• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=D0C H.;37768961]I think I might end up breaking up with my girlfriend....... And it's because of life circumstances, not because of anything she's done. She's changed a lot of things and has gotten rid of a lot of bad friends just to be with me, but I don't think I can be with her. I'm worried, because she's been so mistreated and abandoned in the past, that if I do, I will completely break her....... and she doesn't deserve that....... But I don't think I can continue........ Every day I'm with her I get saddened because of how much I care about her, but knowing that it probably won't work, and that I'm going to absolutely kill her and probably throw her into a debilitating depression.......... Oh God....... what do I do?[/QUOTE] Tell the truth would be a good start. You're only going to be hurting the relationship more if you [I]want[/I] to break up with her but [I]don't[/I]. It seems to be a steady decline from there. I don't have the time to get into a long description for your scenario but I'm sure someone else will.
if you don't want to be with her anymore then it would just be dishonest to stay with her in spite of that
[QUOTE=ejonkou;37768868]It's frowned upon where I live.[/QUOTE] Bullshit. [i]It's frowned upon[/i] suggests you think it's cool, but the people at the area [i]probably[/i] hate it. Meaning, if you like it, there might be other people else who would thus making your statement completely invalid. Unless, you want to tell me your statement is based on a demographic survey of your entire population? Do not bore me with clichés... [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=D0C H.;37768961]I think I might end up breaking up with my girlfriend....... And it's because of life circumstances, not because of anything she's done. She's changed a lot of things and has gotten rid of a lot of bad friends just to be with me, but I don't think I can be with her. I'm worried, because she's been so mistreated and abandoned in the past, that if I do, I will completely break her....... and she doesn't deserve that....... But I don't think I can continue........ Every day I'm with her I get saddened because of how much I care about her, but knowing that it probably won't work, and that I'm going to absolutely kill her and probably throw her into a debilitating depression.......... Oh God....... what do I do?[/QUOTE] You're completely vague. Let's see... Basically, you're implying she's been hurt before, you don't feel anything for her for whatever reason and now you feel guilty about it?
Help I met a girl a rly like last night and we kissed but wtf she cudnt kiss.. Like.. you know how you're meant to go like.. i dunno.. 50/50 with the lips? Fuck I can't describe it but yeah she literally put her whole mouth over mine and when I tried to even it out shes like "you're opening your mouth too wide" and I replied "sorry" caz im a little bitch and yeah thats my story
that's interesting. honestly i don't know anyone who's ever had trouble kissing.
Can any1 articulate the 50/50 kiss for me please because I was battling to explain to my friend last night as well
[QUOTE=DeathFrogg;37769658]Can any1 articulate the 50/50 kiss for me please because I was battling to explain to my friend last night as well[/QUOTE] Tell him that she kissed like a fish, and she'll understand because of the gloop gloop motion they make when they open their mouths
[QUOTE=mr kjerr;37767324]the joke is this is how he does it[/QUOTE] uh no [QUOTE=Mon;37767254]hey brah if you don't wanna listen to anyone's advice then don't expect anyone to be super friendly about it[/QUOTE] I did listen to advice, but a lot of it is crap, so I disregarded (to be fair autumn did give decent advice a while back but then got impatient when I was hoping for a bit more detail)
okay what advice are you specifically looking for JgcxCub
A way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend preferably without being too direct Assuming that's necessary of course, if it doesn't matter that I'm direct then say so :)
bla bla bla bla bla..."i bet your boyfriend tells you that a lot"
What's the problem of asking someone directly if he or she has a boyfriend/girlfriend? Someone explain me as if I'm really dumb. [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=JgcxCub;37769866]A way to ask someone if they have a boyfriend preferably without being too direct [/QUOTE] Seriously? How? That's like assuming the person you're talking too is stupid and will not realize your just trying to figure out what you're trying to do. Be direct.
[QUOTE=DeathFrogg;37769617]Help I met a girl a rly like last night and we kissed but wtf she cudnt kiss.. Like.. you know how you're meant to go like.. i dunno.. 50/50 with the lips? Fuck I can't describe it but yeah she literally put her whole mouth over mine and when I tried to even it out shes like "you're opening your mouth too wide" and I replied "sorry" caz im a little bitch and yeah thats my story[/QUOTE] she was actually trying to eat you - you're lucky to still be alive
Was just worried if it would come across as creepy. Upon thinking about it, I guess it wouldn't. Thanks.
Right off the bat showing your interest would produce a "yes" result for the most part if you ask it directly. Even if she doesn't really have a boyfriend.
Waiting to start "hitting on" someone based on "if she has a boyfriend". Nice. Would you enjoy the company of the person in question, it wouldn't matter a bit.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37769842]uh no I did listen to advice, but a lot of it is crap, so I disregarded (to be fair autumn did give decent advice a while back but then got impatient when I was hoping for a bit more detail)[/QUOTE] You basically just defeated your own point when you get accused of not listening to people the solution is not to say "I did but you're all crap at giving advice"
Yup, it doesn't matter.
[QUOTE=ArmyChicken;37767981]I need to let something out... There has been this girl that I have liked for 2 years who went out with one of my so called friends for over a year. I finally told her I was done being friends with her after a year of them going out... She told me she wouldn't date me anyways even if they broke up. I truly feel like shit right now..[/QUOTE] Be glad that you won't have it hanging over your head anymore. And if you want to take the best of it then use it as a basis for self-improvement.
[QUOTE=Seith;37769875]bla bla bla bla bla..."i bet your boyfriend tells you that a lot"[/QUOTE] Might use this, thanks.
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37759491]So only go after people you wouldn't consider having sex with?[/QUOTE] ANSWER ME, SCOUTKING [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] /apparent rage
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37770765]Waiting to start "hitting on" someone based on "if she has a boyfriend". Nice. Would you enjoy the company of the person in question, it wouldn't matter a bit.[/QUOTE] Uhm what? This is purely so I don't get my hopes up, and so I don't unwittingly step on any toes. I enjoy her company regardless of whether I was hoping to go out with her or not. I would like to try. But if it doesn't work? That's fine by me, I'm perfectly happy being friends with her. What is it with this thread and automatically assuming the worst in people?! [QUOTE=killerteacup;37770789]You basically just defeated your own point when you get accused of not listening to people the solution is not to say "I did but you're all crap at giving advice"[/QUOTE] This: [QUOTE=Mon;37762879]"eyyyy babydoll sumbudy occupyin yo wall street?" make sure to wink after you say this (IT'S CRUCIAL)[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Disseminate;37763279]"ayo you single and ready to mingle??"[/QUOTE] Is what I'm talking about. This: [QUOTE=lotusking;37762700]go up to her and say this "hey, do you have a boyfriend?" works everytime[/QUOTE] seems fine now, but at the time I thought it would be too direct and could be misconstrued. I said [I]a lot [/I]of it was crap. Of the things that seemed serious responses, I didn't think they would go down to well, so I was hoping for someone to clarify, but it was simply repeated by other people. If someone explains something to you that seems counterintuitive or wrong to you at first, it's perfectly reasonable to be confused and/or ask them why. It's unreasonable of them to think of you as stupid or slow! [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] Obviously if it's pretty self-evident and you've explained WHY something is that way (in this case that being direct is fine), and I still don't pick it up, then yeah, that's me being slow. But I don't see anyone actually attempting to clarify that.
[QUOTE=Seith;37770754]Right off the bat showing your interest would produce a "yes" result for the most part if you ask it directly. Even if she doesn't really have a boyfriend.[/QUOTE] .
Do you guys honestly have any fun arguing with each other? Stop arguing over pointless shit
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37769126]if you don't want to be with her anymore then it would just be dishonest to stay with her in spite of that[/QUOTE] I know....... A part of me is saying stick it out, maybe things will work out in the end. Maybe I'll be able to be happy with the circumstances..... that's one reason I'm staying right now..... Because I'm being hopeful I guess....... [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Seith;37769222] You're completely vague. Let's see... Basically, you're implying she's been hurt before, you don't feel anything for her for whatever reason and now you feel guilty about it?[/QUOTE] That's not what I said man. I said I care about her a lot, but life circumstances will be the cause of us breaking up, which is worse (IMO) for her because it means she didn't even do anything. And BECAUSE of that, it's going to hurt her worse than the other times.....
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37771855] What is it with this thread and automatically assuming the worst in people?! [/QUOTE] Oh god... -sigh-
jgxcub calm down
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;37771855]Uhm what? This is purely so I don't get my hopes up, and so I don't unwittingly step on any toes. I enjoy her company regardless of whether I was hoping to go out with her or not. I would like to try. But if it doesn't work? That's fine by me, I'm perfectly happy being friends with her. What is it with this thread and automatically assuming the worst in people?! This: Is what I'm talking about. This: seems fine now, but at the time I thought it would be too direct and could be misconstrued. I said [I]a lot [/I]of it was crap. Of the things that seemed serious responses, I didn't think they would go down to well, so I was hoping for someone to clarify, but it was simply repeated by other people. If someone explains something to you that seems counterintuitive or wrong to you at first, it's perfectly reasonable to be confused and/or ask them why. It's unreasonable of them to think of you as stupid or slow! [editline]23rd September 2012[/editline] Obviously if it's pretty self-evident and you've explained WHY something is that way (in this case that being direct is fine), and I still don't pick it up, then yeah, that's me being slow. But I don't see anyone actually attempting to clarify that.[/QUOTE] dude just fucking ask her if she has a boyfriend
So, there's this girl in my class - let's call her Miss C - and I'm fairly certain that she's into me. There's just the thing that I don't know how to take everything she says, writes and does. Yesterday, we chatted on facebook, and she just writes "PLEASE come to my birthday party and tell bad jokes that make everyone laugh", later she's talking about her ex and how she misses him - this can't really be taken as something in my favour - but then she turns around and says that, mind you this is fairly badly worded, that she needs a "replacement" (it was in a bit different manner, but she used the word). Now, we're quite close in class - we talk a lot, work together a lot, and we even massage eachother from time to time. I just don't know how to take this discourse.
[QUOTE=lotusking;37773066]dude just fucking ask her if she has a boyfriend[/QUOTE] yeh seriously there are only three outcomes to that question and none of them are that bad at all: 1. she says "no" and understands why you're asking her. now she'll know you're interested and if she's interested in you too this will boost her confidence in the situation 2. she says "no" and understands why you're asking her. you can ask her out and if she's not interested she'll tell you no and it's not the end of the world 3. she says "yes" and you can stop trying [QUOTE=GoDong-DK;37773157]So, there's this girl in my class - let's call her Miss C - and I'm fairly certain that she's into me. There's just the thing that I don't know how to take everything she says, writes and does. Yesterday, we chatted on facebook, and she just writes "PLEASE come to my birthday party and tell bad jokes that make everyone laugh", later she's talking about her ex and how she misses him - this can't really be taken as something in my favour - but then she turns around and says that, mind you this is fairly badly worded, that she needs a "replacement" (it was in a bit different manner, but she used the word). Now, we're quite close in class - we talk a lot, work together a lot, and we even massage eachother from time to time. I just don't know how to take this discourse.[/QUOTE] she's on the rebound and you're either being used as a very close friend who can comfort her (and, with you being a guy, she gets the bonus of having male company) and/or she wants your willy in her either way it sounds like you're being used a bit, whether she knows she's doing it or not
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