The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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if talking to people bores you then you shouldn't have a girlfriend
they're not silent fucktoys just so you know
[QUOTE=ice445;37837190]How do I obtain one of these "girlfriends" when I'm legitimately antisocial? Like, talking to people generally bores me after a short time and I seriously don't feel like being around people for the most part. It's just energy I don't want to spend. Am I just legitimately doomed or what?[/QUOTE]
God damn even I know you're fucked.
Seriously though, what you want it a sex robot. I would consider moving to Japan.
I think you mean "Sexbot."
Directive: pleasure babes.
I'm supposed to drop my ex's stuff off at her house in an hour, and I'm having a real hard time working up the balls to do it. I'm entirely unsure how I'll react when I see her, be it sadness, rage, or sheer coldness. Would it be best to have some sort of closing talk, or just switch goods and be done with it?(She dumped me about a week ago)
if the arrangement is just to drop off her stuff, then i'd just leave it at that. there'll (hopefully) be another time when you can have a talk, but if all she wants is her stuff back it's unfair to try and get some meaningful conversation out of her this time.
[QUOTE=ice445;37837190]How do I obtain one of these "girlfriends" when I'm legitimately antisocial? Like, talking to people generally bores me after a short time and I seriously don't feel like being around people for the most part. It's just energy I don't want to spend. Am I just legitimately doomed or what?[/QUOTE]
you know what fits all your criteria?
your right hand.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37837228]if talking to people bores you then you shouldn't have a girlfriend
they're not silent fucktoys just so you know[/QUOTE]
Dang. I guess I'm just going to get lots of cats.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37837884]you know what fits all your criteria?
your right hand.[/QUOTE]
He could be a lefty..........
Just saying.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37833488]tell them you were trying to apply for the 2013 fall semester and see if that helps[/QUOTE]
I've emailed them yeah, but I'm fair sure my previous place has already been given away
[QUOTE=HellSoldier;37832628]If it's anything like the system in Canada you're pretty screwed.[/QUOTE]
I applied again though, and my details and grades are exactly the same as last time and the grade cutoff is exactly the same as last time. Literally nothing has changed from my application last year, which I was accepted into. I don't see why, as a new applicant, they wouldn't accept me again unless the degree got a whole lot more competitive - and considering the grade cutoff hasn't increased, I'm going to say it hasn't.
[QUOTE=Boss;37838108]He could be a lefty..........
Just saying.[/QUOTE]
you can use either hand
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37838229]you can use either hand[/QUOTE]
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Man is forced to use left hand, not taking this any further.
[QUOTE=ice445;37837190]How do I obtain one of these "girlfriends" when I'm legitimately antisocial? Like, talking to people generally bores me after a short time and I seriously don't feel like being around people for the most part. It's just energy I don't want to spend. Am I just legitimately doomed or what?[/QUOTE]
uh first off stop acting like its this weird binary success/failure scenario where a girl is just an achievement. lots of people are raised so obsessed with having a girlfriend just to not feel like a failure or a loser they get all hyped up about something really insignificant and otherwise natural. when you stop for a sec and realize women are.. wait for it.. [I]people[/I], it makes things a lot less confusing and mystical. find someone you do enjoy talking to and being around and see where it goes from there
[editline]29th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Boss;37838270]Man is forced to use left hand, not taking this any further.[/QUOTE]
good because it was a shitty joke and there was no reason to keep going
[editline]29th September 2012[/editline]
try to remember if only for a moment that she thinks and acts like any other human including yourself does. women aren't the automatons your dad told you they are, they don't magically respond to a checklist of little tricks and strategies.
Taking the girl shooting sunday..
May god help me. She has never really used a shotgun before nor shot trap. I guess this shall be a good learning experience. I also hope that she doesnt injure her arm from the gun (since she has cheer practice later in the day)
[QUOTE=ice445;37838107]Dang. I guess I'm just going to get lots of cats.[/QUOTE]
A cat is fine too
I wouldn't say I'm awkward socially, but I do perhaps sometimes involuntary say things/do things that cause people to distance themselves from me. It's odd since I can sense the awkwardness, but I can't think of what I did to make it that way. I guess I'm just not very careful with what I say.
Like, in fifth period, I think I'm one of the smarter people in there, and I often answer questions/talk/say things in general and I worry that I might make some people feel stupid. I do my best to amend this by helping anyone with whatever they are confused by. \
Also I gotta get better at eye-contact, smiling, and not mumbling sometimes. I forgot to do that every once in a while.
I dunno, at least it seems that way. Either that or I am just not talking to the people in question so it seems like there is a problem between us.
Socializing is a skill, not a talent. You can work on it.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37837765]if the arrangement is just to drop off her stuff, then i'd just leave it at that. there'll (hopefully) be another time when you can have a talk, but if all she wants is her stuff back it's unfair to try and get some meaningful conversation out of her this time.[/QUOTE]
Well she skipped out, but thanks anyways, I'll keep that in mind.
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37838296]uh first off stop acting like its this weird binary success/failure scenario where a girl is just an achievement. lots of people are raised so obsessed with having a girlfriend just to not feel like a failure or a loser they get all hyped up about something really insignificant and otherwise natural. when you stop for a sec and realize women are.. wait for it.. [I]people[/I], it makes things a lot less confusing and mystical. find someone you do enjoy talking to and being around and see where it goes from there
[editline]29th September 2012[/editline]
good because it was a shitty joke and there was no reason to keep going
[editline]29th September 2012[/editline]
try to remember if only for a moment that she thinks and acts like any other human including yourself does. women aren't the automatons your dad told you they are, they don't magically respond to a checklist of little tricks and strategies.[/QUOTE]
I guess I'll ask the actual serious question. I was in a relationship for about 2 years and then I broke it off because I lost interest (I didn't think we were actually compatible, and talking to her was just a chore because it was always about the same stuff).
Now, is it normal for me to not want to pursue any women who don't meet a very specific list of criteria? I sort of want to just do casual dating, but I find myself at odds (with myself) because it does cost money and I'm very quick to judge if it will work long term or not based on just a cursory overlook/chat.
It's annoying liking the same girl for two years and having no courage whatsoever.
the problems in this thread are getting more and more pathetic
[QUOTE=Naaz;37839682]It's annoying liking the same girl for two years and having no courage whatsoever.[/QUOTE]
I was like this for the first two years of high school. Then I stopped liking girls I knew I had no intention of talking to.
Anyway, there's this cute girl in my archaeology class who appears to have no friends in that class and I'm probably going to talk to her on Tuesday. She looks like she would probably be someone I would get along with good too.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37839900]I was like this for the first two years of high school. Then I stopped liking girls I knew I had no intention of talking to.
Anyway, there's this cute girl in my archaeology class who appears to have no friends in that class and I'm probably going to talk to her on Tuesday. She looks like she would probably be someone I would get along with good too.[/QUOTE]Science class girls are always great.
Biology in my case
[QUOTE=Naaz;37839970]Science class girls are always great.
Biology in my case[/QUOTE]
in high school? where.. everyone in the school is required to take the same number of science classes?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37840081]in high school? where.. everyone in the school is required to take the same number of science classes?[/QUOTE]
Advanced and honor classes usually yield people who are in there more than just "I have to get a science credit"
When i graduate, ill probably have 2-3 extra science credit than i would of needed to graduate.
So it's possible to have "science class girls" in high school. (what ever the fuck that actually means). But you would have to step up your game and enlist in the advanced classes to be near them.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;37839900]I was like this for the first two years of high school. Then I stopped liking girls I knew I had no intention of talking to.[/QUOTE]
the better response would be to not be afraid to approach women and abandon the idea of there being people "out of your league" but i guess its better than banging away at a pillow
[QUOTE=ScoutKing;37840420]Advanced and honor classes usually yield people who are in there more than just "I have to get a science credit"
When i graduate, ill probably have 2-3 extra science credit than i would of needed to graduate.
So it's possible to have "science class girls" in high school. (what ever the fuck that actually means). But you would have to step up your game and enlist in the advanced classes to be near them.[/QUOTE]
i guess that makes sense, though in my high school generally people either took all advanced (ib) classes or they didn't take any.
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37840685]the better response would be to not be afraid to approach women and abandon the idea of there being people "out of your league" but i guess its better than banging away at a pillow[/QUOTE]
You can't blunt fear. The better response would be understanding that's it's just fear and it will always be there.
[QUOTE=Seith;37840969]You can't blunt fear. The better response would be understanding that's it's just fear and it will always be there.[/QUOTE]
this is going to be a really dorky metaphor but
as someone who has no experience with being afraid to ask people out, but who plays a lot of horror games: things stop being scary when you stop [b]acting[/b] scared. when i played amnesia i spent 90% of my time waiting in corners or listening for monster noises, etc. eventually i decided to man-mode it and just rush through certain parts and then i stopped being scared of the game at all.
(also moral of the story: acting against your gut feeling ruins scary games)
True. If I were to ask a woman each and everyday for let's say... 3 months, I'd probably won't feel afraid as I used to be. But when I stop doing it, for 3 months, I might experience that old feeling again. Meaning, fear is never truly gone and demands constant action. It's here to protect you for various of reasons, it's primal, so be friend with it :)
definitely. part of it is just familiarizing yourself with things. fear is usually caused by not knowing what to expect or overthinking the possible outcomes.
in terms of doing things i'm not comfortable with, i usually try to act very impulsive. once i get the idea to do or say something, i'll go through with it immediately because i know i'll overthink it and end up not acting otherwise. sure, occasionally i end up doing or saying something retarded, but most of the time it's better that i went through with it.
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