• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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so my girlfriend and i are going to have our 2nd anniversary coming up rather soon, I am not positive what I should get her, gift wise. I dunno how she has managed it, but despite all the stress of our senior year (and hardly any time for anything other than ap classes and college apps) she's put together a gift she says I'll love (and spent 110 on it, so it's gonna be my birthday and probably christmas present too haha) which is great, except this only makes me feel more pressured. so now i'm sort of descending into the panic stage and I can't think of anything that isn't incredibly generic, whereas she had an epiphany for this amazing present for me. So yeah, help, I guess?
[QUOTE=Xed;37745607]so my girlfriend and i are going to have our 2nd anniversary coming up rather soon, I am not positive what I should get her, gift wise. I dunno how she has managed it, but despite all the stress of our senior year (and hardly any time for anything other than ap classes and college apps) she's put together a gift she says I'll love (and spent 110 on it, so it's gonna be my birthday and probably christmas present too haha) which is great, except this only makes me feel more pressured. so now i'm sort of descending into the panic stage and I can't think of anything that isn't incredibly generic, whereas she had an epiphany for this amazing present for me. So yeah, help, I guess?[/QUOTE] get her that candy g-string that i always see at the reject shops but for serious answers then go through the old "WELL WHAT ARE HER INTERESTS" series of questions and try and go from there
She [U]told[/U] you how much she spent on your gift? Okay... If nothing else, head to downtown and just walk around. Stop by shops and think if there's anything that she would like. Try not to think about the price.
oh. huh. i deleted the paragraph about that, i had one. Aiming to spend a decent amount of money on this too. she's very artsy, intelligent, and into books. draws, writes, acts. considering going down to a local arts supply warehouse to find something there, know that's one of her favorite places, as are book stores. and some accompanying roses of course. [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Fortesqueh;37745722]She [U]told[/U] you how much she spent on your gift? Okay...[/QUOTE] i asked her the price. we've been going out for almost 2 years now as i've said. we aren't both completely strapped with cash, I don't think it's strange at all to establish a price range. [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] Just so it's clear, I don't have nothing at all in my head - it's just that I said I want to avoid something generic, but there are always ideas that I just consider generic that I can fall back on.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37742399] How did you come to this conclusion [/QUOTE] Response mechanism is well how anyone adapts to their environment. It's put a little simply, I've basically sunk much of the last 6 years of my life to developing a coherent structure of the human mind
[QUOTE=lotusking;37721704]sure but i think you need atleast some sort of infatuation to start a affectionate and sexual relationship.[/QUOTE] like ive said before, dont take advice from this man, hes in an incredibly unhappy relationship with a girl whos cheated on him with multiple people
[QUOTE=mr kjerr;37746458]like ive said before, dont take advice from this man, hes in an incredibly unhappy relationship with a girl whos cheated on him with multiple people[/QUOTE] why dont you go stalk another girl
maybe he's into that sort of thing
[QUOTE=Xed;37745731] i asked her the price. we've been going out for almost 2 years now as i've said. we aren't both completely strapped with cash, I don't think it's strange at all to establish a price range. [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] Just so it's clear, I don't have nothing at all in my head - it's just that I said I want to avoid something generic, but there are always ideas that I just consider generic that I can fall back on.[/QUOTE] That explains it. You made it seem that she just told you how she has already spent in an effort to make you out-do her. Agreeing on a price range is understandable. What you consider generic might not be the same for her. Best you just go look around and see what you find but definitely get some flowers.
[QUOTE=Boss;37746330]Response mechanism is well how anyone adapts to their environment. It's put a little simply, I've basically sunk much of the last 6 years of my life to developing a coherent structure of the human mind[/QUOTE] So because I give a rough definition of a term I used... That means I think I'm able to deal with anything? [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Seith;37745238]While interesting, I found it hard to see how this is any relevant to the point I was trying to make. Even if everything is governed by simple response mechanisms, that still doesn't negate free will besides the obvious semantics from a biological point of view....[/QUOTE] My point was that "free will" is actually used very rarely. Of course it can be engaged at any time, but that's rarely necessary. Sorry if it sounded irrelevant.
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[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37747486]So because I give a rough definition of a term I used... That means I think I'm able to deal with anything? [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] My point was that "free will" is actually used very rarely. Of course it can be engaged at any time, but that's rarely necessary. Sorry if it sounded irrelevant.[/QUOTE] you really do have autism dont you
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37747486]So because I give a rough definition of a term I used... That means I think I'm able to deal with anything? [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] My point was that "free will" is actually used very rarely. Of course it can be engaged at any time, but that's rarely necessary. Sorry if it sounded irrelevant.[/QUOTE] Really? That was your point? Now it is evidently irrelevant....
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[QUOTE=FlashFireSix;37749225]arguumenntssss[/QUOTE] Noooo, it's not an argument, it's just super friendly social advice!
I meant me I just tried breaking up with her, but I couldn't even bring myself to say it I'm going to her house tonight to stay over, and we've said as soon as I step foot in that door, we've got a new beginning. it seriously sucks having my first ever relationship last 2 years where i can't even have the testicles to break up with her properly, and because it's my first, I'm experiencing all the shit feelings for the first time ever bye fp [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] it's my birthday tomorrow, I'm going to wake up feeling like shit
Guys, I have something pretty sweet with this one girl. Although distance is a factor. She lives in Wisconsin, while I in Texas. We've been talking a lot lately, and for a while now, we know that we have some feelings associated with the other. However, it's a long ways from Wisconsin to Texas. Point being, I think I might have trust issues/insecurity. Actually, I think we both might do. Sometimes we talk casually and I sometimes mention a girl. She gets a bit sad, but tell her she's not really anything to me except a friend. Sometimes she mentions a guy. This irritates me or something. I'm not too familiar with these feels. However, sometimes she says that she had fun talking to some dude, and this other time she mentioned that some guy asked for her number. She gave it to him. I'm hating these feelings. I don't want to put her on a pedestal. If she wants to talk to other guys, then honestly I don't care. I guess it's only when her affection is shared with other people is when it bothers me. Help me out, brothers? I want to stop feeling like this, and just let it go. Feelings as in just insecurity in general.
have you ever met her in real life? because if not, you really need to let go since she can do whatever she wants
I met her through a friend. But yeah, never in real life. I suppose you are right then. [editline]21st September 2012[/editline] So that's that then. I suppose I should go for some local booty. Actually, I thought about visiting her since a couple of friends of mine live there, anywho. However, finding the time to do so is hard.
[QUOTE=Fortesqueh;37746788]That explains it. You made it seem that she just told you how she has already spent in an effort to make you out-do her. Agreeing on a price range is understandable. What you consider generic might not be the same for her. Best you just go look around and see what you find but definitely get some flowers.[/QUOTE] right. I guess what I mean by generic is something that isn't very personal. I dunno how to say it, never mind. I'm just gonna be on the hunt for a gift. For our very first anniversary though, I planned it all very well and everything was awesome. The happiest moment of her life she has told me. (and she isn't just saying that.) So I guess maybe because of that, and because this year is more stressful, we went with a more casual thing we co-planned.
Ok well I don't know how this sounds but, I was going through my Facebook, browsing around, and I come across this amazing girl, almost instantly attracted to her. She doesn't look like one of those generic popular "so hot" girls, she just looks so kind and beautiful, and I really want to talk with her (She is in the same town but different school). But, wouldn't it be a bit awkward for some stranger to randomly add her? I don't know how to carry through with this. I understand it's probably quite simple to some, but not for me. Any advice?
are you serious
Imagine adding her randomly as asking a number out of the blue, the second you saw a girl without even introducing yourself... Introduce yourself, make your PM interesting....
[QUOTE=Seith;37756566] Introduce yourself, make your PM interesting....[/QUOTE] No, just no.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37740257]Good example of a higher order process would be well, really thinking deeply. E.g. about existential stuff, oneself, and looking in detail at one's own problems. Of course even in these cases responses occur. In fact, they're always responses of some sort; we are, like everything else, deterministic (i.e. everything happens for a reason). However many of these are due to factors so subtle and convoluted that the response model doesn't describe them too well, so I consider it a separate process. Response mechanism is well how anyone adapts to their environment. Whenever something comes your way that you have to deal with, you don't start thinking about your place in the universe unless you've programmed yourself to respond that way, which is unlikely. Your mind is continually [url=en.wiktionary.org/wiki/parse]parsing[/url] information from the world around you and if a particular event is recognized then the response for said event is triggered. It's put a little simply, I've basically sunk much of the last 6 years of my life to developing a coherent structure of the human mind so if you have any more questions feel free to ask[/QUOTE] I thought of this while reading your post. -snip- Gif wont load :(
[QUOTE=Seith;37756566]Imagine adding her randomly as asking a number out of the blue, the second you saw a girl without even introducing yourself... Introduce yourself, make your PM interesting....[/QUOTE] "do you like daggers"
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37756586]No, just no.[/QUOTE] Oh, I am sorry, do you have any confirmation other than "I don't like it" because I do.
i'm pretty sure most girls would be creeped out if some guy they didn't know messaged them online entirely based on the fact that they're attractive? it doesn't matter how you word it, it's going to be fucking creepy
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37756925]i'm pretty sure most girls would be creeped out if some guy they didn't know messaged them online entirely based on the fact that they're attractive? it doesn't matter how you word it, it's going to be fucking creepy[/QUOTE] it's pretty common in middle school where i come from they call them "random adds"
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37756925]i'm pretty sure most girls would be creeped out if some guy they didn't know messaged them online entirely based on the fact that they're attractive? it doesn't matter how you word it, it's going to be fucking creepy[/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure is actual experience? No. Sure, some might find it creepy, but it's all a matter of what you say.... The same can happen in a bar or on the street.
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