• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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Very creepy/weird. The only thing they share in common is that they live in the same town, they don't even go to the same school. The only basis that he is adding her is because his dick tells him so. Something also tells me that he probably creeped on her profile/analyzed her to come to the conclusion that shes "not like other girls"
if you go to a bar it's usually for the purpose of meeting people. people generally use facebook to communicate with people they already know and not to meet new people.
[QUOTE=Seith;37756935]I'm pretty sure is actual experience? No. Sure, some might find it creepy, but it's all a matter of what you say.... The same can happen in a bar or on the street.[/QUOTE] Yeah, that's in person. There's a big difference.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37756925]i'm pretty sure most girls would be creeped out if some guy they didn't know messaged them online entirely based on the fact that they're attractive? it doesn't matter how you word it, it's going to be fucking creepy[/QUOTE] You can't be pretty sure, because you've never tried it. You're a woman. Most women think I shouldn't, sorry, more like, recommend I talk to women at pubs because it's less weird. If I were to listen to them, I'd probably never have gotten a single lay since I started..... Your objectivity aside, no one suggested to send a message like "nice tits, wanna meet?" it would produce the same results everywhere. That's why I said, make the PM interesting.... Even the most suspicious of girls, with experience, you can get what you want without sounding over the top creepy. [editline]22nd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=ScoutKing;37756954]Very creepy/weird. The only thing they share in common is that they live in the same town, they don't even go to the same school. The only basis that he is adding her is because his dick tells him so. Something also tells me that he probably creeped on her profile/analyzed her to come to the conclusion that shes "not like other girls"[/QUOTE] He just wants to talk, if you had only this option, I would rather sound creepy and try get what I want instead of using excuses.
"all women love getting random pms on facebook from guys and your opinion isn't credible because you're a woman!"
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37756965]if you go to a bar it's usually for the purpose of meeting people. people generally use facebook to communicate with people they already know and not to meet new people.[/QUOTE] Generally... Generally.... There's no concrete information in here that would suggest talking to women on facebook or the street would produce zero results besides your assumptions. [editline]22nd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37757027]"all women love getting random pms on facebook from guys and your opinion isn't credible because you're a woman!"[/QUOTE] When you put it out of context of course it's gonna sound idiotic. But the whole point of your objectivity is that women don't exactly always know what they want, anecdotally proven.... But what do I know, it's not like I ever tried either of these ways myself...... Oh wait, I did.
male or female its weird. I've gotten a few random requests from a few girls who are a grade or two below me, stating they added me on the basis that i am cute. I usually thank them for the compliment, and move on. I don't really want to do much with anyone who acts purely on the basis of looks, [B]especially on facebook[/B]. I would imagine most people feel the same way. Random invites that are spawned from the desire to get in another person pants (as you've been implying, seith) is creepy/weird as fuck. Just go out and meet new people.
I've gotten two attempts at romance from girls who live in a different state than I over Facebook. I mean I know we're from the same area but I'm at a school in the next state over so I'm not really interested.
seith are you from the misc?
On topic, if you're like, 13 or something it's not as bad as if you're above that age, normally put more down to inexperience Still a little creepy, but it's more understandable then
[QUOTE=Seith;37757028]Generally... Generally.... There's no concrete information in here that would suggest talking to women on facebook or the street would produce zero results besides your assumptions. [editline]22nd September 2012[/editline] When you put it out of context of course it's gonna sound idiotic. But the whole point of your objectivity is that women don't exactly always know what they want, anecdotally proven.... But what do I know, it's not like I ever tried either of these ways myself...... Oh wait, I did.[/QUOTE] Seith you have good points but you are just as pathetic at expressing them as everyone here who you call out. Saying "I did it so you can too" is pretty much just as bad an argument as saying "oh generally that's how it happens". Also you basically just told her she's wrong because she's a woman which is like fairly up the ladder in terms of how retarded people in this thread can get I mean all you really have to say is "Yes, its perfectly possible, it really just depends on how comfortable you make her feel with it" and it would be pretty correct as opposed to saying "I've done it, so it works, I know you don't think it works, but you're a woman, so you're wrong." Like with all respect you could be a lot more help in this thread if you just were less aggressive about helping people and less fast to put down anyone who disagrees with you
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37757080]male or female its weird. I've gotten a few random requests from a few girls who are a grade or two below me, stating they added me on the basis that i am cute. I usually thank them for the compliment, and move on. I don't really want to do much with anyone who acts purely on the basis of looks, [B]especially on facebook[/B]. I would imagine most people feel the same way. Random invites that are spawned from the desire to get in another person pants (as you've been implying, seith) is creepy/weird as fuck. Just go out and meet new people.[/QUOTE] It's good you have imagination, really, but not when even your own IMAGINATION prevents you from doing something because [i]I imagine people would feel the same way[/i]. As if how you "feel" about something, as coherent as "feelings" are even in this situation, a global phenomena. What I have been implying is what hadn't worked for you(as I never even came close to suggesting, I didn't give details) that you need to [i]add them[/i]. Though, what I have been "implying" he should do is make his PM interesting. I find it incredibly childish that you've had an urge to comment so badly that you went out of your way to disprove a possibility on the basis of....Nothing. [editline]22nd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=killerteacup;37758095]Seith you have good points but you are just as pathetic at expressing them as everyone here who you call out. Saying "I did it so you can too" is pretty much just as bad an argument as saying "oh generally that's how it happens". Also you basically just told her she's wrong because she's a woman which is like fairly up the ladder in terms of how retarded people in this thread can get I mean all you really have to say is "Yes, its perfectly possible, it really just depends on how comfortable you make her feel with it" and it would be pretty correct as opposed to saying "I've done it, so it works, I know you don't think it works, but you're a woman, so you're wrong." Like with all respect you could be a lot more help in this thread if you just were less aggressive about helping people and less fast to put down anyone who disagrees with you[/QUOTE] I agree.
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37757080]I don't really want to do much with anyone who acts purely on the basis of looks, [B]especially on facebook[/B]. I would imagine most people feel the same way. Random invites that are spawned from the desire to get in another person pants (as you've been implying, seith) is creepy/weird as fuck. Just go out and meet new people.[/QUOTE] So only go after people you wouldn't consider having sex with? I'd say, if you see something you like, get to know it and then decide if you want to keep going with it.
So.. Completely unrelated to what you all are talking about (and I apologize that I haven't anything to contribute to the conversation), but I've a small question: What do you do when an old friend of yours breaks up with his girlfriend (some several months ago), and then have her start openly flirting with you? Perhaps a bit of backstory is necessary; I commented on a picture the girl in question uploaded, since we're both BMW owners/fans and we apparently share a passion for cars. We got into a little friendly argument over Facebook chat about whose car was better, basic chitchat stuff, and it turns out we've a lot in common. Prior to that we never really spoke much. Unfortunately by 'chitchat' I mean we stayed up till the wee hours of the morning just talking, and we only stopped because I wanted to sleep. That's happened a few times actually. I've been trying to talk to her less because I do know that she is an old friends ex, and that the potential always exists that she's using me as a sort of 'revenge' on her ex (my old friend). They didn't have a big row or really fight during their split up, and they're still friends, but it still feels strange. Not sure what do, kind of feel like saying "You're my friends ex, I can't get involved with you." and also kind of feel like letting the dice lay where they lie. I don't really talk to that friend so much anymore, but we were best friends throughout elementary school until seventh grade.
i never really bought the whole "can't go exes" thing. i mean i could understand why you wouldn't date your buddy's ex two days after she ripped his heart out, but in your situation i can't see the big deal, given they split amicably
[QUOTE=ramirez!;37759640]So.. Completely unrelated to what you all are talking about (and I apologize that I haven't anything to contribute to the conversation), but I've a small question: What do you do when an old friend of yours breaks up with his girlfriend (some several months ago), and then have her start openly flirting with you? Perhaps a bit of backstory is necessary; I commented on a picture the girl in question uploaded, since we're both BMW owners/fans and we apparently share a passion for cars. We got into a little friendly argument over Facebook chat about whose car was better, basic chitchat stuff, and it turns out we've a lot in common. Prior to that we never really spoke much. Unfortunately by 'chitchat' I mean we stayed up till the wee hours of the morning just talking, and we only stopped because I wanted to sleep. That's happened a few times actually. I've been trying to talk to her less because I do know that she is an old friends ex, and that the potential always exists that she's using me as a sort of 'revenge' on her ex (my old friend). They didn't have a big row or really fight during their split up, and they're still friends, but it still feels strange. Not sure what do, kind of feel like saying "You're my friends ex, I can't get involved with you." and also kind of feel like letting the dice lay where they lie. I don't really talk to that friend so much anymore, but we were best friends throughout elementary school until seventh grade.[/QUOTE] If they broke up amicably, then there isn't much of a reason not to persue.
[QUOTE=ramirez!;37759640]So.. Completely unrelated to what you all are talking about (and I apologize that I haven't anything to contribute to the conversation), but I've a small question: What do you do when an old friend of yours breaks up with his girlfriend (some several months ago), and then have her start openly flirting with you? Perhaps a bit of backstory is necessary; I commented on a picture the girl in question uploaded, since we're both BMW owners/fans and we apparently share a passion for cars. We got into a little friendly argument over Facebook chat about whose car was better, basic chitchat stuff, and it turns out we've a lot in common. Prior to that we never really spoke much. Unfortunately by 'chitchat' I mean we stayed up till the wee hours of the morning just talking, and we only stopped because I wanted to sleep. That's happened a few times actually. I've been trying to talk to her less because I do know that she is an old friends ex, and that the potential always exists that she's using me as a sort of 'revenge' on her ex (my old friend). They didn't have a big row or really fight during their split up, and they're still friends, but it still feels strange. Not sure what do, kind of feel like saying "You're my friends ex, I can't get involved with you." and also kind of feel like letting the dice lay where they lie. I don't really talk to that friend so much anymore, but we were best friends throughout elementary school until seventh grade.[/QUOTE] Do you care about your friend at this point? Because if you do then it would be best to stay as friends with that girl for now and see if they are actually separated or just taking a break.
Yeah I still do, but it's strange, the whole "can't date ex's thing". It's not like it's a territory issue, right? For the record I'm not really crushing on this girl quite yet, but I'd rather have all of your opinions [i]before[/i] that happens, if at all ever.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37756925]i'm pretty sure most girls would be creeped out if some guy they didn't know messaged them online entirely based on the fact that they're attractive? it doesn't matter how you word it, it's going to be fucking creepy[/QUOTE] nah it's not that weird, i've done it before and got a relationship out of it. and i've also had people do it to me too.
[QUOTE=ramirez!;37760226]Yeah I still do, but it's strange, the whole "can't date ex's thing". It's not like it's a territory issue, right? For the record I'm not really crushing on this girl quite yet, but I'd rather have all of your opinions [i]before[/i] that happens, if at all ever.[/QUOTE] Just have patience, no rush for anything right?
[QUOTE=BoysLightUp;37756932]it's pretty common in middle school where i come from they call them "random adds"[/QUOTE] doesn't make it any less creepy.
Okay, so what's the best way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend? I was out with the aforementioned girl today and it was really good, and I'd be interested in a relationship, but I'd prefer to be aware sooner rather than later if she has one.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37762618]Okay, so what's the best way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend? I was out with the aforementioned girl today and it was really good, and I'd be interested in a relationship, but I'd prefer to be aware sooner rather than later if she has one.[/QUOTE] go up to her and say this "hey, do you have a boyfriend?" works everytime
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37762618]Okay, so what's the best way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend? I was out with the aforementioned girl today and it was really good, and I'd be interested in a relationship, but I'd prefer to be aware sooner rather than later if she has one.[/QUOTE] "eyyyy babydoll sumbudy occupyin yo wall street?" make sure to wink after you say this (IT'S CRUCIAL)
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37762618]Okay, so what's the best way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend? I was out with the aforementioned girl today and it was really good, and I'd be interested in a relationship, but I'd prefer to be aware sooner rather than later if she has one.[/QUOTE] ...Talk to her, get to know her and ask her out or whatever you Americans do when you do it with women. The boyfriend is irrelevant. You're just asking.
[QUOTE=Mon;37762879]"eyyyy babydoll sumbudy occupyin yo wall street?" make sure to wink after you say this (IT'S CRUCIAL)[/QUOTE] "ayo you single and ready to mingle??"
[QUOTE=Seith;37763252]...Talk to her, get to know her and ask her out or whatever you Americans do when you do it with women. The boyfriend is irrelevant. You're just asking.[/QUOTE] I'm in Ireland... [QUOTE=lotusking;37762700]go up to her and say this "hey, do you have a boyfriend?" works everytime[/QUOTE] A bit too direct for my liking
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37763427]A bit too direct for my liking[/QUOTE] gotta risk it to get the biscuit
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37763427] A bit too direct for my liking[/QUOTE] direct is the only way to be in these situations imo im not even sure what else you could really ask that says "hey are you single" without really saying "hey are you single"
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37763427]I'm in Ireland... A bit too direct for my liking[/QUOTE] Be in Zimbabwe for all I care... It's no excuse.
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