reading the bible as a substitute, but I'm not sure if it's enough.
The problem with reading the Bible is that there's no one else who can analyze what the Bible is saying. I'm guessing an open forum about the Bible can give you that kinda analysis. And it depends what sort of church your friend goes to. Catholic and Orthodox churches, for instance, are very strict on specific analysis of scripture. Other Churches might leave analysis towards the reader, but it's still important to look at historical context and etc.
[QUOTE=Reimu;34772541]Try to make it up to her first if you can. Since you wanted to but couldn't, it doesn't necessarily make you a dick so you should be OK. Really as long as you can make it up to her later it's not a huge deal. [editline]19th February 2012[/editline] Tell me what's wrong with seeing a new perspective in an open forum and I'll change that dumb raiting to an agree. Even if everyone involved in the open forum is stupid, at least you get to hear new takes on an issue. Usually open forums host lecturers too, who will obviously bring fact and/or research into the discussion.[/QUOTE] I wasn't disqualifying the knowledge you could possibly gain from it, but rather the situation. It's not a very flattering situation sexually (she probably won't be alone and the atmosphere is not one that would naturally produce a desire to enhance the intimacy between the you two) If it's knowledge and a new perspective you want, go ahead. If it's the woman you want....
[QUOTE=Seith;34774344]I wasn't disqualifying the knowledge you could possibly gain from it, but rather the situation. It's not a very flattering situation sexually (she probably won't be alone and the atmosphere is not one that would naturally produce a desire to enhance the intimacy between the you two) If it's knowledge and a new perspective you want, go ahead. If it's the woman you want....[/QUOTE] you're very very ignorant i'm not going to take the time to list the reasons for this, but if you want a handful just re-read what you just said it's almost as if you take relationships like questing in a video game, with just an objective
[QUOTE=Seith;34774344]I wasn't disqualifying the knowledge you could possibly gain from it, but rather the situation. It's not a very flattering situation sexually (she probably won't be alone and the atmosphere is not one that would naturally produce a desire to enhance the intimacy between the you two) If it's knowledge and a new perspective you want, go ahead. If it's the woman you want....[/QUOTE] Friends who aren't the same gender don't want to necessarily date each other though. I see where you're getting at, but I don't think it's right to assume that he wants to go out with this girl. Even if cows rule likes this girl more than a friend, showing an interest in the things a girl likes is just as important as actual intimacy.
[QUOTE=Reimu;34775739]Friends who aren't the same gender don't want to necessarily date each other though. I see where you're getting at, but I don't think it's right to assume that he wants to go out with this girl. Even if cows rule likes this girl more than a friend, showing an interest in the things a girl likes is just as important as actual intimacy.[/QUOTE] "I didn't go, (I wanted to, but I couldn't) is it fair for me to invite her [b]somewhere[/b]?" Why would any man would want to invest his time, invite her somewhere else, which is evidently irrelevant to her previous invitation (i.e a resturant versus a church) and not want anything more than friendship? To say he's not attracted to her and that these are not his main intentions with that invitation is just being plain naive. Showing interest in her personal activities is a way of creating comfort with the girl. To say a man needs first to be interested in her personal activities in order to create attraction and further escalate their relationships' intimacy, is not true.
Dunno if this is supposed to be posted here but is it all right to be pissed at your friend if he was joking about him sleeping with your girlfriend? I just started to shout at him then walked out of the room. I have been pretty depressed and she has been having problems with her ex lately too, and I even told him. but he still has the nerve to say stuff like that?
Yeah it's fine to be upset with him. It's kind of a shitty joke, I'd say. But forgive him eventually. He may have just been trying to lighten things up, but failed miserably.
[QUOTE=Mr.Dounut;34775607]you're very very ignorant i'm not going to take the time to list the reasons for this, but if you want a handful just re-read what you just said it's almost as if you take relationships like questing in a video game, with just an objective[/QUOTE] According to World of Warcraft, it's not too bad to think this way as the amount of players in it, questing, indicates it can be fun as well as profitable. [editline]19th February 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=cr2142;34777032]Dunno if this is supposed to be posted here but is it all right to be pissed at your friend if he was joking about him sleeping with your girlfriend? I just started to shout at him then walked out of the room. I have been pretty depressed and she has been having problems with her ex lately too, and I even told him. but he still has the nerve to say stuff like that?[/QUOTE] It's a joke. He probably didn't know it was such a sensitive matter to you... he will now.
Well, after a long roller coaster since Valentines day, I am single again. Actually feels awesome. Sort of. I miss movie nights EDIT: Not funny why are you sad stabbing me
[QUOTE=Seith;34774344] It's not a very flattering situation sexually[/QUOTE] bahahha
I was thinking of a Jazz concert I'm doing tomorrow, there's a group that goes before the ensemble, so I figure if she goes I could sit with her then.
[QUOTE=thisispain;34778371]bahahha[/QUOTE] I have no clue why but I always read your name as This is Spain. I just wanted you to know.
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