The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37798447]I really need to stop sitting beside cute girls and awkwardly look at them out of the corner of my eye unless I'm actually going to talk to them.[/QUOTE]
you should probably stop doing that altogether... if youre talking to them look at them!
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37798447]I really need to stop sitting beside cute girls and awkwardly look at them out of the corner of my eye unless I'm actually going to talk to them.[/QUOTE]
weird weird weird weird
Oh boy.
Tomorrow I'm going to ask the girl I like if she wants to come with me and my two closest friends to the bar when one of them has to practice her singing for her upcoming karaoke contest.
And also suggest that the two of us would hang out on Thursday, Friday or both in order to get to know each other better so things wouldn't have a chance of getting awkward on the bar night.
To further push the Thursday/Friday hang out: I'm getting sick of only talking to her by text.
And there is no way I'm going to back out from asking her out due to getting a small kick of jealousy.
She posted on FB: "Fun" Continued by "with [I]some guy[/I] at [I]some city club[/I]" that was added automatically by FB (I'm not too sure about that but I expect it).
I have to add that I'm actually kinda happy of that I did react to it. But I'm not concerned.
Now for the advice asking:
Anyone got any good suggestion on what I could suggest doing when hanging out on Thur/Fri?
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37798990]Oh boy.
Tomorrow I'm going to ask the girl I like if she wants to come with me and my two closest friends to the bar when one of them has to practice her singing for her upcoming karaoke contest.
And also suggest that the two of us would hang out on Thursday, Friday or both in order to get to know each other better so things wouldn't have a chance of getting awkward on the bar night.
To further push the Thursday/Friday hang out: I'm getting sick of only talking to her by text.
And there is no way I'm going to back out from asking her out due to getting a small kick of jealousy.
She posted on FB: "Fun" Continued by "with [I]some guy[/I] at [I]some city club[/I]" that was added automatically by FB (I'm not too sure about that but I expect it).
I have to add that I'm actually kinda happy of that I did react to it. But I'm not concerned.
Now for the advice asking:
Anyone got any good suggestion on what I could suggest doing when hanging out on Thur/Fri?[/QUOTE]
I don't know how comfortably she would be taking it that quickly and going out with you two days in a row or even one more day after that karaoke contest. You should gauge her interest first before you think about that and don't set yourself up for something she isn't prepared to do.
All this under the assumption that I have no idea how comfortable she is with you because you didn't mention it so ya.
This level of desperation somehow reminded me of that one guy who sent the chick 600 e-mails in one day.
Well I wouldn't bet on that she's too uncomfortable around me since last time we saw she hugged me and offered me a smoke. Too bad that it was quite a while ago.
P.S. That was the second time I met her and before that I had only chatted with her for two days prior.
Currently we've been chatting quite regularly and I even managed to get her phone number a couple of weeks ago.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37798447]I really need to stop sitting beside cute girls and awkwardly look at them out of the corner of my eye unless I'm actually going to talk to them.[/QUOTE]
Oh god, that's super weird. Stop that. If you like them, just go talk to them, just don't be afraid and everything will be ok
I might go to a bar/club this friday. What do you do there really?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37800059]I might go to a bar/club this friday. What do you do there really?[/QUOTE]
Dance, drink, get lairy.
Tbh, try not to go alone - pair minimum.
And it's often not a great place to meet people, depends on the place though.
[QUOTE=overpain;37799141]Oh god, that's super weird. Stop that. If you like them, just go talk to them, just don't be afraid and everything will be ok[/QUOTE]
guess you edited out the bit about wanting to keep multiple relationships without any of the girls finding out
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37799124]Well I wouldn't bet on that she's too uncomfortable around me since last time we saw she hugged me and offered me a smoke. Too bad that it was quite a while ago.
P.S. That was the second time I met her and before that I had only chatted with her for two days prior.
Currently we've been chatting quite regularly and I even managed to get her phone number a couple of weeks ago.[/QUOTE]
But does she know that you are attracted to her and want to turn your seemingly friendly relationship into a more intimate one?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37800059]I might go to a bar/club this friday. What do you do there really?[/QUOTE]
Drink, hit on girls while drunk, dance, etc.
You'll quickly find out whether you enjoy going to clubs or not after your first time.
Many years ago, boy became friends with girl. Boy started liking girl. Boy waited two years until asking out girl. As expected, girl rejected boy.
Over the past year, boy has been trying to get over girl, with boy telling the girl to stop talking to him. Every so often, girl comes running back to boy, asking if they could be friends again. Boy always foolishly agrees in the end, but asks girl if he can see her, girl stops talking and comes back a week later like nothing happened.
What the fuck do I do, and what's the best way of telling her to go away?
I'm retarded and so is she. I don't know who's the more retarded of the two of us though.
I just had a random burst of confidence and talked to a totally random girl without even thinking about it. I really don't understand why I think this is so hard.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37800497]I just hand a random burst of confidence and talked to a totally random girl without even thinking about it. I really don't understand why I think this is so hard.[/QUOTE]
Apparently Rome [I]was[/I]​ built in a day.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37779512]Except this isn't something I can do overnight like you're making it sound like.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37800599]Apparently Rome [I]was[/I]​ built in a day.[/QUOTE]
Don't even know how it happened because not even 10 minutes before I was in class doing my normal awkwardly stare at cute girls when they aren't looking thing.
[editline]25th September 2012[/editline]
I know what you're thinking and no it's not somebody I followed after class.
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37800310]But does she know that you are attracted to her and want to turn your seemingly friendly relationship into a more intimate one?[/QUOTE]
I have no clue on if she knows that I'm attracted to her. But I doubt that it wouldn't really surprise her either.
And for taking our friendly relationship a bit further, I have a hunch of that I could be standing strong.
Besides, I wouldn't take rejection too hard. It would probably suck, but she'd be the one at loss.
P.S. On Friday, I surprised myself when I found myself enjoying sailing and today I got closer to being a pirate. Due to being less than a cm away from getting my left eye stabbed with a rubber knife.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37800724]Don't even know how it happened because not even 10 minutes before I was in class doing my normal awkwardly stare at cute girls when they aren't looking thing.
[editline]25th September 2012[/editline]
I know what you're thinking and no it's not somebody I followed after class.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, you're really making it out to be a lot harder than it really is. But you should still confront your anger issue. gl hf on not being akward anymore (hopefully)
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;37800860]I have no clue on if she knows that I'm attracted to her. But I doubt that it wouldn't really surprise her either.
And for taking our friendly relationship a bit further, I have a hunch of that I could be standing strong.
Besides, I wouldn't take rejection too hard. It would probably suck, but she'd be the one at loss.[/QUOTE]
If you have no clue then it's likely that she isn't and that could cause problems because now what [I]might[/I] seem like an outing with a friend has suddenly turned into her accepting a sort of date or, even worse, an attempt to turn a friendly outing into a date while its happening (which I hope you won't do).
I don't mean taking it further. You aren't doing that. You are changing it and turning it around on its head. You're not entering Friendship+ but, in reality, you're entering a relationship which should involve emotional and physical intimacy. You shouldn't be weaseling your way onto a girl by first being friends with her (unless you happened to be friends and then somehow grew infatuated with her then fine).
I doubt she'd be the one at loss. You aren't as special as you might imagine (no on ever is).
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37800059]I might go to a bar/club this friday. What do you do there really?[/QUOTE]
Dont go there looking for ass, heck you may get it you may not anyway I got off on the wrong foot.
Just go with a gang of mates get rejected to the 1st place you attempt to get in and proceed to go down the pecking order of hip places to be.
Eventually you will end up in some seedy club or drunkards bar with your friends, you will have a great time because you are with your friends! Dont get too drunk, your not at home and your bed isnt up the stairs.
My girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 and a half months now. All was well and good up until about a month or two ago, and she became too busy to spend time with me. Now, I was patient and I tried to cope with the minimal time with my girlfriend (Once or twice a week if I was lucky), but it was hard. Now at this point, I feel kind of distant to her. I do my best to talk to her, but it always seems like I'm starting these conversations now. I'm giving up a bit more each day. I see her about once a week (Out of school, I see her everyday at school.) if I'm lucky now, and it's driving me into a sort of depression.
We have homecoming coming up at our school (a sort of prom dance thing) in roughly a week and a half, and we're going together of course. Now at this point, I've given it a lot of thought over the month and I think I need to break up with her. I've been trying to be my own man and be less passive about things recently, I think this is something I need to do. Now I need your guy's help. I feel like she's to blame, but I think that might be my immaturity talking, and maybe she just doesn't have the time for a relationship right now.
1. Should I talk to her about our problems we've been having before I decide to break up with her? (I've talked to her about these problems roughly 2-3 weeks ago, and she said she'd do better.)
2. If I DO break up with her, should I do it AFTER homecoming (A week or two after)?
3. What should I say to her when I do break up with her (assuming I do)?
Please help me guys, I really don't want to do this, and I'm not even sure I can. But it feels like this is something I have to do.
[QUOTE=exhale77;37801759]My girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 and a half months now. All was well and good up until about a month or two ago, and she became too busy to spend time with me. Now, I was patient and I tried to cope with the minimal time with my girlfriend (Once or twice a week if I was lucky), but it was hard. Now at this point, I feel kind of distant to her. I do my best to talk to her, but it always seems like I'm starting these conversations now. I'm giving up a bit more each day. I see her about once a week (Out of school, I see her everyday at school.) if I'm lucky now, and it's driving me into a sort of depression.
We have homecoming coming up at our school (a sort of prom dance thing) in roughly a week and a half, and we're going together of course. Now at this point, I've given it a lot of thought over the month and I think I need to break up with her. I've been trying to be my own man and be less passive about things recently, I think this is something I need to do. Now I need your guy's help. I feel like she's to blame, but I think that might be my immaturity talking, and maybe she just doesn't have the time for a relationship right now.
1. Should I talk to her about our problems we've been having before I decide to break up with her? (I've talked to her about these problems roughly 2-3 weeks ago, and she said she'd do better.)
2. If I DO break up with her, should I do it AFTER homecoming (A week or two after)?
3. What should I say to her when I do break up with her (assuming I do)?
Please help me guys, I really don't want to do this, and I'm not even sure I can. But it feels like this is something I have to do.[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I'm afraid of happening with my bf and I since I got a job, and he hasn't got one yet. So he spends a lot of time doing nothing but I can't chat with him and stuff.
edit:
Bad reading, I skimmed.
Yes talk to her again first.
When should I talk to her? If I do talk to her, should I ask her right then and there what she thinks of breaking up?
Maybe not what she thinks of breaking up but what she thinks of the relationship and where it's going. I'm not as experienced in this area of expertise but it seems to me that just calling it a quits then and there would be a bit rash of a decision.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37800724]Don't even know how it happened because not even 10 minutes before I was in class doing my normal awkwardly stare at cute girls when they aren't looking thing.[/QUOTE]
pro tip on social interaction:
stop fucking staring
people notice
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37802653]Maybe not what she thinks of breaking up but what she thinks of the relationship and where it's going. I'm not as experienced in this area of expertise but it seems to me that just calling it a quits then and there would be a bit rash of a decision.[/QUOTE]
This makes me feel a bit better. I'll defiantly talk to her before deciding anything.
[QUOTE=exhale77;37801759]Please help me guys, I really don't want to do this, and I'm not even sure I can. But it feels like this is something I have to do.[/QUOTE]
are you serious? you're asking if you should break up with a girl you claim to enjoy being with because she's busy during the week?
if you can't handle the prospect of being in a relationship where you aren't breathing down each other's necks 24/7, then end it
What are some factors that influence initial attraction, just the first few things that a female notices about a male and judges him on?
beep boop
it's obviously appearance
[QUOTE=thisispain;37803792]beep boop
it's obviously appearance[/QUOTE]
Well duh, I mean what specific factors of appearance?
[QUOTE=Ardosos;37803804]Well duh, I mean what specific factors of appearance?[/QUOTE]
being attractive
lol
[editline]26th September 2012[/editline]
this isn't a psychology forum
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37803806]being attractive
lol
[editline]26th September 2012[/editline]
this isn't a psychology forum[/QUOTE]
Define "attractive".
[QUOTE=Ardosos;37803804]Well duh, I mean what specific factors of appearance?[/QUOTE]
i don't know that kind of depends on the specific person doesn't it
for instance i find coats pleasing to the eye, and they get extra if they have shorter hair.
some people think a woman isn't beautiful till she's at least 300 lbs.
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