• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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i mean if you have autism thats good for you for branching out but you seriously need to make that clear beforehand if youre gonna get so defensive about it
[QUOTE=FlashFireSix;37716654]for the last 6 months I've not been happy though, I've debated breaking up but I know she'd do something ridiculous like self harm, or leap off the nearest bridge (I'm not even joking)[/QUOTE] I sure hope you really are happy with her because you can't let someone bully you into a relationship with the threat of self-harm
Also I've had this bottled up for six months, and then for the last two weeks since I've started college and met the new girl, it feels sickening to see the words in front of me because I feel like such a prick, because every time I say "I love you" I know I'm lying slightly more each time. [editline]18th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;37716683]I sure hope you really are happy with her because you can't let someone bully you into a relationship with the threat of self-harm[/QUOTE] Oh no it's not that, she isn't like "don't leave me I'll kill myself" I just know her, we were friends since primary school, and thats just how much the relationship means to her [editline]18th September 2012[/editline] Oh god I might just -snip- it all and shut up, I feel too mixed up right now
[QUOTE=FlashFireSix;37716685]Oh no it's not that, she isn't like "don't leave me I'll kill myself" I just know her, we were friends since primary school, and thats just how much the relationship means to her [editline]18th September 2012[/editline] Oh god I might just -snip- it all and shut up, I feel too mixed up right now[/QUOTE] still fantastically unhealthy
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37716618][B]oh are you actually autistic?[/B] why do people come into this thread and expect everyone to know they have autism?? [editline]18th September 2012[/editline] [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/itl1x.png[/IMG] all i posted was a joke about you talking to a girl, its really not such a huge deal[/QUOTE] yes, but it's irrelevant (actually if anything it strengthens my point) - also I don't normally factor it in 'cos it can sometimes lead to blaming everything it and not learning from mistakes when I should. I was using the clinic thingy as an example, I don't have a lot of experience in introducing myself to people, I normally take forever to make friends and often it's only when I'm put in a situation where it's much easier, like group work, or when I'm almost forced to. In these cases it comes organically. In this case, it wasn't. It would have been far easier for me to sit there and complete the assignment I was given. I could easily have told myself that it was the first day, it's okay if I'm shy or whatever other bullshit my mind churns out But I didn't, so excuse me for considering that a milestone for me
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;37716724]still fantastically unhealthy[/QUOTE] I'm most likely just exaggerating things in my head, but hmmph, I'd say I'll sleep on it but I wake up with a different opinion every day :suicide:
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37716589]yeah dude its called university and its literally the easiest place in the world to make new friends since nobody knows anyone[/QUOTE] true, but considering this is the first day there's a lot of ice to break
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37716750]yes, but it's irrelevant (actually if anything it strengthens my point) - also I don't normally factor it in 'cos it can sometimes lead to blaming everything it and not learning from mistakes when I should. I was using the clinic thingy as an example, I don't have a lot of experience in introducing myself to people, I normally take forever to make friends and often it's only when I'm put in a situation where it's much easier, like group work, or when I'm almost forced to. In these cases it comes organically. In this case, it wasn't. It would have been far easier for me to sit there and complete the assignment I was given. I could easily have told myself that it was the first day, it's okay if I'm shy or whatever other bullshit my mind churns out But I didn't, so excuse me for considering that a milestone for me[/QUOTE] its still a pretty average thing, i mean i consider it a milestone to go a day without pooping, but i still have a good enough sense of humor to laugh at myself for thinking that way!
milestones like that are what make life amazing think about the satisfaction jo gets from such a feat
more like the satisfaction the day after
there is never satisfaction for me, it is an unobtainable goal
one day
social advice thread feat. bowel movements
And here was me hoping I could take this thread seriously
jo has a serious medical condition ok
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37716856]And here was me hoping I could take this thread seriously[/QUOTE] you werent even asking for advice, you were just looking for a place to brag about a really mundane thing this thread (or pretty much the rest of the internet) isn't the right place to do that
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;37716657]I do not think that means what you think it means.[/QUOTE] He's picking out certain bits of information and ignoring the context, which of course completely changes it. To my mind, that's an example of eclecticism, if not in the specific sense. [QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37716681]i mean if you have autism thats good for you for branching out but you seriously need to make that clear beforehand if youre gonna get so defensive about it[/QUOTE] And like I said, the autism's not really the issue, it's more the fact that I'm not good at establishing a rapport on my own initiative.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37717243]He's picking out certain bits of information and ignoring the context, which of course completely changes it. To my mind, that's an example of eclecticism, if not in the specific sense.[/QUOTE] thats not how words work
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37717243]He's picking out certain bits of information and ignoring the context, which of course completely changes it. To my mind, that's an example of eclecticism, if not in the specific sense. And like I said, the autism's not really the issue, it's more the fact that I'm not good at establishing a rapport on my own initiative.[/QUOTE] none of that matters at all seriously, you don't need to justify yourself or your points at every given opportunity. don't be so confrontational man, just take things in your stride. you're a wrapped a bit too tight for your own good
I'm in a situation, need some help. I need to ask this girl out. But it's not that simple. We've known each other for a couple of years now, and during that time we've talked a lot, but have never done the crucial differentiation between friends and potential lovers (which, from my experience usually implies the second). Just as I start thinking about dating her, another girl comes by, and by luck of the draw, I end up dating this other girl. (In hindsight, this was a very bad choice.) She doesn't really talk to me the whole week, even though we sat next to each other in class. A year passes, and through this time we remain whatever we were before. We texted a bit. During this period of time at many times I questioned my relationship with my girlfriend, and wondered if I should go for "that other girl", never do because I was too committed. My now ex-GF dumps me after a year (over unrelated issues). Cue Christmas party. Girl is leaving in less than 3 months to go live in foreign lands. That girl and I both get quite intoxicated and end up talking about how we should have gone to prom together. We end up snuggling the whole night. We later go to the movies together, I show that I have a grand total of 0 game, I end up holding her hand in the last 3 minutes of the movie, she gives me a look of "Seriously? It took this long?". I tell her 3 days before she moves away that I like her. She gives an ambiguous reaction, she's leaving, but I say that I understand her, she's pleased. I later hear from one of her friends that she really really liked me, but was suppressing her feelings so long distance wouldn't happen. She leaves. We still talk every one and a while, but not as much as before. I try dating another girl, it doesn't work due to the feelings I still have for the one that's far away. She comes back. We kind of talk but things are awkward. I tried to hang out with her a few times, but things are broken, I get really frustrated when she doesn't have any time to see me, so I felt like I am getting blown off. We didn't talk too much this summer. Last Wednesday, she texted me, wanting to talk. I suggest we meet up at the mall. We basically are back to old times, and we text often. I don't know what's up now. It's crazy, but I really want her but I don't know how she feels about me anymore, she's kind of mysterious. I really want to ask her out. What do I do not to break this? [B]tl;dr: Girl that I've known for many years, I think we both have mutual feelings, but both of us just had really bad timing. I really don't want to fuck this up because of all this pressure. How do I not fuck this up?[/B]
Howdy all. I got a visit from someone today at work.. [t]http://distilleryimage9.instagram.com/3eb46b5c01f111e28d7e22000a1cbb3c_7.jpg[/t] .. and it actually made my night since I work by myself for (at times) up to 5 hours by myself
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37710166]no, relationships always start with "infatuation". it dies off after a while it's not a bad thing[/QUOTE] When it dies off, is that when one is supposed to make a move, or is [I]that[/I] too late?
[QUOTE=SableIsland;37719821]words[/QUOTE] It sounds to me like the ball is in your court. It also sounds like she has been waiting for you to make your move ever since she got back. [QUOTE=Apache249;37720087]When it dies off, is that when one is supposed to make a move, or is [I]that[/I] too late?[/QUOTE] too late
[QUOTE=Apache249;37720087]When it dies off, is that when one is supposed to make a move, or is [I]that[/I] too late?[/QUOTE] uh, well, when it dies off, if you're not in a relationship with the person you're probably not going to want to be, so..
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37710166]no, relationships always start with "infatuation". it dies off after a while it's not a bad thing[/QUOTE] False and no they do not always start with "infatuation".... Your description is based on relationships out of pure impulse rather than selective choices... Which are in fact not relationship in the first place. A relationship is a mutual binding of trust not pure emotions driving each and every action.
Sometime during this summer, my libido went down 2x and I feel like I need intimacy. I can hardly even watch porn anymore. It's not the same as it was. I just want hugs :(. What is happening to me. My god.
[QUOTE=Kel|oggs;37721557]Sometime during this summer, my libido went down 2x and I feel like I need intimacy. I can hardly even watch porn anymore. It's not the same as it was. I just want hugs :(. What is happening to me. My god.[/QUOTE] Low carb diet perhaps?
[QUOTE=Seith;37720438]False and no they do not always start with "infatuation".... Your description is based on relationships out of pure impulse rather than selective choices... Which are in fact not relationship in the first place. A relationship is a mutual binding of trust not pure emotions driving each and every action.[/QUOTE] sure but i think you need atleast some sort of infatuation to start a affectionate and sexual relationship.
[QUOTE=lotusking;37721704]sure but i think you need atleast some sort of infatuation to start a affectionate and sexual relationship.[/QUOTE] All i need is attraction... It doesnt mean i am to be overwhelmed by uncontrollable burst of emotions every time i see her... (i.e infatuation)
[QUOTE=Seith;37721676]Low carb diet perhaps?[/QUOTE] I eat under 200g's everyday. Seemed to happen around the time I started Intermittent Fasting... TIME TO EMAIL THE HODGETWINS.
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